Womeninc June/July 2016

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June / July 2016

...every women has a story that matters, even you!

Mari Harries,

River City Eatery!

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Hanna Lovstad

A girl with a mission

Susan Dodds Busch

A retirement job I loved! WomenincMagazine.com 1

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2016 CONTENTS 10 8



my work

my self

8 A Place a Woman Might Choose To BE! 10 A Mother’s Perseverance! 19 A Privilege 21 Ms. Good Samaritan Mary!

12 Love INC 16 River City Eatery 22 MEDIATION 24 The Quilted Steeple 26 INDIGO

my health

my home

11 Because, by Pat McGill 13 The Grass Is Not Always Greener 18 High School Students Gather for Their Cause! 29 Courageous

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14 A Growing Business! 30 All in the Name of Corn

on the cover in this issue 4 Publisher’s Column

Mari Harries,

River City Eatery!

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Publisher’s Column

Somethings are just darn hard…. In my quest to bring up issues we as women face and try to find solutions… this is a problem I have heard brought up by so many of you lately, and it doesn’t seem to change with age. From age 10 to 90 I have heard many women say it’s something most of us don’t exactly know how to handle. I don’t think I have the perfect answer myself on exactly how to handle this. I know how I feel... I know what I want each person to feel... but I think this truly is a subject to put out there to see what has worked for you personally, in hopes that you will share your successes so I can share them with others. We all have friends, family and coworkers that don’t seem to get along. For some reason or another they just do not click. For me if I have ever felt this feeling towards someone it seems to be because I have felt hurt (not saying I was wronged, but just felt hurt)… by something. Usually it basically comes down to feeling hurt and not knowing what to do with those feelings once they appear. We all can have feelings that are so tender, so easily penetrated; too easily bruised and we just simply don’t know how to respond or how to resolve them. So, before I start... this is always my goal of how I would like to handle something no matter what the situation or question is: I ask myself... what would “love” do? What would “love” do if I were the person who doesn’t mix at the moment, or the person who tries to love from the middle? So what do we do when we have friends or family who don’t get along with each other, or if we ourselves have people with whom we don’t always see eyetoeye? Unfortunately, most of us have been in that situation, and I would have to say that most of us have experienced it from both sides. Speaking for myself, I know what I want to TRY to do on either side of that subject. I wish I could make it better! Trying not to hurt either woman or person can feel like it’s driving me crazy and can mess with my peace of mind, if I don’t keep things in some kind of check at how I am going to try to handle it. This is truly a difficult one for me... I would love to have you share your suggestions. I am going to share with you how I try to handle this, with a loving disclosure... HELP us Lord!!!... I’m praying for your input. We all have challenges, and we all make discoveries as a result of these challenges... It’s hard for me to sit quietly and not do something to try to find solutions for these situations. From one woman to another: if you have had a few “wins” on how to handle this, please share!!! In turn, I will share some of your suggestions (mentioning no names) in our next issue, and on the Womeninc Magazine Facebook page, as well. We can do better when we know better so… I am going to share just a few of my own mistakes on this subject. For me… (remember I classify myself as a recovering People Pleaser :) 1. Sometimes I have imagined the other person to be thinking or acting in a certain way; which has caused me to react in a way that, in turn, actually can cause a problem. So what I am saying is... if I don’t truly know for sure what someone is thinking, then I need to realize that, and stop then and there. I have found I have a really good imagination; when used wrongly, it’s not such a good thing. So many times I have reacted to someone

purely on what I was sure (not) they were thinking! Bad outcome girlies; don’t do that! 2. This is a big one... what I expect... I need to practice. At times I have been so blinded by my own feelings that there are times I need to ask myself; “Do I do that?” I have not only had to ask myself “Do I do that?” to this person with whom I’m in conflict, but “Do I do that to all my friends?” Each situation you have with someone ask these simple questions: “Am I a good example of what I expect and is it fair for me to expect whatever I’m expecting of them?” Sure, I can reason anything, but do I truly live what I am expecting? For me, this is where it becomes easier to forgive and have compassion: because I have been blessed with others forgiving me. Thank you to all who have forgiven me! XO! What do I hope for, for the people I care about who are not getting along with each other, and what do I want to give to others when I am having a challenging time with someone? 1. That I will not place them or be placed in a position of having to choose between them. 2. They will understand that I’m not trying to hurt them if I’m doing something with the other person; I’m not taking sides by sodoing nor will I think they are if they are in the same situation. 3. They will know that my only reaction is to try to encourage them to get along, if one brings up something against the other. My suggestions on how we can support each person? 1. If an issue is bothering someone, try to let them be the one to bring it up or feel safe in doing so. Trying to force an issue without God’s guidance has never turned out well for me. 2. Say “I hear you; I wish it wasn’t this way. Is there anything I can try to do to help make it better for you?” 3. Say what you need to say in a loving way. Sometimes it takes time to heal, so give them, as well as yourself, the ability to love from a distance if needed. 4. For me, loving from a distance, includes praying for them. If you are given the chance, encourage them to pray for each other. 5. It is totally OK to have different friends and likes–we are not expected to be besties with everyone. As I said above, this is truly a difficult one for most women. I believe we can try to come together to find solutions to share with one another. What may work for one is not guaranteed to work for all... but darn it, girlies, we can at least try to figure this out together! I truly wish we could all “unzip” one another and pour in the love we want to give as well as receive from one another. Anyone I have ever talked to about this, or anyone having experienced going thru this, including myself, prefers not to be in this situation, no matter which side of the situation you’re on. It seems we just have a hard time knowing what to do; or maybe sometimes doing what we know we should do! Ouch... that goes for me too! …write to me at info@womenincmagazine.com (I will not use any names when sharing your suggestions) Much Love… XO! Kim Reutzel

1 Corinthians 13:48 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not selfseeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails...

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Keep on the Sunny Side with Skin Protection Good health often comes down to the small choices we make every day. Things that we should do, but don’t. We should eat fruit in the morning, but sometimes choose the frosted sugar cereal. We should get exercise every day, but some weeks only have time for a workout here and there. We should protect our skin from the sun, but love the feel of those warm rays on our face. Until we experience a consequence from these small choices, we don’t think twice about them. I was sitting in the barber’s chair when the person cutting my hair noticed a spot on my ear. I should have done something about it then, but didn’t. Later that spring at track meet, my wife and daughter noticed the strange spot again. After further investigation, it turned out to be skin cancer on my ear. It was a scare for me and a good reminder that ignoring a health issue doesn’t make it go away. It only makes it worse! After a summer of procedures and recovery, I’m good as new. With summer here again, I’m gearing up to protect myself. These days I spend a little more time and effort worrying about skin care and sun protection, and not only for myself. As a family physician I advise others to take good care of their skin as a general rule, from infants to adults. As the medical director for Ageless Solutions Aesthetic Clinic, I work with clients who want to protect their face and skin with quality products and with clients who want to repair skin that has been damaged by the sun. Here are a few tips for protecting yourself when the sun comes out. • Don’t skimp on the sunscreen. One ounce of sunscreen, or enough to fill a shot glass, is what dermatologists typically consider the amount needed to cover the exposed areas of the body. This amount may need to be adjusted, depending on your body size. • Who’s got your back? According to the American Academy of Dermatology, 37% of us never apply sunscreen to our backs. This is a difficult place to reach, so ask a friend or family member to help you. • Know your family history. Like with other diseases, skin cancer can run in the family. If one of your parents has had skin cancer, or a sibling, you may have an increased risk. Also, if you have experienced skin cancer once, you are at risk of developing it again. • Don’t forget your head. When lathering on the sunscreen, be sure to get your head, ears, neck and face or wear a hat large enough to cover those areas. According to the CDC, up to 80% of skin cancers occur on the head and neck. For more information about sun protection products or to repair sun damaged skin, contact us at Ageless Solutions Aesthetic Clinic at Kossuth Regional Health Center at 515-259-4564. Dr. Alan Hjelle is a family physician at Kossuth Regional Health Center and Medical Director of Ageless Solutions Aesthetic Clinic

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A Place a Woman Might Choose To BE! A Wonderful place to visit or work! Written by Pat McGill

Front Row: Crystal Shaffer, Yvette Origel-Drzal. Back Row: Keri Hubers, Sharon Haselhoff, Kelly Ranvik

One popular song often heard in the halls of my college dorm was Petula Clark’s “Downtown,” a song that reminded us all that we had a place where we could go, a place that would help us forget all our worries, forget all our cares; a place where everything was waiting for us. However appealing downtown might have been to me as a twenty-something co-ed in the 1960’s, now, in my spontaneous 70’s, I have a new destination: The Grand Falls Casino and Golf Resort near Larchwood, Iowa -about 10 miles east of Sioux Falls, South Dakota! In Petula Clark fashion, it, like the downtown of old, is a place where “the lights are much brighter,” a place that never closes, and a place where everything’s waiting for me. More importantly, Grand Casino is a place where my girlfriends and I can go to be entertained, pampered, and fed physically, emotionally, intellectually -- and sometimes financially! This ‘House of Hospitality’ has 97 hotel rooms and suites, over 750 slots, a full service salon and spa, both indoor and outdoor swimming pools, three restaurants and so much more. Shoppers will enjoy Grand Falls’ 8 WomenincMagazine.com

lovely gift shop and the unique Cete Boutique, “comfort campers” will appreciate the RV Park, and golfers, the 18hole course. Music and entertainment seekers will enjoy both the Grand Falls’ Show Lounge and the casino’s special events. The Lounge features bands doing 50’s & 60’s tunes, classic rock, or polka, to name a few genres, and other groups playing a variety of charts. Bigger names such as Ronnie Milsap and the Lennon Sisters perform in the Grand Falls Casino Event Center. What more could a woman ask for? On a professional level, I was so excited to serve as a speaker and trainer for the 500-plus team members who call the Grand Falls a place to go, to be, and a place to serve. One only needs to visit the casino for a short time to see that hospitality is both a living noun and a moving verb and is experienced in so many ways at the Grand. While male employees are, of course, key players in the Grand Falls’ success, the women -- especially in view of the female readership of Womeninc., deserve special note. First, the casino has a genuine style that bears the mark of General Manager Sharon Haselhoff. When Sharon is not in her office, she is on the floor in the gaming areas or at

the front desk welcoming guests. On some occasions, Sharon might be found in one of the three restaurants, sharing a meal with one of the employees, entertaining guests, or simply visiting with customers. Her style is personable, personal, and effective, and, perhaps, for those reasons, it isn’t surprising that this GM is known to all the folks who work at the GRAND as Sharon. The presence of Keri Hubers, the Grand Falls Casino Human Resource Director, is seen and felt as well at the Casino. One moment Keri might be heading into the hub of the action to visit with a new employee, and the next, she might be scanning the floor to see if the casino’s fivestar service is being delivered as promised. Then again, Keri might be huddled with Yvette Origel-Drzal, the Director of Marketing, to review a new flyer about an upcoming event or speaking with Crystal Shaffer, the Director of Security discussing employment opportunities for potential new hires. The Grand Falls rooms and suites are inviting, many of them featuring outdoor balconies that offer lovely prairie views. Kelly Ranvik serves as the Director of the Grand Falls Hotel. On one of the days I visited, Kelly was inspecting suites booked by an organization that had chosen Grand Falls as the site for the organization’s annual meeting. Like her management colleagues and the conscientious employees at the casino, Kelly takes the casino’s guest service promise seriously and works diligently to deliver that high level of service every day. Choice is the key word for dining at Grand Falls Casino. In the elegant atmosphere of Ruthie’s Steak and Seafood restaurant, you can delight in a succulent steak or fresh seafood cooked to perfection. At Robert’s Buffet, you can enjoy Italian, Asian, or comfort food, and if you’re looking for a quick bite, the Big Drop Café, will offer you that and more in a relaxed grill atmosphere. All told, as guests at the Grand Falls Casino and Golf Resort, you and your friends can expect greatness. The women leaders at the Grand -- and all employees of this lovely casino and resort -- have redefined ‘The Art of Hos-

pitality.” They successfully carry out a very personal mission to greet you and invite you to spend the best time possible in their house. The women of the Grand do not compete with each other. Rather, they celebrate the gifts and talents they each contribute to the overall success of the casino and resort. They are celebrating their 5 year anniversary in June. “It goes by fast, especially when you are having fun! We have a great group of people working here and of course a great group of guests who are like our family who come here to have fun with us. Every day I can’t believe I get to come here and work at Grand Falls!” explains Sharon Haselhoff, General Manager.

Sharon Haselhoff

So go ahead: Call some girlfriends or your sisters and make a reservation for lunch or dinner. Go gaming, make an appointment at the spa, hit a few rounds on the course, or take a swim in one of the wonderful pools. One thing I will promise -- Your visit to Grand Falls Casino and Golf Resort may be a first, but not a last. Without traveling far, you, too, can find that place “where you can forget all your troubles, forget all your cares.” Truly, “everything’s waiting for you” -- at Grand Falls Casino. Contact info - Grand Falls Casino and Golf Resortwww.grandfallscasinoresort.com, 1415 Grand Falls Blvd Larchwood, IA 51241 - Phone 712.777.7777

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A Mother’s Perseverance! The journey to write a book Written by Kim Reutzel

Leslie Truesdell of Sherburn, MN has spent her entire life in a small, rural community in southern Minnesota, where she has nourished both her love of animals and efforts at living a faith-filled honest life. Leslie said, “I love the farm but writing a children’s book was inspired mostly by my children, my life experiences, and most of all, my faith. Leslie says, “My husband Ben and I have been on quite a journey over the last 11 years. We married in 2005, and had our first born in 2008. Rayne Benjamin Truesdell was born with a heart condition called Hypoplastic Left Heart. There were surgeries that could be done but they all came with no promises that any of them would work. To make a long story short, Rayne passed away at the age of 10 1/2 months. We spent most of his life at the Children’s Hospital in Minneapolis, Who provided amazing care. There were a lot of late nights, tears, prayers, bad news, and many miracles. I spent many hours at his bedside which inspired me with idea’s to write a children’s book.” Leslie pondered as she sat with him that, if Rayne would survive with his limitations, she wanted to make sure he knew he was made for a purpose, and not to be inclined to compare himself with others, but to see the gift he was created to be. So she wrote a children’s story about a pony, which came naturally to her because she was a horse lover and had been showing horses all her life. Since Rayne never got to hear the story she wrote she decided to self publish it so that other children would have the opportunity to receive this inspired message. It took her 7 years to illustrate the story and get it ready to be published because she just couldn’t get herself to open the storage box that she stored some of his things. She said, “It was too emotional of a time because I faced challenges of having two miscarriage, and full term stillborn son Ryder Rayne Truesdell. Illustrating a book just kept being put on the back burner.” Ben and Leslie are now so blessed with a vibrant, beautiful boy: Rylan Rayne Truesdell, 4 years old. He has brought so much joy to her life along with a lot of much-needed healing. With the gift of Rylan in her life she felt it was time to bring the book alive. She said, “I wanted Rylan to know he had a purpose. It is important to me that our children know God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Once I was done illustrating the book; I won’t lie, I had tears in my eyes. It was complete and it was inspired by Rayne and I felt that it was a physical piece I had in my hand to keep him alive during my lifetime.” Stemming from all her emotional healing she is now inspired to write and illustrate more children’s books. I 10 WomenincMagazine.com

want to write books that will cause children to ask thoughtful questions, starting good meaningful conversations. I feel if we can plant seeds of faith early it will stay with them a lifetime.” She says, “Losing children changes everything. It is the saddest feeling you can ever imagine, but with the Grace of God we are getting through it and I am so thankful God created an amazing Heaven for my children. Writing this book has actually helped me find my purpose. This book has given me confidence that if I have a passion for something I can make it happen and make a difference. Creating a book that is in your mind and one day holding it in your hands, has made me feel like I can be more than what I thought I could be.” Leslie mentioned that her biggest lesson is to not rely on her own understandings and to be Patient with herself and others. She said, “Don’t rush thru life; enjoy every moment no matter what you are in the midst of doing. If you have a passion for something… Go For It!!! Don’t wait, and for sure do not make excuses on why you can’t. Press through it. No matter what we go through in life, learn from it and do whatever you can about it. Whatever you feel you need to accomplish, be the best that you can be, not perfect; just do your best.” She finishes by saying, “I would like to acknowledge my husband Ben Truesdell. Our marriage has been tested. “For Better or For Worse,” for sure. There is a reason our ancestors put this in our traditional vows. Because it’s real! We have built our marriage on a strong foundation. The storms of life have tried to knock us down, and they have failed. Ben has been so supportive, caring and understanding. He has watched me spend many hours creating this book, and knowing that I needed to get it done as part of my healing process. Also, I would like to thank my friends that have been great support. Many have encouraged me to keep working on this book and that children are going to be better off for reading it.” Leslie’s favorite verse - Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11.1 My favorite thought - Sometimes through the darkness, it’s hard to see. So just be brave and follow where he leads. ‘Cause greater is the one who’s in us, then he who is in the world. So child of God remember, the battle is the Lord’s. For more info go to: Facebook.com/truesdell.leslie or www.faithfullydesignedpublishing.com

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“You are the visible face of the invisible Father” Dear Lord, Help me grow in faith and empathy to live with compassion and reach out to others in loving service in times of anger and despair:


Because I have received kindness I have been spurred on to be kind. Because I have caught the smile of another, I find myself smiling. Because I have known the joy of receiving, I rejoice in giving. Because I have felt pain, I know what pity is. Because I have tasted humiliation, I know what consideration is. Because I have seen Christ suffer, I had the courage to go on. Amen

Pat McGill Speaker, Trainer, & Adjunct Professor of Education. Founder of WE: Women Entrepreneurs- Women ENERGIZED “The World Is Blessed When WE Do What WE Do Best” www.patmcgill.net patmcgill5@gmail.com 712-330-3636 Closing Prayer: “Christ Has No Body But Yours” Christ has no body but yours. No hands, no feet on earth but yours. Yours are the eyes through which He looks compassion on this world. Yours are the feet with which He walks to do good.Yours are the hands with which He blesses all the world.Yours are the hands, Yours are the feet, Yours are the eyes. You are his body. Christ has no body now on earth but yours. AMEN

Proverbs 11:17 “Your own soul is nourished when you are kind.” Blessings, Peace & Pause, Pat

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my work

Lo ve INC Written by Kim Reutzel

Love INC of Worthington started in 2010, and their mission is to mobilize local churches to transform lives and communities In the Name of Christ. Following a National Love INC model, 17 local churches in this diverse community decided to work together to help meet the needs of their neighbors. Love INC has a clearinghouse where people can call in and talk with a caring volunteer who listens to their story. Volunteers also verify information in regards to their needs and get the bigger picture by talking with others that are familiar with their situation. Clients are then referred to resources to help with their situation. Often times, these referrals are to existing resources in the community, such as county agencies, community action agencies, housing resources, etc. Other times, referrals are made to local churches that have ministries to fill the gap of needs in the community. These ministries include things like furniture, personal care items, and rides for medical appointments. Referrals are also made to individual church volunteers to help with different areas such as budgeting, minor repairs, etc. Currently, there are 19 churches in Worthington that are partnered with Love INC to serve their community. In 2015, Love INC worked with 252 different client cases, and 93 volunteers were active in serving the community. The next level of the Love INC model, after the clearinghouse process and church gap ministries, is transformational ministry classes. Love INC of Worthington calls this “our Growing Hope: Life Skills program.” Growing Hope is a place where clients, volunteers, and community members are invited to learn and grow practical life skills, and form healthy relationships. The Love INC approach is one of a hand-up with a hand out. It looks to help people in need on a deeper level to really address the chronic issues, and the Growing Hope classes address that. In the future, they plan to add a mentorship component to Growing Hope which would connect a client and a church volunteer for on-going, long-term support. Amy Khamphanh of Worthington, Mn. says, “The ministry of Love INC has changed my life as I continue to strengthen my faith and grow in my desire to serve others. I am married with two children, and we also do foster care. I previously worked with our county’s welfareto-work program for almost 10 years, but was limited to government guidelines as I worked with individuals and families. During that same time I also volunteered with Love INC through my local church and saw the difference that it was making by helping people in the name of Christ. When an employment position opened up at Love INC, I made the change. Now I am surrounded daily by Christian employees and volunteers, all wanting to serve and love our neighbors and community.” Amy said, “Love INC has changed other people’s lives as well. From the client perspective: people have been giv12 WomenincMagazine.com

en beds to sleep in or tables at which to eat at, by the furniture ministry; other people were able to get to their doctor’s appointments, dialysis treatments, or immigration court hearings because a volunteer gave them a ride; other families may have been given clothing for their children, referred to housing programs that are available in our area, or connected with a volunteer who would just listen, encourage, and pray. Many clients have been drawn closer to God as a result of their interactions with caring Christians. Volunteers are also touched and changed by the service that they are doing. They have learned more about our community, the struggles that people have, and the connections that they can make.” Amy also said, “One of the biggest things I learned in working with this ministry is also the same that I would like others to know. We have biblical instruction to help others and to serve the poor. It’s not something we should do so that we feel good about ourselves. Instead, we should do it because this is God’s instruction for us. Jesus tells Simon Peter in John 21 to “feed my lambs” and “take care of my sheep.” Matthew 25 states “… whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” And the greatest commandant is to “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind… and the second is like it: love your neighbor as yourself.” Matthew 22:37-39. We need to love God and love others, and as Christians we can show God’s love by loving and serving our neighbors and community.” One of Amy’s favorite songs is Live Like That by Sidewalk Prophets. Here are some of the lyrics: “Sometimes I think, what will people say of me, when I’m only just a memory, when I’m home where my soul belongs. Was I love, when no one else would show up, was I Jesus to the least of us, was my worship more than just a song… Am I proof, that you are who you say you are, that grace can really change our heart, do I live like your love is true. People pass, and even if they don’t know my name, is there evidence that I’ve been changed, when they see me – do they see you?... I want to live like that, and give it all I have, so that everything I say and do, points to you. If love is who I am, then this is where I’ll stand, recklessly abandoned, never holding back. I want to live like that…” For more information go to: www.loveincw.org

my self

“The Grass Is Not Always Greener” Stop Chasing Happiness & Success By Pat McGill

I once believed the grass would be Greener if I could just… Win a contest Maybe find extra courage Thinking that one day I would magically find the “it” I needed. Oh, how wrong I was and have been most of my life. Why has it taken most of my life to quit chasing after happiness and success. Don’t seek it. It’s in the deepest part of your soul; just be silent, and listen. You are a soul with a body, rather than a body with a soul. Make a difference where you are. It sounds so very simple, yet so important to live. Your job is not to worry about everybody else. Your job is not to run away from home, in hope of finding ‘Greener Lawns.’

Your job is to “Bloom Where You Have Been Planted.” Your job is to ‘Grow Yourself First.’ Work with Purpose; Passion and Success will find you. Be a “WOMAN UP!” A Women Who Celebrates Her ‘Uniqueness in Purpose, Passion & Personality!’ A woman’s reminder“Everyone Is As Unique As WE Think WE are.” My Best, Pat Pat McGill - Founder of WE: Women Entrepreneurs & Women ENERGIZED. “The World Is Blessed When WE Do What WE Do Best!”

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A AGrowing Business! Women with the Heart to Grow with Family and Friends! Written by Kim Reutzel Mo (Maureen ) Therkilsen of Comfrey, MN decided it was time to follow her dream in March of 2005 after she had faced some family health issues. She and husband Randy started with just a 20’ x 20’ greenhouse and an old bus they had bought. Their first year they planted the seeds in their house and then transplanted them and transferred them to their new greenhouse, adding a few more to their collection from a local wholesaler. Then they were opened for business in the spring of 2005. That first year they worked very hard, selling 6 days a weeks; three days in downtown Jeffers, a population of 400, and three days at the junction of Hwy 71 and Hwy 14. After the success of their first spring Mo’s husband and sons built her a 32’ x 80’ building. The following year in 2006 they were asked to be the official Landscapers for Farmfest, which is an outdoor show exhibiting agriculture equipment and products for farmers. Sunrise Gardening is located on their Family Farm. They have grown so much since 2005 that they now have five greenhouses for plants, 14 WomenincMagazine.com

two shade houses and a barn for a gift shop. They have expanded their business to include some fun classes such as; How to make fairy gardens, herb gardening and container planting classes for customers to enjoy and learn. Sunrise Gardens located at 26571 500th Ave, Comfrey, MN is open 7 days a week from mid-April to June 1st. One thing they especially enjoy and which makes what they do so special is the ability to spend time working with family and friends. Mo mentions how she loves that her whole family lives within 17 miles of her so they are able to work and play together on a regular basis (Paul, his wife, Amy, children Tyler, Carter, Jordan, Brandon. Maria, husband Dan, children Morgan, Mason, Jackson, Brent, his wife Marcia, Camryn and Ben). She said, “If you love what you do, it is not about money; but the reward of spending time with family & friends while sharing your passion. Make sure you enjoy what you do because we all can live the American Dream.” For more information go to: www.sunrisegardening.com

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River City Eatery Mari Harries River City Eatery Windom, MN Tell us about You and your business: I am originally from Windom, MN, and left after graduating from HS with no intentions of ever returning to small-town America. I’ve done a lot of traveling, listening, and collecting inspiration because I knew I always wanted to own a business, primarily a coffee shop/restaurant. I spent 3 years at the University of Wisconsin, Milwaukee, until my grandfather passed my sophomore year of college. Milwaukee was as far as my parents would let me go, as I wanted to be in the heart of New York or Chicago--far away from rural America. After he passed, my whole outlook on my rural roots, which I thought of more as a curse before, had suddenly changed into a blessing, so I transferred to WSU my final year of college. Shortly after completing my degree in English-Creative Writing with an emphasis on Education and Communications at Winona State University, I found myself back in Windom, trying to make my business plan for a restaurant come to life. Sadly, the funding just didn’t come together, but I found myself with one amazing job as a Tent Manager for Prom Management, a traveling catering company that primarily catered corporate tents at PGA (Professional Golf Assoc) tournaments. This is where my management skills blossomed, and I really got an itch for hospitality and catering because it gave me an additional outlet to be creative. After meeting my now husband, Andy, in rural Minnesota between my travels with Prom Management, making a life in Windom, having our son, Henrik (6), and after many, many “discussions,” he finally caved to let the “beast” out. The “beast” being the restaurant I always wanted to start (with my recently acquired collateral). And oh boy, what a ride! Presently: I am the proud owner of River City Eatery, which I started from the bare bones of a building on the Square

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in downtown Windom in 2011, and also ironically the same building that once housed Mix Bakery (a Windom icon!) where I worked during my high school years (talk about full circle). River City Eatery is my everything; my blood, my sweat, my tears, my fears, my heart and soul. I LOVE IT. I’m pretty sure I was put on earth to own River City Eatery. I’m so lucky to be doing what I love, using every ounce of creativity, using every inch of my being, and on top of being CHALLENGED every day. Some call it stress, I call it purpose. Future: I’m a dreamer and a doer, and I’m not done yet. Not even close. This is also what makes being a proprietress so exciting... the possibilities are endless! What I put in is what I get out. The day I stop evolving, learning, growing both professionally and personally will be the day I die. Everyday is an opportunity to be better than I was the day before, both as the owner of River City Eatery and River City Eatery itself. I’m currently working on expanding my business, continuing to perfect it, problem solving and continuing to try to make it a destination in Southern Minnesota. Yup, lots to do; it’s exciting, and it’s hard! How has this changed your life? Well, it’s like having a child. I don’t remember what my life was like before River City Eatery or my own son, which all happened around the same time. Henrik, my son, had just turned 1 when I signed the dotted lines to acquire the building to start creating River

City Eatery. Thank God he doesn’t know what normal is! Really, it has changed me significantly and that comes from facing adversity everyday, problem solving, being stretched to the max, and trying to find a balance between Mari, family and all the tasks River City Eatery throws at me daily, and it is a continuing struggle. So I go back to the “it’s not stress, it’s purpose” thing to help me try to make sense of it all and to somehow find comfort in knowing I’m doing this all for something greater than myself. Yeah, I guess it is safe to say this River City Eatery thing for me goes a bit deeper than just good food on a plate, salt and pepper shakers and napkins, you know? What has been your biggest lesson? The biggest? Whoa. There are so many, but the one that sticks out the most is learning how take criticism. Like I said before, River City Eatery is my heart, my soul, my everything. I’ve put and continue to put my everything into this business and it is really tough sometimes to take criticism, and I’m not talking about constructive criticism (I accept that with open arms as one has to do to become better, even though that proves to be hard as well), but the kind of criticism that comes from those who take out their own unhappiness on others or being misunderstood in a way that is irrelevant to the business itself. All in all, being completely vulnerable has been a lesson in itself; a scary, but oh-soworth-it lesson. Hmmm, it’s not personal, it’s business? Yeah, that’s it, I think? Oh, and trusting others (i.e. employees) to execute how an owner would execute. Whew, scary stuff, but I’m slowly learning how to do it. :) WomenincMagazine.com 17

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High School Students Gather for Their Cause! Uniting People from all Walks of Life 18 year old Hanna Lovstad of Algona, IA is a woman with a mission who is not afraid to take a stand for what she believes. Hanna, with some of her friends, started a ministry on her high school campus called Catalyst during her sophomore year. Now a senior in high school she has been blessed to see the ministry start to grow and thrive as she always hoped it would. Hanna said, “God has equipped me in ways that I can not describe to do his work in our school. I am confident that not only has He changed my heart through this ministry, but He has used me to minister to others. My peers now have deeper relationships with each other and their passion for Christ has grown significantly.” When asking Hanna what she has learned the most about starting Catalyst she felt the core team that runs the ministry has learned to listen to God. She says, “I mean when saying this, we had to wait for Him to give us answers and lead us to making the right decisions.” One thing she wants others to know is that Catalyst is a Christ-centered ministry and that God is the mastermind behind the success that they have had. Hanna added, “Without God perfectly orchestrating the core team and supervisors in Catalyst, we would not be a thriving ministry. Through our gifts, we have been able to do God’s work in many ways. Some of us give messages every Tuesday morning, some of us create announcements and media to get the word out, and some of us work one-onone with those that go to Catalyst to help deepen their faith. There is a cycle that we follow, and without a balanced core team with diverse gifts, the cycle would not work.” One thing she is especially thankful for is how the community has come together to support the ministry. She said, “So many people have been praying for us and we have gotten donations from many churches and businesses that are excited for the positive change that is happening at Algona High School. God has blessed the ministry and it continues to grow even after the original core team members have left.” Hanna feels confident to leave the ministry in the hands of the underclassmen to continue the mission she and others have started as she graduates and then will be attending Dordt Col18 WomenincMagazine.com

lege this fall. We at Womeninc wish her many blessings as she starts a new stage in her life and can’t wait to see where God leads her next. One of Hanna’s favorite verses which she said goes along with the mission of Catalyst, “we are to be the light in the dark world. Through Catalyst, people are being equipped to be the light.” 1 Peter 2:9-10 “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. Once you were not a people, but now you are a people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy.”and Romans 12:4-5 “For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.” Catalyst Mission statement is: FCA/Catalyst aims to unite people from all walks of life, producing and shaping faith by equipping disciples through the Gospel and fellowship, engaging with community to bring the light of many into one under the name of Jesus.


A Privilege Author: Kathleen Schuetz, Mankato MN Every life escapes, it’s not contained in a bottle. And you, my friend, have become my role model. Your kindness is reflected in the smile from your heart And each time goodbye is said, it gets harder to depart. I’m a better human being just from knowing you, God placed you in my pathway and this world came into view. People claim to be a true friend, but to me it’s apparent Your friendship holds no hidden agendas, it’s honest and transparent. I can reveal my ugly side, or laugh or cry until my eyes sting. You offer your ear, shoulder and time.. without a single string. I hold you close within my heart and also in my mind But I heard your self talk yesterday, it wasn’t very kind. Please don’t doubt yourself or any of your abilities, With each new day, this world holds so many possibilities. Success is not money or gold in the bank It’s love shown to others, and you have that down...point blank! Fear is a tyrant that can hold you in a cage Whether good or bad, your challenge is to engage. Everyone in life sometimes feels insecure and alone, But if you do not try, who you could become remains unknown. Deep within, your spirit is asking to be free. At times, discouragement, yet I promise you will see A beautiful rainbow at the end of life’s storm cloud. When this moment comes, I know you will be proud. The reflection of a meaningful life fulfilled by your dreams, All pain and sacrifices made by you; the feeling of joy redeems. You will close your eyes and smile, a deep and lasting one As the sun rises up in the morning, you’ll know that you have won. You will leave this world a better place, because you were true To everyone who knew your name, but most of all to you. Remember life escapes, it’s not contained in a bottle, And you, my friend, no longer mine, but your own role model. WomenincMagazine.com 19

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Ms. Good Samaritan Mary A life of always giving

Written by Andrea Goche

This article is sponsored by Spa-Dee-Dah, too! See all the wonderful things they do at www.thedayspa@spa-dee-dah.com Mary Hannover is 68 years old and has been a resident of Algona, Iowa since 1979, having worked for the Good Samaritan Nursing home for 49 years. She started out there working as an aide in 1966 and then decided to go to get her degree as an LPN in 1970. She went back to work as an LPN for Good Samaritan in 1971 and worked all shifts. In 1975 she became the lower level nurse supervisor. In 1991, she accepted a new position as the Resource Director and Public Relations, which raises funds and promotes Good Samaritan. I asked Mary what she loves about her job, and she said, “It is satisfaction as well as an opportunity to do value work for others. I have always wanted to work and care for people.” Among her challenges, was, of course, first of all, raising money for a rehabilitation center to be installed; next was revamping the dining room. She has also helped to raise money for the Van Buren Terrace, a senior living facility which opened in 2000; followed by Huskamp Haven, an assisted living facility. Mary continues to do small projects as the need arises for the care center. She is one dedicated and hard-working woman. Whenever a resident unfortunately passes away, Mary then makes every effort to attend either the funeral or the visitation, as a remembrance and a comfort. When I first asked Mary if I could do a story on her, she said, “I don’t know if I qualify!” Well, Mary you are overqualified, and it is an honor for us to recognize all you do, especially your volunteer work! I asked Michelle Durant(LPN) who works at Good Samaritan her thoughts about Mary, and she said, “I’ve worked for her for over 10 years, and she is Ms. Good Samaritan. She is always thinking and doing for others.” Not only does she work from 7am-2:30pm, Monday through Friday, but she has volunteered her time as an Algona Booster Club member for 48 years, and for the last 10 years plus, has been in charge of the Algona concession stand. She does all the food ordering and helps line up youth and parents to help work it! I asked Tracy Carlson, who works closely with Mary and the concession stand her thoughts on Mary and she said, “I admire Mary for selflessly giving back to the youth and elderly in our community for 40 years. She is such an inspiration and always puts others above herself. We can all learn from her example.” She is a true Algona Bulldog fan! Mary says, “Rick Adams calls me “The Mother of the Bulldogs” If you see a brown van with these words and with a stuffed bulldog in her front seat, make sure to give her a wave!

She also is a member of the Lutheran Church in Whittemore, and has been active since 1968 as a youth group leader. She works with ten other Lutheran churches as well. Mary says, “I love giving back to the community.” Mary has had many trials and tribulations; her father died of a heart attack in 1967, at the age of 47, her brother died at the age of 47 and her sister died at the age of 50, as well as her brother in law age 53; they all died from cancer. Meanwhile, Mary was fighting her own battle in the form of food addiction. Mary said, “ I have always been a large person, knowing someday it would catch up to me, and dieting has been a constant battle; I just loved food!” But she knew she had to change; she didn’t want her mother to have to bury another daughter. Her doctor told her that she needed to get serious about losing weight; otherwise her body size would take her life. Her friends were also very concerned for her. Mary decided to put her trust in God for this life-change. She knew she also had the support of many friends and family in the community, and didn’t want to disappoint them. It took a year after this decision to get up the courage to have gastric bypass, which then took place on October 24, 2007. The evening before, she and some friends went out to eat at Charlie’s Supper Club for the last meal of her old lifestyle, knowing that her eating would now undergo a drastic change! She now eats 1 1/2 cups of food 4 times a day, as well as drinking 6 to 7 bottles of water. Mary weighed 475 pounds and lost a total of 307 pounds when she went into have surgery for her excess skin removed which was in 2009. Then, in 2011, Mary had a hip replacement as well as reconstructive surgery, in Rochester, Minnesota. Following this, osteoporosis was then diagnosed only a year ago, but already Mary is to be seen with her walker, bent over; however, she is a true go-getter; this will not stop her! Mary hopes that she has touched people’s lives in a positive manner, and that they in turn will do the same. Mary believes that God found a niche for her to help the youth and give back to the community, so this has allowed her to live a happy life without marriage and children. She enjoys her extended family of nieces and nephews as well as great-nieces and nephews. Mary’s advice is “Live for today and accept what is handed to you; look for the good in people and in life. Always remember that in prayer is great strength.”

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Another Method for Resolving Conflict Written by Katherine Mossie

We all know that people can become locked in conflict, and there are many ways that people deal with conflict. They can: • give in to the changes someone wants • do nothing, hoping the conflict will go away • avoid the person or situation • continually fight and argue • go to a higher authority • talk things out with a third-party neutral mediator through mediation There has been a growing awareness regarding mediation as a technique for conflict and dispute resolution. Mediation has become an effective means for people to minimize not only the financial cost, but also the emotional cost of dealing with and resolving conflict. But what is mediation? Mediation is an opportunity for people to talk together and make their own decisions, with the help of a third-party, neutral mediator. Mediation can be used to help people settle many different types of matters. These include, to name a few: • divorce and family disputes • disputes in the workplace • neighbor disputes • landlord/tenant disputes • elder issues What are some of the advantages of mediation? The advantages include: • it is a confidential process in that any information shared will not be discussed by the mediator • the mediator is a neutral party and will not take sides • the participants are always present during mediation, so information and ideas can be exchanged efficiently • the mediator assists the parties to have a productive and respectful conversation in which to construct their own agreement • and most importantly, it is an opportunity to resolve conflicts through self-determination Two important things parties can do to make their mediation successful are: 1) to be unbiased and open to compromise; and 2) to really listen and try to understand the other parties’ point of view. Understanding the other party’s position does not mean you have to agree with it. But, it is possible that once you do understand what the other party’s concerns are, you will have new ideas about how to resolve things. It is important to remember, in mediation, you will hear things that you will not agree with, and you will be asked difficult questions. But keeping an open mind and being willing to consider various options for settlement will result in a successful mediation. Compromise works when parties take both points of view into account and determine the most appropriate solution. 22 WomenincMagazine.com

As a mediator, I understand that parties are involved in high conflict, delicate situations. I am able listen to all issues at hand, and empathize equally with the parties. I was trained in a nationally certified, comprehensive divorce and family mediation course. I am a rostered mediator in several counties in the state of Iowa. I am also a Certified Family Life Educator through the National Council on Family Relations. During my time at Kansas State University, I worked as a mediation coordinator for a prominent Kansas law firm. If you have further questions, or would like to schedule a consultation or mediation, please contact me at (641) 357-2042 or kathy_mossie@cltel.net. You may also like my Facebook page – “Katherine Mossie Mediations.”

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The Quilted Steeple A surprising Retirement Job - I Loved! This article is sponsored by Security State Bank, Member FDIC. Check out their website at www.bankssb.com

Susan Dodds Busch grew up on the family farm north of Algona, in Northwest Iowa, a half mile from Good Hope United Methodist Church where her family had actively been involved for generations. Her mother was the church organist for over 60 years and Susan and her sister were Sunday school teachers, janitors, and mowed the lawn. As with any rural church, it became the community center for many social and neighborhood events, as well as being an active church. As the rural population declined, the church finally closed and was auctioned off in 2005. Susan’s sister, Julie Dodds, bought it “accidently”. At the time, Julie didn’t have a plan for the church’s future; she just knew she wanted to preserve the property and keep it available for community use. She is an avid quilter and after a few years decided the church and parsonage would make an excellent quilting and crafting retreat. There were plenty of bedrooms and lots of available work space. The parsonage had been empty for several years and needed to be extensively remodeled. Since Julie lives in Lansing, Michigan with a busy orthopedic surgery practice and Susan was semi-retired and living nearby in Fort Dodge, Susan agreed to work with contractors and manage the remodeling for her sister. She was able to utilize her experience in housing renovation from her previous job with the City of Fort Dodge. Getting the retreat up and running became a family affair. Susan’s husband Jim and 2 daughters Lisa Balm and Hailey Busch pitched in with cleaning, painting, refinishing woodwork, and decorating. Julie and her daughters helped whenever they were back from Michigan, and their brother Scott helped with demolition and website development. After a year of planning, remodeling and decorating, The Quilted Steeple finally held its open house in September 2014. It was a beautiful fall day, and 200 quilts designed by Sandy Gervais, a local fabric designer for Moda, were hung outside and inside the church. The wild tur24 WomenincMagazine.com

keys even paid a visit and had their photo taken in front of Sandy’s turkey quilt. Since opening, the Quilted Steeple has hosted quilters, scrapbookers, card makers, knitters, family reunions, girls’ weekend getaways and groups of friends just wanting a lovely place to gather. People have come from throughout the Midwest for retreats, and family reunions have brought in people from all over the country. The remodeled parsonage has 5 bedrooms, a full kitchen, a relaxing living room, and a couple great porches to enjoy that morning cup of coffee or an evening glass of wine. The church has an additional bedroom, so the retreat can sleep 13 easily. The choir loft which overlooks the sanctuary can sleep 2 more. The workroom downstairs in the church offers great space to work on a favorite project. There’s plenty of room in the big church kitchen for people to prepare their own food or have it catered in. Being located in the middle of Iowa’s corn and bean fields, The Quilted Steeple provides a quiet, relaxing place to stay. Susan said, “Since I am not a quilter or crafter myself, I have gained a whole new appreciation for the work, creativity and passion that goes into the projects and works of art that have been designed and created at a weekend retreat or in classes. I watch women advise, encourage, cajole, then share in each other’s pride as they work through a difficult part of a project or put that final stitch in a quilt. When women share their strength it seems to multiply exponentially.” Susan said, “There is nothing better than stepping into the crafting room to the roar of laughter and watching tears run down someone’s cheeks from laughing. The Quilted Steeple gives women a place to get away, re-energize, relax and, have fun, all while getting something accomplished. They reconnect with friends and make new ones. I’ve watched quiet women come to the retreat not knowing anyone, ending up making new friends that they join again at their next retreat as old friends.” The Quilted Steeple has hosted 3 American Legion Auxiliary Quilts of Valor retreats and even during a blizzard, they had 20 people, both local and from across the state, come together to sew quilts for military people touched by war. Some hadn’t ever sewn but came to cut or iron or do anything they could to help. These quilts are presented to veterans or gold star mothers locally and statewide. It’s an inspirational weekend for everyone involved!

The Quilted Steeple has had some great guest speakers and open houses. Weather permitting; the fall open house includes an outdoor quilt display where beautiful handmade quilts are strung around the perimeter of the property. At last fall’s open house, Mary Fons from Fons and Porter’s “Love of Quilting” which airs nationally on PBS was featured. She taught a quilting class and gave 2 entertaining and informative talks. Everyone had such a fun weekend. Next fall The Quilted Steeple has scheduled Marianne Fons who, not only is featured in the TV series and the magazine along with her daughter Mary, is instrumental in national Quilts of Valor organization. While details for the open house are not finalized, it is planned for October 1, 2016 and will feature the beautiful Quilts of Valor. Susan says,”It’s never too late to change direction in life, to accept new challenges or try something totally outside your comfort zone. I was semi-retired and working with my daughter in our title search business with no intention of involving myself in any major enterprise again. My initial response when Julie

said she wanted to adapt the church into a quilt retreat, my question was “What’s a quilt retreat?” It was a far cry from the neighborhood revitalization, economic development and grant writing I had done in the past. I’ve certainly learned a lot in the past few years!” While Susan’s intent was to oversee the renovation and decorating, she ended up managing the retreat for the past 2 1/2 years with help from Jean and Bob Kent. Jean and Bob are amazing quilters and many of their quilts decorate the inside of the church. Now that The Quilted Steeple is up and running, Susan is ready to step back and hire someone to take over the day-to-day operation of the retreat and take it to the next level, although Susan still hopes to be involved in some weekend retreats since she has enjoyed them so much! Susan has a little vintage camper and she would like to hit the road more often with her fellow glampers (glamorous campers) when she turns over her duties to the next manager. More adventures ahead! WomenincMagazine.com 25

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INDIGO An Organic salon, spa, deli, and lifestyle shoppe In Mankato, MN. Written by Kathy Schuetz

This past month I had the pleasure to sit down with Shelly Bartlett the owner of INDIGO Organic located in Mankato, MN. Her salon is one of a kind, not only offering a holistic approach to beauty, from using organic shampoos, makeup, fingernail polish, etc., she has incorporated a grocery line of organics and has added a deli filled with delectable coffees, sandwiches, salads, smoothies and desserts. I had the privilege of sampling the product. Not only was it delicious, but every thing, and I mean everything, was fresh, raised without pesticides and had not been genetically altered. Taste was my biggest fear, but I can say it was delightful. Shelly became interested in her chosen profession at a very early age. Shelly’s grandmother and mother encouraged her to become a hairstylist, a profession each of them had desired; however the timing was off for both. They fell in love, married and soon after motherhood followed. By the age of nine, Shelly, began styling the hair on her dolls, including Barbie. She moved on to cutting and styling her aunts, uncles and cousins. Shelly continues to be passionate about her career choice even after 35 years. “As a life long learner, I still take hair cutting classes. When I’m asked, what I want to take away from the class, I tell them, everything possible.” The instructors teach new techniques and styles which change. 26 WomenincMagazine.com

Shelly’s passion for knowledge improves her skills and keeps current in this ever changing, fascinating career. As she states, “You don’t know, what you don’t know.” When I asked Shelly why she chose organic she mentioned this. At the age of 25, Shelly watched her grandmother, age 59, died of colon cancer, followed by her father-in-law’s death from pancreatic cancer. One awful disease, called Cancer taking the lives of two people she loved dearly. This made her want to find out more about living a healthy lifestyle. Horst Rechelbacher was Shelly’s mentor and she took every opportunity to learn from him. He was well known for starting a very popular product that gave awareness to natural products. Seven years later he founded his new company called Intelligent Nutrients which is an organic haircare and skincare product line. He believed “Everything we put in and on our bodies must be nutritious and safe.” Shelly said, “I was blessed to be able to spend four days at Mr. Rechelbachers’ home at an advanced educational retreat. It was there that I remembered telling my husband, an engineer, my exposure to Mr. Rechelbacher’s teaching, would be comparable to his sitting down with Bill Gates, who would share all his knowledge and information. If I were to continue doing what I have been passionate about all my life, an organic lifestyle shop seemed

to provide my answers. Today I live a certified organic lifestyle and feel amazing. And that is the reason I wanted to specialize in organic and oncology esthetics.” On August 1, 2011, we acquired the building on Madison Avenue in Mankato, MN and began Indigo Organic. The name, INDIGO. (a blue-violet color) It stands for: IN = Intelligent Nutrients DI=Deliberately Invested GO = Go Organic. Shelly said, “We are proud to have employees on the same mission and it is something I look for in the process of hiring. We love people that are also passionate about living an organic lifestyle and enjoy helping make a difference in other people’s lives.” I know people talk a lot about the cost of organic produce, but as demands increase, prices have come down and organic produce has become more available in local grocery stores. The people who have become buyers of organic say they have become less wasteful. They make lists, buying less but more often and if they do buy in bulk, they freeze it. Everyone will decide for themselves if they choose an organic lifestyle or not and education is important to help them make an informed decision. On Monday evenings we hold educational classes on health, not just organic, but various topics, like reducing stress in your life, and more. These educational seminars are free to the public and held at 7:00pm on the first Monday of the Month. We call it “Feed the Mind Monday.” Shelly says, “I have established a scholarship and named it “A Love for Giving.” I’m currently in the process

of starting this non-profit organization. People living with cancer, will be able to have a wellness visit with no out of pocket expense. Shelly believes in her heart and her head that it is a “Gift to Give.” Shelly’s favorite sayings are, “let thy food be thy medicine and thy medicine be thy food.” and “let what you love be what you do.” If you’re in Mankato Shelly invites you to stop in at Indigo, have lunch, a smoothie, or coffee.

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Parkinson’s Awareness Month Diagnosis Written by Kathleen M Schuetz

There came the day a few years ago, at the doctor’s office I was told. My hand tremor revealed Parkinson’s, and my body went ice cold. Who, me? Examine me again, because this can’t be true! “I’ve watched your gait, did the exam, there’s no more tests to do.” His words began to process, as my mind started to shut down My breathing was irregular, on his face no smile, just a frown. Said I should go home to think and he would call the prescription in. Fear of what would happen next, the tears slid down my chin. “Why me? Why now?” I should have asked, “How does this THING progress? Will this affect my mind, my work, my hopes and dreams?” I could only guess. My husband waited as I took a breath, and then began to share, The diagnosis was not good “it’s Parkinsons” I said, as he slipped into a chair. His face was white and just like me, he began to wonder, “Are they absolutely sure, or is it a medical diagnosis blunder?” “They say they are sure, If the medicine works, but only time will tell,” As my hand tremors began again, no longer aware of earth, so I must be in Hell. Nothing in this world could prepare me for the way of life I now lead. Not medicines taken, Doctor’s instructions or the books they gave me to read. Everyone wants me to be the person that I had once been. You remember, her shining eyes and that silly useless grin.

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I don’t smile quite as much, at least not that you can see. Is it chemicals, genes, or viruses? No one knows, so how can this be? My lips do not work as well, my nerves misfire from the lack of dopamine. My biggest fear? That people avoid my eyes and I no longer will be seen. There may be confinement to a wheel chair or worse, communication ceases. I’Ve become like Humpty Dumpty, no one can pick up all of the pieces. A lot of time and money for research, just ask Michaeal J Fox, But a cure? NO, not for this disease, there isn’t medicine in a pill box. Years from now, Parkinson’s may be like a simple case of the flu, You’ll close your eyes, get lots of rest and in a week, be good as new. Today, it’s more like Alice in Wonderland battling the Queen of Hearts The neurons in the brain continue to misfire in various parts. So we shake, our voices quiet, we lose our balance and muscle control for a smile. Friends and family, we ask, be tolerant and patient for this is our new life style. We are afraid, as each day passes, yet brave as we learn to accept our reality. Our prayer: Dear God, keep us in Your loving arms as we deal with our physicality,spirituality, and ultimately, our mortality. Amen.

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I’m Too Old... Written by: Joleen Frideres, Wesley, IA

Have you ever caught yourself thinking this? Well, stop…. At least consider for a moment that your thoughts might just be lying to you. You are buying into an “old” belief. In the past, our American culture has misled us women to believe that in our 20s & 30s, they weren’t old enough; But by our 50s & 60+ we were too old. What a hoax! Did you get the memo? Those days are gone, my friend! My life experience has proven this to me. When I led hikes in the Rocky Mountains, I hiked with a woman who was 73, and no one could keep up with her. Young adults in their 20s were left in her dust. I was amazed; And enlightened. I was surrounded by 60 year olds who ran marathons, only to ride a 100 mile bike ride the next day. My eyes were opened. I had been raised in northern Iowa, where I had not seen people over the age of 40 even engage in physical activities; Sports were for kids in high school. This is not the case anymore. We can be as physically active as our bodies will allow us to be. But we cannot let our age be the reason we stay on the couch. Things have changed. And, yes, 50 really is the new 40, etc. I was able to run my very first triathlon when I was 48. I continue to have fun completing, not competing, in fitness events like the Spartan Race; Last year I cheered a woman on in the Race who was 67. I hope that is me at 67! Recently, I was particularly inspired by Diane Nyad, the 64 year old woman who just swam from Cuba to Key West, Florida;

The 1st person to do so; And it only took her 52 tries. Her accomplishment proves to me what a woman at 64 can be capable of. The rest is up to me. Our age does not make us out of shape. Our inactivity makes us out of shape. The simple fact is, if we don’t use it, we lose it. If you have aches and pains or any health issues, ask your doctor if gentle stretching, yoga, walking, or swimming, could help make you stronger. I know for certain that inactivity leads down a road we do not want to go down. Be smart and listen to your body, but don’t listen to the lies. If you catch yourself thinking, “I am too old”, pause to ask yourself if this is true, or not. Instead ask yourself, am I capable of doing this? If the answer is “yes”, then go for it, once your doctor has approved! Summer is here, so let’s move more! Staying active is so important because it raises our energy levels, and allows us to live life to the fullest. When we are active we have more passion to do what it is we love to do and go where we want to go, because we have vitality! Check out BlueZones.com, where they have laid a plan out; an amazing plan to help people follow in the footsteps of other cultures that regularly live, vibrantly, to be 100 years old. It’s your time to live more fully! For ongoing encouragement, you are welcome to follow me on Facebook, Courageous Life Coaching.

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All in the Name of Corn

By Karen Schwaller Milford, IA

This article is sponsored by: Titonka Savings Bank Member FDIC - www.tsbbank.com Stateline Cooperative - www.statelinecoop.com, Ag Star Financial Services, ACA -www.agstar.com Let’s be honest. Corn is big business. And it doesn’t even matter what kind of corn you’re talking about—field corn, sweet corn, candy corn, acorns, popcorn, corn chips, corn silage, corn-based fuel, corn sweeteners, DDGs, cornbased plastics and fibers—even the corns on our feet are big business for someone. Whether the consumers of corn have two legs or four, it seems there’s a certain amount of appeal that corn holds to them, because corn affects our lives in a lot of ways. For the farmer it’s a livelihood and a way of life to pass on to children. It’s the miracle of new life happening in plant fashion—and when those plants begin to emerge from the black gold that is rich Iowa soil, there is great pride in seeing those just-visible rows of green that hold the future of the farm family within its new and very tender roots. Dreams take shape as the corn grows, and financial decisions are made as the combine rolls across fields of gold. For a young farm kid, a little corn can produce a vast amount of entertainment. Toy wagons are filled with corn via toy elevators, which dump the golden kernels into the wagons below with the help of a hand crank, while they watch “Sesame Street.” Some of those children will most likely do the real thing someday, with elevators powered by more than a hand crank. As kids we used to head out to the corn crib on a hot summer afternoon, climb that tall, straight-up-and-down ladder that took us to the overhead bins, and jump into that waiting pool of wonderfully cool corn that was up there.

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I guess we were the original “Children of the Corn.” A few years ago Hollywood created the story of an Iowa farmer who kept hearing a whispered voice saying, “If you build it, he will come.” He not only heard the voice distinctly, but pursued it against the wishes of his bankers--and with judgmental looks from his peers, family members and people in his community. Most all farmers follow the very same logic--if he builds it (the farm and the dream), there’s a chance that his children will follow him. His quiet whispering is there for the hearing—if only his children will pursue the calling. By the end of the movie we understood the majesty that an Iowa corn field is, when one of the movie characters asked, “Is this heaven?” And the farmer replied, “No. It’s Iowa.” How does Hollywood get off comparing the thought of being in an Iowa cornfield to being in heaven? Just ask any corn farmer. They’ll tell you it’s real. Now that’s big. © Copyright 2015, Karen Schwaller All Rights Reserved

Karen Schwaller is the owner of “Schwaller Agri-Stories,” operating from a grain and livestock farm near Milford, Iowa. She is a freelance writer/columnist and humorous/ inspirational rural life speaker. To book her for your next event, contact her at kschwaller@evertek.net, or kschwaller@igltel.com, or check out her website at www. karenschwaller.com.

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