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OH BABY LET’S GET SHOPPING 72 things you need for your new bundle of joy


Fact: A single JUUL pod contains as much nicotine as a pack of 20 regular cigarettes Young brains continue to develop until about age 25 and nicotine can harm a growing brain – it is known to damage brain circuits that control attention, learning, and susceptibility to addiction E-cigarette use among middle and high school students has now surpassed use of regular cigarettes and continues to rise

JUULing is dangerous. The newest e-cigarettes are shaped like flash drives and are being used at alarming rates by teens. JUUL and MarkTen Elite are two popular brands. These devices are very discrete and come in an array of tasty flavors targeted at kids.

Mom, everybody is JUULing. It’s no big deal... way safer than smoking, and it’s fun.

Some don’t contain nicotine. It’s just harmless flavor and water vapor...

Whoa – I didn’t know that. I think I might stay away from that stuff. So not worth it.


Parents and teens need to talk about e-cigarette use and know the facts. The use of any tobacco product is unsafe for young people. For more information: A PUBLIC HEALTH MESSAGE FROM


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Everybody 6 months and older needs a FLU SHOT yearly. The flu shot is the best protection for anyone 6 months and older INCLUDING expectant moms. Flu shots are SAFE and available anytime during pregnancy. Influenza (the flu) can be a serious illness, especially for pregnant women. The best way to keep babies under 6 months safe is to make sure everyone around them has had a flu shot. Learn more about vaccinations at

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• Gather your materials. You will need some paper, a marker, a book and a dot paint marker.

Ingredients for One: • Two square graham crackers • 1 tsp. of pumpkin pie filling • 3 Tbs. whipped topping

Before calling your child to play, flip through the book and choose some words. Choose each word once, and do one for every two pages so you could read it out loud to your child at a normal speed without them having to stop too often to mark the paper. The words may just be printed on different areas of the paper. When your child finds the word, have them repeat the word to you!

Utensils and Supplies: • Bowl • Teaspoon • Tablespoon • Serving Spoons • Cookie Sheet Have your child measure the ingredients and mix the pumpkin pie filling and the whipped topping. Spread the mixture onto the graham cracker and place the other on top. Freeze for a few hours and enjoy!

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PUFFY SNOWFLAKES • In a bowl, mix equal parts salt and self-rising flour a few drops of food coloring (optional, especially for snow designs.) • Next, add enough water to make it the consistency of pancake batter. Pour into empty dishwashing soap bottles (or something similar). • Use thick card stock paper


Give each child a roll of pennies and place a pot in the center of a table. Have each person in the family step back the same number of steps as their age (for example, a 6-year-old would step back six steps). Then, each player tries to throw their pennies into the pot. The player who can "pitch" the most pennies successfully into the pot wins!

Place your child’s painting in the microwave for 30 seconds on high (microwave times will vary, of course.) and *poof* — Paint is dry and super-puffy!

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9 Saving Up Your wallet is going to love you. 10 Encouraging Goals Help your child reach their goals. 13 Chasing the Rodeo Trevor Hartshorn is racing in with championship titles. 14 The Next Level Siblings Connor and Bonita are working their way up one belt at a time.

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The Baby Issue

18 Prepping for Baby The 9 mistakes you will want to avoid. 20 Essentials for Baby and Mama Your ultimate baby registry checklist.



22 Just Wait Real advice from been-there-done-that Black Hills moms.

42 Stop Losing Stuff Only 5 steps to getting your child to stop losing their things.

29 Find Your Mom Squad A well-rounded friend group will help balance your year.


New Year; New You

45 Finances: Teen Money Management Setting your teen on the right path to financial success.

32 5 Things Kids Do that Parents Should Who would be better to take advice from than your kids?

49 Health: Flu Shots Getting your flu shot is not something to sniff at.

37 Monkey See, Monkey Do They’re watching you! Set a good example with some simple steps.

51 Making an Impact Northern Hills Training Center

Ages & Stages

40 Don’t Compare Raising multiples can be hard; not comparing them to each other can be even more difficult.


53 Education: Porter the Hoarder Black Hills Reads is launching a new collaboration, and it’s going to be awesome!

Local Life

54 Black Hills Cuties 58 Calendar 62 Little Artists

Oh Baby! This issue, we are so happy to have little Leo on our cover of Black Hills Parent magazine. This Rapid City boy sure knew how to make the ladies at the photo shoot with Legacy Photo and Design smile with his giggles and facial expressions. See more at


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Just $3 a Day It may seem impossible to build an emergency fund – that account you can look to when you need new tires, someone gets sick, or your household appliances are on their last leg. But, you could save big time with only $3 a day! If you save just $3 per day for 365 days, you’ll be able to see $1095 in your savings. Here are some ideas to get started. • $3 by drinking water instead of soda at a restaurant • $3 by clipping a few coupons before you head to the grocery store

• $3 by cooking at home instead of eating a meal out (That alone can save way more than $3!) • $3 by skipping your morning coffee run An emergency fund of $1,000 may seem far off, but with a little bit each day, you’ll be at your goal in no time.

Try an App! Our cell phones are oftentimes our little assistants. So, why not put it to work and save money? Try these apps and keep your wallet happy. • Ibotta • Checkout51 • Target Cartwheel • Walmart Savings Catcher • Mint • Mobile banking apps Don’t forget about loyalty card programs at grocery stores, boutiques, and coffee shops!

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What’s Your Word? Instead of a resolution for 2019, try finding your word! What’s the word you would like to work on, or to describe you this year? Here are a few ideas to get you started:

Be SMART with Goals Specific: Guide your child to be more specific with their goal. Example Goal: I want to be better at school. Questions to Ask: Which subject? What grade?

Measurable: This is how

children will be able to know they have reached their goal. Whether it is an award, a project or skill – the measurable steps are what they are wishing to achieve with their goal.

Achievable: Rather than a huge

goal of being an astronaut when they are six years old, maybe start with introductions to science. When goals are out of reach, they oftentimes get abandoned and add unnecessary stress.

Relevant: Your child’s goals

should mean something to them. This is what makes them fun! Together, have a conversation about what they want to accomplish.

Timely: If we don’t set a timeline


to accomplish our goals, it may never happen! Consider other obligations and interests, then set a realistic timeframe with your child.


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CHASING THE RODEO words Jaclyn Lanae photos Jesse Brown Nelson

It isn’t unusual to find 14-year-old Trevor Hartshorn helping out at his grandparents’ pumpkin patch. And when his great grandmother Mary Jane is in town, he’ll find time between chores on the farm, homework, and a grueling rodeo schedule to just sit and visit. Even as Trevor becomes ‘the guy to beat’ on rodeo circuits across the country, this young cowboy prioritizes hard work, self-improvement, and family. “He’s tough and hardworking… he’s just an amazing kid,” Grandma Donna affirms, her eyes misting with pride. A freshman at Custer High School, Trevor genuinely enjoys academics and loves basketball (in part because the season compliments the rodeo circuit so beautifully). The Hartshorn family spends nearly every weekend from March to October competing in one rodeo organization or another: 4-H, High School Rodeo, and the National Little Britches Rodeo Association. His combination of natural talent and dedication to improvement resulted in qualifying for the 2017 World Championships and seeking a win in his event: Flag Racing. However, it resulted in a heart-breaking, split-second defeat. Trevor returned for the 2018 World Championships, earning several prize buckles and spurs for his placement in the Team Roping competition (with partner Landry Haugen), Ribbon Roping event (with partner Gabe Glines), and

Steer Bareback riding. The big win, though, was a $1,000 scholarship to the educational institution of his choice and the prize saddle for his Champion World Junior Boy Flag Race title. When pressed on his future goals, Trevor acknowledges college is the path he intends to take. But, he confides, that intention does not eclipse his ultimate goal to earn the All Around World Champion title in the Little Britches Rodeo Association before taking his rodeo career to the professional level. With several wins in the first few weeks of this year’s season he is well on his way. Along with his team event partners Gabe and Landry, astride his horse Friday, and with his entire family behind him, Trevor Hartshorn is certainly positioned to become one of the big names in Professional Rodeo.



Connor and Bonita were great sports during our photoshoot when we aksed them to hold their poses over and over again. After lots of laughs and different forms, we got the perfect shot. Thank you to Full Circle Martial Arts for letting us use their space!

words Molly Barari photos Jesse Brown Nelson Patience. Dedication. Loyalty. Selflessness. These are all powerful words, and words that Master Naomi Even-Aberly, owner of Full Circle Martial Arts Academy (FCMAA), uses to describe her students Connor Quillen and Bonita Young. Connor, age 12, and Bonita, age 13, of Rapid City have been active students at FCMAA for over three years. The brother and sister duo both recently tested for and received their junior black belts–an incredible accomplishment. For Connor, who describes himself as a competitive person, “the most challenging part was going through the test. It was difficult because I didn’t know what to expect.” Connor broke all of his boards, which means he can advance to tackling new goals in taekwondo. Bonita—who completed her curriculum with no mistakes—said she achieved her junior black belt by persevering when things got difficult. “I worked hard and never gave up,” she says. Their performance and dedication to their martial arts is amazing, but their willingness to be mentors is what is truly inspiring, according to Master Naomi. “Ms. Bonita and Mr. Connor work and volunteer with our youth taekwondo class year round as assistant instructors,” explains Master Naomi. “I am truly proud

The brother and sister duo both recently tested for and received their junior black belts–an incredible accomplishment.

of both Ms. Bonita and Mr. Connor for their selflessness and willingness to step up for their martial arts family." Connor says helping Master Naomi with class is a blast. “I love to help the little kids from my class get better at martial arts!” For Bonita, the best part about being a youth taekwondo instructor is getting to work with others. “I like to demonstrate the techniques for people,” she says. Being involved in martial arts at FCMAA is important to Bonita because the people are fun and friendly. “They teach us so many things,” she says. “I get to help other people learn, while learning myself.” Connor enjoys martial arts because it helps him beyond defending himself. “It also helps me with my focus,” he says. Both kids appreciate the focus and clarity that martial arts involvement provides for their lives. Because of their martial arts training, they are able to stay mentally and physically sharp for school and the sports they play throughout the year. Now that they’ve accomplished their junior black belts, the sky is the limit for what these strong, fearless kids can do next.



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Reusing the wrong things Second-hand is great and the Black Hills has tons of options for low-cost, gently used items for your baby. However, be cautious when it comes to your baby’s health and safety. Car seats, breast pumps, cribs, pacifiers, nipples, and strollers should be purchased new. (If you are purchasing used, be sure you know the history and expiration date of the item.)

Not planning space and storage You’re going to get a lot of love for your family’s new addition. Be sure you have the place to store your items. Ask for totes, baskets, and organizers to keep boxes out of your living room.


Not listing the little things It’s true. Getting a thermometer, a nasal aspirator, and a humidifier are not the most glamorous gift to put on your registry, but they are the things you’ll most definitely need!

Forgetting about the road ahead You’ve snuggled that newborn like crazy for the past 8-12 weeks, and now… now you may be heading back to work and your little one has outgrown their clothes, diapers, and are teething. Prep for the next stages and ask for things your child will be able to grow in to.

GIFTS OH BABY Getting too many gifts Little onesies, bows, and books are great – yes! And so are gift certificates for experiences and cold hard cash to get you through all the expenses that have accrued and are yet to come.

Underestimating how long things will last You’re going to go through a lot of diapers, wipes, creams, and ointments – and then more diapers, and more wipes. Be sure to ask for different sizes and multiple boxes of each.

Thinking only about Baby Yes, this new bundle of joy is going to need lots of love. However, don’t forget to ask for things you and your partner will need, too!

Being too frugal to ask for the big stuff You know you need a crib, a mattress for that crib, a glider, a carseat, a travel crib… the list goes on. And oftentimes, these items are more expensive than the swaddle on your registry. Don’t be afraid to ask for the big stuff! A group of friends or family may want to go in on the item you need together.

Returning items too quickly Doubles are ok! Take that extra playmat to grandma’s house or daycare. Keep the extra nursing pillow for another room so you don’t have to transport it out of the nursery every time.

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Three babies in, and I’m convinced there are few things that elicit more unsolicited advice than a baby bump or newborn in your arms. Relatives, coworkers, acquaintances, and the occasional stranger took my pregnant belly to mean I was in the market for parenting tips. And I was—just not in the manner they dispensed it. My well-meaning advisors dished it out in true lunch lady fashion—too much, too fast, and too soon. I needed bite-sized counsel, not the whole enchilada. So, dear mama-to-be, here are some small nuggets to chew on while you’re incubating that tiny human.

Why did you name him that?

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“Naming your child is a very special thing,” said Traci Walding. This busy Belle Fourche mama knows a thing or two about the name game—she and her husband, Donnie, are raising four boys. The Waldings opted to let people in on their decision before their sons arrived. “We always shared the name we picked because we’d start to call them by their name before they were born,” she said. Perhaps you prefer to keep your child’s name under wraps until D-Day. Either way, seemingly every blessed person on the planet will want to weigh in on your decision. But it’s your decision. Is your opinionated aunt down for 2 a.m. diaper duty? Then she doesn’t get a vote. That’s not to say family, friends, or total strangers still

won’t be tempted to ask why you named your child after a dead guy, city, or nature. Counter their curiosity and be ready with a charming comeback.

Bringing home baby

Consider recruiting someone to take home flowers and other gifts you received during your hospital stay. You’ll have plenty to haul home without having to worry about packing up plants and plush teddy bears. You won’t have time for a Target run on your way to the hospital, so purchase a car seat way in advance and figure it out before go time. That way, you’re not messing with straps and buckles once you’re cleared to leave the hospital. When your new little family finally makes it home, “just plan on doing nothing,” said Dori O’Connor, a Rapid City mom to two preschoolers. “Nothing” means letting the housework go while you attend to your needy bundle of joy. As soon as that baby is out and into your arms, you’ll find there’s time for little else. So do yourself a favor and stay on top of the dishes, laundry and groceries before


baby comes so you don’t return to a messy house, full dryer and empty fridge. Then give yourself time to transition to juggling those tasks and a newborn. “Find your routine and don’t stress out,” said Gina Rose, a Rapid City mom to three girls. “It is not easy but it will get easier.”

Do I know you?


You’re the parent

You could go crazy wondering what the in-laws think of your parenting skills. So stop it with the mind games already! I ignored precious firsts because I was too preoccupied with how family might perceive the way I parent. Eventually I wised up and recognized they were too preoccupied with their own lives to fret over the parenting methods I chose. When relatives do speak up and offer parenting wisdom, assume the best. Not every family member is out to undermine your authority. There is a very good chance they’re wanting to offer advice from the trenches they’ve gone through. “We haven’t really dealt with advice from others, and if we have gotten it, we took it as more of a ‘this worked for me so maybe it will work for you,’” Gina said. Gina’s oldest daughter, Torah, stopped sleeping well around four months. When Gina’s mom learned of her granddaughter’s inconsistent sleep patterns, she suggested a return to swaddling. “My mom wrapped up her tight,” Gina said. Everyone slept better after that. If disagreement does arise over parenting styles, first make sure you and your spouse are in agreement before talking to your family. “You need to be on the same page,” Dori said.

It’s OK to ditch the cape

Your ego takes a little hit the first time you birth a baby. Delivery is exhausting, but you can’t rest up like you once did. Not when a tiny human with erratic sleeping habits and a seemingly endless appetite and propensity to poop, pee, and projectile vomit is depending on you. Asking for help may initially feel like a sign of weakness, but it’s OK to drop the red cape and signal backup. All the people who answer your call might just surprise you. “The help I loved the most were those friends and family that just did it,” Gina said. “They came over and helped make dinner or helped pick up my house or my kitchen. In one case, I had a friend even paint my entire kitchen when I went out one day.” Dori remembers calling her mom on one occasion when she felt like she was at her wit’s end. Her mom graciously dropped by, stayed until things calmed down and then left as quietly as she came. “She knew just what I needed,” Dori said.


Make new friends but keep the old

Now that you’re a new mom, you may think you need to surround yourselves with women in the same season of life as you. But there’s more to friendship than commiserating over breastfeeding and the most recent blowout. Befriend moms of children old enough to pour their own juice. Reach out to that girlfriend who doesn’t have kids. It’s OK to share an occasional ugly cry over your formerly fit and fashionable self, just don’t wallow in it. Misery loves company, but there’s no reason for you to be miserable. This is when you need a friend who’s been there, done that, and will tell you to suck it up and pull through it because life won’t always be this way.


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Don’t alienate your partner

Avoid the tendency to treat your spouse or significant other like a punching bag before and after baby comes. Yes, your man won’t ever know what it feels like to push out a person, but that doesn’t preclude him from taking a nap on your watch. Be mindful of dumping all your baggage—emotional and otherwise—on him when you come home from the hospital. He’s just watched you give birth to your child, and he’s probably feeling the weight of responsibility to you and your new baby. “It’s OK to cut him a little slack,” Dori said with a smile.



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People take a weird sort of pleasure in warning new parents about hazards ahead. Expect an earful of “just you wait” stories, some uncomfortably drawn out and others too hastily told to comprehend. The details may differ but the gist generally stays the same: impending doom. Thinking about giving your baby solid food? “Just you wait.” Bowel movements at every turn! Barf around every corner! It made me wonder if I should carry a shop vac in my diaper bag—just in case. (I didn’t.)

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Sleep on it



Do yourself a favor and approach this sleep business in the right frame of mind. Your infant is going to wake up and stay up at night. Don’t cry over lost Zs and do something about unpredictable sleep patterns. Start practicing good sleep habits as soon as you and baby are settled in at home. From the time each of our sons were newborns, my husband and I treated every evening like bedtime, even though we knew we would be hearing from our bouncing baby boy in T-minus two hours. We would bathe, feed, swaddle, and pray over our little guy and then head to bed ourselves. Yes, your baby is not going to go along with your bedtime routine right away, but stick to the plan! It may feel like you’re getting nowhere, but the best thing you can do is persevere and believe that what you’re doing will eventually pay off. Today, we don’t dread bedtime with our boys because we’ve been training them since they were fresh from the womb. When you feel frustration rising, “watch them sleep,” Traci said. “Even as they get older. On frustrating days, it’ll help to remind you of their sweetness and innocence.”

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Whether you are a newly minted mom, new to your community, or feeling isolated for another reason, you may wonder how to connect with other moms. Parenting in isolation without moral support is lonely and emotionally debilitating. One of the most important ways to take care of yourself (and by extension your family) is to maintain a thriving social network that provides a healthy dose of physical, mental, and emotional support. WHY SUPPORT MATTERS According to a recent Gallup poll, stay-at-homemoms are at greater risk for depression than mothers who work. And, PostPartum Support International reports that one in eight women suffers from postpartum depression. Isolation can contribute to feelings of depression. Just a short burst of time spent with friends can boost a woman’s oxytocin levels, a natural hormone that decreases stress and anxiety.

Group in 2010, researchers found that mothers believe they are more optimistic and resilient to life’s daily stresses and occasional crises when surrounded by a community of support. Moms’ groups come in a variety of sizes, philosophies, and commitment levels. From faith-based organizations and moms of multiples’ clubs to attachment parent and stayat-home only groups, options abound. Shop around to find a group that fits your personality and parenting style. Visit the group as a guest. Ask the membership director questions like: • How often does the group meet? • Does the group schedule moms-only events? • If mom-only activities are scheduled during the day, is childcare provided? • What types of play groups and activities does the group plan? • How does the group support members? (For example, educational speakers? Meals for moms of new babies?)

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SCHEDULE ACTIVITIES Losing yourself in the day-to-day rotation of feedings, naps, baths, and playtime may be fine for awhile. However, injecting your calendar with BHPARENT 29

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a sprinkling of activities throughout the week for both you and your child will energize you, give you something to look forward to and help you feel connected to the world outside your home. Not sure where to begin? Check with your local library and bookstore for story hours and seek out “Mommy and Me” groups, which run the gamut from physical activities to musical education. If you work full-time, talk to other working moms about meeting up at the park or indoor play area for a weekend playdate. GET ACTIVE Schedule time for an exercise class when your spouse is home or join a gym that offers quality childcare. Not only are fitness classes a fun way to get in shape, you’ll feel mentally refreshed, more patient, and more positive in general. And the more you go, the more you’ll get to know the other participants, which will make you feel more accountable about showing up. (Check with your local Department of Education for tips on finding a gym with reputable childcare.) If a gym is out of the budget, find a friend or two to walk with a few times a week, either around a park, the neighborhood, or a mall on inclement-weather days. As your children grow older, schedule time during or at the end of the walk for them to play at a park or indoor area.

CLICK INTO SOCIAL MEDIA Still in your pjs at 3:30 in the afternoon after being up all night with your colicky baby or a sick child? During the toughest times of parenthood, we can find comfort knowing others can relate and that we aren’t alone. Thanks to social media like Facebook, Pinterest,, and mommy blogs, you can click into the land of the living without feeling the need to put clean clothes on or even brush your teeth! SHARE YOUR TALENTS You may feel tempted to push your own interests aside due to overwhelming family demands. Negotiate time with your spouse to pursue your hobbies and other interests. Share your interests by inviting friends to join you for a gardening or cooking class or to start a book club. Create a calendar. You write everyone else’s appointments on your calendar. Take yourself seriously, too. Honor your personal needs by making appointments with yourself, including fitness classes, walks with friends, moms’ meetings, dinner with a friend, classes you’ve signed up for, and so on. Sure, sometimes a sick child will throw a wrench into your plans, but isn’t flexibility one of the first lessons moms learn? When necessary, share your appointments with your spouse so he isn’t caught unaware.

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Adults are always telling kids how to behave. But there are times when kids do things better than us.

Say “No” Most toddlers favorite word is no. A child will cross their arms and stand their ground shouting no until they turn blue in the face. Adults do not have the same ease of using the word.

Why is saying no hard for adults?

According to an article in Psychology Today Magazine there are many reasons adults struggle with using the word no. Often people want to belong to a group so they may say yes to receive approval from others. Another reason a person may resist using the word no is fear of upsetting another person. Lastly, a person may want to be helpful and feel valued so they reframe from saying no.

How can adults just say no?

Psychology Today Magazine says the word no should feel empowering. By practicing and remaining diplomatic most people will improve their ability to say no to others. Envisioning how easy it is for a child to say no may also help you realize you can do it as well.

Negotiate If you tell your child their bedtime is 8 pm, often they will ask how about 8:30 pm? Or if you suggest they eat five more bites of their dinner they respond with, “can I only eat three bites?” Children have little fear or resistance to negotiating with adults or other kids.

Why is How can adults negotiating negotiate hard for adults? better? An article on states, “our research found nearly one-fifth of workers never negotiate after they’re offered a job.” After interviewing 2,000 people about why they don’t like to negotiate found the biggest reason was fear of losing their job. Other answers were people felt they would seem greedy or they wouldn’t get a raise, anyway. In a Money Watch article by Jeff Haden he states, “I hate negotiating, mostly because a negotiation often feels confrontational.” Heidi Grant Halvorson Ph.D. shares this viewpoint by stating, “A negotiation is an experience that is rife with conflicting motivations.”

Negotiating is an important skill since it enables you to earn a higher salary or pay less for a car or house. This skill can help you in both your personal and business relationships. Similar to saying no, you will feel empowered when you are able to negotiate effectively. In the Psychology Today article “How to Negotiate Like a Lawyer” Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. offers five strategies you can use to improve your negotiating skills which are to prepare, plan, assert and implement the solution. She stresses the importance of listening to the other person and doing your research before the negotiation.


Play If a child sees a basket of dolls or Legos, they have the ability to play creatively for hours. Sometimes a cardboard box is enough inspiration for a child to pretend to be in a car, train, or plane. As people age, they no longer use pretend play.

Why is creative play challenging for adults? In an article on Psych Central Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. discusses why adults struggle with creative play. She states, “Play for adults is perceived as unproductive, petty or even a guilty pleasure.” This leaves adults feeling as if the creative play is unnecessary yet she found play helps people to feel happy.

How can adults play creatively? Tartakovsky suggests you can add play into your life by changing how you think about it and give yourself permission to play. She recommends using your childhood memories of play to reconnect with the idea. You can also play with your child or other children you know.



If you have witnessed a child learning to walk or learning to ride a bike, you will see that despite falling down, they continue to get up until they mastered the skill. Children don’t allow failure to hinder them from trying again until they succeed.

Speak in high pitched voice, stumble over a shoe or mispronounces a word a child will erupt into a fit of laughter. Ask any comedian, they’ll tell you it’s not as easy to make an adult laugh.

Why is it difficult for adults to succeed?

Why is difficult How can for adults to adults laugh laugh? more?

Most success is the result of many failed attempts such as mastering a new skill. In a Psychology Today article Guy Winch Ph.D. discusses how when people fail they can believe they are helpless and unable to achieve your goal.


How can adults succeed?

Winch suggests the best way to overcome failure is to focus on the aspects you can control. After you are able to figure out what isn’t in your control, try to improve it by taking a class or preparing and practicing for the next time you attempt the skill.

People may hold back with laughing due to a fear of offending others. Robert Provine, Ph.D. author of the book Laughter states that adults laugh less than children due to the fact they play less.

Provine found people are more likely to laugh when they are with other people as opposed to being alone. You can also read humorous books, watch funny TV shows or spend time with your child since laughter can be contagious.

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Actions speak louder than words. “Research shows that 85 to 90 percent of your message is not what you say but how you say it.”


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As the line typically goes: “monkey see, monkey do.” What are your little monkeys copying from your day-to-day words, and most importantly...your actions? words Lyndsey Akley photos Jesse Brown Nelson Imagine this: You’re working in the kitchen and notice your usually rambunctious household is quiet. You venture through the house to find your child playing in their room – sitting quietly reading to their dolls, cooking pretend meals, or even building something out of blocks. You haven’t taught them the things they are doing; and yet, they are imitating your actions perfectly.  As parents, we are always being watched. By society, yes; but more importantly, by our children.  From a young age, our children watch our behaviors and begin to mimic what they see.  Barbara Kaiser, co-author of Challenging Behavior in Young Children: Understanding, Preventing and Responding Effectively  says  that for children, actions speak louder than words.  “Research shows that 85 to 90 percent of your message is not what you say but how you say it.”  Whether we realize it or not, we lead by example every day. Instead of telling our kids what to do, we need to show them how to behave. How we act sets the standard for their actions. Here are a few ways to keep ourselves in check:

Treat people how you want to be treated.

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those who show none to you. Being the bigger person can be difficult, but by treating others how you want to be treated, you show your child the impact that your positive actions can have on negative situations.

Be kind.

We stress the importance of being kind to our kids. But stop and think of the last time someone passed you on the street and you did not say hello, or when you saw an old acquaintance at a coffee shop and did not stop to catch up. Our world moves so quickly, and we often lose sight of opportunities to connect with others. Be intentional about these moments, and take time to acknowledge one another. Show your child that simple words and interactions can have a long lasting effect.

Put Down Your Phone!

Technology is literally at our fingertips and we can find nearly anything online. Groceries, clothing, even friendships. Social media has allowed us to make friends across the world, from the comfort of our own home. While having friends online is fine, it can cause us to forget about our real-life friends surrounding us every day. Put your phone down and spend time with people. Play a board game, go to a ball game or help someone with a project.

Learn to Fail Forward.  

People often say ‘failure is not an option’ but we have all experienced a situation where this is not true. We all make mistakes or fall short of our goals. The important thing is how we react to those failures. Show your kids that it is ok to miss the mark, but we still need to pursue those dreams. If a situation doesn’t work out, accept the set back, and 38 BLACKHILLSPARENT.COM

keep moving forward. Failure is only bad if you allow it to hold you back.  

Be grateful for what you have.

Your children will follow in your footsteps, so make sure the path you are taking is one you want them to go along, as well.

No matter your age, it is easy to find ourselves wanting something. More stylish clothes, the newest smart phone, the list can go on. It is natural to dream of bigger and better, but how often do we miss the great things around us when looking for the next best thing? Your car might be older, but you have one. Your cell phone may not be the latest model, but it still works. Take time to look at what you have and find the good in your life. No matter how big or small, we have blessings all around us.

Help pick up!

How often have you gotten after your kids for not making their bed, leaving dirty clothes on the floor, or not putting their dishes in the dishwasher? Now think, when was the last time you did any of those things? We often hold our kids to a standard when it comes to cleaning house, but we need to hold ourselves to that same standard. If we all took a few extra minutes to tidy up throughout the day, everyone would benefit in the long run. Your children will follow in your footsteps, so make sure the path you are taking is one you want them to go along, as well.

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No one wants to hear the words “Why can’t you be more like your sister?” Comparisons feel like judgement to a child. While it goes against our natural instinct, we must learn to see the individuality in our children.

While taking notes on strengths, acknowledge areas where each child may struggle and allow more patience and instruction in this area without putting the child down for their weaknesses. We are all different and have strengths and struggles, we just need to learn to embrace them for ourselves and our children. As your child grows, learn to keep your expectations in line with their abilities and interests.

Focus on the child’s efforts

Instead of comparing one child’s struggles to another child’s successes, try to focus on each individual child’s efforts and improvements. Things can come easily to some people, while others put in lots of hard work to gain the same result. Instead of noting the ease which one child can accomplish tasks, take note and celebrate the child who is putting in the most effort and congratulate them on any improvements made.

Celebrate individual milestones words Sarah Lyons As a mother of six children, I have found myself comparing one child to another many times. Even though I know their physical, emotional, and intellectual development will progress at a rate that is unique to each child and each will have their own strengths and weaknesses, when you are in the middle of a two year old tantrum over a seemingly trivial problem, it is hard not to think “Your sister never did this.” Parents often battle the urge to compare one child to another. It is a natural reaction considering we use comparisons to make decisions involving nearly every other aspect of our lives. When dealing with two or more children we must do the exact opposite of this natural tendency. “When our daughter was younger, she had developmental delays and it was hard to not compare her to her older brother, or my peers with kids her age,” says Jennifer Malon, a mom of four. “Making those comparisons against one another was stealing our family’s joy, and it was important to make a change and focus on her individual strengths.” Comparing siblings can have negative effects because it can create jealousy,


sibling rivalry, feelings of self-doubt, and have negative effects on the parentchild relationship as a whole. We know each child is unique, with their own gifts, struggles, and personality, which all affect how they grow, learn, and develop, but how do we learn to appreciate these differences rather than compare them?

Identify their strengths

When the urge to compare your children arises, identify the strengths of each child. One may have an excellent sense of coordination and therefore may excel in physical development and later, in sports. Another child may have no interest in sports but have a knack for listening to others and perceiving how they are feeling. Compassion and caretaking may come natural to a child with these strengths. “We have such a huge array of personalities in our household,” explains Shannon Church, a mom of five. “Each of those personalities are used in our family dynamic in so many ways. Our daughters are so nurturing and loving, so they love helping with the baby. And our oldest son is great with music and helps his siblings learn.”

As parents, we all desire to be “fair” to all of our children. I noticed as my children grew I became so focused on being fair that I was missing the celebration of the individual milestones that were important and meaningful to each child. Being fair is a great goal, but part of that is appreciating each child’s differences rather than comparing them as a group For instance, when you notice your child has achieved a new accomplishment make sure to share it with the entire family at dinner. It lets them know you pay attention to their individual accomplishments No one wants to hear the words “Why can’t you be more like your sister?” Comparisons feel like judgement to a child. While it goes against our natural instinct, we must learn to see the individuality in our children. “We see a lot less grumpiness in our family when we focus on the positive,” said Shannon. “When we praise them for whatever they are doing, they’re eyes just brighten and they want to keep trying. Their attitude changes for the better and makes for a happier household.” Loving and appreciating your children for their differences doesn’t mean you love one more than other. It means you have learned to love each one of them for their own unique qualities.


How to Notice Unique Qualities in Your Children • Treat them as individuals • Seek out what makes them unique • Recognize their strengths and struggles • Choose activities they love • Foster separate friendships • Find out their love language from the book “The Five Love Languages of Children” by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell • Listen to what they say • Give them choices • Spend one on one time with each child


STOP THEM FROM LOSING THEIR STUFF WITHOUT LOSING YOUR MIND “What do you mean you don’t know where your new shoes are? You haven’t even had them for a week!” I screamed at my daughter as steam simmered out of my ears and my face burnt with rage.

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words Sandi Schwartz Did I lose my temper in that moment? Yes. Did I feel badly about it? Only partially. I was furious my daughter had no idea where her sneakers were that I just ordered a few days earlier. She went to camp the previous day with them on, but now she had no idea where they were. It is so frustrating to have something you pay a decent amount of money for vanish into thin air. On top of that, I discovered they were missing two minutes before we needed to walk out the door to get to camp in the morning. I screamed, I yelled, I threw a fit. My behavior was definitely overblown as a reaction to a five-year-old losing a material item (I know, it’s just stuff), but I also know if she does not learn this is a big deal, how will she ever learn responsibility for her belongings and the value of a dollar? I joked she would have to find a way to earn the money to pay for new shoes. The bewildered look I got in return meant it was time to explore ways to teach young children responsibility so I will not have to experience another stressful scene.


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to age six to lose their belongings at times. When they enter elementary school, they can begin to take on more responsibility and understand consequences for their actions. Set some rules with them about which items you will replace, how many times you will replace them, and any other sacrifices they will have to make such as doing chores to “earn” things or giving up certain privileges like screen time. Some kids may be naturally organized, but for the most part it is up to us to teach them how to keep track of their things and to realize the importance of responsibility. There are some simple practical solutions, but also some deeper, more life-long lessons that we can teach our children about responsibility, respect, and the value of a dollar.

Practical Solutions

Let’s start with some practical solutions to help our children keep better track of their belongings.  et reminders based on their schedule. S Talk to your children about their daily schedule and point out important actions to take throughout the day, such as putting their lunchbox back into their backpack after their lunch period, putting their clothes in their backpack after a swim lesson, and keeping track of their water

bottle throughout the day. Ask them to double check to make sure they have all their belongings before they leave school or camp at the end of the day. Forming these habits based on a consistent routine can be very effective and used in so many other situations down the road.  abel everything. Although it is a time L investment up front, labeling your children’s belongings provides an insurance policy in case they do forget or misplace something. Hopefully someone will find the lost item and take it to the lost and found so you can retrieve it later. You can simply use a Sharpie marker or purchase some name labels online. Make a checklist. Work with your children to write a list of their key belongings—such as a lunchbox, sweatshirt, sunglasses, hat, homework folder—they need to make sure they have before they leave the house in the morning and before they come home at the end of the day. Review this list over and over again with them until it is ingrained in their memory. Be sure to review the list together so you are also checking they have everything they will need.


 rompt them with specific questions. P Yes, we parents are known to nag, but it is necessary at times. Be proactive by asking them questions based on the checklist you created. “Do you have your hat and sunglasses for the day? Don’t forget to put them in your backpack when you are not using them.” Eventually, they will hear your questions enough they will come up with them on their own. Make it fun. Today’s Parent offers a really clever tip: try teaching your kids a catchy song, cheer, or acronym to remember their gear.

Lessons For A Lifetime

The simple act of my daughter losing her new sneakers at camp prompted some important lessons she can carry with her for a lifetime. Although I did not handle the moment as calmly as I should have, my daughter got the message that she was irresponsible and her actions had consequences. First, she felt uneasy that I was scolding her—she prefers a happy mommy. Second, she needed to understand I was not going to immediately

hop on Amazon and re-order those same $45 shoes just because she loved them. That day she wore her old, beat up, slightly-too-small sneakers she was so happy to leave behind when the new ones arrived. And when I asked her how she was going to earn the money to order new shoes, she realized that so much of what she has and loves costs money, and money needs to be earned by hard work. I knew if I simply “came to the rescue” my daughter would grow up with an entitled expectation. There has been a lot of talk about entitled children lately. These children grow up feeling privileged because their parents believe they should be happy all the time and never face consequences for their actions. Marsha B. Sauls, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist, explains that these children become belligerent, angry, lazy, selfish, incapable of planning ahead, and unable to understand how their behavior and choices impact others. Instead, I am trying to raise responsible children who understand there are

consequences for their actions. This means my children won’t always be completely happy. They won’t automatically get things just because they want them. It’s not just that I want my kids to be responsible for materials things; responsibility impacts so many aspects of their lives. If they learn to take care of their own toys and clothes now, then they will respect other people and their stuff, too. They will grasp the value of working hard to be able to pay for things, which will help them to manage their time and money more wisely. They will also begin to see the importance of helping people who do not have nearly as much as they do. Finally, they will feel empowered and develop self-esteem because they have control over their own behavior, which can help them achieve their goals and desires throughout life. Back to those shoes. I am happy to report that we found the sneakers in a bin in the hallway at camp. But now my son lost his sweatshirt…

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OTHER IDEAS TO CONSIDER: • Work with your teen to develop a realistic budget, set long and shortterm financial goals and plans for achieving them.

• Explain the advantages of deferring purchases today, such as the latest computer game, to save for another desired item, like a car or college education, tomorrow.

• Cut back, not out. Is your teen spending $5 a week on food? If he or she saves $2 a week by cutting back, after a year there will be $104 to put in a savings or investment account that earns interest.

• Promote shopping around before making purchases. Generally, it assures a better deal and discourages impulse buying. Also, take the opportunity to teach the importance of making a list before shopping (and how to stick to it).

• Discuss the difference between “must-have” purchases today, such as school supplies, and “would like to have” purchases, such as the addition of the latest fashion to an already adequate wardrobe.

TEACHING YOUR TEEN ABOUT MONEY MANAGEMENT words Calvin M. Sievers CLTC®, FIC , LUTCF, Financial Associate at Thrivent Financial® - Black Hills NW Nebraska Group

As a parent, you want to encourage your child to make good choices, and learning how to manage money is a part of that process. While the early years might be spent teaching the basics of money and how it is used, the teen years bring an additional set of challenges. Allowances, money from jobs, the constant bombardment from advertisers, and peer pressure to buy the latest and greatest, add a whole new dimension to learning the ropes of managing money. However, these challenges create a new set of teaching opportunities. The following tips from can help you and your teen get on the right track towards establishing a financial foundation to last a lifetime.

Create spending and savings patterns

Start by instilling the values of spend, save, and share in your teen. First, discuss using 10 percent of each child’s earnings for charitable contributions so they can learn the value of

giving back. Next, take an additional 40 percent and put it into a savings account. The remaining 50 percent can be used at the child’s discretion. By setting some easy-tounderstand patterns while they are under your roof, kids can develop good budgeting habits.

Get started on a path to build credit

Set up a checking or savings account, make regular deposits, and keep the account in good standing. Getting your son or daughter started on the right financial foot today may make it easier for them to someday buy a new car, mortgage a home, or secure other types of loans. As an added bonus, having a checking or savings account allows your teen to learn about online banking and using ATMs. Sometimes they can even build credit without the risk of credit cards if you co-sign a small overdraft protection line of credit on the checking account. You can monitor its use and help encourage the student to pay it off as soon as possible after it advances.

• Encourage the use of a personal financial management tool to track income, savings, expenses and debt. Get in the habit of tracking monthly spending. Even small purchases like sodas will add up after time.

Set goals

Have your teen write down a list of certain items or special gifts that they would like to buy with their money and set a reasonable date for the goal to be accomplished. Having an end goal in mind can help teens put away the money needed for that special something and can serve as a great lesson on how to meet those goals through proper money management.

Begin saving for retirement

Yes, it is never too early to think about retirement. If your teenager is working, he or she should consider opening an IRA. A 40-year old investing $20,000 a year for retirement will end up with only half of the assets as a 21-year old who invests $5,000 a year. Even the smallest savings can turn into a respectable fortune if given enough time.

Don’t bail them out

This is one of the most difficult, yet important lessons to teach. If, despite all your best efforts, your teen gets overextended on credit, take a firm hand. Let them experience the consequences of bad financial decisions. It’s better to help them take responsibility for a $2,500 debt than a $25,000 debt later on! The teen years can be challenging. However, by teaching important lessons about money management early on, you might be giving your son or daughter the gift of a lifetime of good financial habits. BHPARENT 45


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Lacey is always on the go, especially with three boys in sports. As many moms of multiples know, juggling the chaos is exhausting. However, the smiles that athletics bring to her boys’ faces make it worth the circus act. As a treatment coordinator at Jackson Dental in Belle Fourche, Lacey has helped scores of patients achieve their best smiles. She has also learned the value of finding early solutions to dental complications, especially for children. As Lacey learned about the warning signs for dental functional issues: shortened attention span, mouth breathing, and poor sleep, Lacey began to look at her middle son’s smile a little differently. She began to notice that Eli was only breathing through his mouth. Soon after he was diagnosed with an attention disorder and recommended melatonin to help him sleep. In her dental experience, she knew many offices wouldn’t help her fiveyear-old until he was more developed. Waiting would result in two choices: correctional headgear or surgery. But, Lacey knew Jackson Dental was different. They understand the value of starting treatment early and guiding children’s growth and development. When Lacey brought Eli into Jackson Dental, he was diagnosed as a Skeletal Dental Class 3 Deep Bite. By catching it early, she was able to get Eli into a Myofunctional appliance and start him in Myofunctional Therapy – helping provide visible results. Eli doesn’t wear braces or headgear, and he hasn’t had to undergo surgery!

Instead, therapy is helping correct the muscles in his jaw, cheeks, and tongue, creating balance. His improved breathing has lead to improved sleep and sharper focus in school. Retraining Eli to use his mouth correctly has produced results that he can smile about. Lacey is still running. Now, she grabs Eli’s brace with his athletic gear and reminds him to breathe through his nose as she attempts to wrangle her boys into the van each morning. His smile is healthier and so is his entire body thanks to corrected breathing and tongue placement. With the help of Jackson Dental, Lacey can enjoy her child’s smile, relax and take a breath (through her nose).

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How can I keep my child healthy during cold & flu season? Whether for you or for your child, there are 5 areas you should focus on in order to achieve overall health. Doing so will decrease your risk of getting a cold or the flu. These 5 areas include: 1.) Optimal Nutrition Increase your/your child’s water intake, take a vitamin D supplement and eat fruits and vegetables that are high in vitamins C & E, betacarotene and zinc. 2.) Regular Exercise Increase your/your child’s physical activity during the winter months by playing indoor sports, swimming indoors, playing Wii Fit, etc. 3.) Spinal Health The nervous system controls all systems of the body, including the immune system. Regular chiropractic adjustments ensure proper nerve function.

Talk with your chiropractor and set up a plan that best suits your/your child’s needs. 4.) Toxin Elimination Avoid or limit the amount of processed foods, foods high in sugar and foods you/your child might be sensitive to. 5.) Emotional Balance Plenty of sleep ensures a rested body and mind. Implementing these lifestyle recommendations will help strengthen your/your child’s immune system and in return will help prevent illnesses or simply speed up the recovery process. It’s important to focus on these 5 areas year-round, but it’s especially important during cold & flu season. Dr. Robert Kuyper Alternative Health Care Center

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One hundred years ago, a particularly immune system develops the antibodies that can nasty strain of influenza turned up at kill the virus. Even though the vaccine is developed Fort Riley, Kansas. The virus caught a ride from the influenza virus, it can’t cause the flu. The to Europe with American soldiers sent vaccine either contains an inactivated virus or, in the to fight in World War I. From there, it case of the nasal mist vaccine, a weakened virus that spread throughout the world. By the cannot give you the flu. Some types of vaccine are time it ran its course, the Spanish developed using chicken eggs, but there are vaccines flu epidemic of 1918 claimed 50 to available for those with an egg allergy. 100 million lives. It takes about two weeks after vaccination to Medicine has come a long way develop immunity to influenza. The flu vaccine in 100 years, and influenza is no protects against influenza (sudden onset of fever, longer the public health menace cough, body aches) only. It doesn’t protect against it was in 1918. A big reason for other illnesses such as the common cold or the that is the stomach flu. The flu vaccination development There are multiple flu has been shown to reduce severity of influenza of illness in people who get vaccines available, vaccines that protect us vaccinated but still get sick with from the disease. influenza. This can sometimes and not all flu However, the vaccine the difference between vaccines can be given mean can’t protect you and your being hospitalized and being to people of all ages. able to manage your symptoms family if you don’t get vaccinated. It’s not too at home. Talk to your doctor late. The flu virus can What else can you to do keep to see which vaccine yourself and your family healthy run as late as May and typically peaks between during flu season? If you are options are best for December and March. sick, stay home. This is a very you and your family. important step to prevent the The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention spread of the virus. In addition, recommends that everyone six months of cover your mouth and nose when coughing and age and older receive an annual flu vaccine. sneezing. Lastly, wash your hands often. Although infants younger than six months are If you do get sick, antiviral medications may be at high risk for serious flu-related complications, an option. On average, these medications reduce they are too young to get a flu shot. In order to symptoms by two days and can sometimes prevent protect them, it is beneficial for their parents, siblings serious health problems that can result from flu and grandparents to be vaccinated in an effort to illness. In some cases, antiviral medications are used protect the infants. Other people at high risk for to prevent flu. However, the best prevention is still influenza complications include pregnant women, the vaccination. The flu vaccine prevents millions children under five, adults 65 years and older and of illnesses and flu-related doctor visits each year.    residents of nursing homes. If you have underlying Even though medicine has significantly changed medical conditions such as asthma or other chronic in the past 100 years, influenza is still nothing to lung disease, heart disease or a weakened immune sniff at. According to the CDC, the 2017-18 flu system, you may also be at higher risk of developing season caused more than 900,000 hospitalizations serious flu-related complications. and 80,000 deaths nationwide. The flu vaccine still The vaccine contains the DNA of the influenza offers the best defense against getting the flu and virus. When it is introduced into your body, your spreading it to others.


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Since 1976, Northern Hills Training Center has been helping hundreds of adults with intellectual disabilities find their place in Spearfish’s community. From cleaning hotel rooms and offices and detailing cars to packaging orders, the staff at NHTC is helping the individuals they work with reach their goals and become independent thinkers and doers. Twin sisters Carla and Marla West have been going to NHTC for as long as they

The team at NHTC works together each and every day to make a difference in the lives of the adults they help in the northern Black Hills.

can remember and credit a lot of their individual successes to the program. “Everyone at the Training Center has been a big support for us,” said Marla with Carla nodding in agreement. From finding jobs they love, to travelling the world, finding friends, and most recently – purchasing their own home – NHTC has helped the sisters along the way. “The girls have worked so hard and have saved for a long time,” said Kris. Every day, the team at Northern Hills Training Center see the simple things like a first paycheck or a newly learned skill, become the highlight of the day for countless adults they work with. “It’s fun to be a part of those moments,” said Kris Larson, an Employment Specialist at NHTC. “The moments these people have been working towards for a long time and they meet their goals.” It’s more than a job, a class, or someone you can call a friend. Individuals working with NHTC are gaining their independence in the community one step at a time, with the staff to cheer them on.

Somewhere to Engage Whether the individuals are living in one of NHTC’s group home locations, opting for supervised living, or continuing to live with their parents, there are countless opportunities for engaging conversations and educational courses. Somewhere to Work “We work hard to actively engage workers in the community based around the goals they want to reach as an individual,” said Brice Johnson, Community Employment Direct Support Supervisor. “We teach each person individual skills they will need to know and understand, then plug them into the best position they can thrive at.” Someone to Help Each individual at NHTC has access to medical attention by the Registered Nurse and Medical Service Assistants on staff. From the occasional scraped elbow or sliver, to educating individuals on proper diets and nutritional needs – the professionals are working together to give each person the knowledge they need to live a happy healthy life. Someone to Trust “Quality Support Specialists oversee all supports and services to the people we work with, to make sure we are doing the best we can,” explains Chris Davis, the NHTC’s Community Relations Coordinator. BHPARENT 51






words Jenna Carda illustrations Rebecca Swift Welcome to the world of Porter the Hoarder, a series of “look-andfind” books that gets Bigs (parents, teachers, siblings and adults at home) in the habit of reading with their Littles (elementary-aged students). The United Way of the Black Hills and their initiative Black Hills Reads has created a reading program around the first book in the series, Porter the Hoarder and the Ransacked Room. A program designed to address parent engagement and early childhood education. “The overall goal of Black Hills Reads is to help children reach reading proficiency by 3rd grade,” explained Kayla Klein, Director of Black Hills Reads. “Porter offered us a unique opportunity to provide a tool to teachers in the classroom, a gift to students, and a way to help parents engage with their children and literary prowess.” Over 1,500 books will be given free of charge to 1st grade students, teachers and libraries in participating Black Hills area schools. Teacher resources and “Parent Homework” that turns a quick read into a long-term reading habit will also accompany each book. “It is an honor to be working with the United Way’s Black Hills Reads initiative toward the goal of helping kids in early education,” said Sean Covel, producer of Napoleon Dynamite, a South Dakota native, and the author of the new series. The books are all about Porter. She is an obnoxious little girl who is walking through early elementary life with children across the country. Best part about the book? There are 64 books in the series. The next best part is that the series is created, illustrated, written and designed by a team who calls South Dakota home.

It’s new! It’s weird! And it is starting its journey in South Dakota. “We wanted to do something different with Porter,” said Rebecca Swift, the book’s creator, illustrator, and South Dakota mom of three. “We wanted something that was new and interactive for kids.” This book does just that. As teachers and parents read the book together, children identify the action Porter should take. “They were so excited when they came back [to class] and they couldn’t wait to read the next one,” said Brittany Covel, a Kindergarten teacher at Sturgis Elementary School. “It’s giving them a purpose to read and then apply what they’ve learned.” The Porter series team is excited to be bringing a book that has been developed with child psychologists and elementary school professionals to be something that is even greater than the book – it’s a tool.

“It’s easy for kids to see how Porter is feeling through this whole process of cleaning her room,” said Brittany. “They know and understand why she’s upset – and it’s a great way to teach empathy. And that is something that’s so hard for teachers to teach young students. Empathy. But the books do that.” South Dakota is getting to be a part of the Porter series before the book is live around the country. To follow the launch of Porter the Hoarder in the Black Hills, visit Black Hills Reads on Facebook.








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Weekly Fun in the Hills Daily Christmas Nights of Light Every year we light up the park for the Holidays! $3, 5:30-8:30 p.m., Storybook Island, 1301 Sheridan Lake Rd., Rapid City, 605-342-6357 Every Tuesday Little Owl Tuesdays Join in the fun & listen to favorite stories & songs with a library storyteller. 9-10:15 a.m., Rapid City Public Library Meeting Rm. B, 300 6th St., Rapid City, 605-394-9300 Every Tuesday Growing up WILD! 4-H Program Advisor Jane Amiotte shares stories followed by a craft. 10:15-11:30 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 300 6th St., Rapid City, 605-394-9300

Every Thursday Baby Bumblebee Thursdays Bring your little ones for a fun-filled story time. 9-10 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 300 6th St., Rapid City, 605-394-9300 Every Thursday Toddler Story Time Time for a story with our library readers! 10:30-11:30 a.m., Hot Springs Public Library, 2005 Library Dr., Hot Springs, 605-745-3151 Every Friday Preschool Story Time Time for a story with our library readers! 10-11a.m., Hot Springs Public Library, 2005 Library Dr., Hot Springs, 605-745-3151 Every Friday Skate Night Come join us for a fun night of skating. $3, 6-8 p.m., Handley Recreation Center, 845 Miners Ave., Lead, 605-580-5535 Every Saturday Children’s Story Time Come listen to our BHSU or SHS students read a story. Then, stay for a simple craft, music, activity & snacks! 10-11 a.m., Jacket Zone, 617 N. Main St., Spearfish, 605-717-5801

Our Winter Favorites Saturday 1 Snowflake Shuffle 5K Registration is at the Lions Club Park pavilion from 7:30 AM to 8:45 AM. The run will begin at 9:00 AM. Sturgis Chamber, 605-347-2556 Saturday 1 Holidazzle Parade Are you in the Christmas Spirit? Well the Holidazzle Light Parade will be sure to get you there! 6 p.m., Downtown Spearfish, 605-717-9294 Sunday 2 Peace & Power Pre/Postnatal Yoga You’ll learn all that you need to keep yourself safe, enabling you to practice more if you so desire. 9:30-10:30 a.m., Sōl Yoga Collective, 611 Main St., Rapid City, 605-939-0765 Sunday 2-10 Happy Hanukkah!

Tuesday 4 Moscow Ballet’s Great Russian Nutcracker Great Russian Nutcracker brings the Christmas spirit to life for all ages. 7 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 1-800-GOT-MINE

Wednesday 5 First Wednesday Story Time Stories and activity for ages Pre-K and early elementary. 1:30-2:30 p.m., Grace Balloch Memorial Library, 625 N. 5th St., Spearfish, 605-642-1330

Wednesday 5 WAVI Holiday Open House Please join us for holiday music, snacks, and tours of the facility by WAVI staff. 11:30-1:30 p.m., WAVI, 527 Quincy St., Rapid City, 605-341-3292 Friday 7 Story Time 10 a.m., Custer County Library, 447 Crook St., Ste. 4, Custer, 605-673-4803 Friday 7 Friday Skate Night Join us for our family Skate Night! Children under 8 years old must have adult supervision. 5:30-8:30 p.m., Spearfish Rec & Aquatics Center, 122 Recreation Ln., Spearfish, 605-722-1430 Saturday 8, 14-16 Christmas Tours Of The Historic Adams House Enjoy s’mores at the outdoor fire pit. Unique gifts are available for purchase in the Adams House Gift Shop. noon-6 p.m., Historic Adams House, 22 Van Buren St., Deadwood, 605-722-4800


Friday 7 Survival Basics Learn basic survival skills that could save your life. Ages 8-12, 6:30-7:30 p.m., Outdoor Campus West, 4340 Adventure Tr., Rapid City, 605-394-2310 Saturday 8 Ice Fishing Basics Learn about ice safety conditions and practice with the equipment needed for ice fishing. Build and fish with your own jiggle stick. 10-11 am, 1-2 p.m., Outdoor Campus West, 4340 Adventure Tr., Rapid City, 605-394-2310 Saturday 8 December Market Come shop local crafters, bakers, artists, vendors and more! 9 a.m.-4 p.m., The Historic Roosevelt Events Center, 1010 State St., Belle Fourche, 605-892-5619 Tuesday 11 Story Time at the Library Ages 3-4, 10:30-11 a.m., Belle Fourche Public Library, 905 5th Ave., Belle Fourche, 605-892-4407

Wednesday 12 LEGO Club Imagine. Build. Display! Please do not bring your own LEGOs. Ages 8-12, 3:30-5 p.m., Grace Balloch Memorial Library, 625 N. 5th St., Spearfish, 605-642-1330

Wednesday 12-15 Lakota Nation Invitational A powwow, cheerleading competitions, wrestling, art, and fashion shows are part of the long list of other events and activities that keep the week full of

activities for spectators. Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 1-800-GOT-MINE

Thursday 13 Beginner’s Class – Fencing This class meets for 12 weeks for an hour each week on Thursday nights. All equipment is provided. $95, 6:30-7:30 p.m., Rapid City Swim Center, 125 Waterloo St., Rapid City, 605-923-8790

Friday 14 Ice Fishing Lure Making Make your own lures to use ice fishing this winter! All materials will be provided. 6-7:30 p.m., Outdoor Campus West, 4340 Adventure Tr., Rapid City, 605-394-2310 Saturday 15 Member-Owner Appreciation Day Join us at Breadroot Natural Foods Cooperative for our Member-Owner Appreciation Day! 10% off purchases, samples throughout the day, lunch from a local rancher. 8 a.m.-5 p.m., Breadroot Natural Foods Cooperative, 100 E. Blvd. N., Rapid City, 605-348-3331 Saturday 15 Winter Market Shop over 40 of your favorite vendors and check off those last minute Christmas gifts! We have something for everyone in your list. 9 a.m.-5 p.m., Rushmore Mall, 2200 N. Maple Ave., Rapid City, 605-348-3378

December 1, 2, 8, 9, 15, 16, 22, 23 Holiday Express Experience the magic as you take a one hour, round trip journey from Hill City to the North Pole. Purchase tickets online at 12:45-6 p.m., 1880 Train, 222 Railroad Ave., Hill City, 605-5744-2222

Saturday 15 Family Roller Skating For families and those who have skated before. 4-6 p.m., The Historic Roosevelt Events Center, 1010 State St., Belle Fourche, 605-892-5619

Tuesday 25 Merry Christmas!

Sunday 16 Peace & Power Pre/ Postnatal Yoga You’ll learn all that you need to keep yourself safe, enabling you to practice more if you so desire. 9:30-10:30 a.m., Sōl Yoga Collective, 611 ½ Main St., Rapid City, 605-939-0765

Friday 28, 29, 31 Rush Hockey Rapid City Rush vs. Idaho Steelheads 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463

Wednesday 19 Tweens Get Crafty! Calling all tweens and early teens who are looking to get crafty! Join us for an activity day on the third Wednesday of each month. Ages 10+, 3:30-5 p.m., Grace Balloch Memorial Library, 625 N. 5th St., Spearfish, 605-642-1330

Monday 31 Downtown Countdown Spend the last night of the year at Main Street Square. The ice rink will be transformed into a dance party complete with lights on the ice, interactive games and more. 5-9 p.m., Main Street Square, 512 Main St., Rapid City, 605-716-7979

Friday 21, 22 Rush Hockey Rapid City Rush vs. Wichita Thunder 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463



Weekly Fun in the Hills Every Tuesday Little Owl Tuesdays Our favorite stories & songs. 9-10:15 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 300 6th St., Rapid City, 605-394-9300 Every Tuesday Growing up WILD! Jane shares stories followed by a craft. 10:15-11:30 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 300 6th St., Rapid City, 605-3949300 Every Thursday Baby Bumblebee Thursdays Fun-filled story time. 9-10 a.m., Rapid City Public Library Meeting Rm. B, 300 6th St., Rapid City, 605-3949300 Every Thursday Toddler Story Time Time for a story with our library readers! 10:30-11:30 a.m., Hot Springs Public Library, 2005 Library Dr, Hot Springs, 605-745-3151 Every Friday Preschool Story Time Time for a story with our library readers! 10-11a.m., Hot Springs Public Library, 2005 Library Dr, Hot Springs, 605-745-3151 Every Friday Story Time 10 a.m., Custer County Library, 447 Crook St., Ste. 4, Custer, 605-673-4803

Tuesday 1 Happy New Year! Friday 4 Friday Skate Night Join us for our family Skate Night! Children under 8 years old must have adult supervision. 5:30-8:30 p.m., Spearfish Rec & Aquatics Center, 122 Recreation Ln., Spearfish, 605-722-1430

Saturday 5 4 GMX Motocross Motocross enthusiasts from Peewees to Vets are encouraged to enter and spectators are always welcome! 6:30-8 p.m., Central States Fair, 800 San Francisco St., Rapid City, 605-391-5089

Sunday 6 Peace & Power Pre/Postnatal Yoga 9:30-10:30 a.m., Sol Yoga Collective, 611 Main St., Rapid City, 605-939-0765 Tuesday 8 Story Time at the Library Ages 3-4, 10:30-11 a.m., Belle Fourche Public Library, 905 5th Ave., Belle Fourche, 605-892-4407 Friday 11, 12 Rush Hockey Rapid City Rush vs. Tulsa Oilers 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463 Wednesday 16,18, 19 Rush Hockey Rapid City Rush vs. Florida Everblades 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463

Friday 18-20 2019 Black Hills Rapids Winter Classic Indoor soccer tournament 5 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463

Saturday 19 Family Roller Skating For first time skaters and very young children. 1-3 p.m., The Historic Roosevelt Events Center, 1010 State St., Belle Fourche, 605-892-5619 Sunday 20 Peace & Power Pre/Postnatal Yoga 9:30-10:30 a.m., Sol Yoga Collective, 611 Main St., Rapid City, 605-939-0765 Monday 21 Martin Luther King Jr. Day The time is always right to do what is right. Tuesday 29 Black Hills Stock Show Ranch Rodeo Teams are comprised of four people, who will compete in three preliminary events for the chance to make the finals. 5:30 p.m., James Kjerstad Event Center, Central States Fairgrounds, 800 San Francisco St., Rapid City, 605-355-3861

Saturday 26 BHSU Kenadi Jean Basketball Night It’s a fun night full of half-time entertainment honoring Kenadi, 50/50 ticket sales, amazing Silent Auction items, and a frisbee free throw with a chance to win a big screen TV. All proceeds from this event will go towards the Kenadi Jean Memorial Scholarship awarded annually to a graduating BHSU student majoring in the Special Education program. Wear hot pink and cheer on the BHSU Yellow Jackets! 4-9 p.m., Donald E. Young Center, 1200 University St., Unit 9400, Spearfish, 605645-8962

Saturday 26 Skills ‘n’ Thrills Talent Show Singing, Dancing, Acting, Art, Music & More produced by La Belle Ballet 2 p.m. & 7 p.m., Historic Roosevelt Center Gym, 1 010 State St., Belle Fourche, 605-210-0913

Thursday 31 North American Sheep Dog Finals The sheep dog trials offers youth ages 3 to 6 years of age a chance to participate in Mutton Bustin’. 7:30 p.m, Central States Fairgrounds, 800 San Francisco St., Rapid City, 605-355-3861



Weekly Fun in the Hills Every Tuesday Little Owl Tuesdays Favorite stories & songs. 9-10:15 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 300 6th St., Rapid City, 605-394-9300 Every Tuesday Growing up WILD! Jane shares stories followed by a craft. 10:15-11:30 a.m., Rapid City Public Library, 300 6th St., Rapid City, 605-394-9300 Every Thursday Toddler Story Time Time for a story with our library readers! 10:30-11:30 a.m., Hot Springs Public Library, 2005 Library Dr., Hot Springs, 605-745-3151 Every Friday Preschool Story Time Time for a story with our library readers! 10-11a.m., Hot Springs Public Library, 2005 Library Dr., Hot Springs, 605-745-3151 Every Friday Story Time 10 a.m., Custer County Library, 447 Crook St., Ste. 4, Custer, 605-673-4803 Every Friday Skate Night Come join us for a fun night of skating. $3, 6-8 p.m., Handley Recreation Center, 845 Miners Ave., Lead, 605-580-5535

Friday 1 Friday Skate Night Join us for our family Skate Night! Children under 8 years old must have adult supervision. 5:30-8:30 p.m., Spearfish Rec & Aquatics Center, 122 Recreation Ln., Spearfish, 605-722-1430 Friday 8,9 Rush Hockey Rapid City Rush vs. Wichita Thunder 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463 Saturday 9 4 GMX Motocross Motocross enthusiasts from Peewees to Vets are encouraged to e nter and spectators are always welcome! 6:30-8 p.m., Central States Fair, 800 San Francisco St., Rapid City, 605-391-5089

Wednesday 20, 22, 23 Rush Hockey Rapid City Rush vs. Atlanta Gladiators 7:05 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 800-468-6463

Saturday 23 Rapid City Heart Ball Join us for an evening of dining, dancing and fun for an incredible cause: fighting our #1 killer. 5:30 p.m., Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, 444 N. Mt. Rushmore Rd., Rapid City, 605.484.1853

Saturday 23 Hooked on Hard Water Annual ice fishing outing with the Club for Boys 4-11 p.m., Holiday Inn Rushmore Plaza, 505 N. 5th St., Rapid City, 605-343-3500

Tuesday 12 Story Time at the Library Ages 3-4, 10:30-11 a.m., Belle Fourche Public Library, 905 5th Ave., Belle Fourche, 605-892-4407 Thursday 14 Happy Valentine’s Day!

Saturday 16 Family Roller Skating For first time skaters and very young children. 1-3 p.m., The Historic Roosevelt Events Center, 1010 State St., Belle Fourche, 605-892-5619

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The Skin Institute

We’ve got you covered. The Skin Institute at Rapid City Medical Center is the largest board certified group of dermatologists in the region specializing in complete skin care at every age.

Melody Eide, MD FAAD Board Certified Dermatologist

Briana Hill, MD FAAD Board Certified Dermatologist

Jason Noble, MD FAAD Board Certified Dermatologist

Tamara Poling, MD FAAD Board Certified Dermatologist

Lycia Scott-Thornburg, MD FAAD Board Certified Dermatologist

Robert Sage, MD FAAD Fellowship Trained Mohs Surgeon

Gregory Wittenberg, MD FAAD Fellowship Trained Mohs Surgeon

Serving Rapid City, Hot Springs & Spearfish General, Pediatric, Surgical & Cosmetic Dermatology (605) 721.DERM (3376)

Jessica Rachetto, PA-C

Lyndsi Slusarski, PA-C

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