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LOVE YOURSELF Couples getaways, Creating Seductive Tables for Two, Spicy & Sweet Recipes and so much more!

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Red Hot Sweets Goodies That Give Back Can’t Miss Books & Movies Personalized Conversation Heart Cupcakes How to stop Slamming Doors Sweets to Spice Up Your Life Love Thy Self Room for Two

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Bloggers We Love Editor’s Picks Fan Favorites Places We Love

BETWEEN US 33 35 36 37 39 40 42

Paint the Town Green Mother - Daughter Abroad Get Organized Getting to Know: Moll Anderson Set the Mood Luxurious Living Walking Down the Aisle with Henry Roth

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elcome to the Love Yourself edition of Project You! If you’re like us, as Valentine’s Day approaches, all we can think about are the places, foods and people we love. So we decided, why not devote an entire issue to all three! So get ready to be entertained and inspired with our picks for great vacation getaways - from Paris to Philadelphia to Jamaica, if you’ve got travel on the brain, then we’ve got you covered.

Our issue wouldn’t be complete without the gals from Partybluprints who share romantic party tips inspired by Seductive Tables for Two, a gorgeous new entertaining guide

by Moll Anderson. Plus, we’ve got an interview with Moll too!

New York Mom Maria Colaco is back with fabulous fashion and accessory tips on how to incorporate the must have color of the season (emerald) into your wardrobe. Plus, humor writer and publicist extraordinaire Elissa Freeman shares how her tween’s door slamming incident led to a lesson her daughter will never forget.

If you’re in the mood for love, you won’t want to miss author Karen S. Exkorn’s tips for spicing up your love life with candy. And we’ve selected five of our favorite bloggers who always make us smile when we see them or read their fabulous blogs and books.

In the mood to re-create the look of a luxury Manhattan apartment in your own home? Then check out Manhattan House designer Heather Zick who shares inexpensive tips on how to transform your home or apartment into a lavish living space.

Plus, top organization expert Andrew Mellen shares tips on how to clear out the clutter from your home so you can finally find everything in a flash.

Plus, we’ve got our favorite funny dad, Eric Ruhalter who’s back with his KidDictionary column and our very own Danielle Feigenbaum and Katie Schlientz share their favorite food, travel and product picks for February.

Hope you enjoy our Love Yourself edition and see you this Spring!

Best wishes,

Beth Feldman Editor in Chief

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Kimberly Coleman Maria Colaco Karen S. Exkorn Samantha Feuss Elissa Freeman Gwynn Galvin Elizabeth Mascali Andrew Mellen Eric Ruhalter Dawn Sandomeno

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RED HOT Featured on Valentine’s Day at Sweet Indulgences, the “Red Hot” Lips cupcake is their Madagascar vanilla cupcake, topped with a decadent vanilla buttercream, spicy Red Hots, cake sparkles and red sugar lips! Muah! ■

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Goodies that Give Back

Company Endangered Species Chocolate Website ChocolateBar.com Sweet Deal Your purchases benefits the species and habitat conservation efforts of African Wildlife Foundation and The Xerces Society.

Our Favorite Flavor Dark chocolate with blueberries, 3 oz $2.99

Company Theo Chocolate Website TheoChocolate.com Sweet Deal The company teamed up with actor Ben Affleck and the Eastern Congo Initiative (ECI) to create chocolate that helps Congolese farmers cultivate a brighter future.

Our Favorite Flavor ECI Vanilla Nib, 3 oz $5.00

By Katie Schlientz

Company Chocolate 4 Charity Website Chocolate4Charity.com Sweet Deal All of the proceeds from chocolate sales are given to the Love Jen Fund at Joe DiMaggio Children’s Hospital.

Our Favorite Flavor Gourmet Dark Chocolate Brownies Box, 16 Pieces $18

Company Baking for Good Website BakingForGood.com Sweet Deal Order treats for yourself and a portion of the proceeds will be donated to a cause you choose.

Our Favorite Flavor S’more Blondies, 1 dozen $25.00 ■

Cool New App Check out the Eye Browser, a new iPhone and iPad app that allows you to try on a pair of eye glasses without leaving your home! Try sporting a new look... You can even share your pictures on Facebook to get a second opinion.

The app will even tell you the best place to purchase your perfect pair!

See the app in action!

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What a sweet deal—take a bite out of this charitable chocolate!

Pick Up this Series!

By Danielle Feigenbaum

I laughed my ass off reading The Chocolate Lover’s Series by Tara Sivec.

I may have even peed my pants a little reading them: Seduction and Snacks, Futures and Frostings and Troubles and Treats are three of the funniest books I have ever read. The perfect books to read this Valentines Day - they are all about chocolate and sex. You will not believe the things that come out of these character’s mouths, beyond hysterical. If you are reading the books in public, be prepared to get some strange looks since you will be snorting loudly.

If you have a kindle you can download them at Amazon for $2.99 - $3.99 or get the books for $10.99 - $12.99, it’s worth every penny and then some. Enjoy! ■

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Movie Night

Plenty of movies will be hitting the big screen this month.

Let some of your favorites help you decide! By Katie Schlientz If you can’t get enough of AMC’s Walking Dead, try Warm Bodies A tormented zombie starts to transform when he falls in love with the daughter of the military leader charged with ridding the world of the living dead. PG-13

If you loved Bridesmaids, try Identity Theft When a man realizes his identity has been stolen, he takes extreme measures to clear his name. Starring Jason Bateman and Melissa McCarthy. (Does it get any better?) R

If you loved The Notebook, try Safe Haven After having trouble fitting in her new town, Katie realizes she may have to let go of her past to move forward in a relationship with Alex, a widower with two children. PG-13

If you loved Wreck-It Ralph, try Escape from Planet Earth Astronaut Scorch Supernova finds himself caught in a trap when he responds to an SOS from a notoriously dangerous alien planet. ■

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Baking with the Kids:

Personalized Conversation Heart Cupcakes These personalized conversations hearts are perfect for your entire family!

By Gwynn Galvin

❑ 1 (17.6 oz.) pkg. rolled fondant pastel colors multi-pack, Wilton ❑ 1 (2 1/4” inch diameter) heart cutter, from 1 pkg. fondant cutters, Wilton ❑ 1 (16 oz.) can classic white frosting, such as Pillsbury ❑ Blue, green, pink and/or yellow sugars, Wilton ❑ Pink icing color, Wilton ❑ Conversation hearts candy ❑ Baked and frosted cupcakes

● Roll out fondant in pastel colors to 1/16th inch thickness.

Using heart cutter cut out fondant hearts. ● Using pastry bag fitted with Wilton #5 tip, or ziplock bag with corner snipped off, pipe white frosting around edge of heart. Sprinkle frosting with sugars; shake off excess sugar. ● Combine white frosting and pink icing color to make deep pink frosting. ● Using pastry bag fitted with Wilton #3 tip, or ziplock bag with corner snipped off, pipe names in pink frosting in center of hearts. ● Let stand until fondant begins to firm up and hold its shape, at least 1 hour. Place fondant hearts on prepared cupcakes.

Decorate edges with conversation hearts. ■

Gwynn Galvin, Culinary Consultant and Chef/Partner at Sweet Indulgences Dessert Shoppe, specializes in recipe development and food styling. Her recipes have been described as “decadent bites of brilliance” and have been featured in magazines, national ad campaigns and on product packaging.

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How to Stop Slamming Doors A look at the love-hate relationship of tween discipline.

We have a rule in our house.

No slamming doors.

Now try enforcing that with your full-fledged, hormonal tween daughter.

My daughter, almost 13, can definitely be, shall we say, “dramatic.” Even keeled most of the time, it’s that last 10% that leaves me scratching my head.

Especially when seemingly neutral conversations suddenly spiral into a quick turn on her heel, the STOMP, STOMP, STOMP up to her room, finally punctuated by a house-shaking door slam. The yelling and the stomping, I can take. The door slamming? No.

By Elissa Freeman

My husband and I laid down the law: slamming the door will result in its instantaneous removal.

Over the course of one year, the slamming stopped. Until a few weeks ago. I’ll admit conditions were not great.

We were just back from a wonderful week’s long vacation.

We were all tired and cranky. A small tiff exploded out of nowhere and then…

STOMP, STOMP, STOMP…SLAM! Not once, but twice. For effect, naturally.

My husband and I looked at one another. Uh oh.

“Go.” I said simply.

“Do I have to?” he asked wearily.

“Yes. You know what the experts say. Follow through.”

With a heavy sigh he retrieved the hammer and screwdriver. As he went upstairs, I wondered if the door would actually come off, seeing as the hinges were painted over.

After a tap, tap, tap, the deed was done. The door was off.

I think we were all in shock. At first, my daughter found it quite amusing, even posting it on her facebook page with the caption: “Bye, bye door. Good work mom and dad.”

Of course, I reposted it to the amusement of many friends who shared similar stories. After about two weeks, and threats of moving into her bathroom, we put the door back on. A wise friend once said: “adolescence is a disease that must run its course.” You’re telling me. ■

Elissa Freeman is a mom, foodie, self-confessed pop culture junkie, and a 20+ year PR veteran who was recently named one of twitter’s Top 52 PR pros. You can follow her on Twitter at elissaPR.

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Sweets to Spice Up Your Life

By Fifty Two Shades of Blue-ish author Karen S. Exkorn

Most women love Valentine’s Day because it’s all about love…and candy! We also tend to do one of two things with candy. A) Scarf it down while watching late night TV or B) Hide it away and nibble on it sparingly for the next six months. Why not try something new this year by using candy to spice up your sex life? Try these five ideas to help get you in the mood:

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Hershey’s Kiss

York Peppermint Pattie

With your eyes closed, place a chocolate kiss in your mouth.

Focus on the feeling of the smooth chocolate on your tongue. Slowly chew and swallow, enjoying all of the sensations and experience a sense of “mindfulness” which forces you to be“ in the moment” and is especially helpful in the bedroom!

This peppermint chocolate aphrodisiac has a powerful stimulant that enhances sexual pleasure. The cool scent has a warming effect on the blood, making it easier to experience sexual arousal.

Inhaling the scent of peppermint can lead to erotic dreams among women.

Black Licorice Whips

Chocolove Bars

Chewing on bits of licorice root enhances the libido! Enjoy tasting and smelling your Black Licorice Whip (what you choose to do with the “whip” is a whole different story).

Experience the amorous effects of chocolate plus a dose of prose every chocolate bar comes with a poem inside. Plus, the antioxidants in the dark chocolate bars are great for promoting physical vitality and sexual vigor. ■

Candy Necklace There probably isn’t any scientific research behind why this sugary confection is an aphrodisiac, but if your lover nibbles at your necklace, that’s always a prelude to a romantic evening!

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By Eric Ruhalter

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AMUSELESS

(uh-MEW-sluss) adj : When a child has a thousand games, shelves filled with books, crayons, paints, crafts and toys yet there is “nothing to do.”

Eric Ruhalter is the author The Kid Dictionary: Hilarious Words to Describe the Indescribable Things Kids Do. Take a look inside via the funny book trailers at www.TheKidDictionary.com

Love Thy Self

here are all sorts of people in this world with all sorts of needs. There are men who like women, men who like men, women who like women, women who like men and women, and women who like women and men, women who like women that look very much like men, and men who like men who look like women. But despite this abundance of relationship options, there is a growing faction of people who find themselves at various junctures in their life where they are compatible with NO ONE. And for many of them, the only option is to enter into a relationship with their own self Might seem odd, but for many it just makes sense. You know yourself. You’re used to your quirks. You never have to wonder what the other person’s thinking, because you know. You keep the same hours, you share a long history, you know the same people. You can even share clothes. And in this arrangement more than any other, you and your partner can live as cheaply as one.

However, what about when it doesn’t work out? Breaking up with yourself is a painful and complex process. But when you and yourself can’t come to agreeable terms, and you’ve tried every available avenue to no avail, there’s nothing left to do, but end it and move on.

When you break up with yourself you should let yourself down easy. Say something like, “It’s not me, it’s me!” Because in all likelihood you still care about yourself, but you’re just not right for each other. And you don’t want you to leave with a damaged self esteem.

Reassure you that you and yourself can still be friends. In most instances it won’t be easy right away. When the break up is still fresh and emotions are still high it’s probably best not to see yourself for awhile. Certainly you should not succumb to temptation in this emotionally charged time if you receive a late-night booty call for yourself. You will certainly be tempted to go screw yourself. But be strong. Just remember the good times and accept that you gave the relationship your all, but it’s over. Give it time. You’ll get over yourself. ■

Eric Ruhalter

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● GET TO THEM AS YOUNG CHILDREN BY SHOWING ANIMATED MOVIE “MARIJUANA SMOKE & THE DEAD PUPPIES.”

● HINDER THEIR ABILITY TO ACQUIRE DRUGS BY BRANDING THEIR FOREHEAD WITH THE DEA LOGO.

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The couple that plays together, together.

LOVE stays YOURSELF This Valentine’s Day, book a couple’s getaway that offers more than your average vacation.

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The Spa at Norwich Inn Norwich, CT Thespaatnorwichinn.com Quaint. Cozy. Luxurious. The Spa at Norwich Inn is the perfect getaway spot for couples looking to mix a little romance and relaxation into their weekend. Take one step into the Inn and you’ll be slipping into your robe and relaxing in front of the fire, knowing that your room, spa services, and meals are all at your fingertips. But there’s plenty more than just the spa.

Try one of the pilates or yoga classes or workout in the fitness room. Take a dip in the pool. Or use the more private sauna and whirlpools. With so many options at your fingertips, you can schedule a complete wellness overhaul! Everything is taken care of. So sit back, relax, and say ahhhhhh...

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Durango Mountain Resort Durango, CO Durangomountainresort.com Are you snow bunnies who love to keep active during the winter months? The two of you can bond activities at the Durango Mountain Resort, where you’ll have plenty of options at your fingertips. Choose from skiing, snowshoeing, horse-drawn sleigh rides, and snow tubing. Prefer something a little more challenging? Try your hand at ice climbing, the recently added guided tour in nearby Cascade Canyon. Just don’t forget to pack your hat and mittens! projectyou

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Glenwood Hot Springs Glenwood Springs, CO Hotspringspool.com By day, the two of you can take a dip in hot springs pool. By night, you are unwinding together in a luxurious king-sized bed. The Glenwood Hot Springs Lounge offers plenty for the couples looking for that extra pampering—if the hot springs overlooking the picturesque mountain view isn’t enough to draw you in, dry a dip for two or Swedish massage at the Spa at the Rockies. Yes, please!

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Club Med, Bahamas Columbus Isle, Bahamas Clubmed.us If the thought of one more snowfall has you couchbound, try warming up to the thought of sunshine, an ocean breeze, and sand between your toes.

Club Med in the Bahamas offers plenty of uniquely designed couples resorts where you can plan your escape (and rekindle some of that fire). There is plenty to enjoy the outdoors—try exploring the beautiful coral reefs or (if you’re brave enoough) swimming with sharks!

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MOM ADVICE

GAYNYCDAD

NYC SINGLE MOM

www.momadvice.com BLOGGER: Amy Allen Clark

www.gaynycdad.com BLOGGER: MITCH CHAITLIN

www.nycsinglemom.com BLOGGER: LINDA GRANT

THE LOW DOWN: MomAdvice.com provides the ultimate resource for families looking to get the best out of life on a budget. The blog is packed with money saving tips, recipes and more and site founder Amy Allen Clark just released her first book, The Good Life for Less, which is on the road to becoming an instant best seller.

Best of all, Amy is one of the nicest people you’ll ever meet.

Which is why we love her too!

THE LOW DOWN: If you love entertainment, fun and giveaways, then you’ve come to the right place. GayNYCDad’s founder Mitch Chaitlin is a fun loving parent who shares his daily experiences and goodies with his readers. Mitch is frequently invited to exclusive celebrity events, movies, attractions and more and if you meet him, he always has a great zinger that’ll have you laughing out loud.

THE LOW DOWN: Linda has been writing her blog for several years now, offering advice and sharing her personal story about what it’s like to be the single parent of an adopted child. She also offers product reviews and giveaways on her site and gets the lowdown on lots of fun and exciting events and attractions for families.

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THE CENTSIBLE LIFE

FOODIE CITY MOM

www.thecentsiblelifeblog.com BLOGGER: KELLY WHALEN

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THE LOW DOWN: Want to find out how to save your family thousands of dollars on groceries, travel and more? Then look no further than the Centsible Life where mom of four Kelly Whalen has created a community, and blog offering real advice on how to save for life’s milestones and must haves while enjoying yourself along the way.

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MOM IN THE CITY www.mominthecity.com BLOGGER: KIMBERLY COLEMAN THE LOW DOWN: Kimberly Coleman was one of the very first bloggers I met when I entered this community and every time I have seen her she is always smiling, incredibly professional, is the fastest writer I know and is adored by everyone she knows. On her food blog, Kim shares recipes and advice on how to re-create delicious meals at home and at Mom in the City, she’s created a community of parents who offer advice on how to enjoy the Big Apple with kids of all ages.

Kim is also a social media consultant for many well known brands and recently appeared in a Kellogg’s commercial. We heart you Kimberly Coleman and always will!

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edit❤ r’s picks Valentine's Rice Krispie Hearts These Rice Krispie hearts can be whipped up in minutes, plus it’s a great activity to get the whole family involved in!

Ingredients: ❑ 3 tbsp coconut oil ❑ 1 bag mini marshmallows ❑ 6 cups Brown Rice Krispies Melt coconut oil in a saucepan over low heat, then add in the marshmallows and stir with a rubber spatula until melted (spray spatula with non stick cooking spray to avoid marshmallows sticking to the spatula.) Add Brown Rice Krispies and stir until cereal is well coated in marshmallow. Lightly spray a 9 x 13 inch pan with non stick spray, then turn the Rice Krispie mixture out into the pan. Press down with the palm of your hand to flatten the Rice Krispies evenly into the pan. Allow 15 minutes to cool.

Lauryn Cohen is the queen of sweet and founder of Bella Baker - a customized, made-to-order dessert company. Known for her uniquely creative treats, Lauryn is an authority on all things baking and designs inventive desserts for every occasion. Visit www.bellabaker.com for more information.

Additional Ingredients: ❑ Heart shaped cookie cutters ❑ Various colors of candy melts ❑ Red and White striped straws or lollipop sticks ❑ Squeeze bottles Use your cookie cutters to cut out heart shapes, then gently insert a striped straw or lollipop stick into the base of each shape. Melt candy melts in the microwave and then transfer to squeeze bottles.

Decorate your Rice Krispie heart shaped with various colors and patterns. Enjoy! projectyou

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edit❤ r’s picks a for Don't miss the te ony”— “love and harm elon the honeydew m en tea sweetens the gre to create a delicious brew!

Chanakara Teas by Stash Tea, $39.50 for the collection

✽ website The folks at Stash Tea have created a 7-pack of flavors that stimulate each chakra. With the variety pack, you can sip yourself well with a balance of flavors that awakens your entire soul. Or choose the one that’s right for you.

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Karma Wellness Water

Femfessionals Organization

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Because vitamins deteriorate in water, they can lose their strength over time. We love Karma Wellness Water because they keep their vitamins in a “KarmaCap” until you’re ready to mix them, so you can enjoy the benefits at maximum potency.

Try all of the delicious flavors!

We love anything that helps inspire women! FemFessionals is a nationwide rganization that connects ambitious women through innovative events to help build their community.

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Miracle Skin Transformer Face SPF20, $48

✽ website Brought to you by beauty insider Sarah McNamara, this tinted skin transforming enhancer gives you weightless coverage and much-needed SPF. You’ll be surprised how quickly it improves your skin’s tone and texture!

Avant Rock Spike Ankle Cuff Set, $95

✽ website Embrace your inner diva with these Spike Ankle Cuffs

by NYC jewelry designer Karen Ko. Take any pair of shoes from ordinary to amazing in minutes—just slip the cuff over your favorite pair of heels!

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edit❤ r’s picks Cuisinart Sparkling Beverage Maker, $99.95

✽ website If you can’t live without sparkling water, save you a few bucks by making it at home! With three quick pumps of the Cuisinart Sparkling Beverage Maker, you can create your own sparkling beverages in seconds!

Stella & Dot’s Odette Infinity Necklace, $39

✽ website We love Stella & Dot jewlery, but can’t get enough of this petite infinity charm. The gold and silver combination let’s you sport this necklace with anything; it adds a bit of elegance to every day casual wear!

Food with Love Annual Plan, $10

✽ website Looking for a great gift idea for the hard-to-buy-for person on your list? Buy them a subscription to Love with Food. Each month, a box full of gourmet goodies is delivered to their door. Even better? For every box delivered, one meal is donated to a hungry child. So far, the company has donated 50,220 meals!

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Crest 3D White Whitestrips Dental Whitening Kit Gentle Routine, $39.99

✽ gotta have it!

I love my Crest Whitestrips; I get so many compliments when I use them.

—Stephanie Kortan, Las Vegas, NV

Origins A Perfect World™ for Eyes, $34

✽ gotta have it!

Anything made by Origins— from their skin care to makeup! Their products have a fresh clean scent and feel even better.

—Kimberly Garrett, Raleligh NC

Neutrogena Makeup Remover Cleansing Towelettes, $6.46

✽ gotta have it!

Neutrogena Face Makeup Remover Cleansing Wipes clean my face really well. It’s safe enough to get all of my eye makeup.

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Java Gum Peppermint 4-Pack, $9.95

Cetaphil® Moisturizing Lotion, $11.49

Volum’ Express: The Falsies, $7.77

✽ gotta have it!

✽ gotta have it!

✽ gotta have it!

I have been selling Java Gum since the summer of 2012 at Sorso Cafe in Baltimore. I have a very loyal following for this FANTASTIC gum. I personally chew Java gum and love it—it’s great tasting and energy boosting.

I use Cetaphil facial moisturizer daily. It has 15 SPF, it’s light, and keeps my skin from looking dry and wrinkly.

My dermatoligist told me about it. She uses it too. Best part: it’s in drugstores and it’s inexpensive.

Maybelline “Falsies” Mascara is so much better than any of the high end brands.

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iPhone

✽ gotta have it!

I love my iPhone. I can stay in touch with my family and friends. I take pictures and write music with their apps.

—Kirsten Kerlin, Syracuse, NY

Meaningful Beauty® 5-Piece New Advanced System (30 Day supply), $39.95

✽ gotta have it!

I love meaningful beauty creams. It’s by Cindy Crawford and its a whole selection of anti wrinkle stuff. It’s the best!!!

—Jennifer Russell, New York

Avon Glimmersticks Eyeliners, $7

✽ gotta have it!

I have several favorite products I love, but I cannot live without my Avon Glimmersticks eyeliners. I’ve tried so many other brands and these are the best! ­—Trisha Dunn, Sellersburg, IN

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Victoria Secret Love Spell, $12

Back to the Roots Mushroom Kit, $19.95

✽ gotta have it!

✽ gotta have it!

I love my Victoria Secret “Love Spell” body mist. It makes me feel so clean, feminine and oh sooooo sexy!

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I love the Back to the Roots Mushroom Kit. I can grow my own mushrooms at home.

It’s fast and you end up with delicious mushrooms to use in any recipe! ­—Stacey Brecher, NYC, NY

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Vitalicious Vita Tops, $16

✽ gotta have it!

I love VitaTops! They are made with really great and ingredients. Each muffin top contains 100 calories, so I can satisfy my sweet tooth without ruining my diet! ­—Jill Smith, North Syracuse, NY

Clarisonic Mia 2 Sonic Skin Cleansing System, $149

✽ gotta have it!

I love my Clarisonic microdermabrasion system ... It can go in the shower, has a timer that tells me when to move on to the next area of my skin and leaves my face glowing! The best part is the body attachment for those annoying bumps on the back of my arms... Everybody loves a silky smooth body!!

Command™ Timeless Brushed Nickel Finish Large Hook $7.99

✽ gotta have it!

Dove Sensitive Skin Unscented Beauty Bars, 4-oz. 8 count, $8.68

✽ gotta have it!

Command products. I love these no commitment hooks! and my kids can quote the commercials.

Dove Sensitive Bar Soap is THE only soap that doesn’t make my kids itch like crazy. I can’t live without it!

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MADRID Why We Love it - If you’re in the mood for a great European getaway with your partner, your girlfriend or your mom, then set your sites on Madrid. From the majestic castles to classic hotels (personal fave is the Westin), non-stop shopping, people watching and mouthwatering dishes and drinks, Madrid is the ultimate travel destination.

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JAKE’S RESORT Why We Love it - There is nothing better than returning year after to year to a place where the staff treats you like family and your days and nights are filled with adventure, tranquility and amazing food.

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By Samantha Feuss, Have Sippy Will Travel

Whether you have a day, weekend, or an entire week, you’ll run out of time long before running out of ways to spend a visit to Philadelphia - a city rife with some of our nation’s richest historical sites, museums, sculptures, gardens and more.

Start your adventure with a tour of Independence Hall where George Washington was appointed commander in chief of the Continental Army, the Declaration of Independence and Articles of Confederation were adopted, and the U. S. Constitution was drafted. Tours are free and a timed ticket is needed for entrance. Within walking distance, you’ll find the National Museum of American Jewish History, the African American Museum in Philadelphia and the Betsy Ross House.

Next, explore the city’s magnificent artwork on a very uncommon canvas. What began as a way to reduce the city’s graffiti epidemic, an artist was hired to guide inner city youth to help beautify their community. Now, the Mural Arts Program is one of the largest of its kind, with more then 3,500 works created in 27 years and approximately 100 indoor and outdoor murals constructed each year.

View the murals while biking, walking, or take a guided trolly tour of the city.

All that touring is bound to make you hungry so why not indulge in one of the city’s namesake dishes, the Philly cheesesteak? Head to Pat’s King Of Steaks (www.patskingosteaks.com) or Geno’s Steaks (www.genosteaks.com) where these two rivals square off every day. While Pat’s owners invented the famed sandwich, Geno’s claims to do it better. Be warned - order fast, know what you want, 32

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as well as the lingo - the lines move quickly.

Alternately, you can skip the epicenter of cheese steak madness, and head to Campo’s Deli on Market Street which is consistently ranked among the best in Philadelphia for cheesesteaks and hoagies.

To plan your Philadelphia getaway, head to www. visitphilly.com. ■ Samantha Feuss is the editor of Have Sippy Will Travel and lives in NJ with her family. Her experiences, advice, and travel tips have been featured on numerous websites, outlets, and newspapers. She was ranked in the Top 10 Most Influential Mom Bloggers via Kred for 2012.

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Paint the Town

Pantone – the worldwide authority on color - announced the 2013 color of the year and it’s one of my personal faves EMERALD. Green is the new black for 2013—from design, to beauty, to décor to fashion get ready for Emerald Green to find it’s way into your world. Besides, what’s the best way to get this economy up andjumping right… Spend some green! projectyou

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Go for a little… well maybe a lot of sparkle with some emerald on your nails. Subtle enough for the office…but just the right amount of fun for after!

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Add some points to your karma card by purchasing this cute little guy from West

$5 of every purchase goes to St. Jude Children’s Hospital. St. Jude Ceramic Owl $14 - $19 westelm. com

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Baraque Strand $58 Anthropologie.com

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Green IKat Dinnerware $10-$14, CWonder.com

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By Kimberly Coleman

Mother - Daughter Abroad Two months ago, I experienced one of the best trips of my life when I spent four days and three nights in Paris, France with my mom. Mother/daughter getaways to Paris can be amazing…

Especially if you keep the following tips in mind: ● Flexible travel schedule (especially if she’s retired)

● Consider mom when making your itinerary

As my mom said, “I don’t have any kids at home.

Let me know what works best for you.” As a result, she was able to come up from Virginia so we could both leave for Paris from New York.

The trip that was taking me more than a year to schedule with my husband came together within a few months, when we made the decision to make my mom as my traveling partner instead.

In my Paris “dream,” I imagined walking and biking through Paris.

However, my mom can’t walk too long for extended periods of time due to medical reasons. As such, I figured out the Paris metro system so we would be able to stop within short distances of all the popular Paris attractions that we wanted to experience.

We also both came up with our “must do” lists so we could experience things that were most important to each of us.

● Build some “unscheduled” time into your plan

● Value this one-onone time

I have had many While we primarily special moments visited the cultural and memories with attractions of Paris, my mom over my some of my best lifetime. It exceeded memories were the my expectations. We unplanned ones. A long, laughed together. We leisurely outdoor dinner just enjoyed Paris with at La Fregate (www. one another. Je suis lefregateparis.com) reconnaissant. (I am was one such treat. We grateful.) happened to discover this restaurant gem on our way back from one To read more about our Paris adventures, click of the museums. here. ■

Kimberly Coleman is a NYC wife and mom of two sons and is the founder of MomintheCity.com, a parenting guide for families, and the recipe blog FoodieCityMom.com.

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Get Organized!

Q + A with organization guru Andrew Mellen

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Dear Andrew, I am getting so stressed out about filing my taxes. I have all these receipts and no idea which ones I need to save and which ones I can finally throw out. Please help me de-clutter my finances in time for tax day!

Sincerely, Drowning in Paper, New Rochelle, NY

I feel your pain. As a rule, there are only six (6) kinds of receipts that you need to keep -- but please consult with your tax professional before you discard anything.

● Capital improvements to a piece of real estate you own. These may be added to your cost basis when selling to reduce any taxable profit you may show. ● Major purchases, such as appliances, equipment, etc. If you ever want to call the manufacturer for technical support, go online within the first 30 days of ownership and register your purchase. They may demand proof of purchase when you first call in and if you haven’t registered, you may need to fax or email them your receipt at that time. ● Service and repairs to either your home or vehicle. A full record of service performed will put you in a better position to negotiate if you can show the care with which you’ve maintained these assets while in your possession.

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● Tax-deductible expenses. These are expenses that will be reflected on your tax return, either on a Schedule C or other form. ● Reimbursable expenses. These are purchases that you made on behalf of someone else or are otherwise entitled to submit to an employer, client or friend to recapture your expenses. ● Items you are not yet committed to keeping and may return to the store. After the window has closed for these purchases to BE returned, unless the item also falls under one of the above categories, shred it—because you now own the item. ■ Andrew Mellen is a professional organizer and #1 best-selling author of Unstuff Your Life! (Penguin, 2010). Frequently called, “The Most Organized Man in America,” he leads workshops nationwide with clients ranging from Fortune 500 CEOs and the U.S. Dept. of Education to overwhelmed parents everywhere.

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Why did you decide to create the book, Seductive Tables for Two?

Getting to Know...

Moll Anderson Just in time for Valentine’s Day, author Moll Anderson shares insider tips from her new book, Seductive Tables for Two.

by Danielle Feigenbaum

I decided several years ago at the age of 45 that when I found my perfect mate and was finally in a happy, healthy and very romantic relationship that I wanted everyone to experience what that’s all about. I knew that I needed to share my secrets! My past, my choices in life and all that I went through has brought me to a place of gratefulness and a belief that I went through it all so that I could help other people. People get bound and stuck in the past and I was for many years, but then I heard a great saying by Gary Zukav. Gary said “ Give up the belief that the past could be any different than it was.” It blew my mind and it was totally freeing for me and was a statement that catapulted me to let go of my hurt, take responsibility for my own happiness’ an simply LIVE! My relationships that did not work were part of my journey of growth, love and forgiveness. Believe it or not forgiving others was simple, forgiving myself was the part that got freed with Gary’s statement. So I decided to start writing and my first book was Change Your Home Change Your Life it was a peek into my life and the brand I was about to build. For The Seductive Home and the new book Seductive Tables For Two I knew that I needed to start in a way that could speak to our cry for romance in our relationships. I haven’t told my whole story yet and I will someday, but in the meantime I want to inspire people to live in the moment and experience true romance. projectyou

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Is your husband spoiled by the amazing food and embracing that. It’s a journey still! displays, or does he still appreciate it?

The photographs in the book are stunning; do I sure hope my husband Charlie feels spoiled! I can tell you that he truly appreciates everything that I do for him you need to be creative to replicate these looks? and I in turn appreciate everything that he does for me.

It’s mutual admiration and a beautiful case for being “Of Like Mind” in a relationship. We both have had relationships that did not work. For Charlie, his ex-wife, who I adore by the way, is a beautiful, warm and wonderful human being.

They were just really different people and they absolutely had to meet, marry and create three beautiful, now grown children.

I am grateful too for my beautiful son Michael and all the relationships that brought me to this place in life. I have so much fun and find such pleasure in creating food and doing little things for my husband like meeting at the door with a drink in my hand. Oh, and by the way, I have my own company, travel and a very busy schedule and this book helps women and men realize that it doesn’t take a lot of time to show someone that you care and that they are special. The idea is to just do what you are able to do.

What’s your secret to staying healthy, but enjoying yourself?

Well, I wish that I had it all under control so I could write the perfect “Seductive Dieting” lifestyle book! Ha ha. I believe in moderation; it’s key to anything in life, except romance. I struggle with loving to work out! I keep saying it and waiting to really feel it. Truth is that after I’m finished on the treadmill, I do love the feeling so I’m 38

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I want people to inspired by the photographs and to create their version of these ideas. It doesn’t have to cost a fortune. I what you to use what you have: your grandmothers china mixed with a couple new plates you love or things you find at a flea market or your favorite store. I also tell people to go on scavenger hunts in their own homes. You can’t believe how differently things look when you are trying to find something that works even at the last minute.

I get my greatest inspiration when I’m doing a table at the last minute because I’m not over thinking and I’m just going for it. I use scarves and remnants of fabric for tablecloths, rocks glasses for vases, shot glasses for votive’s, leaves from my yard and fruit from the kitchen.

The sky is the limit because it’s your table, your interlude and your knowledge of your partner that makes it perfect.

What is the one most important thing to remember when setting a romantic table?

That anytime you create a “Seductive Table For Two” that you create it from your heart for that special someone you love! So that makes it at that moment THE most important table you will ever create in your life! We don’t know how much time we have on this earth, we never know when it will be the last time we ever see each other and we need to be kind, loving, forgiving and seductive always to the one you love. ■

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By Elizabeth Mascali and Dawn Sandomeno

The gals at PartyBlu Prints, Inc. used Moll Anderson’s book Seductive Tables For Two as their inspiration and guide to getting it right. See how they transformed her tips and ideas (using mostly items from our home) into a romantic rendezvous right under their own roof. Once you have created your table for two, it’s easy to make a monthly reservation to celebrate each other!

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Flowers We selected roses and tulips in two different shades of purple from our local flower shop to add a special touch and pop of color to the table. We loved pairing the passion-filled and beautiful rose and the fun and flirty tulip to symbolize two different sides of every romance.

Lighting We incorporated candlelight by constructing our own candlesticks using mirrored candlesticks as the base and topping with opalescent globe votives. Nothing sets a mood like candlelight, so dim or turn off the lights and ignite those flames.

Color We purchased this bright & sexy blue table at a discount store for just $99 and made it the center of attention.

Fabric We layered black & ivory and blue pillows, a black table runner (it’s a pashmina), shimmery silver cloth napkins and a white fur area rug to incorporate layers of fabric in the space.

Music Music is essential to the mood of any party – especially a party for two. Compile a music mix of your loved ones’ favorite songs – make sure to include some songs containing your love letter “messaging” in the lyrics. Present the love letter CD as a gift and enjoy listening to it all night long. Later, upload it to your tech and relive the romance every time you listen to it. ■

Elizabeth Mascali and Dawn Sandomeno are party and lifestyle authors, bloggers, and social media hostesses. Their first book, PLAN TO PARTY, (Yorkshire Publishing) offers ideas from their blog andis a go-to resource for home entertaining.

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By Beth Feldman Project You recently hosted a fabulous cocktail party in a breathtaking luxury apartment at the Manhattan House. With the help of television anchor and lifestyle expert Tamsen Fadal, we joined NYC parenting bloggers, a nationally renowned organization expert, real estate maven, finance guru, branding expert, television producer and more for a night of wine, cheese, conversation, apartment tours, and incredible advice from Manhattan House interior designer Heather Zick.

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Luxurious Living “Manhattan House’s model residence staging inventory consists of merchandise that has been accumulated over the years from previous designers and include a spectrum of different styles,” says Zick who uses creativity and imagination to find a way to turn chaos into clarity, while making sure each model residence of the luxurious NYC apartment complex has a fresh, new and inviting look each time. “I try to use the three R’s whenever I can Reuse/Resize/ Rework,” says Zick. “I truly enjoy the challenge and creativity it takes to find a way to make the old make sense and find a way to make it actually feel like new.” Re-create these amazing looks in your own home with Heather’s simple design tips: Choose furniture styles and layout wisely:

● S hag and sisal rugs are inexpensive, versatile and durable

● Modular furniture can easily be separated and moved around

Lighting:

● Stools and ottomans double as tables or additional seating

● Buy antique bulbs for light fixtures where bulbs are visible for a more interesting look

Finishes: ●P aint moulding and trim the same color as the walls to make the room feel larger and more uniform.

Reupholstering/Recovering/Resizing:

● F or furniture and frame touch-ups use Sharpie markers and White-out

●B uy throw pillows with removable covers that can easily be changed - or use an old bedspread or faux fur coat to fabricate your own covers

Art, Accessories and Area Rugs:

● Have area rugs made from wall-to-wall carpet remnants

● Take photographs and print on photo paper or canvas ● S hop in the flower district for candle holders, trays, vases and silk flowers

To find out more about Manhattan House and their incredible luxury apartments visit their website. ■ projectyou

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Walking Down the Aisle with Henry Roth Brother and sister fashion designers Henry and Michelle Roth share some of their favorite wedding gowns for any occasion.

By Beth Feldman

FOR THE PREGNANT BRIDE...

Adeline - Matte sheen corset A-line dress, worked dramatic simplicity.Â

CLASSIC WEDDING

DESTINATION WEDDINGS

Opal - Silk organza 50s classic ballgown

Chantelle - Pleated and draped body Neta - Chantilly lace romance. shaping bodice flatters this modern classic a line taffeta dress.

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