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(From an anonymous college girl who looks to Sex and the City’s Samantha Jones for inspiration.)
I was slurping down on back and we headed for “I am here to tell you that you me Vietnamese soup with Greg, the dorms. The walk seemed should never be ashamed of brief, considering we stopped to a guy friend of mine, one Saturday night when I fessed up make-out every other block. your love life, whether you are to my most recent sexcapade: We stumbled up to his room looking for love or partaking in and one thing led to another. hooking up with three different guys the night before. I considI had to hold back my gigthe hook-up culture.” ered it quite the accomplishgling when he whispered the ment, but telling this story made me reflect on my words, “do you want to do it?” in my ear. I told him various hook ups. I started to worry about my own I would think about it. The kissing escalated and he morals in regards to my sex life. I had always been asked once more. At that point I couldn’t resist. familiar with the whirlwind world of men, sex, and Afterwards, there were a few awkward pauses, hook-ups. Now I was beginning to question if my and I began to have doubts about the performance behavior was getting out of hand. Then Greg said overall. something to me that really hit me hard. “Can I be honest with you?” I timidly asked him. “You are not a slut, you just have game.” He tightened his grip on me and brought me to his These few words made me realize that women chest and replied, “Of course, what’s up?” should not feel guilty about reveling in their sex life. I asked about how he thought the sex went. He Men are praised for getting with multiple girls at a cured me of any doubts about the whole thing so I time, so why can’t women? began to feel relieved. I am here to tell you that you should never be Then he drew me closer and said, “As long as we’re ashamed of your love life, whether you are looking being honest right now, can I tell you something?” for love or partaking in the hook-up culture. Worry-free, I asked him what was on his mind. One of my tips to maintaining a healthy and excit“That was my first time.” ing sex life in college is to always expect the unexI cannot begin to explain the rollercoaster of emopected. tions I was feeling: shock, concern, disbelief. I was It was just another night in Allston; packed apartcompletely speechless. ment, jungle juice running low, keg stands ensuing... As he stroked my back and asked if I was okay. As I was making my way through the packed dance Still in shock, I asked if he was serious. That one nod floor, who do I run into but Aaron. confirmed that I had taken his virginity without even Aaron and I were not strangers in the least. The knowing it. last time I saw him I was waving goodbye from inI told him I was extremely impressed by the fact side the train after a shameless make-out session at that that was his first time. Considering he was the the T stop. one who proposed we should have sex, I had no idea I played it cool. We made small talk and parted he was a virgin. Further, though I’d been initially apways but one thing to keep in mind is that anything prehensive about his performance, it was impressive can happen on the dance floor. considering. I noticed Aaron dancing right next to me; we didn’t I am still astonished it happened. If you take anyexchange words as we began to dance together. thing away from this story, it should be to always exBefore long, we were making out. We stopped pect the unexpected. Boys can be awfully surprising. when we saw the cops made their inevitable arrival As long as you are confident in your sexual prowess, and somehow a group of us ended up at a restaurant. you can handle any curveball boys throw you. Even Afterwards, Aaron asked permission to walk the virgins.
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