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SATURDAY SUN
August 11, 2012
KISS &TELL CAN YOU FIGHT OVER THE ONE YOU LOVE? By RACHAEL AGUNTA and OGUBUNKA CHISOM t is common these days to see people especially ladies, fight each other over a man. A lot of stories have also been told of women who pour acid on other ladies because they believe they are going out with their husbands or boyfriends. To some people, it is not right and to others, it is a way of protecting what one has interest in. Saturday Sun spoke to some people on the above question, and they responded as follows.
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KELECHI OGBAJIE I will fight over someone I love, if the person is my husband. But if the person is not my husband, I can not do it.
Sandra
KELECHI OBASI No, because another person loves her too. Fighting over her when I am not married to her is not advisable. CHIOMA NJOKU C. Why? But seriously, I can’t. In fact, that is absurd for me to try such. Even to die for my kid will be hard let alone my spouse.Turn the situation around,will he lay down his life for me? Well, there’s no need to stretch it. I’ll not, point blank. KINGSLEY NWODO IGWE I am not the fighting type, but when it comes to necessity, fighting for the one I love becomes necessary. There is a saying that goes this way, “When you are in love, you become a slave to it”. This is true because you will do anything to protect it. Being in love makes one to behave so stupidly as if he is under the influence of alcohol. Also, it makes one to behave as if he or she has lost the ability to think straight. In fact, I will fight for the one I love. JOY DIKE I can’t imagine bringing shame on myself because of a man. I can’t imagine fighting on the street over a man and people would be watching me. If I find out that my man is seeing another woman, I will confront him. If he admits that it is true, I will let him be. I will go my way, after all, he is not the only man in the world. I can’t fight with anybody. It is not worth it. MICHELLE JOHN I cannot fight for any love, because it does not exist. Men are so crude that the man you are fighting for may not even separate the fight when it is on. Moreover, fighting with another lady over a man makes me an amusement park where people go to have fun and be entertained. I cannot reduce myself to that because of a man. To be frank with you, most men do not get married to the ladies who fight over them. I cannot risk my precious blood for love. BALARABE MUSA HUSSEIN I cannot fight with anyone, not in this my life time, because it is not good. What happens if the person I love turns out to be in love with someone else? The worst thing that can happen to someone is to fight for someone who is not in love with you. I will be very much ashamed of myself if I have an exchange of words with someone over issues concerning love.
Obidi
Kingsley
LORETTA IBEKWE Fighting with someone over someone I love means that my man does not love me back. It simply means that he is pretending to love me while he is seeing another woman. So, to fight for such love is very bad because if he loves me, there won’t be any reason for him to have another person that will challenge me. Simply put, I cannot do such a thing. IGBINEDOM ANGEL If I find out that my love is seeing another person, I will just let him know that I am no longer interested. I will prefer that to fighting another lady over love. If I do that, God will someday give me someone else that will truly love me. STELLA UMUNNA No, I will not try it because it is not wise. I think that very few things in life are worth fighting for these days, because everything comes so easy. So, when I have those rare things that are actually worth the fight, the struggle and the pain, then I will do it. If not, I will surely regret it. To be frank with you, I better let go than to fight my fellow lady. KENNETH KDCAME Yes, I can fight for her. My reason for saying such is this: if I truly love this person, I wouldn’t want anything to harm her. I will make sure that anything that concerns her will be my priority. To me, she is my dearest and I wouldn’t want any story at all. So, I can give a hard blow to anyone that comes near my dearest lady.
Kenneth
OBIDI PAULOY Yes, I can fight for her sake but only if I find out that she truly loves me. If she is being treated badly or people under-estimate her, I will stand by her. I will make her know that she is not alone in the case and I believe that will make her happy. I will ensure that she is mine; just as we have agreed before the altar of the living God to stand for each other till death do us part. LILLIAN KALU No, I cannot fight with anyone. My reason is because I do not know if the person I am fighting for is in love with another person. He can pretend to be in love with me whereas he is not. Moreover, what if I go to fight another girl, having the full assurance that he is in love with me and reaching there, he defends the lady instead of me? You see, men are unpredictable. To me, fighting for them is not worthwhile. KENNY NNAMANI You don’t need to fight for something that is yours. There is this popular saying that when you catch a bird that doesn’t want to stay, it will be there just for a while, then it will fly away, but when you catch the one that loves to stay, it will take your nest as its home. If I love a woman and she wants to stay, she will simply behave very well, if not I will let her go after anyone that she wants. For me, I cannot fight for love.
JOHN MCCASKELL Yes, I will always stand by her because she is my all and the port of my heart. I will defend her in all course not withstanding what it will take me and how far and length the fight will reach. I will make sure that she is satisfied with my fight. Moreover, fighting for her will make her to love me more. So, for me to be loved and show love, I must fight for my love.
TAIWO BOSE Men are not worth fighting or dying for. I cannot even fight over my husband let alone an ordinary stupid boyfriend. Men should be the ones fighting over me and not the other way round. It grieves my heart when I see a woman pouring acid on a fellow woman because of a useless man. The annoying thing is that, most of these guys are not responsible because a responsible man does not involve himself in multiple affairs. If I see my man with another woman, I will take my leave. To be candid, if you see your man with another lady and leave when he thinks you would fight, he will begin to respect you. So, I don’t think that it is right to fight over someone in the name of love.
AGNES HASSAN I can fight for my man so that ladies will know that he is a nogo area. If I do not fight for him, then it means that I don’t love him. I cannot be alive and allow someone else to take away what belongs to me. I can fight anyone that dares to do such a thing. He is mine and mine alone.
OLAJOBI JOKE What will be, will be. If a man is mine, come rain come sunshine, he will come back to me. If he likes, let him sleep with all the women in this life, he will definitely come back to me. I cannot fight over a man. I will wait patiently if I truly love and want him.
HENRY UBA The last thing I will do in this life is to fight someone over a girl. Before I can even court a lady, I will ask questions. I would like to know if she has other men that love her. I can’t fight anybody just because of love, for I know that love does not exist. SANDRA GODWIN I will fight if I find out that the guy in question truly loves me. But if he does not love me, then I will not fight.
Joy
Henry
Balarabe
Amuche
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