That’s all you need to do to convince her to experiment in bed, our survey shows. So take a shot. Threesomes, anal, and public sex are all trending up. (See the next page.) One reason: Premarital playtime lasts longer. The average age for a first marriage is now 29 for men and 27 for women. American society is increasingly open-minded, adds anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D., the author of Anatomy of Love. We’re also healthier and better educated—and educated people tend to be curious. Join the party: At WeShouldTryIt. com, you and your mate can separately take a sex questionnaire that reveals only the activities you both chose. You can even add your own questions. So she’ll learn of your Gilmore Girls fantasy only if she’s into it too.
of women say “just ask” 48% 10 years ago). 61% (vs.
Feeling pressure to perform? Can’t blame you: “Women are beginning to demand good sex,” says Fisher. “They’re not just lying back and thinking of England.” Today’s career women, not dependent on marriage, can be pickier, Fisher says. Plus, men have a natural desire to want to please women in bed. The upside of all this? Satisfy her and she’ll invite you back. That said, our survey indicates you’re doing fine. So try to relax a little. Distract yourself by focusing on intimate details—her sounds, her expressions, her erect nipples. Encourage her to tell you what to do, says Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., a sexuality expert at the University of Washington. “Sometimes women are afraid they’ll sound like traffic cops.” Say you like when she tells you what she wants.
of women are happy with sex life. Men: 52%. 71% their 104 MensHealth.com | March 2017
WHEN SEX IS SELF-SERVE Three out of four men and nearly half of women masturbate at least once a week. Ladies’ choice: Fingers: 46% Sex toy: 26% Humping something: 13% Faucet or showerhead: 9% Tip: Ask to watch, suggests sexpert Ian Kerner, Ph.D. It’s hot and educational. Or place your hand over hers while she does it, letting her guide you along.
91% of women rate their sex drive as normal or higher. Men: 95%. See? She’s almost as horny as you are.
Keep Your Hair On Men are grooming their pubic areas more than they used to— and maybe more than they have to. About 42 percent buzz it short, up from 33 percent in 2006. But a plurality of women (46 percent) say they like their mate to do just “a little trimming—but that’s it.” As for women, 60 percent shave completely bare.