z 40 ROCK Quarterly Magazine Issue No. 1
BATTLE OF THE EGOS THE COST OF BEAUTY
WHY YOU NEED A WILL
How Would Your Kids Teachers Grade You
40 & FIERCE 40’z Rock Founder
Changing the Way We View Age
CONTENTS / Issue No. 1 ON THE COVER Rene Hubert 40zRock Ms November
26 WTR? What the Race 28 Battle of the Egos:
There is Nothing to Fear But Fear Itself
32 Reverse the Curse:
No Longer Can We Be “Silent” About Heart Disease
In Each Issue 4 Editor’s Letter 6 Must-Haves:
Editor’s Top Picks
Cooking With Chef Ora
Q&A With Mia
Fashion: 3 Must Haves for a Rainy Day
Beauty: The Cost of Beauty Unmasked
14 Spirituality: Forgiveness the Key to Freedom
3 Reasons Love May Not Be Enough
18 Effective Parenting:
Parental Involvement in Education
The Importance of Creating A Will
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40zROCK / Editor's Letter
How does beauty empower you? As a woman now in my forties, I believe beauty empowers us through knowing that beauty is not just about outer appearance, but inner beauty as well. This also includes the journey we as women take to become our most beautiful self...mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Quite some time ago, I realized I had a gift for fashion and a desire to help other women make their own personal fashion statement. I believe that through fashion, women are able to boost their confidence based on their own unique form of self-expression. While in my 40'z, I have been blessed by overwhelming reactions to my own sense of style, youthful appearance and positive spirit. The idea of celebrating the remarkableness of women particularly in their 40'z inspired me to give birth to 40'z ROCK, a movement that encourages women to embrace their own personal statements and to also celebrate their age, life, health and community. 40'z Rock encompasses women who are Doctors, Executives, Judges, Educators, Mothers and Housewives, who seek to promote the highest standard of inner/outer beauty and strength. Helping other women empower themselves by embracing their own beauty, in turn empowers me. When I Rock, You Rock and Together we Rock!
Sandra A. Wyckoff Editor-in-Chief
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Samantha Reeves Fisher Rhonda M. Anderson Kim Evans Lawson Michelle Wade Ann Inez Hardell Emile Brown (page 4) Kevin Jeffries SMG ( pages 25) Point and Click Photgraphy (pages 36, 38)
Contributing Writers in this Issue Tiffiny E. Dixon - Fashion Essentials: 3 Must-Haves For A Rainy Day Empowerment Stylist Seamlessly merging sophistication & fun, Tiffiny founded ME Optimized (MEO) a NYC based womens empowerment agency, helping women use their personal style as an empowerment tool. Often garnering tears & cheers at her entertaining and inspiring Style Empowerment Workshop's & Bus Shopping Tours, Dixon encourages women to combine their personality & life goals to create a signature style. Tezzie Gilbert - WTR? / what the race / Owner / President at The Branding Style, www.thebrandstyle.com The Branding Style develop campaigns that cater strictly to the patients and the practice. Their marketing initiatives have been tried and proven by other medical offices. Some of those traditional and Interactive marketing services. Kimberly Hand - The Cost of Beauty Unmasked Owner at GlammGirl Dynasty LLC, www.kimberlyhandy.com This is a place for women who are living fabulously over 40. A place where we talk about how to live our healthiest lives, balance family & career and maintain our unique image & style all while having the time and energy to do it all. When Kimberly figures it all out, you will be the first to know. Cheri Alphonse Hayes, ED.S. - Parental Involvement in Education Keeping true to her roots, Cheri is a patriot and a die-hard lover of the island of St. Lucia. She keeps her cultural origins and ancestral foundation alive through language (creole), dialect, events and travel. She nurtures and cares for children through mentoring and teaching. She is employed by the Department of Defense Education Activity, Domestic Dependent Elementary and Secondary Schools at US Army Base Fort Stewart, Georgia. Danielle Johnson - Reverse the Curse: No Longer Can We Be "Silent" About Heart Disease Graduate of Hampton University with a Bachelor's degree in Biological Sciences. She is currently employed with Bristol Myers Squibb Pharmaceuticals as a Senior Diabetes Specialty representative. Danielle has also worked in other therapeutic areas such as: Urology, Cardiovascular, and Oncology.
Stephanie D. McKenzie - 3 Reasons Love May Not Be Enough Award-winning marketer, college educator, certified coach, author, and agent of ridiculously undeniable, life-altering change, "Coach Steph" brings more than two decades of business and marketing expertise to crafting strategies that make your relationships work for you. Currently, Coach Steph is the Coaching Director for The Relationship Firm, a WhatTheLove Company. The Relationship Firm is dedicated to fixing all relationship...even yours! For more information on this adventure, visit, www.TheRelationshipFirm.com. Jeneé Pierre - Battle of the Egos: The Only Thing to Fear is Fear Itself Owner of The Woman's Earth, www.thewomansearthstudio.com The Woman’s Earth is a boutique spa and wellness center offering holistic services of massage, yoga, facial and meditation. TWE aims to empower women by challenging them through our values to rise above any internal road blocks that would keep them from fulfilling their purpose by encouraging the nurturing of self both physically and spiritually. The Woman’s Earth Values: Work, Elevate, Awaken, Renew, Teach, Heal. Wendie Rice - Forgiveness: The Key to Freedom Graduate of Clark Atlanta University with a Bachelor's degree in Mass Communications. Rice has worked in the fields of marketing/sales, public relations and travel throughout her career. In 2009 Wendie felt God's call on her life to encourage and heal others through the sharing of Christ. In 2010 she was commissioned as a Christian Lay Counselor in Atlanta where she works primarily with women, and also mentors at-risk youth across the city. Tammy Smithers - The Importance of Creating a Will MBA Financial Services Professional / New York Life Insurance Company her financial practice focuses on creating estate, business succession, investment, retirement solutions, college funding, and financial planning for my individual clients and their businesses. Her mission is to help her clients achieve financial security and financial independence by building long-term personal relationships based upon integrity and trust. Mia Wright - Q&A With Mia As founder of Metamorphosis, Inc., an organization that encompasses the life changing Metamorphosis Women’s Conference. Mia is a powerful inspirational speaker, who encourages others with uplifting messages, relevant life stories and life skills that apply in both the faith based and industry sectors. She is also a sought after national motivational speaker, women’s conference presenter, and corporate work / faith / life balance coach.
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FOOD / 40zROCK
Cooking With Chef Ora The weather is changing all
over the world. There is snow
Here is a light and healthy recipe that
part of the breast to form a pocket. In a
you can pair with a salad and a nice glass
bowl combined the apricots, pecans, 2
of white wine to pull out your sexy.
tbs of apple juice, oil, rosemary, pepper
falling, rain storming, the wind
Letâ€™s go with pulling out her sexy.
blowing and ice forming. These elements of weather can either make a 40z rocker feel blue or it can pull out her sexy.
Cut a horizontal slit into the thickest
and garlic salt. Stuff mixture into pocket PAN SEARED APRICOT STUFFED TURKEY BREAST
and secure opening with a pre soaked
skillet on med hi heat, spray pan with
1 boneless, skinless breast of turkey
cooking oil. Place stuffed turkey breast
toothpick or wooden skewer. Place a
/2 cup diced dried apricots
into hot skillet and cover. Cook each side
/4 cup toasted pecans
15 min until golden brown and internal
3 tbs apple juice divided
temp is 165.
1 tbs vegetable oil /4 tsp of dried rosemary
/2 tsp of garlic salt
/4 tsp of black pepper
1tbs of Dijon mustard
Combined the mustard and remain-
ing apple juice. Brush the mustard mixture over the turkey breast. Once done let it rest for 10 min slightly covered before slicing. ď€ś
40zROCK / Q&A With Mia
Let's Get It (W)right! Mia inspires people to embrace spiritual change and live fulfilling lives. She answers these 3 important questions.
Q What do you think the biggest obstacle that threatens relationships? Especially between people that have high-powered careers such as yours?
A Relationships are often complicated and every couple seems to have their share of difficulties or things that pull on time, finance and affections. When we add to this mix two demanding careers, this can bring additional stressors into a relationship. Career pursuits, job demands, travel, and just the "day to day" of getting work done, can consume personal time. It is important that quality time is planned for and maintained in a relationship. Setting boundaries for work, scheduling personal and couple time is imperative to maintain a happy relationship. Compassion and understanding are also needed when those periods of "busyness" seem to overlap onto personal time. Always keep in mind that it won't always be like this. Sometimes short term dedications are needed for long term progress.
Q Whatâ€™s your mantra? A The main thing that I live by entails embracing the changes of life. While there are some things that we do not
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necessarily like or prefer, we must believe that everything happens for a reason. When we learn to embrace the season of change and anticipate better things to come, we have a greater peace in our life. Romans 8:28 reminds us that all things work together for our good. "Live, learn from, and move beyond difficulties. Life is full of changes - Embrace it. Ignite it. And be inspired to live a life full of purpose."
Q Why do you think it's so hard for successful women to find a man?
A I think that many women limit their ideal of a man that will compliment her life and lifestyle. Yes, there are some real rats out there who prey on vulnerable women (the Bible calls them "creeps and silly women", 2 Timothy 3:6 example) but there are some God fearing men who want to be with a woman who can respect and love him and they offer no less in return. Many successful women feel that a man will be insecure with her level of success. There are plenty of men who want to celebrate his lady's success and not feel less than a man when he's with her. It's important how we position ourselves outside of work. We may be a
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top level executive at work, but realize that at home, you are a wife, a mother, or whatever. The CEO hat remains at the job. Find new outlets to meet people. Look for people with whom you have things in common, and people to whom you are physically attracted (sorry, they can't all look like Morris Chestnut). Be with someone who treats you with respect. Be yourself and never lower your standards. ď€ś
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40zROCK / BEAUTY
THE COST OF BEAUTY UNMASKED
A Journey to Safe & Healthy Skin Care by Kimberly Handy
What would you do if someone told you that your favorite skin care or body care product contained toxic chemicals that could possibly be linked to cancer, hormone disruption or birth defects? What would you do if you found out your lipstick or mascara contained lead and your favorite nail polish was loaded with formaldehyde? Would you be in disbelief? I know I was. Two years ago I was on social media and came across a conversation about toxic chemicals in makeup and skin care products. I couldn’t believe it. I immediately chimed in on the conversation and began to ask questions. My interest was piqued and I began my own research. To say I was shocked at what I found is an understatement. I went through the products I had at home and read the ingredients. I couldn’t pronounce any of the ingredients accept for the first which was usually water. I also noticed that all of my makeup, even my toothpaste, deodorant and my every day beauty products were loaded with ingredients I couldn’t pronounce and - there were so many of them. I began to question the beauty industry and wonder how it was being regulated. I asked myself, “Isn’t someone supposed to ensure all of our products are safe before they are made available to the public?” How could this happen? Well, to my surprise, this has been an on-going issue for over 70 years!
What did I discover? The truth about what I found could shock you. I learned that beauty care products are among the least regulated on the market. Current laws used to regulate the industry date back to 1938. Under these
All is not lost and there is hope. Fortunately there is good news and hope on the horizon. Here’s why. The Safe Cosmetics and Personal Care Products Act of 2013 (H.R. 1385) was introduced in March 2013. This act is
laws the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) can’t require cosmetics companies to conduct safety assessments or require product recalls. Cosmetic products and ingredients do not require FDA approval before they go on the market. The companies and manufacturers are solely responsible for its products safety. The FDA does not regulate the ingredients in cosmetics or body care products like they do with food and drugs, which they explain in further detail on www.fda. gov. They rely on the industry brands to self-regulate and take voluntary actions against themselves if a product should be recalled. I don’t know about you but what multi-million dollar beauty company do you know who would take such action against themselves and go public with recalling any of their products? The website additionally states that in order for the FDAs legal authority over cosmetics to change, it would require Congress to change the law. With all of that being said, what exactly does the FDA currently have the authority to do as it relates to the beauty industry? Primarily, they provide a clear definition as to what a “cosmetic” product is and specific guidelines as to how products should be labeled and packaged.
designed to give the FDA authority to ensure these industry products are free of harmful ingredients and that all of the ingredients are fully disclosed. This new legislation, once passed will affect everyone including the consumer. If you haven’t noticed there is a movement taking place and consumers are becoming more aware, concerned and educated about unsafe chemicals present in the products we use every day. Brands are taking notice and some are even taking the initiative to make significant changes without waiting on legislation. We are starting to see more brands advertise no parabens, no sulfates, no synthetic fragrances, all natural, organic, vegan and even kosher. I applaud these brands. This shift allows the consumer to have safer alternatives. Surprisingly, or maybe not, Canada and Europe have much stricter regulations. The European Laws were revised in 2003 and as a result banned over 1300 products while the USA only banned 11. This revision meant companies were no longer allowed to sell products that contained chemicals linked to cancer, reproductive disruption or birth defects. The Canadian government even has a cosmetic ingredient “hot list”
that includes prohibited ingredients or ingredients used in concentrations less than 3% - 5% such as formaldehyde, alpha-hydroxy acids, keratin, camphor and talc to name a few. Many chemicals and ingredients used in the USA in high concentrations or without warning labels are strictly regulated in Canadian and European markets. What do we do now? My hope and intent is to create a dialogue among women and to give you the facts you need to make important decisions about the toxins we expose ourselves to every day. Did you know that women especially, apply on average between 10 - 15 different products to our skin and hair each day as a part of our morning routine or beauty regimen? Think about it - cleanser, moisturizer, toner, scrub, mask, eye cream, foundation, concealer, lip color or gloss, lip liner, mascara, eye liner, rouge, eye shadow, toothpaste, deodorant, soap, body wash, body cream, shampoo, conditioner, leave-in conditioner, hair spray, hair oil, styling gel, perfume, nail color, body powder, sunscreens, etc.
I encourage you to continue this con-
versation with your network, family, friends and even your enemies. Everyone needs to know about this so each one can make an educated decision as to what choices they have concerning safe, healthy skincare, cosmetics and body care products.
Stay fabulous - stay healthy!
40zROCK / FASHION
FASHION ESSENTIALS: (3) Must-Haves For A Rainy Day by Tiffany Dixon
Despite just about the entire month of February raining or having a high chance of rain, thatâ€™s no reason to let slack on your style. The key to great style is anchored in the ability to dress in a manner that is appropriate, comfortable and well suited for the occasion & season. So, instead of wishing the rain would go away arm your wardrobe with 3 Rainy Day Style Must-Haves.
visible accessory will be your umbrella.
with an umbrella to keep the rain and
Its already gloomy out so why not lift
debris being tossed around by the high
8 Rainy Day Style DON’TS
your spirits by adding a pop of color to
winds out of your face.
1. No suede
Did you know ...
2. No leather that has not been treated with a protectant.
On a rainy day your most important and
your look with your umbrella.
A pair of light shade glasses work well
Did you know ...
Square Shaped Faces: should steer
The umbrella was invented at the turn
clear of square shaped glasses as they
of the 18th century making it easy for
highlight the angles in your face. Also
ladies to enjoy shopping and dining,
stay away from glasses with an accent
come rain or shine, since they could
color at the bottom of the lens; this will
finally venture out in “poor” weather.
draw attention to your chin. Look for
When Louis XIV allowed pioneer Jean
round frames as they will balance your
Marius to “label” his new invention with
his official mark, the umbrella became one of the first fashion accessories to be considered a brand. Marius is also credited with launching the first advertising campaign, which often included “celebrity” endorsements.
THE RAIN BOOT
Walk confidently in the rain with your most important rain accessory. Keep your pants and your feet dry with a great
Oval Shaped Faces: Most frames look good on your face shape. However make sure you stick with frames that are NOT significantly larger than your features. Round Shaped Faces: Avoid small frames. Rectangular styles create the illusion of
3. No white t-shirts 4. No light denim jeans. They will show every single water splash stain. 5. No skirts or dresses that might fly up in the wind 6. No sundresses and unless you want to wear a soggy rain heavy mess.
a slimmer face.
7. No heels.
Heart Shaped Faces: Try a cat eye
8. No heavy makeup
frame to balance a narrow chin. Round frames in light colors will balance a wide forehead.
pair of rain boots. Did you know... In the early 1800’s the 1st Duke of Wellington, Arthur Wellesley, asked his shoemaker to create a more durable version of the Hessian boot. The original Wellington boots were made of leather until 1852.
40zROCK / SPIRITUALITY
FORGIVENESS: THE KEY TO FREEDOM by Wendie Rice
5 Steps to Forgiveness 1. Acknowledged the hurt. The hurt is real. Don’t try to hide it. 2. Recognize the grace and mercy you’ve been given. 3. Make a CHOICE to forgive and release the other person from owing you for the wrong. 4. Pray for the person. 5. Turn the hurt over to God. Allow Him to heal you of the anger, bitterness, pain, etc.
person who hurt us is probably riding
...But I say to you, love your enemies,
off into the sunset without a care in the
bless those who curse you, do good
world, and we’re stuck with steam com-
to those who hate you, and pray for
ing from ourears, tense with rage, and
those who use you and persecute you,
a mind that can’t focus on anything but
that you may be sons of your Father in
the wrong that was done to us. “Yes, I’m
heaven;...“But God! Wait a minute...that
mad. Yes, I’m hurt...but I want to ride off
person really hurt me! He lied to me! She
into the sunset too!” The choice to do so
said nasty things behind my back! They
is quite frankly up to you. Many of us
stole from me! What about me!?” It’s true,
are walking time bombs with so much
people do a lot of bad things to us and
bottled up hurt, anger and bitterness
it’s so very hard to “let it go.” But God
from the years and years of people doing
tells us that we must forgive. Forgiveness
us wrong, saying things that rubbed
is not only for the other person but it’s
us the wrong way, not doing what we
also for us. Holding on to unforgiveness,
thought they should do. It’s no wonder
bitterness, resentment, and anger, truly
people may stay as far away from you as
only hurts ourselves even more. That
possible, because they can see that you’ll
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be ready to blow at any minute. Some of
His loving but just way) tells us that He
ple of forgiveness in our lives. “But it’s
us wear unforgiveness like a sign. We’re
must discipline us. We must remember
sooo hard!” Yes, it’s hard but that’s where
touchy, sensitive, negative,critical and
that we’re not so perfect either. Hasn’t
God can help you if you rely on Him.
just plain unhappy. This is why God in
there been times when we’ve been the
Forgiveness is not forgetting what’s been
His infinite wisdom warns us not to be
ones who did the wrong, who needed to
done, it’s not sucking it up, it’s not faking
unforgiving. God loves us and wants us
be forgiven? How terrible would that be
a smile. It’s a choice to release the other
to experience all of the peace, love, and
if the person who we asked for forgive-
person from owing you for the wrong.
joy that He has for us....and that we can
ness couldn’t bring themselves to accept
It’s a choice to say, “Yes I was hurt, but I
truly have for others. One of God’s great-
our sincere apologies? We’d feel pretty
no longer want to hang on to the hurt.
est commandment for us is to “ love our
bad, even though at some point we’d
I want to be free. For me to be free...I am
neighbors as we love ourselves.”
probably shrug our shoulders and run
choosing to free you.” No it’s no easy
off into the sunset. :). Again, the other
task. The negative emotions will not
person would still be stuck in their own
disappear overnight, but by choosing
When we harbor unforgiveness in our
prison of unforgiveness. Whether we’re
to forgive you agree to start the process
heart, there’s no way that we can do this.
the ones who need forgiving or needing
and God will certainly help you do the
Quite simply, unforgiveness is disobedi-
to forgive, let’s look at Jesus’ grace and
rest. Be blessed!
ence. When we’re disobedient, God (in
mercy for all our sins as the prime exam-
40zROCK / RELATIONSHIPS
R easons Love May Not Be Enough
With her special brand of Southern charm and relentless rockstar rhetoric Coach Steph brings a unique perspective to getting the life and love you deserve! Are…you…ready? Love seems to be the easy part. People are falling in and out of love every day, and most have no clue why. But there are others who, despite everything that is wrong with a “loving” relationship, have decided that love alone is the reason to stay–and mind you, some people are being treated really badly. While the thought of staying committed to the love you have for this person is admirable, and is right up there with enduring a marriage that is failing for the sake of your children…the truth is… love may not be enough, and here are a few reasons why.
If the person that you love doesn’t respect you, then that is a problem. When your memories of this special person in your life are littered with thoughts of their cheating activities, their lies, and
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even their bad habits, and the negative effect that they have on you, this is not about whether you love them, this is now a question of whether you love yourself. Do you?
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REASON TWO: You may love them, but like them? Eh.
she facilitated a tele-seminar for
CONFESSION: I spent a long time with a person that I loved, but didn’t like. While some people will say that love is more important, like is the glue that holds things together. When I like you, it means that on a basic human level, I think you’re a nice person, a great guy or girl, and that you’re friend material. Being friend material, and having a friendship within a romantic relationship is optimal. REASON THREE: They do not love you the way you should be loved.
REASON ONE: Love is not synonymous with respect.
by Stephanie D. McKenzie
This is usually the problem that most people encounter when they love someone, but the relationship is not quite right. Just because someone claims to “love you,” that doesn’t mean that they know exactly what that means, or what it means to you. There are entire programs, like the 5 Love Languages, that try to show people what love language they actually speak. Some, like me, prioritizequality time, while others gifts or words of affirmation. If the relationship works, but something is a little off–this may be a
com, WVON Chicago, LATalk Radio, WSEV Los Angeles and in Shape Magazine, to name a few. Recently, relationship powerhouse, eHarmony.com.
place to start. However, if the relationship doesn’t work (this means that you spend morE time crying than smiling), then there is a bigger problem. It’s time to sit down, perhaps use my SWOT Analysis Tool, which is in The Business of Dating to figure out what is going on. (Click here to get the tool.) When someone doesn’t love you the way you deserve to be loved–with respect, friendship, honesty, giving (of their time, energy and emotions) and commitment–that is not something that should be ignored, nor is it something that will go away. It is a serious situation that requires a response. In conclusion, it just must be said that love is not enough for a relationship to survive and thrive. Sometimes we have to admit that and move on. However, whatever you decide, do what’s best for you, and be encouraged by the lessons this situation has taught you. There’s ALWAYS a lesson.
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40zROCK / EFFECTIVE PARENTING
Parental Involvement in EDUCATION by Cheri Alphonse Hayes, ED.S.
It’s half-way through the school year and the children have settled into their routines at school. Personalities have clashed, assignments are due and overdue. Referrals and commendations have been given. Athletes are in gear and cheerleaders are rooting their teams on. Most importantly, since the Open House, when you met your child’s teacher and learned of the teacher’s expectations and consequences for missed assignments and inappropriate behavior, have you been back?
Ask yourself the following questions:
1. W hat is my child currently learning, studying, homework assignment or project?
determine your level of involvement in
2. Are the teacher’s and/or school’s goals aligned with my goals for my child’s academic success?
if not all functions at school. Now they
3. What are my child’s academic strengths and weaknesses? 4. Is my child a social butterfly, a bully or a loner? 5. Does the school have my most recent contact information?
These are just simple questions to
your child’s education. When s/he was in preschool, you probably attended most, are in elementary, junior high or high school, are you as involved? If you can honestly answer eight or more of these questions, you are on the right track and have a great handle on your child’s academic career. If you answered five to seven of these questions with great
6. When is the next school event? Is my presence required?
confidence, there are simple ways to be-
7. When does the School Advisory Committee meet?
ing the comfort of your home. Finally, if
8. The last School Board meeting I attended was on ______________?
are not alone. Across the nation, schools
9. My child’s favorite teacher is __________because _________?
ing active parental involvement groups
10. I support my child’s school’s PTA/PTO!
busy. Parents are shy. Parents don’t feel
Yes or No
come more involved, even without leavyou answered one to four questions, you are challenged every day in establishwithin their buildings. Parents are welcomed. Some parents believe it’s the school’s job to do it all.
What do you think? Remember,
children simply through Teachers Involve
the school does not have all your most
above all, YOU are your child’s first teach-
Parents in Schoolwork (http://www.csos.
recent updated contact information and
er and will always be. Before your child
jhu.edu/p2000/tips/index.htm) as a way
you do not have the contact information
entered the school building, there were
to build the home-school partnership and
of your child’s teacher(s), school, princi-
endless hours of reciting the alphabet,
keep parents involved. Furthermore, Dr.
pal, nurse, counselor, cafeteria manager,
counting, singing, reading books, talk-
Epstein, along other researchers, devel-
or librarian. You would be surprised to
ing, asking questions and many more ac-
oped the Keys to Successful Partnerships:
know how much these people really
tivities. These are all teachable moments
Six Types of Involvement to boost paren-
know about your child. An open flow of
that parents create every day without
tal involvement across the nation (http://
communication is the easiest way to get
realizing the power in their hands. As a
most current information about schools’
nation, academically, we are challenged!
current events and inform the school of
It’s time to step up and create a community of world-class learners who want to be successful and want great things in life for themselves and their communities.
Joyce L. Epstein, Ph.D. Director of
the Center on School, Family, and Community Partnerships and the National Network of Partnership Schools (NNPS), Principal Research Scientist, and Research Professor of Sociology at Johns
TYPE I - PARENTING: where everyone takes off their “labels” and collaborate to help parents cope as well as learn various approaches to parenting. Schools also are of parent of this type of involvement as they can serve as facilita-
your child’s needs. If an open-door policy is not an option at your child’s school, phone calls, emails, and text messaging may work. Bottom line, being “private” is not an option when it comes to your child’s education.
tors, mentors, or provide the space for
Type III – Volunteering: this two-way
workshops so local agencies can reach
street should be open at all times. You
all parents in the community.
do not always have to volunteer in your
Hopkins University encourages parents
TYPE II – COMMUNICATING: there
and schools to collaborate in educating
is no room for open communication if
child’s classroom. Try other teachers, offices, and the cafeteria. Is there a better
The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.
way to get to know a teacher first-hand?
dren. Read with your child. Forget their
students, teachers, and parents within the
In fact, you may not be required to assist
age! Make it happen… The competition
school. The community refers to all stake-
during school hours. There may be take
among their peers and with students
holders who are working in the best interest
home projects you can complete in the
nationwide has to be challenged. Stu-
of the students’ and school’s success. This
evenings, right at home. There is not
dents do not feel this particular aspect of
opens the door to businesses and local
a school in existence that cannot use
rivalry until they apply for college admis-
agencies that are willing to partner with
additional hands, bodies, and/or brains.
sion, scholarships, awards, and grants. Be
schools to promote health, wealth, happi-
If your school tells you there are no
an advocate for your child and influence
ness, learning and success for all.
volunteer opportunities available in the
some decisions that are made at school
building, ask to volunteer in their district
with your involvement.
you a proud active parent who works
office. The opportunities are endless!
Type V – Decision-Making: stop talking
Type IV – Learning at Home: brings us
and put that energy into something pos-
back to being our child’s first teacher.
itive. Most parents have no idea when
Get involved with homework. Find out
decisions are being made at their child’s
the current standards your child is being
school, but feel the after effects and
introduced to at school. Dissect the cur-
wonder why they didn’t know. You don’t
riculum to get a better understanding of
know because you weren’t there! The
what exactly is being taught. Ask ques-
PTA/PTO is just one way to get involved
tions. Again, ask questions. We do not
in decision-making. Ask your administra-
have all the answers. Ask for help when
tor about School Advisory Council/Com-
it’s needed to help your child achieve
mittee, School Governance, and School
success. Schools can also create and
Board positions and meetings. Build
share learning opportunities for par-
strength in numbers and create a group
ents and children to complete at home.
of active parents who can represent you
Extend the classroom experience. Take
and your child’s school when needed.
your child on a field trip to enhance their learning. Some museums are free. Librar-
Type VI – Collaborating with the Com-
ies offer workshops for parents and chil-
munity: the community is not limited to
So, how’s report card looking? Are
towards the success of your child, school, and community? What will you do differently moving forward to achieve this? No one expects change to occur overnight. However, your mindset should be the first thing to adjust when making changes. Open your mind and know this is not just another task to overflow your plate. Understand it’s an effort towards progress that your child will be able to reap the rewards.
Epstein, et. al. 2009. School, Family, and Community Partnerships: Your Handbook for Action, Third Edition. Thousand Oaks, CA: Corwin Press, Inc.
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THE IMPORTANCE OF CREATING A WILL by Tammy E. Smithers, MBA
Financial Services Professional / New York Life Insurance Company / NYLIFE Securities, LLC / Member of FINRA/SIPC 250 Pehle Avenue, Suite 900 / Saddle Brook, New Jersey 07663 / O (201) 291-5476 / C (201) 212-1875 email@example.com
As the New Year approaches, getting
are three things that everyone should
conform to your wishes, or do what is
your financial house in order seems to
have. These are: 1) a Will, 2) Health Care
best for the people closest to you. And
be in high demand as millions of families
Directive or Living Will, and 3) Power of
your loved ones will likely have to hire an
look to make adjustments or simply
Attorney. Of the three, a will is one of
attorney and incur delays to determine
begin the goal setting process. Lately,
the most important documents you’ll
who will receive your assets.
I have been having discussions with
ever create in your lifetime. Your will
clients regarding their estate planning,
can clearly state who will be guardian
which includes the what-if’s in life.
of your minor children, who will inherit
Whether single or married, children
your assets, when they will inherit your
or no children, this is an extremely
assets, and any conditions that must be
important conversation to have with
met for them to receive your assets. Yet,
your significant other or the person you
according to a legal services website
have entrusted with the welfare of your
RocketLawyer.com, almost 50% of
minor children in the event something
Americans do not have a will.1
happens to you. A key person involved in
this type of planning should not only be
court does not have your instructions
your life insurance agent but also a Trust
to follow, and it has no way of knowing
and Estate attorney who knows the laws
how you mahave wanted to distribute
in your state.
your assets. The state where you lived
steps in and makes the decisions for you,
With a decade of experience dealing
If you die without a valid will, the
with matters of heart, I have come up
according to the distribution schedule
with must have’s especially for women of
set forth in its intestacy statutes.
a certain age. At this stage of life, there
The state’s decisions may or may not
FOUR COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS 1. My assets are so small that a will is not necessary. You are generally worth more than you think. Even if some possessions do not hold great monetary value, they could hold an enormous amount of sentimental value—and that’s something you can’t put a price on. Failing to indicate who receives these treasures in your will can cause friction among family members that lasts for decades 2. W hen I die, my spouse will get all of my assets. Maybe, and maybe not. Any assets held jointly with right of survivorship automatically pass to the joint owner. And assets with a beneficiary designation, such as IRAs, life insurance, and annuities, pass as stated on the
beneficiary form. What happens when your surviving spouse dies? What happens if your beneficiary form is outdated? Will your children receive their share at too early an age? Does your spouse have the financial skill to manage the family wealth?
has the cash needed to pay expenses
will be much more difficult for your
at your death, such as funeral costs,
loved ones if you don’t have a will. To
debts, and estate taxes. Without liquid
ensure that your will is legally viable,
assets, the estate may be forced to sell
seek the services of a qualified attorney
assets—securities may have to be sold
to draft and refine it.
3. I can create a will on my own and save the legal costs. “Do-it-yourself” wills often do not contain all of the necessary components as required by state law. Anyone who might benefit from an invalidation of your will can contest it, and if the courts decide in his or her favor, your estate may have to pay for all legal costs. The few dollars you save now can cost your loved ones thousands of dollars later.
have to be liquidated at a discount. In
most instances, life insurance proceeds
to Die Without a Will,” May 6, 2012, Lisa Scherzer,
are paid income tax-free to your
The Exchange, http://finance.yahoo.com/blogs/
beneficiaries. If desired, life insurance
4. I don’t want my final wishes to be set in stone. I’ll create a will later in my life. The terms of a will can change as often as needed. Legal experts agree that you should reexamine your will periodically to make sure it is up-to-date. A will should receive a “checkup” whenever there is a substantial change in your life.
in a down market and other assets may
can be owned by a trust or a third party and also not be subject to estate taxes. DON’T WAIT UNTIL IT’S TOO LATE Creating a will forces each of us to come face-to-face with our own mortality— and dealing with death is difficult. But it
Yahoo! Finance, “Half of Americans with Kids Set
193140015.html. Disclaimer: Neither New York Life, nor its agents, provides tax, legal, or accounting advice. Please consult your own tax, legal, or accounting professional before making any decisions. I am licensed in multiple states and would be happy to offer a complimentary consultation.
HOW TO CREATE A WILL Drafting a will is difficult and is not an endeavor you want to tackle singlehandedly. It’s important that you call on the services of an estate-planning lawyer. A lawyer might help you:
Determine what type of will you need Make the right decisions as to how your assets should pass
Change the terms of an existing will, if appropriate
Save on estate taxes Take advantage of estate planning opportunities people often overlook LIFE INSURANCE AND WILLS How does life insurance fit into the picture? Life insurance is a vehicle you can use to help make sure your estate 40ZROCK.COM
40z ROCK MS. NOVEMBER When I wake up, the sun smiles and says “Hey, Rene H. from Houston is up - it’s time to shine!” I’ve been on the planet 45 years and I am now tapping into all that life has to offer and my passion. I am a mother of two; I enjoying cooking, roller skating, bowling and I am an all-around “sports” fan. Styling hair is my passion and making people feel beautiful is my mission. I am the owner of Uptown Hair Studio and Boutique. We specialize in personal services and shopping. It is my mantra to help your beautiful inner beauty shine through your outer layer by styling for YOU! I’m happy to be apart of the 40’z Rock Organization. As an empowered woman, I think it’s our responsibility to empower, encourage, embrace and exalt other women. It’s our duty to refute the societal misnomer of importance of age and concentrate on the upliftment of a woman’s spirit. I Rock, You Rock, Together We ROCK!
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/ what the race / by Tezzie Gilbert
Did you know on average there are
ing someone of another nation but no
86 single men to every 100 single
where to be found when dealing with
women? I don’t know about you but it
those of our own culture? Is this loosely
seems like the men are winning. Which
based on comfort or our myths, facts
can be really unfortunate for us! If you
and lies that we have come to believe
think about it, the number exponentially
about our culture over the years?
decreases as you begin to pull out your
lists of non-negotiables and if you are
thing is certain you are putting your-
race intolerant than that number is basi-
self in a box and not opening yourself
cally cut in half.
to a type of love that has the ability to
enhance every aspect of your life.
What is “Race Intolerant”? Well, I am
No matter what the reason is, one
glad you asked…I hear many women
saying it today, “I refuse to date out-
a few things that will not change no
side my race.” To be race intolerant is to
matter who you date. There will still be
shelter yourself from individuals that
non-negotiables that you will have to
could help make your day, years and life
sort through, the honey moon period
enhanced. Dating outside of your race
will come and go, not everyone will like
has its benefits. Many people learn to
who you bring around and to keep the
appreciate art, food, music and receive a
relationship going it will take work from
complete culture infusion just from dat-
both parties. These in my opinion are
ing someone from another nationality.
universal standards in every relationship
that will not alter.
Here is a new flash, you can still live
Unbeknownst to many, there are
an ordinary and happy life being married
to someone outside of your race.
someone from another race is a challenge
as change is not easy for most. If you
Many women choose not to explore
Embracing the art of getting to know
outside of their race because of fear of
think about it, often times those things
the unknown. Will we have anything in
that don’t feel good at first end up being
common? Can I relate? What will our
the best for us in the end.
families think? What will the intimacy be
like? Will I have to conform to his way of
is one of the most magnificent feelings
life? Will I fit in? Will I be out his league?
you will ever experience in your life, but
embracing the rainbow of love that is ob-
So many questions that are asked
Nonetheless, being able to find love
within yourself but if you really want
tainable to you can make it all the better.
to be honest right now, these are the
same questions that you ask yourself but
and seeking love I invite you to give
quickly disregard when dating some-
someone else a shot. Challenge yourself
one within your own race. Why is it that
to be open to other men that are not like
standards are in effect when consider-
you and you may just surprise yourself.
Women in their 40z, if you are single
40z / FINANCE / news
BATTLE of the
There’s NOTHING TO FEAR but
FEAR ITSELF by Jeneé Pierre
Fear is the evil step sister of Peace, the beautiful sister who seizes the moment to be brilliant. Internal Peace does not exist with Fear present, as a matter of fact, Fear is irrelevant in the eyes of Peace and has no place in her home. Fear’s only purpose is to be healed and forced to face the reality that what may happen is nothing to defend against. Fear is the birth child of insecurities, stepping out of character, poor decision making, and a dreadful and painful start of self destruction in a situation. Fear prevents you from being you – the brilliant you. It is an element of stress that grows and poisons your confidence and healthy ego and internal beauty. It fuels your unhealthy ego and causes cloudy judgment of all things even with the most positive intent. You are not being your best you when you walk in Fear.
Your healthy ego is one that keeps you in balance and tells you when a situa-
tion is not good for you, gives you confidence on an interview, and helps you pick the right dress and shoes without needing to ask for approval because you are centered and in balance with who you are. Your healthy ego is one that lets you know that you deserve better from a friend or lover, she tells you when enough is enough because she reminds you of your Worth. Your healthy ego can’t be denied because she is your decision maker when you need to take another turn and start a new path…and most importantly you never regret the decisions that are motivated by her. Never.
Your unhealthy ego guides you into confusion, indeci-
he is a low down and dirty dog (now that’s pretty bad). She
siveness, and making decisions with a negative attitude and
would lash out at him with every hurtful word she could mus-
a need to control. She is the victim and not the conqueror al-
ter through uncontrolled emotions and tears. She would even
ways reminding you that you have something to prove, need
go as far as to ask for understanding from the very man she
to be validated, and encourages you to throw things in the
just ridiculed “Why did you do this to me?” She would post his
faces of your enemies. She is very strong willed yet powerless
infidelities on her Facebook page anticipating every friend’s
because she drains you emotionally and mentally.
comment in her backing to offer her the false sense of comfort
Your unhealthy ego tears are reminders of the pain
her unhealthy ego feeds off of- because its draining nature
rather than a process of healing and a release of toxins like
needs this negative reinforcement. She would be a wreck, cry-
through a healthy ego cry. Take a woman who broke up with
ing and not able to focus at work. She would tell some friends
her boyfriend of six years because she found out he was cheat-
who would entertain the negative lashes at her ex while too
ing. How she broke up with him is directly relevant to who was
embarrassed to tell others who would denounce such actions
in the driver’s seat – her healthy ego or her unhealthy ego.
and call on her healthy ego to take charge. She would consid-
Her healthy ego would lead her into communicating to
er carrying out the Jazmine Sullivan ballad with a crow bar in
her future ex that she no longer wants to be in this relation-
her hand. She would not be real with herself – she would swell
ship and the commitment that was made between them was
with insecurities and doubt about her future – she would walk
violated – she knows her worth. The woman would tell her
in Fear. When we give permission to our unhealthy egos to
mother and close girlfriends as to ask for support through
guide us, it results in the pain just expanding and being fed by
this process of moving forward, not speaking badly about
the negative energy we allow to move through our situation.
her ex and spreading more toxic energy through her words.
We feel worse, the moments of what may seem to be winning
She would focus on her and her future and not the past and
ends up ultimately having us feel like we have lost something.
how wrong he was and how much of a dog he is. She would
We are left scared, abandoned and alone.
even go as far in seeing the lessons she has learned from her
relationship and commit to applying them to her life as a
we have all been there on some level in some form or fashion.
release in future relationships and not baggage that would
Some of us would just sing and enjoy the jamming ballad bust
inevitably block her own happiness. Her powerful approach to
your windows out your car and some of us….well we have
healing and moving forward would already send the message
the ugly scars to prove our participation in busting windows
that whoever this guy was; he’s lost a damn good thing. She
out of cars. But all of us have experienced the ugly scars of
would not need to validate this or feel the need to because
being lead by our unhealthy egos…whether it was physically
your healthy ego reminds you to focus solely on you, your
or emotionally. The root cause of the problem of allowing
needs, and replenishing your emotional resources so you
ourselves to be directed and supervised under the leadership
have the necessary tools to keep moving forward in a positive
of our unhealthy egos is walking in Fear.
direction. This approach does not suggest you are numb to
the pain that is caused from such a life changing event; rather,
does not control your life, your decisions and your interac-
it suggests that you are taking a stance of being powerful and
tions. During morning meditation, make agreements with
not powerless in your position while you heal. Her unhealthy
yourself that you will empower your healthy ego to lead you
ego would immediately take on the role of a victim. She
and guide you as you press forward to rise above fear and
would communicate to her future ex how awful he is, and that
walk in strength and peace.
Does any of the above sound familiar? Of course it does,
Rise above fear by putting you first. Pray daily that fear
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REVERSE THE CURSE: No Longer Can We Be “Silent” About Heart Disease by Danielle Johnson
“When 15 years of age, of a heart attack right the neighborhood corner store. She
I was my mother died before my eyes coming out of was 46 years old.” My “sister-friend,
5am workout partner, and mother of four with a schedule like you wouldn’t believe” went on to share with me while we were on our favorite elliptical machines that her grandmother ALSO passed
around the same age, 46. In my mind, I instantly began to wonder if the women in her family were cursed!! Here you have two generations of women dying around the same age that she is now…
how could that be !?!?! And to make matters worse, they died of the same cause…
HEART DISEASE, the SILENT KILLER
Now before I move forward with the story, it’s important
on about those great moments in time. Now, stop where you
to note that I’ve been a pharmaceutical representative for
are and think about never having the opportunity to experi-
12 years and sold in the cardiovascular market for several
ence those remarkable moments. For those of you who have
of those years, so I was very knowledgeable about the risks
daughters around this age, take a minute to think about your
factors associated with Heart Disease. Lisa began to rattle off
daughters right now who are traveling down one of those
the main culprits of this “silent killer” that stole the lives of her
roads and to suddenly have it snatched away from their grasp
grandmother and mother. They both had been smokers for
all because we lacked the knowledge to save them. That
decades, had disastrous diets, and don’t get me started on the
doesn’t have to be the story…we have a choice!
exercise regimen…simply non-existent.
provided by the American Heart Association, a whopping 47%
So, how do we prevent another beautiful woman from
According to the 2013 Updated Statistical Fact Sheet
becoming just another statistic? What can WE do differently as a
of African American women suffer from high blood pressure,
group to protect ourselves and our family from hurt and despair?
compared to 30% of Caucasian women and 28% of Mexican-
First thing, we MUST educate ourselves on what Heart Disease
American women. Research has also shown that 85% of
is and what we MUST do to lower our risks of developing this
medical visits by African-American women are due to high
devastating condition that is now the #1 killer of women.
blood pressure!! We can’t continue this trend…this is NOT an
area where we want to continue to be leaders of the pack!
Heart Disease, also known as heart and blood vessel
disease is defined by the American Heart Association as an
Let’s show our leadership by educating each other about the
umbrella phrase used to describe numerous problems related
signs and symptoms of hypertension and the necessary steps
to plaque buildup in the walls of the arteries, or atherosclerosis
to take in order to reduce the risks…are you with me???
(hardening of the arteries). Cholesterol plaques are the true
offenders of heart disease. The growth from this buildup of
are: higher rates of obesity among African-American women,
cholesterol over time slowly blocks blood flow to the heart and
higher rates of elevated cholesterol due to our diets, and lack
brain, therefore causing an individual to experience chest pain
of physical activity…just to name a few. These are all things
(angina), shortness of breath, heart attack, and other symp-
that are in your control, you just have to take action to do
toms…even stroke. Whew! Now that we have the basic knowl-
edge of what heart disease is, let’s get down to the nitty-gritty
as to how to defend ourselves and love ones against it!!
you, consult your physician/dietician to create a meal plan
that will help you to achieve your ideal weight based on your
In order to emphasize just how serious of a threat this
Some of the contributing factors for the above disparities
If weight management has always been a challenge for
disease is to us as women, let me share a few statistics. Did
body type and health. Patients that are hypertensive should
you know that cardiovascular disease is the leading cause of
eat plenty of fruits vegetables, whole grains, fish, poultry, nuts,
death in women 20 years of age and older!?!?! Just think back
legumes, and low-fat dairy. These foods are high in key nutri-
to what you were doing in your early 20s…the fun you were
ents such as potassium, magnesium, calcium, fiber, and pro-
having in college excited about the life you were preparing for
tein that are needed to help reduce/normalize blood pressure.
yourselves, the wonderful unions that had to come together
Again, consult your physician/dietician because they will be
and the hopes of building a family with the one you loved
able to provide you with more options/information on food
(and still love), the new careers that were forged, Sunday
choices and portion size, which is of the upmost importance.
brunch with your friends because your weekday schedule was
By creating an effective meal plan, you should be able to “kill
filled with activities for the kids, exotic places that some of
two birds with one stone.” Just by making better choices as
you traveled without a care in the world!! I could go on and
to WHAT you eat and HOW much of it you put into your body,
you should see a reduction in your numbers, meaning the scale and the blood pressure cuff!
6 WAYS TO A HEALTHIER YOU 1. Commit to routine visits with your physician(s) and utilize that time to have a real dialogue about symptoms that may or may not seem like an issue to you. It’s important to follow medication guidelines as given by your physician. 2. If you’re a smoker, make every effort to quit…it will only help you.
To overcome the hurdle of physical “Inactivity”, you have
3. Incorporate at least 30 minutes of moderate intensity exercise a day into your schedule such as brisk walking or an activity that you enjoy like dancing!
to be willing to shift your mindset…believe that the benefits of exercising outweigh the risks associated with not exercising, especially when you’re hypertensive. I know that going
4. Eat well balanced meals low in fat and cholesterol and plenty of fruits and vegetables.
to the gym can be a real deterrent for a number of reasons.
5. Routinely monitor your blood pressure to make sure that your numbers are in range.
For example, some women may feel like others are watching them, when to tell you the truth, they really aren’t, lol! Some
6. Reduce your stress levels. Make time for yourself. Take walks, rise early and meditate, read a book … anything that helps you to decompress.
women just aren’t comfortable with how the equipment works and are too embarrassed to ask for help. Others may feel like they can’t commit to going a set number of times a month to justify the expense. Whatever the reasons maybe for
is your #1 priority and by any means necessary, you will protect
not hitting the gym, we are still without excuse when it comes
it. REMOVE THE EXCUSES!!
to exercising. I’ll give you a few simple tips that will hopefully
help inspire you to get on the road to physical fitness if the
at all, hence the name, “Silent Killer”, there are still some com-
gym just isn’t your thing!
mon occurrences that are widely believed to be associated
Nowadays EVERYBODY has a smart phone and there are a
with the disease. If you are experiencing shortness of breath,
plethora of exercise apps that range from free to nominal costs
severe headaches, bleeding from the nose (Epistaxis), fatigue
that you can download and utilize in the comforts of your own
and sleepiness, feelings of confusion, ringing in the ears,
home. My girlfriend, Lisa and I like to use the 7 Minute Work-
vomiting, profuse sweating, and blurred vision, it’s extremely
out app. This app will help you ease into a daily routine that’s
important to consult your physician. Do not just disregard
manageable and not as intimidating because it’s only 7 minutes
them if they persist…seek treatment!
long, however you will feel the burn lol! It’s important to know
your limitations and work within them especially starting out.
cess to information regarding Heart Disease and any other dis-
Also, if you have cable television, there’s a Sport & Fitness chan-
ease/disorder is right at our fingertips. It’s up to us to reverse
nel that you can access 24/7 and again, participate from the
the curse of Heart Disease.
comforts of your own home! If you’re trying to minimize costs,
checkout some of the websites like Groupon and Living Social
so that each generation of women in our families are better
that offer boot camp packages and other group trainings and
prepared to tackle the health concerns that are simply a part
go with a friend or sign-up for classes like ZUUMBA that are
of their genetic makeup.
high energy and fun! These classes are offered at your local
recreation centers, churches, dance studios, etc…just take your
other from this dreadful disease. Let’s make the commitment
pick! Don’t forget, there’s always “never fail, good old” power
to ourselves to empower our grandmothers and mothers,
walking around your neighborhood or local high school track…
aunts and sisters, and friends whom we love to recognize the
it’s free of charge…and so are the stairs in your home if you
signs, to listen to our bodies, to make better choices so that
have them! There are still numerous options available to you
we won’t continue to be leaders in an unpopular race. Let’s
to enhance your physical activity. These are just a few to think
safeguard our hearts so that we can continue to love and be
about. It’s up to YOU to make the commitment that your health
around to be loved. We can longer be “Silent!”
Because high blood pressure typically has no symptoms
We are so very fortunate to be living in a time where ac-
We have an obligation to discuss our family histories
We have the power and the knowledge to protect each
Heart disease is the No. 1 killer of women, causing 1 in 3 deaths each year. That’s approximately one woman every minute! Since the risk of cardio-vascular disease increases dramatically when a women enters her forties,she should be knowledgeable of the health risks that heart disease
measures to decrease their risks.
6 Tips to Prevent Heart Disease
Quit Smoking Proper Nutrition and Diet Excercising and Losing Weight Managing Diabetes Lowering Your Blood Pressure Managing Stress
Is your heart right?
I Am My Sisterâ€™s Keeper (l to r): First Lady Yolanda Carroll Ford, First Lady Mia Wright, Founder of 40zRock Sandra Wyckoff & First Lady Tawanda Usher
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In your 40z? Join and be a 40z ROCKER!
Dear Prospective 40z Rocker, When you turned 40, what was the first thing that came to your mind? Honestly… Was it something like, “It’s all down-hill from here or I can now live MY life?” Whether positive or negative, did you realize there are billions of women asking themselves those same questions around the world? Better yet, did you know there was an organization Founded in Houston, Texas that tailored to the needs of women in their 40’z? YES… An organization where you can share empowerment, support, and make positive changes in your community. Women from all walks of life, all beautiful hues and tones, sizes and shapes with a positive outlook on life. The organization is 40’z ROCK, Founded by Sandra Wyckoff; a woman of class, couture, and culture. When she refers to a woman who ROCKS, she is distinctly referring to You, a woman who has done the work on herself, and has reached a level of awareness and balance; mentally, physically, and spiritually. She believes that once a woman has tapped into these areas of her life, then she ROCKS! And when she ROCKS, she can ROCK the world. We are looking for women who ROCK to join our movement. Are you a Rocker? We think so. It takes A Rocker, To Know a Rocker! If you know you have what it takes and would like to Rock the World with us, please visit www.40zRock.com to find out how become part of this growing movement.