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A Special Section of The Rivertowns Enterprise August 24, 2012 Page 2A/The Rivertowns Enterprise Back to School Friday, August 24, 2012 ScHOOl cAleNDArS HAStiNgS 2012-2013 DObbS Ferry 2012-2013 ArDSley 2012-2013 irviNgtON 2012-2013 September 4 School Opens 17-18 Rosh Hashanah Schools closed 26 Yom Kippur Schools closed September 4 First Day of School 17-18 Rosh Hashanah Schools closed 26 Yom Kippur Schools closed September 4 First Day of School 17-18 Rosh Hashanah Schools closed 26 Yom Kippur Schools closed September 5 School Opens 17-18 Rosh Hashanah Schools closed 26 Yom Kippur Schools closed October 8 17 12 Columbus Day Schools closed Early Dismissal October 8 Columbus Day Schools closed October 8 Columbus Day Schools closed October 8 9 Columbus Day Schools closed Superintendent's Day Schools closed November Veteran's Day Schools closed 21 Early Dismissal Drill District Wide 22-23 Thanksgiving Recess Schools closed November 6 Superintendent's Conference Day Schools closed 12 Veteran's Day Schools closed 22-23 Thanksgiving Recess Schools closed November 12 Veteran's Day Schools closed 21 Superintendent's Conference Day Schools closed 22-23 Thanksgiving Recess Schools closed November 12 Veteran's Day Schools closed 21 Early Dismissal 22-23 Thanksgiving Recess Schools closed December 24-31 Winter Recess Schools closed December 21 Early Dismissal 24-31 Holiday Recess Schools closed December 24-31 Holiday Recess Schools closed December 24-31 Holiday Recess Schools closed January 1 2 21 New Year's Day Schools closed Schools Re-Open Martin Luther King, Jr. Day Schools closed January 1 21 New Year's Day Schools closed Martin Luther King Day Schools closed January 1 21 New Year's Day Schools closed Martin Luther King Day Schools closed January 1 21 New Year's Day Schools closed Martin Luther King Day Schools closed February 6 Early Dismissal Day 18-22 Mid-Winter Recess Schools closed February 18-22 Winter Break Schools closed February 18-22 Winter Break Schools closed February 18-22 Mid-Winter Recess Schools closed March 25-29 Spring Recess-Schools closed March 25-29 Spring Recess Schools closed March 25-29 Spring Break Schools closed March 25-29 Spring Break Schools closed April 1 Superintendent's Conference Day Schools closed Memorial Day Schools closed Last Day of School April 17 Early Dismissal Memorial Day Schools closed Last Day of School May 27 Memorial Day Schools closed May 27 Memorial Day Schools closed May 27 May 27 June 21 Last Day of School June 21 Last Day of School June 21 June 21 *Houlihan Lawrence and the Rivertowns Enterprise are not responsible for any errors to these calendars. TRUST. INTEGRITY. FOR OVER 100 YEARS. THE AREA'S MARKET LEADER. The Rivertowns Enterprise Back to School Friday, August 24, 2012/ Page 3A A SpeciAl Section of The Rivertowns Enterprise AuguSt 24, 2012 Back to School 4A Learning locally: History lessons in your own backyard 4A 6A Family TV fare: Is wholesome content still on the viewing menu? 9A Kids bullying adults? What to do, why it happens 11AGetting ready for the college visit A special section of The Rivertowns Enterprise 95 Main Street Dobbs Ferry, NY 10522 (914) 478-2787 PUBLISHER Deborah G. White SECTION EDITOR Todd Sliss ART DIRECTOR Ann Marie Rezen ADVERTISING DESIGN Kathy Patti ADVERTISING SALES Marilyn Petrosa, Thomas O'Halloran, Barbara Yeaker and Francesca Lynch � 2012 W.H. White Publications, Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part is forbidden without the Publisher's written permission. 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Sunnyside in Tarrytown, N.Y. was the home of famed 19th century "Legend of Sleepy Hollow" and "Rip Van Winkle" author Washington Irving. ducational outings can be fun for families (yes, really!) if you match the trip with the age of the kids, with what they're studying in school or with some special interest. History can come alive with a visit to a 200-yearold house, a working farm, a famous battleground or a local museum. Residents of Westchester and environs are lucky to find dozens of historic and educational sites nearby, some close to home, others within a drive of a few hours or less. Many of these attractions are perfect for families, offering tours, hands-on activities and special events. Here are some of our favorites: At the Hudson River Museum in Yonkers, art lovers enjoy the changing schedule of exhibits in the modern galleries overlooking the Palisades. But kids of all ages love to return again and again to the original part of the museum, the fascinating Victorianera mansion called "Glenview." Formerly the home of the Trevor family, the SecondEmpire style house has been meticulously restored to give visitors a sense of what life was like in the late 1800s. A perennial favorite with kids is the giant Victorian-style dollhouse, based on a composite of actual Second-Empire style mansions that were favored by wealthy merchants living along the Hudson. The dollhouse has real slate roofs, reproduction furniture, a haunted attic, and a doll family involved in a romantic adventure. While you're in Yonkers, check out the Phillipse Manor State Historic Site, originally the home of Frederick Phillipse III, Lord of the Manor of Phillipsburg. Phillipse was a Loyalist who remained faithful to King George III during the Revolutionary War. He was arrested by George Washington and, after the war, his property was confiscated by New York State and sold at auction. Today, the manor house is a museum of history, art and architecture. A few miles up the Hudson River in Continued on the next page In Tarrytown, N.Y., the gothic Lyndhurst "castle" was home to 19th century railroad tycoon Jay Gould. The Husdon River Museum in Yonkers, N.Y. features hands-on exhibits and learning for all ages. John Jay Homstead in Katonah features interactive exhibits and activities including a teaching garden. Bronze sculpture in the garden of the FDR Presidential Library and Museum in Hyde Park, N.Y. The Rivertowns Enterprise Continued from the previous page Back to School Friday, August 24, 2012/ Page 5A Sleepy Hollow is Philipsburg Manor, a completely different site with a different story. This attraction is a recreation of colonial life in the mid-1750s, when the Philipses, a family of Anglo-Dutch merchants, operated a farm, mill and trading center here, with the help of 23 enslaved Africans. Today, costumed guides are on hand as visitors tour the 300-year-old manor house, walk through the working gristmill operated by "Caesar," the enslaved African miller, and visit the wharf where "Dimond," an enslaved riverboat pilot, carried goods up and down the Hudson. Kids can enjoy hands-on activities: thresh some wheat, shell some beans, work flax into linen, and make some biscuits. It's easy to make a day of it at Philipsburg Manor alone, but families with a lot of energy can double up on their touring with an additional visit to Kykuit, the Rockefeller estate where Standard Oil founder John D. Rockefeller and his descendants, through the era of Gov. Nelson Rockefeller, lived in palatial luxury in an art-filled mansion with formal gardens and panoramic Hudson views. Visitors to Kykuit are required to park at Philipsburg Manor and buy Kykuit tickets in the welcome center there, then go by jitney bus up to Kykuit. The mansion itself is impressive, but probably more interesting for older kids. However, the stone Coach Barn, filled with antique carriages and cars, is fascinating for all ages. Also in Sleepy Hollow is Washington Irving's Sunnyside, home of the creator of Rip Van Winkle, Ichabod Crane and the Headless Horseman. The romantic landscape and the beautiful riverside house, which Irving expanded from a small cottage starting in 1835, are beautiful places just to walk around, or to take a tour from a costumed guide. There are also beautiful picnic spots. Don't miss Children's Book Day, a special event on Sept. 15. A short hop down Route 9 in Tarrytown is Lyndhurst, the Gothic "castle" built in 1838. Lyndhurst was home to politicians and merchants throughout the 19th century; railroad tycoon Jay Gould was probably the most famous resident. The house can be visited by guided tour only. The grounds are beautiful for exploring or picnicking; dogs must be kept on-leash. On Sept. 21-23, the grounds of Lyndhurst are given over to family fun as the site hosts its annual crafts fair. Hundreds of crafts artists are here displaying and selling their wares. There are food vendors, music and activities for kids. Come early for the best parking. If your family is interested in organic farming, fall is a great time to visit the Stone Barns Center for Food and Agriculture a few miles north in Pocantico Hills. Visitors to this real, working farm can get up close and personal with a variety of farm animals, help collect eggs from some of the free-ranging hens, and learn how food is grown the natural way. The Harvest Fest on Oct. 6 includes music, a farmers market, farm demonstrations, workshops for adults and children, and visits by food experts. If you're interested in farming the oldfashioned way, pay a visit to the John Jay Homestead in Katonah. John Jay was one of the Founding Fathers, serving as president of the second Continental Congress and as a foreign minister and negotiator during the Revolution. After the Revolution, he was the nation's first Chief Justice of the Supreme Court. Today, Jay's family home sits on a Continued on page 14A It's time to burn off the summer calories! Choose 4 classes for only $39 from any of these Programs: Yoga ~ Zumba ~ Walking Workout This offer is only available to new clients! Limit of one package per person. Offer ends September 30th. Come experience the "MORE" at Pilates & More! 129 Main Street, Dobbs Ferry, NY 10522 914-478-3560 www.pilatesandmorestudio.com email@example.com Now accepting Visa, MasterCard and Discover! Like us on FaceBook for special offers! Bauer Optical Eye Care Don't look at it as the summer being over; Rather, you go back one year closer to graduation. 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When my own kids said goodbye to "Sesame Street," Mr. Rogers and the "Electric Company," they graduated to shows targeted at families with older young kids. Back in the day, there was plenty of appropriate familyfriendly TV shows for all of us to watch, shows I didn't have to worry would be filled with foul language or adult themes. We moved into the era of the adorable Olsen twins on "Full House" and the fictional, ultra-nerdy Steve Urkel on "Family Matters." And, of course, who could forget know-it-all Alex Keaton played by Michael J. Fox on "Family Ties"? And let's not forget "Seventh Heaven" and the wholesome "Partridge Family" from back in the day. Those days may long be gone, but there are still some family shows to watch together in 2012. Maybe not just the variety and quantity of the shows that existed back in the '70s, '80s and '90s and even as recently as a decade ago -- although you can still find plenty of these old school shows on cable TV. If you can tear your kids away from their handheld devices, computers and cell phones -- which can all be a challenge for parents -- and set aside a specific time for family viewing, you might just find there are still some interesting, appropriate and fun shows you can all enjoy, especially with the help of cable TV, DVRs, Family TV fare DVDs and on-demand programming, which has made family TV time certainly much easier. I By LAURIE SULLIVAN Thumbs up for TV Scarsdale's Julie Gerstenblatt, who writes the column "On The Verge" for The Scarsdale Inquirer, recently published a "humorous novel" titled "Lauren Takes Leave." Gerstenblatt is the mother of a 7-year-old daughter and 10-year-old son and monitors what her kids watch "once they've finished their work," much the same way she was raised. She explained that there are TV shows she approves of that she lets them watch "while I'm cleaning up the kitchen." One of these shows called "Victorious " is described on the Nick/Nickelodeon website: "[the show] follows the journey of Tori Vega, a 15-yearold" who escapes the shadow of her talented singer/performer older sister, who discovers her own star power. Gerstenblatt also allows her daughter to view anything on Nick Toons, which is on cable. "One of the good things about recording a show first is that they can do all their work and we can schedule a time where we sit down together to watch together," Gerstenblatt said. She and her children generally watch TV together about three times a week. She gets recommendations from friends on shows to watch and doesn't prescreen the shows, but feels that some shows are too sophisticated for her kids, including shows like "Modern Family." Gerstenblatt said the closest show to old school family-friendly shows is called "Good Luck Charlie" on the Disney channel that they watch together. She described it as a "wholesome show about a family." "Charlie" is the nickname for Charlotte, the youngest of four Duncan kids, who is about 2 or 3 years old. Older sister Teddy tries to show Charlie what she might go through when she is older by making video diaries for future reference. At the end of each video Teddy or another family member always says, "Good luck, Charlie." On one of the last episodes of the show that Gerstenblatt's son watched before leaving for camp for the summer, it was announced that a new baby was expected. He made his mom promise to let him know whether the baby would be a boy or a girl. "The show really captures them," Gerstenblatt said. "It's very `Full House'-ish -- there's still humor and the family really works together and they're very close. The teenage boy works at some food place and you learn about work ethics. It's about family dynamics." She added, "Everyone I know watches reality competition shows." Gerstenblatt and her son watch "Chopped." "At the end of each show you've seen people work really hard and you've seen a winner," she said. "I think it's an OK way to watch [TV] with your kids." After her daughter goes to sleep, she and her son watch something educational. "I don't think she could sit through an hour of something, [although] she has watched the Food Network's `Diners, Drive-ins and Dives.'" Her kids are now watching a "new or newish" show from Australia called H20 about three mermaids in "either middle or high school" who keep their mermaid identities hidden from everyone except one friend. Gerstenblatt said her friend's daughters who are aged 7-11 like it. Once her kids are off to sleep, it's Mommy time, when Gerstenblatt gets to watch her shows that she's previously recorded on DVR. When asked what parameters she uses to decide what shows are age appropriate for her children, she said, "I think it has to do with the channel it's on. Nickelodeon and Disney [are appropriate]... most of those history shows, as long as they're not bloody, I think are interesting." She stressed that she will never let them have a TV or computer in their room. They have a laptop that can move around. "By setting those parameters, I'm in control," she said. "I Like TV," Gerstenblatt concluded. "It's a nice mental break, especially since kids are so overscheduled, especially in the winter." Thumbs down from watchdog According to the nonprofit Parents Television Council's website, PTC uses a simple traffic light guide to rate the 90-plus shows on the five TV networks (NBC, CBS, FOX, ABC and CW) that it tracks in prime time now being shown in the 8-11 p.m. slots. Only one show has been given its "green light" seal of approval: "Extreme Makeover: Home Edition." In a typical weekly TV lineup that PTC rated, 22 shows were given a yellow designation, indicating shows that contain adult-oriented themes and may be inappropriate for children. Red lights are shows it deems as having gratuitous sex, explicit dialogue, violent content or obscene language and are unsuitable for children. Continued on the next page The Rivertowns Enterprise Continued from the previous page Back to School Friday, August 24, 2012/ Page 7A PTC's Melissa Henson said the stoplight guide is intended for kids in "grade school and older." Its Family Guide for Primetime TV profiles every sitcom and drama on the five networks. Henson said the PTC doesn't have the resources to monitor cable TV. In addition to ratings, the PTC, a grassroots organization established in 1995, also pressures TV networks to show more family-oriented shows, but Henson said networks want to make the shows more edgy, more like cable TV. "But my argument is that cable only accounts for a fraction of the viewers," she said. When asked where the PTC draws the line between green and yellow ratings, Henson said it applied to "anybody that is in grade school or older." The PTC criteria includes the "frequency of violence, profane language, pro-social content, not just inappropriate content." In response to whether there are any family-friendly TV shows, Henson said, "The picture is fairly bleak right now on network TV during prime time." She continued: "There isn't a whole lot left on network TV, except for game shows and competitions. You take a program like `American Idol.' We encourage people to steer away from the early stages of the show and encourage people to watch the later stages after the final selections are made." The same holds true for "America's Got Talent." "Once they narrow down to the final contestants, then it becomes a much more suitable environment for families to watch," said Henson, noting that these shows are appropriate for ages 10 and up. Henson lamented that "as recently as just a few years ago they were offering `The Wonderful World of Disney,'" which is now only available on cable. Henson, who has been with the PTC for 15 of its 17 years, said there has been a dramatic shift in TV programming over the last 10 years. "It's not that our standards have changed. It's the networks that have," she said. "There are a handful of cable shows ... with more original TV programs and reruns of `Early Edition.' It's more family programming." So does she have any hope for the future of the TV networks offering family shows? Despite the fact that Hollywood has a history of governing itself for family shows, Henson said she believes that "under the right circumstance, programs [like `Full House,' `The Cosby Show'] ... could come back." Henson said, "We need someone who wants to bring back the Golden Age of TV, like a Grant Tinker." Till that time comes, she noted, "Parents have to decide what's appropriate for their kids." Educational fare: a bright light Lynn Kestin Sessler is senior producer of digital media for Random House Children's Books and works on the website for "The Cat in the Hat Knows a Lot About That" -- the very same cat from the Dr. Seuss book series published by Random House. She described the show as an educational program shown on PBS and geared for younger viewers (ages 2-6). The program, which recently won a Parents' Choice Award, features the perennial Cat and his pals Sally and Nick as they explore the world of science. 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Page 8A/The Rivertowns Enterprise Back to School Friday, August 24, 2012 The Rivertowns Enterprise Back to School Friday, August 24, 2012/ Page 9A Kids bullying adults? What to do, why it happens By EVE MARX B y now you've heard of or seen the video of the young male adolescents on a school bus who bullied their bus monitor. It's painful to watch. Three or four boys, aggressive, bold, and completely confident, for over nine minutes harass, insult and verbally abuse an older woman whose job was to keep order on the bus. Before the video is over, the woman is in tears. While many articles have been published about bullying, most people associate bullying with children and adolescents bullying other kids. Not much is known or talked about children who bully grown-ups. Is this a new phenomenon? And what can be done about it? Dr. Jill Silverman is a Ph.D. clinical health psychologist in Greenwich whose practice focuses on adults and adolescents. She said that the incidence of children who bully adults is underreported. "Typically more teenagers bully adults than young adolescents," Dr. Silverman said. She did not see the bus monitor bullying video, but knew about it. "Those children were young adolescents, not teens," she said. "And that made it somewhat unusual." Silverman said that if a parent suspects a child of bullying anyone, whether it's another child or an adult, the first thing the parent must do is not respond aggressively. Aggression only leads to more aggression. "If you find out that your child has been involved in or is witnessing an ongoing bullying situation, you must remove the child from the aggressive situation," she said. In the case of younger teens or children, the parents should use this time as an opportunity for education. "Older kids know differently and have different capacities," Silverman said. She said that in the case of an older child known to be engaging in bullying behavior, the parents must take whatever action is needed to put an end to the behavior, even if it means calling on the authorities. "But first you have to be able to re-establish yourself as a parent," she said. Silverman said it is typical, normal teen behavior to push limits. At the same time, she said parents are often very resistant to hearing that their child has pushed too far. "A parent's gut response is to protect their kid and keep them from getting in trou- ble," she said. "But a bullying child is going to push that parent, and if the parent does not do something to stop the bullying, the parent will lose confidence and control." She said the current literature on bullying says that bullying can be a learned behavior; it can grow out of the child's environment; it can be an outgrowth of a kid becoming involved with alcohol and drugs. Some youthful bullies suffer from emotional problems that cause them to become bullies. She said that when kids bully adults, including their own parents, the bullying itself can be physical, emotional, even financial. Some ways parents can interfere with or prevent bullying is to be more present at their child's school. The school environment, Silverman said, is the most common place where bullying happens: "If you can't be around and your child tells you that he or she is witnessing bullying, talk to your child about the importance of getting an adult who can help right away. Speak to the school about any incidents." In other words, teach your children that if they see something, they need to say something. Some children, Silverman said, have never learned how to "temper their aggression." "Learning how to temper one's aggression is an issue of social preparedness," she said. A person does not have to be the victim of a bully to be traumatized. Merely witnessing an incident of bullying can be traumatizing. Continued on page 10A We're a Family Friendly Children's Center We encourage you to visit. Please call to make an appointment. � 18-month to 5-year old children � Certified, experienced staff � Large, enclosed playgrounds � Nutritional snacks, hot lunches � 7:15 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. - all year long � Developmental program includes: whole language, art, music, science, nature � Learn more about us by visiting http://www.cbcc.org Creative Beginnings Children's Centers 112 W. Hartsdale Ave., Hartsdale, NY 10530 (914) 428-1200 Page 10A/The Rivertowns Enterprise Back to School It's now known that girls are just as likely now to be bullies as are boys. Girls tend to use different methods. "Girl bullies are likely to be social bullies," Thompson said. "They use social exclusion and humiliation as their tools, although some girl bullies use physical and verbal aggression as well." All children, Thompson said, need positive reinforcement to overcome any tendencies they might have to be bullies. Bullying a bullying child won't work. Giving the child models of respectful behavior will. Watching popular shows and films with your child and discussing the themes provides a teaching opportunity to talk about bullying. "You can talk about how everyone is laughing, but how the bullied victim feels," she said. Empathy for others, not abasement or ridicule, is an important learned behavior that parents must instill in their children. Commenting on the school bus video, Jim Chillemi, owner and director of New York Goju Karate in Hastings-on-Hudson, immediately asked what were the qualifications and training for the bus monitor. It's not a bad question. "How could that school district send that woman into that job without giving her some training?" Chillemi said. "The aftermath of not training someone you've hired to chaperone children is evident in that video. I'm sure their hall monitors are trained. There has to be some awareness on the part of that school board and district of what could happen on a bus." Chillemi is an advocate of zero tolerance for children who bully or abuse. "Those children need to know that kind of behavior can't and won't be tolerated and that Friday, August 24, 2012 Bullying adults Continued from page 9A Silverman said that bullying almost always comes out of someone's desperate need. "That need might be for group identification, or money, or drugs, or the bully already feels out of control and is hoping for someone else to step in to control a situation," she said. Bullying can be a cry for help. What are the signs that your child might be a bully? Silverman suggests if your child exhibits extensive oppositional behavior, is threatening, uses intimidation to get their way, has physical or emotional outbursts that are repeated or is a cyberbully, it's time to seek professional help to counter the behavior. "If your child sends anyone, including yourself, bullying texts, intentionally destroys your property, is using drugs or alcohol in the house, these are all problem signs," she said. "Children who make fun of their parents in front of other people. Using credit cards without permission. Threatening siblings or pets in the household. This kind of behavior has to be addressed as bullying." Beth Thompson, LCSW-R, and program director for the Joe Torre Safe At Home Margaret's Place Program under the auspices of Westchester Jewish Community Services in Hartsdale, said that models of disrespect abound for teens and adolescents who use these models as a bar for acceptable behavior. Many popular TV shows and movies geared toward a young audience portray disrespectful, even humiliating behavior as funny. "People laugh when someone in a TV show or a film is There's all kinds of abuse, and abuse and bullying are a way of gaining and securing power. It's important to teach kids how to be assertive about getting their needs met without being disrespectful." � Beth Thompson, LCSW-R being humiliated or bullied," Thompson said. "There's a mass approval for unacceptable behavior." Thompson said that every youngster needs to be taught positive ways to handle disappointments and aggression. "Kids who are already stressed by what life has dealt them, be it their parent is unemployed, there could be a death in the family, a downsizing move, financial difficulties, these kids are more at risk to use aggression as a way of getting what they want or to feel better," Thompson said. "There's all kinds of abuse, and abuse and bullying are a way of gaining and securing power. It's important to teach kids how to be assertive about getting their needs met without being disrespectful." the consequences will be severe," he said. "Adults in that kind of situation have to be protected." As a way of directly addressing the bullying issue, Chillemi, or Shihan Chillemi as he is known at his dojo, is offering a special seminar on bullying at his New York Goju Karate school. The seminar will take place on Sept. 8. "A lot of us don't understand bullying," he said. "I have case studies of it at my school. I've been doing this for many years and I've seen all kinds of bullying." Chillemi said he wondered how many times that bus monitor kept quiet and did nothing and let those children bully her. "How many times did that woman say nothing until those kids felt they could get away with anything?" he said. He said that when he talks to young students about bullying, he often talks to their parents, too. "Parents of a bully have to ask themselves, are they being bullied by someone at home? Are they being bullied by a domestic partner -- or are they the bully themselves?" Bullying behavior, he said, is often learned at home. Karate and martial arts, he said, are useful tools for teaching children about character: "I only have high character kids in my program. Character is part of what we teach here." Karate can be a weapon, Chillemi said, but it can be the kind of weapon that helps keep us safe. "America has nuclear weapons so we don't have to use them," Chillemi said. "Martial arts gives you the confidence to learn to protect yourself so you never have to." 10% off One Stop Shopping for Your School Books Signed local author books www.galapagosbooks.com Gal�pagos Books Trusted by people in the community for over three years we have seen almost 20,000 patients. Established � Professional � Reliable WALK-IN FOR SCHOOL, COLLEGE, AND SPORTS PHYSICALS ALL MAJOR INSURANCES ACCEPTED NO APPOINTMENTS NEEDED OPEN 7 DAYS Strep Test � Low Radiation X-Ray EKG � Blood Tests � Vaccines (SALE BEGINS WHEN SCHOOL STARTS) FRENCH . SPANISH . LATIN . 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"Visiting a particular college enables the student to consider if that environment and community match his or her evolving criteria and is a place that he or she might like to apply to," said Jane C. Hoffman, a college admissions and educational consultant who runs College Advice 101 based in Larchmont. "In addition, information and impressions gleaned from the visit will help the applicant articulate a targeted and comprehensive answer to the `why I want to attend x college' essay prompt that can be a part of that school's application and so can help increase the likelihood of gaining admissions." Carol Gill, whose educational consulting firm Carol Gill Associates is based in Dobbs Ferry, said that visiting a college a student is considering is imperative. "You wouldn't buy a new pair of shoes without trying them on, nor would you buy a car without test-driving it first," Gill said. "Likewise, a student needs to make a college visit before making a sound decision about a school. You simply cannot get a feel for a college from its catalog or website alone." On average, a high school student will apply to nine colleges, but their initial list of schools they might be interested in could Continued on page 12A Page 12A/The Rivertowns Enterprise Back to School "To get more in-depth insight, students may want to arrange sitting in on a class, staying overnight in a dorm or meeting with professors," Golden said. "The upside of visiting during formal preview days is that there are special events, such as student panels and faculty presentations. The downside is that crowds of visitors make it difficult to sense the day-to-day atmosphere on campus." Gill cautions students and parents not to try to cram too many college visits together, particularly on the same day, and suggests allowing time before and after formal tours or information sessions in order to take in the campus at their own pace or revisit highlights from the tour. "Give yourself time to roam the campus before or after an interview, tour or information session," she said. "Pick up a copy of the college's newspaper or other publications to take home with you. Also, scan bulletin boards around campus. This is all really great evidence of what's really happening on campus, and it will help you get a feel for a school's atmosphere and tone." How a campus "feels" for a student should not be overlooked, according to Gill. "Ask yourself, `Can I see myself here as a student a year from now?'" she said. "Most important of all, trust your gut feeling." Is more than one campus visit recommended for a college or university high up on a student's list? "It's a good idea if you can do it," Woolf said. "Typically, students narrow their choices and revisit the top two, especially if they are applying early decision." The consultants from Collegistics agree. "Whenever possible, a student should see a school at least once before accepting an offer of admission," Berkovits said. "Certainly, if a student elects a binding admissions option, at least one visit tot hat campus is warranted Friday, August 24, 2012 The College visit Continued from page 11A be higher. Traveling to colleges as part of whittling down your wish list could prove costly and time consuming, so what are some ways to ensure college-bound students and their parents can get the most bang for their buck during a campus visit? Choosing when to schedule a college visit is one important consideration, local experts say, since it can help narrow down the schools a student will apply to. And for Westchester students and their parents, visiting a few relatively nearby colleges can assist in the decision of what type of college the student might prefer. "Touring colleges before applying helps students in their decision-making," said Betsy Woolf, who offers customized counseling and advice through her Mamaroneck-based firm Woolf College Consulting. "Initially, students can visit colleges and universities that are nearby in order to get a sense of what feels right. I often tell students to visit NYU if they want to see what an urban university is like, or the University of Connecticut for a big state university experience, and a nearby small liberal arts college---there are a number from which to choose." Leslie Berkovits, a partner in Collegistics headquartered in Scarsdale, which provides a team approach to personalized college advising, said the timing of a campus visit is important for a number of reasons. Seeing a college as a high school sophomore, for instance, would likely result in very different impressions than would be gleaned from a visit late in a student's junior year of high school. "It's important to recognize that seeing a campus in tenth grade may provide a dif- ferent perspective than looking a campus as an informed high school senior," Berkovits explained. "In our experience, most students begin and are best prepared to take full advantage of formal tours and information sessions during their junior year in high school." The local college application consultants agreed that while there might be preferred time to aim for to schedule a college visit, there are a number of factors that play a part in when visits are feasible for a prospective applicant and their parents. "It certainly is helpful to visit when school is in session so that high school students can see the college students and make a better determination regarding fit," Woolf said. "But schedules don't always work out, and many families find that summer visits are more suited to their schedules. Visiting at any time is better than not visiting at all." If you want to interact with students at a college, it might be a good idea to keep in mind when students are likely to be on campus, according to Woolf. "It's