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Sunday, November 3, 2013

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‘I love him but going to marry another, what do I do?’


ave you ever been in a tight situation and really don’t know which way to turn to? Have you been in a circumstance that is tearing you to shreds and yet there seems to be no immediate solution in sight? That was the kind of situation Jennifer found herself in when she met Benjamin who she can only describe as the love of her life. UnfortuModels nately, she was already engaged to be married by the time fate brought them together and there was nothing they could do because it was already too late for them to share their love with each other. By the time she met Benjamin, she was already engaged to Obinna, her lifelong sweetheart. She and Obinna have always known they will marry right from when they were kids. They grew up in the same neighbourhood and went to the same primary and secondary schools together. It was when they finished their WAEC examinations that they started seeing each other regularly. For Jenny, Obinna was like a brother she never had since she was an only child. She practically grew up in Obnna’s house as she was always going there to play as a child. As they grew older, the brother-sister relationship translated to matured love and they made a commitment to get married once they finished their university education and find good jobs. Now they are officially engaged and both parents are very pleased with their decision; although this was no news to either of their parents as it’ had been their desire to see their children come together as married couple. Benjamin epitomises all her male fantasies: cool, handsome, rich and suave. The few times she managed to go on a date with him have been the most exciting times of her life. She has fallen deeply in love with him and now sees her fiancé Obinna as a mere friend. Will it be fair to go ahead with this marriage, knowing her heart now belongs to another? Jennifer’s situation is indeed a dicey and precarious one. She is at a crossroads in her life where any decision she arrives at right now may make or mar her destiny. So she needs to tread softly and go into serious soul searching to decipher which of the men she’ll finally settle down with. The way our life turns out is largely dependent on the choices we make. Life presents us with all kinds of opportunities, some of them good, some bad and others come with a mixture of both depending on the angle we want to look at it. Making a choice which way to go should be dependent on your background, the values you hold close to heart and the pressing desire at that particular time. When it comes to the mat-

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