Silk - A Magazine for Women
The January/February 2010 issue of Silk - A magazine for women.
The Athena Awards Plus: Frozen yogurt Wedding trends Massage therapy and more Walking in their shoes Sooner Stilettos 2 www.silkthemagazine.com Shana Adkisson, Editor firstname.lastname@example.org 366-3532 Cathy Hanselman, Advertising Executive email@example.com 366-3563 Shana Adkisson, Editor Julianna Parker-Jones, Writer Nanette Light, Writer Michael Kinney, Writer Kevin Ellis, Photographer Jerry Laizure, Photographer Marise Boehs, Designer Jason Clarke, Webmaster Saundra Morris, Advertising Director David Stringer, Publisher Silk is a publication of The Norman Transcript with offices at 215 E. Comanche, Norman, OK 73069 Table of Contents Editor's Note . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 A Weigh of Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .7 A Woman of Substance . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .9 Frozen Yogurt . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10 Massage . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Ringtones . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .14 Sooner Stilettos . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .16 Healthy Snacking . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .19 Wedding Trends . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .20 Images Woven in Silk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .23 Ask A Man . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .24 Covered In Silk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .27-30 Wedding trends - page 20 A Weigh of Life - page 7 www.silkthemagazine.com A Woman of Substance - page 9 3 4 www.silkthemagazine.com Letter from the Editor Every morning on my way to work I see people driving over the speed limit, passing those who they deem as slow drivers and generally causing potential accidents. When I watch these drivers I wonder if it's general tardiness that makes them lead-footed or if that's just the way our society has become. We are always in a hurry. Hurry to get off the phone. Hurry to get out of the grocery store. Oftentimes we miss out on something wonderful because we are in such a rush. I'm a creature of habit, too. It's the nature of my profession. Deadlines are always looming. When one deadline gets met there is no time for celebration. You just go on in hopes to meet the next deadline. I find myself rushing at times. Rushing to make dinner. Rushing to do laundry. Rush. Rush. Rush. But when do we say enough? Sometimes it feels like a higher power is telling us to put the brakes on. Slow down and enjoy life because it's to short. A few weeks ago I had a moment like that of my own. My husband and I were attending a University of Oklahoma women's basketball game. I was tired from a long day and I really just wanted to sit and enjoy the game. But there was a little girl sitting in the seat next to me that had different plans. At first I was upset that the girl kept asking for my attention. At first, I politely ignored her as much as I could. But she was a very persistent little girl. Then I slowed down. I realized I was missing out on a great opportunity to make a new friend, even if it was just until half-time when her parents made her go home. After all it was a school night. She was a first-grader. We both agreed she looked a lot older than she was. We agreed again that it was because she was so tall. She wasn't a fan of being a big sister. That was obvious in her dealings with her 3-year-old brother. She liked my earrings, my eyeshadow, too. She offered me a lollipop. I declined. Her favorite flavor was watermelon, she said, as she popped the pink sucker in her mouth. She even asked how old I was. I even told her the truth. The OU women won the game that night. But I also feel like I won something. I was reminded by God that deadlines can sometimes wait. That not everything has to be on my schedule. And sometimes the best laid plans are made to be broken. So take a break and slow down. Chances are whatever you're in a hurry to do isn't that enjoyable anyway. Sincerely, www.silkthemagazine.com 5 6 www.silkthemagazine.com We wined and dined her in the Wendy's at the Student Union. Her mother told us she had been offered a scholarship by almost every single Big 12 institution and that a number of the teams had offered her the keys to their kingdom. I told her that we were offering a scholarship as well, and that I'd love the chance to coach her, but that she'd have to earn any playing time she got and that nothing was guaranteed. We showed her our beautiful campus first, our lousy locker room last, and told her if she wanted to be a part of building something special she should call. Caton Hill left and drove home to Ada. The next morning she called while I was in the shower getting ready for work. She wanted to make a difference. She was headed our way. For 3 years Caton was a central cog in our Big Red Machine. She was an undersized post/power forward who pushed big girls off the block and outfoxed all the foxes she couldn't outrun. She was a bossy, emotional player who rarely forgot where to go or what to do. If the scout said, "Send her left," send her left she did. And if you were on her team, she expected you to know and do the same. She had that iron will in her marrow, the rarified kind that more often than not, made her better than she was. Caton played basketball with her gut, that personal sense of purpose and an edgy toughness all balled up in one. That gut led us to the National Championship game in 2002 and it led her to medical school in 2004. Last month, she followed it to Afghanistan. From day one Caton Hill wanted to be a Doctor. Her father and her uncle served in the United States Army and so when she combined her passion for medicine with an enlistment, I was not surprised. She came in first in sharp shooting at basic training camp and we all giggled and rolled our eyes. Of course she did! And when she wrestled with the decisions of medical specialty by tapping on the glass of Alpha-male-dominated orthopedics, we all cheered her on knowing if she wanted to break into the club, she could. Since the first day I met her I have known one thing: there is very little Caton Hill cannot do. As an athlete, however, Caton was always somewhat limited. She kind of shot a set shot from the perimeter and her finishes around the rim, while effective, were never what anyone would really call pretty. We like to say she was "vertically challenged" and yet, at 5'11 on a good day, there wasn't a rebound she couldn't get. Her "want to" was off the charts. As I spoke with Caton in the weeks and days leading up to her deployment, I could tell that she was keenly aware of the magnitude of her assignment. She is what the Army calls a "Flight Doctor". Her charge is to keep our fighting pilots healthy. In essence, she serves them so that they can serve us. My slow, vertically challenged center now lives in a tent in the desert where she wears camo and vests that weigh around 50 lbs. while the temperatures hover in the 100's. She hears gunfire, I am certain. She sees poverty and affliction and cowardice and brutality the likes of which those of us here in the United States of America cannot even comprehend. Caton said to me on the phone before she left for Afghanistan, that college basketball was hard. And in a strange sort of way I CHAMPIONS DO! felt proud that maybe we -- her teammates, her coaches, and her competition -- had played some small role in helping to prepare her to be where she is doing what she's doing--being brave and true and purposeful, making that difference she's always felt compelled to make. For all the things Caton was on the basketball floor, it is, in my mind now, the one thing she was NOT on the floor that so defines her in this moment. You see, ironically, Caton could never take a charge. She would try in practice. She would try in games. She would try after practice when she thought no one was looking. She just never could make herself fall down. She was the consummate teammate. She'd set a screen that would rattle your brain if you dared foul or even appear to trouble one of her guards. She would rotate on defense and bail you out time after time after time if you needed it. But she couldn't take a charge to save her life. And I think I finally understand why. Taking a charge went against everything Caton Hill believed and stood for internally: You do not fall down. You do not move. You are the Wall. Falling is for the other guy. And winning is the only way out. www.silkthemagazine.com A We i g h o f L i f e 7 �shannonho.com 8 www.silkthemagazine.com Dreams take flight By Julianna Parker Jones Cindy Merrick never thought she'd be where she is today. She co-owns a successful Norman business and touches countless lives through her community service efforts. She credits her success to the opportunities she's been given. "I'm so fully blessed," Merrick said. "I never thought I'd have such an abundance." Merrick was honored with the Athena Award in November, which recognizes local women who have attained the highest level of professional excellence and opened the doors of leadership opportunities for women. She said she was shocked to win the award when so many other wonderful people also were candidates. "When I found out I was nominated I bawled, because it was such an honor," Merrick said. "And then at the awards ceremony I was surrounded by all these fabulous nominees. I didn't have a speech prepared." Helping other women has always been one of the aims of Merrick, who in 1992 founded Therapy in Motion, 2475 Boardwalk, with her partner Dick Stewart. She loves her job because she gets to spend time with people, helping them. "I always get more than I give," she said. But physical therapy is only Merrick's second career. She started out as a teacher, but when she got divorced and had children to feed, she decided she needed a better-paying job. So she went back to school and has been a physical therapist since 1987. Perhaps that's one thing that motivated her to found the Empowerment of Spirit scholarship for single moms attending the University of Oklahoma. But that's not her only outreach into the community. She Photo provided established a scholarship for Norman High School graduates. She co-founded Citizens Organized to Recycle Our Environment, which was instrumental in securing curbside recycling for Norman. She sits on the Norman Public School Foundation Board of Directors. The list goes on and on. She is a mentor for Bridges in Norman, and said the start of her involvement is "kind of a cute story." She was convinced it was worthwhile to join, but by the second day of her mentorship she had bought the student a car. "I have been blessed for the opportunity to help people in that situation." Skyler Collins is one of those people that Merrick has helped over the years. When Collins was 15 she blew out her knee tap dancing so she went to Therapy in Motion, where she met Merrick. "On my first day, she held me for an hour while I just cried," Collins said. Later, when she was kicked out of her home by her dad, she called Merrick. "She helped me get my first apartment and supported me through high school," Collins said. Merrick's generosity is without prejudice, Collins said. "I have seen her just randomly pay for someone's meals when we go out," Collins said. Collins said she hopes to do for others what Merrick has done for her, which includes helping her turn her life around. "I would probably still be a crack head and I probably would not be alive right now, honestly," Collins said. "She's the first person who held me accountable for anything." 9 A Wo m a n o f S u b s t a n c e 2009 Athena Award nominees (l-r) Cindy Zumwalt, First American Bank; Anne Masters, Pioneer Library System; Karen Rieger, Crowe -- Dunlevy; Paula Price, Norman Regional Health System; Linda Terrell, Center for Children and Families; Pam Clinton, community volunteer; Cindy Merrick, Therapy In Motion; Robin Allen, Fancy That Cafe-Bakery-Takery; Doris Wedge, retired, Moore Norman Technology Center/The Norman Transcript; Maj. Gen. (ret.) OU; Sondra "Jennifer" Newell, Norman Police Department; Cara Ditto, retired from Moore Norman Technology Center; andJanice Gray, Gray, Blodgett -- Company, PLLC. Photo by Kevin Ellis www.silkthemagazine.com Frozen yogurt frenzy By Julianna Parker Jones The newest trend in frozen treats has landed in Norman and people are eating it up. Self-serve frozen yogurt shops have sprung up across the city in the past year and a half. The atmosphere is brightly colored and the stores tout the health benefits of their frozen goodness. The treat is a close cousin to ice cream, but tastes significantly different because of its origin. It includes live and active cultures just like the Yoplait version, but the frozen texture makes it feel a lot more like dessert. Those who take issue with the slimy feeling of yogurt will be able to take advantage of the health benefits of yogurt in a cool way. And those purported health benefits are extensive. Yogurt contains "good" bacteria, called probiotics, that refer to living organisms that can result in health benefits in one's digestive tract. It's also a dairy product, so it contains vitamins and calcium. Yogurt also can strengthen one's immune system. The frozen version found in shops is all low- or no-fat. It still contains sugar, but is lower in calories than ice cream. 10 The first frozen yogurt shop in Norman was Passionberri, 1204 N. Interstate Dr., which was opened in August 2008 by co-owners Michelle and James Wu. The shop has been a success, appealing to many families who live on the west side of Norman. In order to cater to the rest of Norman, Wu opened a store at 1236 Alameda St. in the fall. A third Passionberri opened on Campus Corner in December 2009. Several other frozen yogurt shops have opened since Passionberri was established. "It was just like what we expected," Wu said. "Because we are the first one and we know we wouldn't be the last one." She said she's not worried about the competition. "We think that we have good products and we have good location and good people who work here," Wu said. Passionberri had its first local competition starting in October with the opening of Orange Tree, a locally owned frozen yogurt chain at 1808 W. Lindsey St. Unlike Passionberri, which serves smoothies, gelato and crepes along with the fro yo, Orange Tree serves only frozen yogurt. Yummy Berry, a frozen yogurt and smoothie shop, will soon www.silkthemagazine.com OU students Kate Newman, left, and Hannah Landreth enjoy some frozen yogurt at Orange Tree Photo by Kevin Ellis open on Main Street southeast of Norman High School. Orange Tree co-owner and manager Wes Straehla said his shop has done well, but the self-serve frozen yogurt concept hasn't really struck the Midwest like it has on the coasts. The concept started in Korea and then became popular on the West Coast. He said in places like Los Angeles and San Francisco, "in a two-mile radius there will be 10 stores." The style is popular with women, Straehla said. "They're more health-conscious in their dessert selections." So why has self-serve frozen yogurt become so popular? "Because it's healthy and it's tasty," Wu explained. "Most of the healthy stuff is not tasty," she added. It's also a new texture than most people are used to. It's icier and tangier than ice cream, not as creamy. "People try it and they say, `Oh, this is different.' It's like yogurt," Wu said. Straehla said it's popular because the customer controls everything. "I think it's freedom," he said. "I can get as many flavors as I like. I can get as many toppings as I like." It's also faster that way, because customers aren't waiting on a few staff members to serve the ice cream, he said. Customers can get in and out with their treats quickly. "No one ever gets mad at my employees," Straehla said. "The only thing that's keeping them from getting out of here is the person in front of them or themselves." With about a dozen frozen yogurt flavors to choose from and even more toppings and sauces, it can be daunting picking a good combo. Here are some suggestions: � Orange Tree's most nutritious: Plain yogurt with blueberries and granola � Orange Tree's most delectable: Peanut butter and chocolate yogurt with gummy bears, chocolate chips and caramel sauce � Passionberri's favorite: Coconut yogurt with roasted coconut flakes � Passionberri's most creative: Citrus yogurt with Fruity Pebbles � Passionberri's most popular: Green tea or plain yogurt with mochi, a Japanese sweet rice cake Price Frozen yogurt is priced by the ounce. Customers grab a container and fill it with as much yogurt and toppings as they want. � Passionberri, 35 cents per ounce � Orange Tree, 36 cents per ounce www.silkthemagazine.com 11 Working it all out By Julianna Parker Jones Massage therapy is a growing field. Only a decade ago, massage wasn't very widely used in the United States. Now, there seem to be massage studios or day spas offering the service popping up all over town. So why have massages become so popular? Massage therapists say it's because massages are so beneficial. "It treats more than just a stiff neck," said Liz Young, Elements Therapeutic Massage manager. "It treats insomnia, high blood pressure, you name it." Kathy Morris, owner of Le Visage Day Spa, 3720 W. Robinson St., agreed in the power of the massage. "There are benefits, oh many, many, many definite benefits," she said. "Not just physical or physiological but also emotional and spiritual." Massage can help with a variety of health conditions, including improving the immune system, reducing muscle spasms and cramps, increasing flexibility, reducing recovering time for muscle strains and relieving pain throughout the body, according to information provided by Elements Therapeutic Massage, 1204 N. Interstate Dr. As a person is massaged, the body's fluids are pushed in and out of cells, improving circulation and flushing out toxins, Young said. "With that increased circulation, any other gross stuff will be flushed out as well," she said. That's why massage therapists recommend people drink lots of water after a massage to stay hydrated. Most people who come in for a massage are in it for tension relief, Young said. "It's people with tension and stress issues that manifest first in the neck and shoulder blades," she said. Young said she's seen people come in with pain and leave without it because of the soothing effects of a massage. But massage doesn't cure everything, she made sure to add. Many people come in for a massage because of stress or other pain and expect one massage to make everything better. "Any chronic problem that you have with your body is not going to be fixed magically with one massage," she said. 12 Regular massages should be combined with healthy diet and exercise for holistic health, she said. On the other hand, Young said some people don't think there are any real benefits from massage. "I think there's a lot of people that are skeptical of massage, and I would just encourage them to give it a try." Morris said there's a new generation in America that is more open to massages than in the past. "Younger people seem to be more receptive to massages," she said. The only impetus for that change that she can see is more people trying it. "I think that people started experiencing it, and experiencing the benefits of getting a massage, made it more mainstream," Morris said. Victoria Draper demonstrates massage at Le Visage Day Spa. Photos by Kevin Ellis So which kind of massage is best for you? � Swedish: a popular, pampering massage that uses lighter pressure and longer strokes � Deep tissue: a firmer pressure massage that focuses on specific muscles as the therapist searches out tension areas � Hot stones: The stones are usually lava rocks so they retain heat well. Used along with massage therapy, the prolonged heat makes muscles easier to work with. � Table top Thai massage: Involves stretching and manipulating the body to increase one's flexibility and reduce stress. It is done fully clothed. � Acupressure massage: uses trigger point therapy to release spasms or knots and open the body's chi points Sources: Liz Young, Elements Therapeutic Massage manager, and Kathy Morris, owner of Le Visage Day Spa www.silkthemagazine.com www.silkthemagazine.com www.silkthemagazine.com 13 13 Might as well put a ring on it By Nanette Light When a particularly loud rendition of Beyonce's "Single Ladies" sings from a woman's purse, it's hard to ignore the stares and giggles as she scrounges through her bag to silence the noise. Cell phones today are another accessory, and many owners are particularly choosy when it comes to selecting the ring tone, viewing it an outline of their personality. Silk tracked down several area celebrities to scope out what their phone sings when a call comes through. None, however, chose anything too risqu�, opting for a tune that won't make them blush if it rings in a meeting. � Congressman Tom Cole, R-Okla. -- Standard Cingular AT&T ring tone � Norman Mayor Cindy Rosenthal -- "Blues 12 Bar" ring for Palm Trio phone � Dr. Lynne Chesley, principal of Norman High School -- "Marimba" for the iPhone. "I don't want to do anything too loud like a Tina Turner. It would be pretty embarrassing if something like "What's Love Got to Do With It" went off during a meeting." � Deputy City Clerk Ellen Usry -- Blues for her husband and standard ring tone for everyone else. "It's really interesting when you look at the ring that goes off for some people. You're going, `You've got to be kidding me?'" � Lt. Gov. Jari Askins -- Has her phone set to vibrate � OU Women's Basketball Coach Sherrie Coale -- Has her phone set to the generic ring. � Designer Johnathan Kayne -- Various rings for people. "What a Wonderful World" is his standard tune. 14 www.silkthemagazine.com www.silkthemagazine.com 15 Walking in By Nanette Light The University of Oklahoma women's basketball team scores in baggy shorts and jerseys on the court. But in the stands, there's a group of women nixing the Nikes for runwayinspired footwear, as they size up opportunities for players so their shots sink when the clock stops. These women, the Sooner Stilettos, were rallied in 2003 by women's basketball coach Sherri Coale -- who's been known to sport Jimmy Choos along the sidelines during games -- to help her players design a life beyond basketball and laceup sneakers. While Coale pays homage to her players' towering talent on the hardwood, she knew they needed the support and guidance of women professionals and community leaders who understood the power of the high heel. "Though we already had a strong fan base, there was a fraction that was missing and that was the professional woman," Coale said. Judy Hatfield, co-president of the Stilettos and principal of Equity realty, said she remembers six years ago when her phone rang and Coale was on the other end, asking her to head up the operation. "We're the sassy side of the sport," Hatfield said. Marty Kavanaugh-Williams, management development consultant, also was passed the ball and serves as fellow co-president of the Stilettos. A handful of businesswomen met for a breakfast meeting, later sending out 500 invitation letters to professional women as well as community leaders to join the team. The roster of Stilettos includes many state celebrities like Oklahoma First Lady Kim Henry -- also known as the First Stiletto -- Lt. Gov. Jari Askins and Molly Shi Boren. "There are fewer women in professional athletics than there are men, so the likelihood of a career in sports after college is not great. Those who support student athletes know most of these women at some point will enter the workforce," said Askins, a charter member of the Stilettos and season ticket holder to the women's basketball games. "Whatever they choose, we have the opportunity to develop them to their fullest potential." Now touting a membership of 200, Hatfield said the only guideline for joining is completing the online application and $250 yearly donation, which goes toward funding one of the player's scholarships. "We're not just creating basketball players, we're developing the women of the future. We lead full lives, and it's fun to show we can do all that," Hatfield said, citing Coale's vision for these girls is to excel beyond the court. "Plus, we're putting butts in the seats." And Hatfield can rattle off a list of stories, which she did, about the players, some of who email her regularly like Leah Rush, who she www.silkthemagazine.com 16 their shoes describes as a bull in a china closet on the court, about her basketball career in Europe. Hatfield notes a particular e-mail from Rush saying she ate reindeer meat and laughs when she remembers the bike with snow tires the former OU ball player bought. Then there's Chelsea Welch, who Hatfield says is "one of her faves," who now plays basketball in Costa Rica. Hatfield regularly scrolls through Facebook photos of her surfing in the tropics. "I've become a part of their lives now. I mean, we've become buds," she said, adding that she's been a guest at some of their weddings. Hatfield still remembers when she met Abi Olajuwon, citing her "cute" yellow-painted toenails and the 4-inch heels that heightened her 6-foot-4 frame. "She didn't care how tall she was, she was going to look good. I just really appreciated her positive attitude," she said. While not all the coaches wear the stilettos like Coale, the Athletic Department encompasses all girl sports when it hosts "Have Your Cake and Eat it, Too," where industry professionals and community leaders speak to girls about their backgrounds and career road maps. Askins speaks to girls who have an interest in law school or public service and Hatfield has slotted several of the players with internships at Equity Realty. "They're a really fun group of women," said Carolyn Winchester, a former OU women's basketball player, several times after the 2009 Basketball Coaches Luncheon, where she sat at Hatfield's table. Marty Ferretti, Stiletto member and director of the Department of Rehabilitation Sciences at the OU Health Science Center, said her background as a basketball player and support for the team, since Coale took the reins, made the Stilettos a perfect fit. She said the Stilettos represent the image Coale wants her players to become: well-groomed, articulate and selfassured. Ferretti said she's mentored several former ball players who decided to enter OU's physical therapy program like Erin Higgins. "The list could go on and on," said Coale, as she www.silkthemagazine.com briskly listed players like Higgins and Rush, whose career doors were opened with the help of Stilettos. "We all need support, whether we're old or young, It's just a deal where it gives me great joy," Hatfield said. "If you think you can touch a person's life positively, then why not?" Now about those power shoes: Do the Stiletto women wear them to the games, too? "Sometimes," Askins said. Photo by Nanette Light Coach Coale and Judy Hatfield, driving forces behind the Sooner Stilettos. www.silkthemagazine.com 18 www.silkthemagazine.com Snacking wise By Shana Adkisson So you ate too much during the holidays. It happens to the best the Christmas parties and cocktails on New Year's Eve. of us. It's a new year now and it's time to focus on getting out of But slimming down shouldn't leave you hungry. Here are a few those elastic-waist pants and into the jeans you wore before the calorie conscious snacks that should leave you feeling satisfied Halloween candy, before the Thanksgiving feast and way before and have you back in your skinny jeans in no time. 1/4 cup hummus with carrot sticks (80 calories) 2 tbsp peanut butter, 4 stalks celery (124 calories) 1 oz. of pretzels (110 calories) 1 bag Baked! Cheetos (100 calories) 10 almonds (100 calories) 100 Calorie package of Keebler Sandies 1/2 banana rolled in 1 tbsp frozen semisweet chocolate chips (123 calories) www.silkthemagazine.com 19 Here come the changes By Julianna Parker Jones Flowers, cakes and dresses -- only a few of the items brides must decide on when planning a wedding. And just because their mothers chose lilies, a five-layer white cake and a long dress doesn't mean that today's brides will make the same choices. Fashions come and go, and the same is true with weddings styles. Wedding planner Lindsay Gibson, owner of Gibson Events, said perhaps the most obvious wedding trend that changes with styles is the wedding dress. But the trends of other wedding details can change in the same drastic way, Gibson said. For one, she points to "the rise and fall of the chocolate fountain." At one point, entire companies were started with the only aim of providing chocolate fountains for events. Now, that's mostly pass� at receptions. As an entity, weddings are getting much more personalized, Gibson said. "People are really taking the time to think about what their wedding 20 Photos provided means," she said. Jordan Johnston, manager at Thunderbird Chapel, 11395 E. State Highway 9, said that brides are choosing a mix of traditional elements and more adventurous. She said last year nearly every engaged couple wanted to stay clear of anything their parents had done. This year, she said couples were steering back into traditional territory. In 2010, local wedding planners predict these trends: � Dessert: Gibson said she's seeing more cupcakes and dessert buffets take the place of traditional wedding cakes. � Favors: Couples are shying away from wedding favors just for the sake of favors, Gibson said. She's seen a lot of candy buffets that guests can take as a favor, as well as meaningful favors that relate to the wedding or the couple personally, but www.silkthemagazine.com she said more couples are choosing not to have any, in place of something insignificant. � Ideas: Women still get ideas for their weddings from friends and magazines, but they're seeking out trends through other means as well. "Everybody brings in pictures they've printed off Web sites," Gibson said. Johnston said many brides are getting ideas from reality TV shows about weddings. � Invitations: Letter press, a precursor to engraving, is everywhere, Gibson said. "It's beautiful," she said. "It's a very old way of printing." � Venue: "The recession is finally catching up with us," Johnston said. She's had several brides cancel their reservations at the chapel in favor of free or much cheaper locations. Many couples are choosing to be married in their home or that of the bride's parents, which, in addition to being cheap� Photography: Engaged couples are choosing a different style er, also makes the day more personal. of photography from the past, leaning toward a more photojournalistic style, Gibson said. "They really want pictures that How to save money on a dream wedding are more emotive than standing up in the front of the church There are a number of ways to stay within budget, Gibson with your bouquet," she said. Another difference is that more said. "The first is cut the guest list, and the second is brunch and more couples are seeing each other before the ceremony weddings," she said. At a brunch, food is cheaper, and the to get their photos out of the way, she said. liquor bill will be lower as well, she said. Johnston recommends doing anything you can yourself to save money. Try � Hair and make-up: No more tendrils, Gibson said. Natural ordering your flowers from Sam's and arranging them yourhair and make-up is becoming popular. "You really want to self, she said. "Start planning early so that you can do it yourlook like the best version of yourself on any other day," self," she said. Gibson said. Fall weddings in Norman � Colors: "This year was the year of the purple wedding," An added concern for those getting married in Norman is Gibson said of 2009. She doesn't see any one color making as Sooner football. Gibson said every fall there are a lot of weddramatic of a splash in 2010, but recommends brides take dings on bye weeks, a few on away games and almost none on their color cues from the venue and the season. Johnston said home football game days. this year she's seeing a lot of weddings with tropical colors, including yellows, greens and aquamarines. www.silkthemagazine.com 21 To advertise call Cathy Hanselman @ 366-3563 22 IMAGES Woven In Silk Photos by Cathy Hanselman Do you have a picture of a glorious Oklahoma sunset? How about a flower that is in beautiful bloom in your yard? Why not share your picture with Silk? Send your 8X10 (2400 X 3000 pixel) photo to firstname.lastname@example.org for future publication. Please include your name, location of photo and a brief story about the location. If you would like to mail the photo send it to P.O. Drawer 1058, Norman, OK 73070, Attention Silk editor. If you would like your photo mailed back please include a self address stamped envelope. www.silkthemagazine.com 23 Ask A Man By Michael Kinney Question: Do you have any suggestions on what to give the man in my life for Valentine's Day? I'm looking for something that doesn't cost a lot of money but will still be something he enjoys. Answer: With the economy the way it is, finding a gift that is reasonably priced, yet still meaningful, is paramount. So here are a few ideas that should excite your fella, but not break the bank. 6. Create a Website about him. You can purchase a domain name for less than $3 on most sites like Yahoo and you can name it after your husband. You can post photos of him, stories about his favorite teams and hobbies. Then make him personal business cards that have his domain name printed on them that he can hand out to his friends. Cost: While this may take time to put together, it will cost less than $15 and it's something he can manage himself for years. 5. Two things men love are sports and grilling. Why not combine them with a football shaped slow cooker? It can be used to heat up huge pots of chili, cheese for nachos and pasta while watching football throughout a lazy Sunday afternoon. Cost: Around $20. 4. If your husband or boyfriend is really into college sports, go to Guyville.com and get him an 11" x 14" poster of his favorite team. He can hang it in the house, at his office or carry it with him for whenever he watches his team play at friend's houses. It's the perfect gift for those who really want you to know how big of a fan they are. The following teams are available: Florida State Seminoles, Texas Longhorns, Alabama Crimson Tide, Auburn Tigers, Georgia Bulldogs, Iowa Hawkeyes, LSU Tigers, Michigan State Spartans, Michigan Wolverines, Notre Dame Fighting Irish, Ohio State Buckeyes and Oklahoma State Cowboys. Cost: $49. 3. While most men do not like to cook, there is one dish they all seem to have mastered. That is the grilled cheese sandwich. With the book "Great Grilled Cheese," they can compare their own recipes to others from around the world. And maybe learn a new trick or two on how to make the perfect grilled cheese sandwich. Cost: $16.95 at local bookstores. 2. If the man in your life is a frequent traveler, set him up in style. Sign him up at TheRoomservice.com for a gift card and they will deliver fine dining and groceries to his hotel room for a small fee when he is on the road. Cost: $9.95 minimum order. 1. In 1979 one of the greatest guy movies ever made was introduced to the world. It was called "The Warriors." The cult classic follows the Warriors, a Coney Island gang falsely accused of killing the messianic leader of a city-wide peace summit to unite the warring factions, as they make their way through 28 miles of enemy territory with 100,000 rival gang members and 20,000 cops after them. Cost: $11.99 on DVD or download it to his iPod for $2.99, www.moviepro.net/download-the-warriors-movie.html. Pick out one or two of these gift ideas and you should have a pretty good Valentine's Day. Be My Valentine Walk a mile (or 13.1) in my shoes. . . By Marise Boehs Coming from a family that has struggled with weight issues for generations I have always wanted to not be old and fat. While I can't do anything about getting old I have proven I don't have to be overweight. In 2000-01 I lost 55 pounds, reached my goal and became a Lifetime Member of Weight Watchers. However, having reached that goal, I began to lighten up on my "program" and have consequently regained some weight. I am now 15 pounds over my goal and for the past several years have been unable to get motivated to lose it. Several years ago I trained for and walked a half marathon but my weight didn't budge. I painfully lugged the extra pounds around the course. This spring, having just turned 61, I am going to walk the half marathon again. But this time I am committed to losing the extra weight as well. To help me with weight loss I have enlisted the help of Ladies Workout Express. I also will be doing a blog on www.silkthemagazine.com and invite any of you to join me in this endeavor. Follow the blog and help me stay honest. If you are training or planning to walk in the marathon in April or are working toward a weight loss goal, please share your experiences with us. Quick Facts: Training Schedule for Marathon: 14 week plan at w ww.marathonwalking.com/schedule_half.html Distance for Half Marathon: 13.1 miles Date of Marathon: Sunday, April 25, 2010 (www.okcmarathon.com) Weight Loss Program: Weight Watchers Strength & Cardio: Ladies Workout Express, 522 N. Porter, Norman Blog: www.silkthemagazine.com 24 www.silkthemagazine.com Covered in Assistance League � Norman Chamber of Commerce � East Main Place Silk Chamber of Commerce Fall Arts Luncheon "Old Towne Plaza" Photos by Jerry Laizure Rick Fry (left) executive director of the Norman Arts Council, presents Cafe Plaid owner Ferrell Droke with the 2009 Norman Chamber of Commerce Fall Business Arts Award. Rick Fry presents Jaci Williams the 2009 Norman Chamber of Commerce Fall Business Arts Award. Lisa O'Donnell, co-chair of the Norman Chamber of Commerce Business and Arts Committee, announces the 2009 Neighbors of the Arts Awards. The Norman Chamber of Commerce presented its annual Neighbor of the Arts Awards to (top row, from left) Robert Ferrier(accepting for his wife, Marsha); Rick Fry, executive director of the Norman Arts Council; (front row, from left) Don Sherman, McClain Bank; Mark Krittenbrink, Krittenbrink and Associates Arcihtects; and John Marsh, engineer. www.silkthemagazine.com 24 East Main Place 4th Annual Fundraiser "Benvenutis" Photos by Jerry Laizure East Main Place client Kristen Mayfield talks about her life during the 4th annual East Main Place fundraiser. East Main Place executive director Christy Blair updates donors and supporters during the facility's 4th annual fundraiser. Beth Pepper, Nicki Kraisky, Shelly Wilson and Ken Kraisky Shelly Wilson and Hal Smith Gov. Brad Henry and first lady Kim, with Deidre Claunch, from Top of the World caps, (left) and a group of TOW's Korean suppliers. www.silkthemagazine.com 27 Assistance League Gala "Embassy Suites of Norman" Photos by Kevin Ellis Debbie Bower, Corissa Madison and Audrey Walker Pat Allen, left, Brenda and Joel Bruner Sandy Foster, left, and Judy Grillot Trey Bates, left, Tracy and Gene McKown 28 www.silkthemagazine.com Richard and Lesa Mulligan, and Zach Allen Larry & Debby Burns Bob & Susan Aikman, and Janet & John Johnson Left to right: Marjorie Roane, Amelia Andre, Judy Johnson and Dore Hill www.silkthemagazine.com 29 Chamber of Commerce Athena Award Circle of Wisdom Inductees "Fred Jones Museum of Art" Photos by Kevin Ellis Jennifer Newell Tish Marek Pam Clinton 30 Paula Price www.silkthemagazine.com