Pride 08 Magazine
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CAT CORA’S APPETITE FOR ACTIVISM SEX TOURISM UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL BOB SMITH’S FIRST BOOK DAVID KOPAY’S NEXT CHAPTER MEXICO CITY’S CULTUREQUAKE RACHEL MADDOW: PROGRESSIVISM’S SMART, TANGY GO-TO GIRL JOHN WATERS GOES MAINSTREAM (ACTUALLY, IT’S THE OTHER WAY AROUND) THE OFFICIAL MAGAZINE OF INTERPRIDE 2008 08 ONCE-A-DAY LEXIVA/r* This is my playlist *Once-daily dosing is not recommended for patients who have taken protease inhibitors (PIs) in the past. LEXIVA is indicated in combination with other antiretroviral agents for the treatment of HIV infection. Please see important Patient Information below and on the following page. Individual results may vary. By prescription only. Model used for illustrative purposes only. Important Safety Information ® Drug Interactions ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® (Hypericum perforatum). ® ® ® ® 2 Your playlist is full. Talk to your doctor to see if LEXIVA/r meets your HIV needs. The ONLY PI approved with 100-mg ritonavir for PI-naive patients* ® ® Resistance If you don’t have prescription coverage and can’t afford your medicines, visit pparx.org, or call 1-888-4PPA-NOW (1-888-477-2669) PATIENT INFORMATION LEXIVA® (lex-EE-vah) (fosamprenavir calcium) Tablets and Oral Suspension Read the Patient Information that comes with LEXIVA before you start taking it and each time you get a refill. There may be new information. This information does not take the place of talking with your healthcare provider about your medical condition or treatment. It is important to remain under a healthcare provider’s care while taking LEXIVA. Do not change or stop treatment without first talking with your healthcare provider. Talk to your healthcare provider or pharmacist if you have any questions about LEXIVA. What is the most important information I should know about LEXIVA? LEXIVA can cause dangerous and life-threatening interactions if taken with certain other medicines. Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take, including prescription and nonprescription medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. • Some medicines cannot be taken at all with LEXIVA. • Some medicines will require dose changes if taken with LEXIVA. • Some medicines will require close monitoring if you take them with LEXIVA. Know all the medicines you take, including prescription and nonprescription medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. Keep a list of the medicines you take. Show this list to all your healthcare providers and pharmacists anytime you get a new medicine or refill. Your healthcare providers and pharmacists must know all the medicines you take. They will tell you if you can take other medicines with LEXIVA. Do not start any new medicines while you are taking LEXIVA without talking with your healthcare provider or pharmacist. You can ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist for a list of medicines that can interact with LEXIVA. What is LEXIVA? LEXIVA is a medicine you take by mouth to treat HIV infection. HIV is the virus that causes AIDS (acquired immune deficiency syndrome). LEXIVA belongs to a class of anti-HIV medicines called protease inhibitors. LEXIVA is always used with other anti-HIV medicines. When used in combination therapy, LEXIVA may help lower the amount of HIV found in your blood, raise CD4+ (T) cell counts, and keep your immune system as healthy as possible, so it can help fight infection. However, LEXIVA does not work in all patients with HIV. LEXIVA does not: • cure HIV infection or AIDS. We do not know if LEXIVA will help you live longer or have fewer of the medical problems (opportunistic infections) that people get with HIV or AIDS. Opportunistic infections are infections that develop because the immune system is weak. Some of these conditions are pneumonia, herpes virus infections, and Mycobacterium avium complex (MAC) infections. It is very important that you see your healthcare provider regularly while you are taking LEXIVA. The long-term effects of LEXIVA are not known. • lower the risk of passing HIV to other people through sexual contact, sharing needles, or being exposed to your blood. For your health and the health of others, it is important to always practice safer sex by using a latex or polyurethane condom to lower the chance of sexual contact with semen, vaginal secretions, or blood. Never use or share dirty needles. LEXIVA has not been fully studied in children under the age of 2 or in adults over the age of 65. Who should not take LEXIVA? Do not take LEXIVA if you: • are taking certain other medicines. Read the section “What is the most important information I should know about LEXIVA?” Do not take the following medicines* with LEXIVA. You could develop serious or life-threatening problems. • HALCION ® (triazolam; used for insomnia) • Ergot medicines: dihydroergotamine, ergonovine, ergotamine, and methylergonovine such as CAFERGOT®, MIGRANAL®, D.H.E. 45®, ergotrate maleate, METHERGINE®, and others (used for migraine headaches) • PROPULSID® (cisapride), used for certain stomach problems • VERSED® (midazolam), used for sedation • ORAP® (pimozide), used for Tourette’s disorder • are allergic to LEXIVA or any of its ingredients. The active ingredient is fosamprenavir calcium. See the end of this leaflet for a list of all the ingredients in LEXIVA. • are allergic to AGENERASE (amprenavir). You should not take AGENERASE (amprenavir) and LEXIVA at the same time. There are other medicines you should not take if you are taking LEXIVA and NORVIR® (ritonavir) together. You could develop serious or life-threatening problems. Tell your healthcare provider about all medicines you are taking before you begin taking LEXIVA and NORVIR (ritonavir) together. What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking LEXIVA? Before taking LEXIVA, tell your healthcare provider about all of your medical conditions including if you: • are pregnant or planning to become pregnant. It is not known if LEXIVA can harm your unborn baby. You and your healthcare provider will need to decide if LEXIVA is right for you. If you use LEXIVA while you are pregnant, talk to your healthcare provider about how you can be on the Antiretroviral Pregnancy Registry. • are breastfeeding. You should not breastfeed if you are HIV-positive because of the chance of passing the HIV virus to your baby through your milk. Also, it is not known if LEXIVA can pass into your breast milk and if it can harm your baby. If you are a woman who has or will have a baby, talk with your healthcare provider about the best way to feed your baby. • have liver problems. You may be given a lower dose of LEXIVA or LEXIVA may not be right for you. • have kidney problems • have diabetes. You may need dose changes in your insulin or other diabetes medicines. • have hemophilia • are allergic to sulfa medicines Before taking LEXIVA, tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take, including prescription and nonprescription medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. LEXIVA can cause dangerous and life-threatening interactions if taken with certain other medicines. You may need dose changes in some of your medicines or closer monitoring with some medicines if you also take LEXIVA (see “What is the most important information I should know about LEXIVA.”). Know all the medicines that you take and keep a list of them with you to show healthcare providers and pharmacists. Women who use birth control pills should choose a different kind of contraception. The use of LEXIVA with NORVIR (ritonavir) in combination with birth control pills may be harmful to your liver. The use of LEXIVA with or without NORVIR may decrease the effectiveness of birth control pills. Talk to your healthcare provider about choosing an effective contraceptive. How should I take LEXIVA? • Take LEXIVA exactly as your healthcare provider prescribed. • Do not take more or less than your prescribed dose of LEXIVA at any one time. Do not change your dose or stop taking LEXIVA without talking with your healthcare provider. • You can take LEXIVA Tablets with or without food. • Adults should take LEXIVA Oral Suspension without food. • Pediatric patients should take LEXIVA Oral Suspension with food. If vomiting occurs within 30 minutes after dosing, the dose should be repeated. • Shake LEXIVA Oral Suspension vigorously before each use. • When your supply of LEXIVA or other anti-HIV medicine starts to run low, get more from your healthcare provider or pharmacy. The amount of HIV virus in your blood may increase if one or more of the medicines are stopped, even for a short time. • Stay under the care of a healthcare provider while using LEXIVA. • It is important that you do not miss any doses. If you miss a dose of LEXIVA by more than 4 hours, wait and take the next dose at the regular time. However, if you miss a dose by fewer than 4 hours, take your missed dose right away. Then take your next dose at the regular time. • If you take too much LEXIVA, call your healthcare provider or poison control center right away. What should I avoid while taking LEXIVA? • Do not use certain medicines while you are taking LEXIVA. See “What is the most important information I should know about LEXIVA” and “Who should not take LEXIVA?” • Do not breastfeed. See “Before taking LEXIVA, tell your healthcare provider”. Talk with your healthcare provider about the best way to feed your baby. • Avoid doing things that can spread HIV infection since LEXIVA doesn't stop you from passing the HIV infection to others. • Do not share needles or other injection equipment. • Do not share personal items that can have blood or body fluids on them, like toothbrushes or razor blades. • Do not have any kind of sex without protection. Always practice safer sex by using a latex or polyurethane condom to lower the chance of sexual contact with semen, vaginal secretions, or blood. What are the possible side effects of LEXIVA? LEXIVA may cause the following side effects: • skin rash. Skin rashes, some with itching, have happened in patients taking LEXIVA. Tell your healthcare provider if you get a rash after starting LEXIVA. 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McQuaid Contributors: Newcomers and stalwarts PEOPLE 14 17 Cover Story: Waters’ Baby William Burroughs once called him “The Pope of Trash,” but a bunch of hit movies, a few books, artworks and four Emmy noms for his latest Broadway show Cry-Baby prove that trashy or not, John Waters was just ahead of his time. Dennis Dermody talks to the new King of Broadway. Standup Guy Comedian and first-time novelist Bob Smith handles fame, love, donor-dad-dom, and his biggest challenge yet with the kind of cheerful aplomb that has endeared him to audiences — and other comedians. He unloads on Mark Davis Sticklin. Cat in the Kitchen Iron Chef America star, cookbook author, executive chef for Bon Appétit, UNICEF spokesman, partner, mom, founder of Chefs for Humanity; Cat Cora has more than a few plates spinning — and that’s the way she likes it. Lisa Cecconi gets the goods. The First Gay Footballer Three years after he retired from pro-football, former running back David Kopay shocked the sports world by coming out as a gay man. The year was 1975, and his commitment to his community continues to guide his life. Christina Kahrl reports. The Interpride Pages WORLD 24 26 28 33 49 Amazing Mexico City The world’s second-largest metropolis is cosmopolitan, culturally inclined, progressive and affordable, making it the world capital of cool. Sheva Fruitman reports from the epicenter of a culturequake. US 54 Couples Someone once said “An Army of Lovers cannot fail.” We agree that as long as love persists, there’s hope. Gregg Delman turns his camera on some of the soldiers. Casting by Joe Jervis. CONTENTS CULTURE 64 State of the Art Queer artists continue to pull the Art Train, with new questions, fresh perspectives and unexpected answers. Avram Finkelstein explains. Essay: Pride is Patriotic Journalist and commentator Karen Ocamb reminds us that the push for LGBT Equal Rights is no less than a reminder that America will only realize its full potential when the ideas spelled out in the Declaration of Independence, the Constitution and the Bill of Rights apply to all its citizens. The Not-At-All-Accidental Sex Tourist Every year, thousands of Western tourists flock to nations where prostitution is legal (or overlooked) in search of love with a willing stranger. Exploitative or ethical? It all depends on what you think, where you look, and what you’re looking for. Chris Crain reports from Rio… Media: Graceful Savage In 1992, Tom Kalin scandalized moviegoers with Swoon — an incisive meditation on Chicago’s Leopold and Loeb murder. Sixteen years later, his second feature, Savage Grace, stars Julianne Moore and considers another sensational murder in ’70’s London. Avram Finkelstein asks the questions. STRATEGY 76 78 85 89 Your $3 bills… When it comes to money, our heartening yet still-uneven legal progress makes getting and staying on top of our finances more important than ever. Steve Bolerjack reports… INSPIRATION 93 Columbo Pride Sahran Abeysundara reports from Sri Lanka on Colombo Pride, now in its third year. End Page Smart, funny and utterly unflappable, political commentator and on-air personality Rachel Maddow is the go-to girl for progressive politics . Steve Bolerjack interrogates. 96 Fabulous Where diversity works J PETER M C QUAID ust as we were going to press — and I mean literally just as we were going to press — The Supreme Court of the State of California ruled that the state Constitution protects a fundamental right to marry, and that this right extends to same-sex couples as well as heterosexual couples. More importantly, what the Court did was consign laws that discriminate against Californians on the basis of sexual orientation to the trash heap — the same trash heap on which laws that discriminate against Californians on the basis of race, ethnicity or sex were tossed years ago. Statewide, the sound of champagne corks popping (and bottled water caps twisting) was deafening, as many of my fellow Californians celebrated not only the court’s acknowledgement that same-sex couples and their children deserve the same protections and privileges as their heterosexual counterparts, but that an Equal Society is worthy of its name only when it’s equal for everyone. Predictably, the howls of rage from the usual enemies of freedom and justice, like Concerned Women for America, Focus on the Family Action and Campaign for Children and Families were quick and petty. CFCAF president Randy Thomasson was quoted in The Los Angeles Times accusing the court of “destroying the civil institution of marriage.” Maybe it’s my flighty gay brain, but it has always eluded me how broadening access to something risks destroying it — unless we’re talking about a nightclub, which usually has to maintain some semblance of exclusivity to seem attractive. Maybe that’s been the gambit all along: Keep marriage semiexclusive, and the people who have been losing interest in marriage anyway will think it’s the cool thing to do. From the looks of San Francisco City Hall four years ago, when Mayor Gavin Newsom ordered city employees to start issuing marriage licenses to same sex couples, no one needed to sell gay people on the notion of marriage. Our message to society was loud and clear: “Tell us where to be, and we’ll show up with a ring and even our own Elvis Impersonator if need be.” I expect a run on marriage licenses once the ruling takes effect, just in time for some June weddings, but we’re not out of the woods yet, not by a long shot. No other state is compelled to recognize marriages that contradict its own laws, nor is the federal government, which administers Social Security and a whole host of other services. And yet, when the ball finally gets rolling in the most populous state in the U.S., the rest of the country has a way of coming around. Let’s hope so! HAPPY PRIDE! CONTRIBUTORS Dennis Dermody > He’s been a film columnist for Paper Magazine for almost too long to remember, combining fey enthusiasm, stealthy wit and an encyclopedic knowledge only a true fanatic could accumulate. Dermody’s Q&A with underground/mainstream, cinema/Broadway legend John Waters is his first contribution to Pride. Lisa Cecconi > She specializes in sports and entertainment profiles for a variety of publications national and regional (she makes her home in California’s East Bay); but for her first contribution to Pride, Cecconi interviewed celebrity chef Cat Cora on her charitable endeavors — and how a commitment to public service has shaped the example she and her partner are trying to set for their two boys. Mark Davis-Sticklin > For the past seven years, Davis-Sticklin has relentlessly probed the LGBT zeitgeist for Pride readers. This year is no exception, as he interviews longtime fellow standup performer Bob Smith on his new book, life in general and his ongoing effort to deal with ALS. Christina Karhl > Self-described pro baseball fanatic and managing editor of Baseball Prospectus, Christina Kahrl’s first article for Pride was a personal chronicle of her journey as a transwoman. This year, she’s closer to her usual subject matter, as she interviews retired pro football player and LGBT activist David Kopay. Sheva Fruitman > Photojournalist/stylist/jewelry designer/artist and now travel writer, Sheva Fruitman has always had a restless eye, wandering feet and an insatiable curiosity about what comes next. After stints in New York City, London, Paris and Marrakesh, Fruitman finds herself in Mexico City, where she takes a seismic reading on that city’s Culture Quake. Joe Jervis > When he’s not bringing in the Benjamins that make Pride publishable, Ad Director Joe Jervis is hard at work as the mad genius behind the award-winning blog “Joe.My.God.” This year, he was responsible for casting the annual “Couples” photo essay, to rather brilliant effect. Avram Finkelstein > Curator, creative director, activist, artist, graphic designer, journalist — the list goes on and on. A longtime Pride contributor, Finkelstein is one of those people who turns ideas into reality. He’s back this issue with a survey of the latest in Queer Art, and an interview with filmmaker Tom Kalin on his new shocking new film Savage Grace. Karen Ocamb > A fixture in journalism for almost 30 years, Ocamb has won countless awards and honors for her stalwart insistence on covering LGBT issues for LGBT people. Her first contribution to Pride, an essay on the push for equality entitled “Pride Is Patriotic,” explains the importance of the struggle not only to Gay people, but to all Americans interested in preserving democracy. Chris Crane > He’s been a corporate lawyer, a reporter, executive editor of the Washington Blade and co-founder of Windows Media. Two years ago, fed up with the “long distance” part of his long-distance relationship, Crane pulled up stakes and joined his Brazilian partner in Rio de Janiero, which left him well-situated to report on the black, white and gray areas of sex tourism in that country and others. “The Not-At-All-Accidental Sex Tourist” is his first contribution to Pride. Steve Bolerjack > Pride ’08 marks marketing-executive-turned-journalist Bolerjack’s eighth year as a contributor, on subjects ranging from politics to health to aging to financial planning. This year, he expands his repertoire in an interview with fast-tracked political commentator Rachel Maddow. Sahran Abeysundara > As a founding member of InterPride member organization Equal Ground, a contestant with his partner, Howard on “Amazing Race Asia” and a partner in his own interior design/event production firm, Abeysundara is one busy man. Nonetheless, he enthusiastically accepted Pride ‘08’s request to share with readers the story of his native Sri Lanka’s young LGBT Equal Rights movement and its fourth annual Pride celebration in the capital city of Colombo. Abeysundara’s account is an inspiring tale of what can happen when desire, creativity and determination enter into a conspiracy. 14 Racing-inspired PotenzaTM tires give you the power to make your every maneuver and every move smooth as a pro. bridgestonetire.com 1-800-807-9555 tiresafety.com WATERS’ BABY William Burroughs called him “The Pope of Trash.” Now, after a bunch of hit movies, a few books, several works of art and his Broadway show Cry Baby, John Waters has proven he was just ahead of his time. His longtime friend, film critic Dennis Dermody finds out what becomes a legend most… sort of shocked me recently when I figured out that I have known John Waters for over 30 years. Could it really be that long? I met him in Provincetown in the early 1970s through Cookie Mueller, the beautifully eccentric actress who starred in many of John’s films and eventually became a cult icon as well as a respected columnist in Manhattan. Her death in 1989 from AIDS complications, at the age of 40, constituted a notable addition to the pall cast over New York’s downtown by the disease. At the time, though, Cookie was living in P-town with her young son, Max, and was convinced John and I had a lot in common. We hit it off right away: I loved John’s wit and skewed humor, and we shared a passion for transgressive literature (we both bought all the early Grove Press titles like Naked Lunch, Last Exit To Brooklyn and City Of Night), not to mention an unwholesome fascination with exploitation directors like Russ Meyers (Faster, Pussycat! Kill!...Kill!), Herschell Gordon Lewis (Blood Feast) and William Castle (The Tingler). John’s dizzying rise to almost-mainstream fame only surprises me slightly. He was always driven, and it was only a matter of time before a larger audience caught on to how visionary he was. Hairspray and Cry Baby were both eventually transformed into Broadway musicals. And the movies he was making at the time I met him — Pink Flamingos, Female Trouble and Desperate Living — were hilariously deranged. John was able to draw from a deep well of inspired lunacy: Van Smith’s makeup and costumes (before-their-time punk innovations); Vince Perenio’s surreal, no-budget, trash-constructed sets; and that irreplaceable company of actors known as the “Dreamlanders.” With Divine (his larger-than-life leading lady/man), Mink Stole (usually cast as the shrewish nemesis), David Lochery (the effete leading man with multicolored hair) and Edith Massey (the periodontally-challenged, elderly barmaid John transformed into the unforgettable Egg Lady), this band of close friends enthusiastically aided and abetted John in his cinematic excess. John always seemed to turn his latest obsession into some kind of art — either on film, with his writing, and eventually into his paintings and sculptures. And that obsessiveness carries over into his relationships in a good way: nowhere on this planet will you find a more loyal or true friend or or such a kind-hearted, non-judgmental soul. If I ever decide to go on a tri-state killing spree, I have no doubt that I could hide out in John’s attic from the police. Not that I have that compulsion. But on certain difficult days it’s a nice thing to know. I’m interviewing John a week before Cry Baby opens on Broadway, an occasion which is weirdly wonderful, and strange, on multiple levels. I remember when he was writing it: as a follow-up to Hairspray, he was trying to think up a 1950s-style musical based on a gang of Baltimore hoods called the Drapes. There’s a delicious irony here as we find ourselves discussing a Pride movement for a group of people who have only recently been de-classified as criminals of the lowest form (or mentally ill), while across town, Mom, Dad and the kids settle into their pricey Broadway seats and smile warmly as they watch the air being let out of musical theater as well as the squeaky-clean Myth of the American Fifties. It’s a perfect time to ask him about a time when being gay was criminal, and perhaps more thrilling because of it. Dennis Dermody: Do you ever wish for the old days when we were outlaws? John Waters: Yeah. But the problem is you had to go further. When we were outlaws we went to prison. You had to fight back. So it’s romantic to remember when we were outlaws. One magazine was the first time I ever saw a person fight for gay rights. And they all wore black suits, white shirts and thin black ties. I have to give them great credit. Or the women who had The Ladder. You have to look back on them with great respect. They were outlaws by doing this. And today — here’s the difference: in New York when they throw the Gay Pride parade, no one much cares because they don’t need one there. Heteros probably get in more trouble in Greenwich Village than gay people do. But when I was in Colorado Springs, they said: “Believe me, we need a Gay Pride parade.” Everywhere outside of the big cities they need gay parades. Once I was in a Midwestern city for a Pride parade, and I had to stand on the steps of the court house where the parade ended and give a speech, just like Angela Davis. I couldn’t believe it. I can write a gay liberation speech! But my memory of politics is using humor to embarrass your enemies. Nowadays many gay people want to fit in. They have the right to fit in, even though I choose not to. So it’s romantic to remember [the days when we were outlaws], but in reality it can’t be that. DD: I know. I remember seeing that notorious scene in Otto Preminger’s 1962 political drama Advise and Consent, one of the first films to show a gay bar scene. It looked so seamy and sordid and sad. And I remember at the time thinking to myself, ‘I hope it’s not like this...’ JW: The first gay bar I ever went into, I believe, was in Washington, D.C., because you could legally drink, and you had to be 21 in Baltimore. David Lochery and others took me to The Chicken Hut — I think it was really The Hut, but the nickname was The Chicken Hut. You walked in and people had fluffy sweaters and there were telephones on each table. ‘Ring…Ring....Hi, want a rum and coke?’ I thought, ‘I may be queer, but I ain’t this!’ I still don’t go to many gay bars. I’m against separatism, against not including straight people. I don’t understand why gay people are uptight about transgender people, either. Good, I say! They even shock me! Eventually there will be no Pride magazine. Even gay sections in bookstores are almost over, because why not put gay fiction in regular fiction? And I never understood the Gay Olympics. If you’re good enough to be in the Olympics, be in the real one. Retarded Olympics I get; but I don’t get the Gay Olympics. JOHN WATERS AND EDITH MASSEY “I’M TOTALLY FOR GAY MARRIAGE EVEN THOUGH IT WOULD BE THE LAST THING FOR ME. ALL THAT ALIMONY!” HERE’S JOHNNIES! WATERS AND JOHNNY DEPP ON THE SET OF CRY BABY “IN POLITICS WE HAVE TO FIGHT DIRTY THIS TIME. VOTE TWICE” DD: Even within the group, gays are more separatist now. Like there’s a “bear” bar, there’s an “asian” bar… I liked it when there was only one bar and everyone had to go. JW: The only gay bar I loved and went to was Squeezebox in New York, and now there’s a documentary about it. In Baltimore the only one I ever hung out in — with a fake ID — was The Pepper Mill, and it was right next to the police station so they had to pay them off. It was run by the Mafia. I knew the guy who owned it — he was a straight guy. It was like Advise And Consent. No, it was Baltimore’s answer to that — more raucous. If there was a Last Exit To Baltimore this would have been down there. So that was, of course, influential to me. There’s a bar in Baltimore — Leon’s — that’s been there ever since I was 16 and it’s exactly the same. There are some of the same people, 80 years old and drunk, still sitting at those tables. My friend Pat Moran loves it there, but I never fit. They were serious about it. To this day I feel better in a punk rock bar because there are always one or two gay people in there, the ones I would like. DD: What do you think about the more mainstream aspects of gay life now, like marriage? JW: I don’t have to believe in it to fight for it. I’m totally for gay marriage, even though it would be the last thing for me. All that alimony! Three times I probably would owe alimony. Somebody would own half my apartment. But straight gay people that want those things should be able to have it. For taxes. It isn’t fair that they don’t get this or health insurance. So everything that gay people are fighting for I’m for. I even vote gay. I’m the gayest in a voting booth. I don’t do much else totally gay, but I vote gay. You say anything against gays and I’ll vote against you — although I am against making THE INGENUE YEARS DIVINE IN PINK FLAMINGOS CRY BABY CAST: GREASE ONLY GREASIER... A STAR IS BORN DIVINE AS EDNA TURNBLAD THE AUTEUR ON THE SET OF HAIRSPRAY gay marriage an issue in this election, until we win. Then the Democrats can say ‘Ha ha, gay marriage is legal!’ Don’t talk about it now. The Republicans love showing those shots of Provincetown with 10,000 lesbians. They use it and it works. Fight for gay marriage after we win. In politics we have to fight dirty this time. Vote twice. You have to be smart. Politics is lying. To win you have to tell everybody what they want to hear. You have to save your battles. DD: One of the intriguing premises in Cry Baby is the illicit thrill of falling for someone from the wrong side of the tracks. Is there still a wrong side of the tracks in gay life? Is there a gay underground? JW: There is in Baltimore. There is not in New York. There’s no blue collar in New York. It’s faux blue collar. Anyone that moves here has gone through the curtain of irony. What they do is in quotation marks. In Baltimore, yes. I can think of one lesbian bar that is so blue collar, I took Debbie Harry there and she said: “I have never been so frightened in my whole life.” But there’s blue collar everything in Baltimore because Baltimore is still Smokestack City. It used to be called Union Town. SUPERSIZED SWEETHEART: RICKI LAKE AS TRACEY TURNBLAD “MY TYPE HAS ALWAYS BEEN A BLUE-COLLAR CLOSET QUEEN THAT DOESN’T WANT TO GO TO PREMIERS” DD: What about “rough trade”: working class men who will have sex with other men if they have enough drinks in them. There was a time when that was pretty common... JW: There isn’t much of that anymore. Baltimore used to be the capital of that. People came from all over the world to pick up rough trade. Eastern Avenue used to be notorious. Their fathers did it. They passed it down: “You need some beer money? Go turn a trick.” It was an honored tradition. That’s over. DD: What happened? JW: The Internet killed that. Hustlers are online. Nobody stands on the corner anymore. Imagine John Rechy [author of City Of Night] today! He’d be still out there. The only one. On the steps of that church on Selma Avenue. Trust me, that’s where the hustlers used to be and it used to be great. They also used to hustle on my friend Pat Moran’s corner — Park and Washington. Pat’s husband would pull up in the car to pick up his wife and a hustler would jump in the car. DD: Didn’t Pat have a bowl of potatoes on her windowsill to throw down at the hustlers sitting on her stoop? She called them Irish tranquilizers. JW: She was more against when they turned [into] drug dealers. That’s when she threw potatoes at them. THE WAYTHEY WERE: TAB HUNTER AND DIVINE IN POLYESTER ART ATTACK: WATERS ON THE SET OF PECKER DD: When did that all end? JW: AIDS ended hustlers. AIDS ruined everything. AIDS and picture ID. DD: I wonder about younger gay men who never experienced the whole ’70s sexual revolution. Sex clubs and all that stuff. JW: The sexual revolution came and we won it and everybody died. But young people today still have fun. They have wild clubs. They do wild things. There’s a place in San Francisco called Blow Buddies and it’s never closed since the ’70s and it’s still called that. That’s amazing to me. That’s the other side of Pride...and as you know in England they did Gay Shame as a joke. People that didn’t fit into the gay movement. At Squeeze Box they had Gay Shame Night, where they dressed as bad gay people. It was punk-rock gay, to be funny. I thought it was hilari- “IT’S TRUE TAFFY...” MINK STOLE IN FEMALE TROUBLE ous. They dressed in bad disco outfits. Because in Squeeze Box they played rap music, which some gay people really hate. I love it. But it’s a dividing line. DD: What do you want Gay Pride to be? JW: I want gay people to be militant again. In my days we turned over police cars. Why aren’t they doing that? Remember Act Up? They did what the Yippies did. Well now, Act Bad! DD: Fast forward to now: What’s your least favorite new gay trend? JW: The ones that I think should be in jail are the ones who spread the (AIDS) virus. The gift givers and bug chasers. To me. I guess I’m old fashioned. That’s the stupidest thing — saying: “Let’s get AIDS now because there’s a cure for it.’” One, there isn’t; and two, the more we get it the harder it is to cure it. It’s mind boggling... DD: What’s the biggest misconception people have about you? JW: They think they know me. People think they know everything about me. They don’t, really. I mean I’m never attracted to movie stars. I’m never attracted to famous people. My type has always been a blue-collar closet queen that doesn’t want to go to premiers. I don’t want to sleep with me. I see gay people with boyfriends and they look exactly alike. I also don’t want people that want to be in my movies. Which is easy — in Baltimore. You’ve been there. You always used to say: “There’s something in the water...” DD: That’s so true. I remember traveling down for your Christmas parties and making out with a lot of “straight” boys at the end of the night. JW: They’re straight boys that are not closet queens but are sometimes gay. If you make someone laugh you can get them in bed. That’s the politics of Baltimore. And another thing: if I had to change a flat tire and somebody said you have to change the tire or die, I would die. I’m attracted to people that could change my tire. It’s the truth. Standup Guy With a new novel, a book tour and some other stuff he’ll get to in a sec, comedian Bob Smith has life by the throat. Mark Davis reports… T here is pleasure and envy when you read a friend’s work and discover it’s exceptional. Nominated for the Publishing Triangle’s Edmund White Award for Debut Fiction, Selfish and Perverse, Bob Smith’s first novel, is about the courage to take risks. How many gay men, how many people do you know with the balls to hop a flight to Coffee Point, Alaska to spend a season salmon fishing, and with no showers around? While the gay press is calling Smith the new Armistead Maupin, he reminds me more of Kerouac or Hemingway. “The Alaskans say I got it,” says Smith, who explains his ability to get along with all the Alaskasized egos in his life by confiding, “I secretly have a bigger ego than all of them. Patting myself on the back constantly has given me a hump,” “I am so evil, they don’t know it.” “They” definitely don’t know it. On the comedy circuit, Smith’s steady disposition is the stuff of legend, gaining him friends from all sides of the comedy divide. “I get along with all the lesbian comedians,” he chuckles, “even though they have so many diva battles amongst themselves.” That is something he attributes to the Sisyphean aspect of working in gay comedy long before Will and Grace made it all seem so mainstream. “We were all doing something that there was no hope of succeeding at — you had to be passionate about it,” says Smith. “But when the divas get out of control, I’ve always been comfortable saying, ‘You’ve gone completely mental.’” Underneath the even keel, though, it would seem that Smith’s got a fine-tuned appreciation for life’s perversities. His interests are wide, including “bird watching, cartography, dinosaurs, muscle men, Native Americans, Alaska, muscle men. Everything new I become interested I just add to the list: theater, books, muscle men.” He’s also “the donor dad, not the boner dad,” for a Canadian family headed by two mommies, and he clearly loves recounting how he deposited his “contribution” into a large, bunny-shaped coffee cup he was supplied with after “missing” a smaller one. “I would go to the house, decorously go to the other room, do my business and then Mom-to-be AT NAT (NOT HIS REAL NAME) QUIT WORKING AS A HUSTLER. THOUGH NAT NEVER ASKED FOR MONEY, JEFFREY GAVE HIM A WEALTH MORE would hop off the phone, telling her caller, “I have to go, Bob’s here inseminating.” And just so his standup audiences don’t think his literary success has taken him down the Neely O’Hara route — hitting the stage completely hammered — he’s decided to go public about his battle with ALS, aka “Lou Gehrig’s Disease.” “I would get a disease with a stage name,” he cracks in a slightly slurred drawl. “It’s affected my speech somewhat. I’m doing all the conventional medicine and lots of alternative stuff: acupuncture, exercise, mental stuff to deal with it.” It hasn’t slowed him down; he recently combined households with his partner, Michael Zam, and in between stops on his book tour, he’s working on a new novel, which is “basically a time-travel story. A guy goes back to 1986 and (has sex with) himself.” Selfish? Maybe not. Perverse? Definitely. Cat in the Kitchen Chef’s toque is only one of the hats this Iron Chef America star wears. Author of two cookbooks, executive chef for Bon Appétit, spokesperson for UNICEF, partner to Jennifer and mom to Zoran and Caje, Cat Cora is also the founder of Chefs for Humanity — a growing non-profit devoted to emergency food relief, an end to hunger and nutrition education. Lisa Cecconi forces her to stop and talk. For a minute. Photoraphy by Lori Eanes At 5’2”, Cat Cora may be petite, but everything else about this Jackson, Mississippi native — determination, spirit, compassion — is downright colossal. After graduating with honors from the Culinary Institute of America, Cora was mentored by Julia Child, apprenticed in France with three-star Michelin chefs, and became the first — and only — female Iron Chef on Food Network’s Iron Chef America. Time for a rest? Not likely. “I’d been thinking about it for a while,” says Cora of founding nonprofit Chefs for Humanity (CHF). “There was no go-to organization where chefs or culinary professionals could do something when tragedies strike, in terms of emergency feeding. Then, when the tsunami hit in 2004 and I was getting support for UNICEF” (for whom Cora is now the nutritional spokesperson), “I saw that people really wanted to roll up their sleeves. So I thought, okay, we need to do this.”Three years after inception, CFH now has administrative offices in New York City, along with a board, a Chefs Council and Chefs Corps, and a triple-tiered mandate, explains Executive Director Diane Burstein. “CFH provides culinary resources for substantial and sustainable hunger initiatives, emergency food relief (both in the U.S. and internationally) and nutrition education for at-risk families and children.” Last December, CFH — in partnership with the United Nations World Food Programme (WFP) — embarked on a field visit to Nicaragua and Honduras to observe nutrition challenges facing areas affected by drought, poverty and the devastation caused by Hurricane Felix. The team also visited a health center where nutritionally at-risk pregnant and breastfeeding women, and young children, receive WFO rations. They assessed not only how to help create nutritional recipes using the area’s resources, but also to “create ways to help people help themselves in a sustainable way.” Says Cora, “We have to do missions. If I’m going to talk about it, I have to be there, touch it, see it. I think it’ll make me better at what I do — in every aspect of my life.” As for initiatives here at home, CFH works with private donors, creates a variety of fundraisers and also has auction items listed on Charitybuzz.com, where people can bid on unique culinary experi- ences like dinner in Bon Appétit magazine’s dining room and tickets to the taping of an Iron Chef segment. She credits her parents with instilling in her a strong sense of self-confidence. “Watching the way they did things helped me to go out into the world, live out my dreams — and to give back. When I was in high school, my mom went away to get her doctorate in nursing. It was hard at first; she came home every other weekend. But I gained tremendous respect for her when she did that. It taught me to never settle for anything less than my best.” Dr. Virginia Lee Cora, Cat’s mother, now sits on CFH’s advisory board as a medical advisor. She and her partner of nine years, Jennifer, hope to pass on those same values to sons Zoran, 4, and Caje, 1. “It’s important they grow up with a sense of not having too much. It’s hard to not give them things when you know you can. I have to discipline myself all the time! But if you don’t limit, you’re doing them a huge disservice — taking away that hunger for working toward something, and the sense of accomplishment when they achieve it,” she says. In terms of being viewed as a role model, Cora feels honored. “It’s an incredible feeling to hear young, aspiring chefs — or just women in general — tell me how [becoming the first female Iron Chef] empowered them,” she says. Similarly, when Bon Appétit magazine bestowed their Teacher of the Year Award on Cora in 2006, she was stunned. “It was so unexpected — and one of the best compliments anyone could give me for my career. When someone calls you a teacher and you’re just doing what you love? Wow.” Despite years of experience in the restaurant business, Cora has never owned her own, until now. And she has plans in the works to launch two different restaurant concepts. “I’ve been an executive chef, a partner, but never had my own place before. I wanted to take time to build things in a certain way. Now I can open my own place because I want to. And because it’s been my dream since I was 15 years old.” Of her extraordinary culinary career and mark upon the world of charitable giving, Cora says, “I just wanted to open a restaurant.I never thought for one second that all of this other stuff would happen. I love what I do, and was born to do it.” David Kopay Writes a New Chapter When he came out in 1975, football player David Kopay turned pro sports on its ear and become another Power of Example to queer young people. Now, he’s going to help them go to college. Christina Kahrl reports… 28 T he great Vince Lombardi, legendary coach of the Green Bay Packer teams that dominated pro football in the 1960s and won the first two Super Bowls, made many observations on the subject of leadership. But one in particular describes David Kopay, who played for Lombardi’s Redskins in 1969, the year of Stonewall: Lombardi famously said, “Leaders aren’t born, they are made. And they are made just like anything else, through hard work.” As the first professional football player to come out of the closet, back in 1975 Kopay is someone that everyone in the LGBT community should honor for his courage and his leadership. Lombardi wasn’t only speaking about the gridiron, and in the same way, Kopay sets an example for all of us — not merely for his courage in coming out, which was an extension of his selflessness on the field, not simply for writing his frank autobiography, The David Kopay Story (originally published in 1977 by Arbor House) but also through his ongoing commitment to the cause of lesbians and gays, bi- and transsexuals. After years of activism on behalf of gay and lesbian athletes, reflected in his roles as a board member of the Gay and Lesbian Athletics Foundation and as the ambassador of the Gay Games, his commitment again manifests itself in his creation of a $1 million testamentary endowment to the Q Center at his alma mater, the University of Washington in Seattle. Kopay isn’t hesitant in talking about his career in football, his subsequent activism, and the importance of acceptance, because he recognizes that the same handicaps that dogged him as a player first struggling with and later hiding his sexual identity still exist in the NFL—and all of the major team sports. “[Homosexuality] is still just as paralyzing, even with all the information that’s out there. It’s a threat to a man’s sense of masculinity [for himself], and other men’s as well.” Within the insular world of a pro football locker room, coming out was and remains potentially hazardous. As it was, Kopay commanded the respect of teammates, coaches and fans for his hard-nosed style of play as a running back and special-teams grunt. “You don’t play 10 years in the NFL without being a professional,” he says with obvious pride. Kopay may have been alone in terms of the struggle to come out, as anyone is, but he was no more alone in the locker room than he was in society. After his Redskins teammate Jerry Smith died of AIDS in 1986, Kopay revealed their relationship. Subsequently, two more former NFL players have come out of the closet, former offensive lineman Roy Simmons, in 1992, and former defensive lineman Esera Tuaolo, in 2002. Like Kopay, both men waited to announce their sexual orientation publicly until their playing days were over. Their reticence is understandable, even with the progress that’s made in the nearly 40 years since Stonewall and 30-plus since Kopay’s coming out. The story of major league baseball player Glenn Burke, a speedy, athletic outfielder who was out to his teammates and managers in the late ’70s, reflects the danger that went hand in hand with courage in the workplace. As Kopay recallsed, Burke “was abused terribly by his managers, Tommy Lasorda and Billy Martin. “He had so little support, it destroyed him.” Like too many heroes, Burke was lost to AIDS, passing on in 1995. As Kopay notes of the aftereffects of the outbreak of the epidemic, society’s efforts at “dealing with AIDS was all aimed at ‘gay people.’” But, Kopay reflects, stories like Burke’s or Jerry Smith’s reminds people that “maybe gay people are everywhere.” Kopay has managed to connect with many of the major professional athletes who have come out in the years since his own announcement. “I’m very close to Esera [Tuaolo],” Kopay says, “he’s a great guy, and he’s done a lot of good. He’s working with a lot of universities and the NFL.” Kopay has also been on panels with former NBA player 29 WHAT’S HAPPENED SINCE 1975 IS UNBELIEVABLE. GAY RIGHTS IS ALMOST BECOMING A NON-ISSUE John Amaechi as well as former baseball player Billy Bean. “We don’t hang together, but we do get brought together.” What about an athlete coming out while active today? It would be no less difficult or potentially dangerous, Kopay says. “When [people] can do what they did to Matthew Shepherd, there’s a huge danger.” And athough Kopay thinks we might not see an active pro athlete come out “for another 20 years,” he is at the same time “surprised it hasn’t happened yet.” Kopay expects progress to move more quickly at other levels of sports: “At the college level, within the next 10 years. Maybe in the [Beijing] Olympics, we’ll see,” he suggests coyly. “The more we’re visible, the more we’ll be accepted.” That’s especially important in a society where barriers between gays and straights are seen as increasingly artificial, the product of mutual misconceptions and generalizations. As Kopay says, “Sports breaks down barriers.” A product of a very traditional Catholic family,Kopay followed in his older brother’s footsteps. Growing up in Chicago and later California, Kopay starred in sports in school before going on to play football for the University of Washington Huskies. He was and is the epitome of the mainstream American masculine ideal, and even joined a fraternity during his college days. Those common, fundamentally middle-American experiences probably helped the many people who watched him play, from the sidelines, the stands, or the sofa — realize, “He’s not so different, not so exotic.” And that’s more than half the battle when it comes to gaining acceptance; as Kopay notes, “to know somebody is to love them.” This lends significance to the fact that athletes are becoming a much more visible element of the LGBT community. Not only does it help to combat some of the more archaic stereotypes about gays or lesbians, but it also reflects “a gay community that is much more actively participatory” in sports. Kopay’s latest act of leadership is all the more special because it has been done in that light: not simply within the context of the gay community helping itself, but within the broader arena of an America growing up. In part because he was disgusted by the polarization and anti-gay sentiments that were played up in the 2004 election (“it was sort of an impetus; life serves up some funny turns”), Kopay decided to make his testamentary gift to the University of Washington’s Q Center in the fall of 2007 to help the university’s LGBT students in the years to come. Not everything he’s given will have to wait ‘til his death—“there’s another gift so that some kids can finish school”—and it’s the product of years of hard work in the flooring business in Los Angeles after his football career. The university responded quickly and gratefully, introducing Kopay as a Husky Legend at the home opener of the 2007 football season against Boise State. Kopay recalls the day with relish: “74,000 cheering people couldn’t have cared less [that I was gay], they were proud of me. It was unbelievable. I don’t care if they recognized me for my football prowess, my work for Human Rights, or whatever: they recognized me.” Perhaps more directly, as one University of Washington administrator noted weeks later when Kopay gave a welcoming speech to new gay students, “that game was a great day for gay people in Seattle.” The event reflects the tide of recognition, acceptance, and tolerance that has grown nationwide across the decades since Kopay’s coming out. “What’s happened since 1975 is unbelievable. Gay rights is almost becoming a non-issue—we are winning at every level. Sympathy is obviously seeping in when even John McCain is listening to the general about how ‘don’t ask, don’t’ tell’ is BS.” Fundamental to that progress and change has been the actions, words, and leadership of men and women, not least among them David Kopay, a leader in deed and word. 30 From the moment you cross our cabin’s threshold, you’ll know why only one airline is Hawaiian. As our guest in the air, we offer a complimentary meal, HAWAII STARTS HERE award-winning service and genuine hospitality that comes from the heart. Check out our lowest fares to Hawai‘i from ten Western U.S. cities on our website. The essence of our Islands is aboard every flight. Find out which HIV medicine meets your needs. Ask your doctor these important questions. Will the HIV medicine make my skin or eyes turn yellow? Can I take it only once a day? Can I also take medicine for heartburn if I need to? Will I have to watch or change my diet? Will side effects interrupt my daily routine? For more information, please visit www.lessboosting.com. Ask your doctor which HIV therapy is right for you. ©2008 The GlaxoSmithKline Group of Companies All rights reserved. Printed in USA. LXV462R0 April 2008 L 2008 THE YEAR TO LIVE, LOVE, BE. young and the not-so-young alike. Members of our community who remember how difficult it was to be themselves, and those who need to know now that it is ok to BE whatever you are, and be able to LIVE and LOVE throughout your life without discrimination or condemnation. InterPride is the International Association of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Intersex Pride Coordinators. We are a networking and support organization for the organizations that produce LGBTI Pride Events. On behalf of our member organizations around the world, we are honored to present you with this calendar of events and information. These events are produced to inform and celebrate your local LGBTI community and anyone who may be visiting your area. Make attending an LGBTI Pride Event a necessary element of your travel plans, as well as an important responsibility in your home town. The following pages contain a comprehensive list of Pride events produced by InterPride member organizations throughout the world, for 2008 through May 2009. For an up-to-date list, including any changes that may occur, please visit our website at www.interpride.org anytime. We encourage you to be involved in the many marches, parades, festivals, parties and other events available to you. Educate yourself, your family, your friends and equally, your enemies, on the issues at hand and how People are People, regardless of gender, race or sexuality, and deserve the same rights as the rest of the community has enjoyed without having to justify their right to have them. Happy Pride! eading the world with the messages of tolerance, inclusion and acceptance are the many Pride Marches and Festivals held throughout the year. Each event is a unique vehicle for the LGBTI Community to show that we are an integral part of the general, broader population. Gay men, lesbians, bisexual men and women, transgender people and Intersex individuals march in solidarity along streets in every corner of the globe inviting politicians, interest groups and commercial enterprises to join in, to show that discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity is not a concept we as a people should tolerate. Although we have come a long way, there is still a long way to go. Homophobia, political intolerance and societal indifference still occur in many communities. Government policy is still used as a weapon against us. Relationship recognition such as marriage or civil unions is still only available in a select, albeit growing, number of countries. While these inequalities exist anywhere around the world, the significance of the Pride movement will remain as strong and relevant as ever. The International Theme for 2008 is Live Love Be. Throughout the year, take this theme with you as you work and play and remind your friends, colleagues and family that the adoption of the simple spirit behind these three little words can make a real difference to millions of people around the world. Pride events touch the hearts of the About InterPride In the fall of 1982 representatives from half a dozen US LGBTI Pride Event producing organizations gathered in Boston, Massachusetts to network and learn from each other. From that meeting, the National Association of Lesbian and Gay Pride Coordinators was born. Since then, annual conferences have been held in a different city each year, with attendances well over the hundred marks, representing a growing number of world regions each time. In 1997, expanded outreach made the organization truly global and the conference in New York City was attended by representatives of 73 Pride Organization from 18 countries. The next year the delegates voted to add Bisexual and Transgender to the name of the organization. At the 1999 conference, in Glasgow, Scotland, the first conference held off the North American Continent, the organization changed its name to InterPride to consolidate and better reflect its international structure. As the movement for equal rights for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender persons has grown over the years, so too have Pride Events and InterPride. By 1986 the organization had non-US organizations at the conference and in the first set of by-laws changed the name to the International Association of Lesbian and Gay Pride Coordinators. In the years that followed, other non-US delegates included delegates from Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, the Netherlands and Germany. Recently, this increased to include delegates from The Philippines, Sri Lanka, Poland, Australia, Moscow and Belarus. The organization has been recognized at its conferences with addresses by the heads of state in New Zealand and Iceland, not to mention numerous other elected and governmental officials. The membership has shared the joys and pains of the struggle for equality from around the world; from full marriage rights in Canada, Denmark and Spain, to homophobic violence at Pride Events in Eastern Europe. The wide range of recognition and response to LGBTI Pride Events demonstrates the necessity for LGBTI Pride Event producing organizations and the support and networking that InterPride offers. Since the early days of the Internet, InterPride has posted a Global Calendar of LGBTI Pride Events, reproduced in the following pages. Local Pride event organizations submit their information and InterPride posts it as a service to the LGBTI community worldwide. Those organizations which decide to join InterPride receive a link from their listing to their own website as well as the listing in this magazine. Additional benefits for member organizations include discount memberships in the International Festival and Events Association (IFEA) and the International Gay and Lesbian Travel Association (IGLTA); along with the many resources available through conferences and our member’s only section of our website. The Vancouver Pride Society will welcome member organizations and their representatives to Vancouver, British Columbia in October this year (www.interpride08.com for more information). In addition to the Annual World Conferences, there are several regional conferences. Please visit our website at www.interpride.org for more information on these conferences. All conferences are open to everyone, though delegates from InterPride member organizations receive a discount on registration fees. InterPride chooses an annual theme each year at the world conference. While no member organization is required to use the theme, it does demonstrate unity for the community around the world. 2008’s theme is Live Love Be. 2009 will welcome the theme Our Rights, Your Rights, Human Rights. InterPride invites all LGBTI Pride event-producing organizations to join us. Whether your organization produces a series of events each year or just one, and whether attendance is enormous or modest, we believe each organization has valuable experience and knowledge to share with others. As we are an organization of organizations, there are no individual memberships available, however, we strongly encourage you to volunteer for and/or join your local LGBTI Pride event-producing organization. The individual reward is as great as the community reward. BOARD OF DIRECTORS CO-PRESIDENTS Atlanta Pride Committee Atlanta, GA USA Trisha Clymore Russell Murphy Heritage of Pride New York, NY USA VICE PRESIDENTS OF OPERATIONS Verein Gay Pride – Christopher Street Day Zürich Zürich, Switzerland Mark Chapman GLBT Pride/Twin Cities Minneapolis, MN USA David Hill Human Rights Alliance Sante Fe, NM USA Doña Hatch Katrin Jonsdottir Reykjavik Gay Pride Reykjavik, Iceland VICE PRESIDENT MEMBER SERVICES Pride Community Center of North Central Florida Gainesville, FL USA Terry Fleming SECRETARY Christopher Street West Los, Angeles, CA USA TREASURER Mike Iacono Ross Chapman Pride Toronto Toronto, ON Canada REGIONAL DIRECTORS REGION 1 Mexico, United States (States: Arizona, California, Hawaii, Nevada, Utah) REGION 6 United States (States: Connecticut, Delaware, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, Vermont, Washington DC) Steve Ganzell Los Angeles Leather Coalition Los Angeles, CA USA REGION 2 Billy Urich United States (States: Alaska, Idaho, Montana, Oregon, Washington, Wyoming) Connecticut Pride Hartford Rally and Festival, Inc. Hartford, CT USA Keri Aulita Jer Megowan Boston Pride Committee Boston, MA USA REGION 7 Pride Day Equality Project, inc. Eugene, OR USA REGION 3 REGION 9 Anguilla, Antigua and Barbuda, Aruba, Bahamas, Barbados, Belize, Bermuda, Cayman Islands, Costa Rica, Cuba, Dominica, Dominican Republic, El Salvador, Grenada, Guadeloupe, Guatemala, Haiti, Honduras, Jamaica, Martinique, Montserrat, Navassa Island, Netherlands Antilles, Nicaragua, Panama, Puerto Rico, St. Kitts-Nevis, St. Lucia, St. Vincent and the Grenadines, Trinidad and Tobago, Turks & Caicos Islands, Virgin Islands (UK), Virgin Islands (USA) REGION 14 Andorra, Cyprus, Gibraltar, Israel, Italy, Madeira, Malta, Portugal, San Marino, Spain, Switzerland (Italian speaking Cantons), Turkey, Vatican City No Representation REGION 15 Albania, Bosnia-Herzegovina, Bulgaria, Croatia, Greece, Macedonia, Moldova, Montenegro, Romania, Serbia, Slovenia REGION 18 Afghanistan, Armenia, Azerbaijan, Bahrain, Georgia, Iran, Iraq, Jordan, Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Kuwait, Lebanon, Oman, Pakistan, Qatar, Saudi Arabia, Syria, Tajikistan, Turkmenistan, United Arab Emirates, Uzbekistan, Yemen No Representation REGION 19 Bangladesh, Bhutan, British Indian Ocean Territory, Brunei, Cambodia, China, Heard and McDonald Islands, India, Indonesia, Japan, Korea North, Korea South, Laos, Macao, Malaysia, Maldives, Mongolia, Myanmar, Nepal, Papua New Guinea, Philippines, Seychelles, Singapore, Sri Lanka, Taiwan, Thailand, Vietnam Dimitri Tsambrounis Athens Pride Athens, Greece REGION 16 Algeria, Angola, Ascension, Benin, Botswana, Burkina, Burundi, Cameroon, Cape Verde, Central African Republic, Chad, Comoros, Congo, Cote d’Ivoire, Democratic Republic of the Congo, Djibouti, Egypt, Equatorial Guinea, Eritrea, Ethiopia, Gabon, Gambia, Ghana, Guinea, Guinea-Bissau, Kenya, Lesotho, Liberia, Libya, Madagascar, Malawi, Mali, Mauritania, Mauritius, Mayotte, Morocco, Mozambique, Namibia, Niger, Nigeria, Reunion, Rwanda, St. Helena, Sao Tome and Principe, Senegal, Seychelles, Sierra Leone, Somalia, South Africa, Sudan, Swaziland, Tanzania, Togo, Tunisia, Uganda, Western Sahara, Zambia, Zimbabwe Canada (Provinces: Alberta, British Columbia, Manitoba, New Brunswick, Newfoundland & Labrador, Northwest Territories, Nova Scotia, Ontario, Prince Edward Island, Quebec, Saskatchewan, Yukon Territory), St. Pierre et Miquelon No Representation REGION 10 Guernsey, Jersey, Ireland, Isle of Man, United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland (including England, Northern Ireland, Scotland and Wales) United States (States: Colorado, Kansas, New Mexico, Oklahoma, Texas) Sahran Abeysundra Equal Ground Columbo, Sri Lanka No Representation REGION 4 Paul Birrell United States (States: Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Michigan, Minnesota, Missouri, Nebraska, North Dakota, Ohio, South Dakota, Wisconsin) John Boychuk Marion Steele Pride London London, England UK REGION 11 Aland, Denmark, Faeroes, Finland, Greenland, Iceland, Norway, Svalbard, Sweden Vancouver Pride Society Vancouver, BC Canada Fred Huebener Motor City Pride Detroit, MI USA Pride Committee of OttawaGatineau Ottawa, ON Canada REGION 8 Belarus, Czech Republic, Estonia, Hungary, Latvia, Lithuania, Poland, Romania, Russian Federation, Slovakia, Ukraine Kristen Sævarsdóttir Reykjavik Gay Pride Reykjavik, Iceland Anne McCoy Pride St. Louis St. Louis, MO USA REGION 5 United States (States: Alabama, Arkansas, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, North Carolina, South Carolina, Tennessee, Virginia, West Virginia) Tomasz Baczkowski Equality Foundation Warsaw, Poland REGION 12 Austria, Germany, Liechtenstein, The Netherlands, Switzerland (German speaking Cantons) No Representation REGION 17 Argentina, Bolivia, Brazil, Chile, Colombia, Ecuador, Falkland Islands, French Guiana, Guyana, Paraguay, Peru, South Georgia and the Sandwich Islands, Surinam, Uruguay, Venezuela Robert Kastl Christopher Street Day/Berlin Berlin Germany REGION 13 Belgium, France, Luxembourg, Monaco, Switzerland (French speaking Cantons) REGION 20 American Samoa, Australia, Baker Island, Bouvet Island, Christmas Island, Cocos (Keeling) Islands, Coral Sea Islands, Fiji, French Polynesia, Guam, Heard Island and McDonald Islands, Howland Island, Jarvis Island, Johnston Atoll, Kingman Reef, Kiribati, Marshall Islands, Micronesia, Midway Atoll, Nauru, New Caledonia, New Zealand, Niue, Norfolk Island, Northern Mariana Islands, Palau, Palmyra Atoll, Pitcairn Island, Samoa, Solomon Islands, Tahiti, Timor-Leste, Tokelau, Tonga, Tuvalu, Vanuatu, Wake Island, Wallis & Futuna Islands Charles Richards Roanoke Pride Roanoke, VA USA Toni Reis Brett Hayhoe Jennifer Sheffield Atlanta Pride Committee Atlanta, GA USA Hans De Meyer Associacao Paranaense da Parada da DiversidadeCuritiba, Parana Brazil Pride March Victoria Melbourne, Victoria Australia Belgian Pride Brussels, Belgium GLOBAL CALENDAR I liked school, but I got picked on for being a lesbian. 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Add to this a constant convergence of old and new, and Mexico City becomes cinematic: A donkey cart passes a Mercedes, a pushcart full of tamales sits parked in front of a Starbucks, an indigenous Mexican woman in colorful dress trails a punk in dark glasses with chains hanging from his belt, a local holy man performs a ritual smoke cleansing at the door to the cathedral. Without losing a beat or its soul, the city constantly reminds you of what has always been and what is now. The gay scene has its contrasts as well. There’s an older, upscale crowd with a global perspective on being gay, and a younger, less moneyed crowd hitting the scene with exuberance and élan, if not resources. And, as with many developing nations, lesbians find themselves at the bottom of the heap due more to their gender than their queerness. Like many Catholic countries, a Mexican woman’s status is a function of her family’s and her husband’s; without a man in the picture, women risk social statelessness. Fortunately, Mexico’s lesbians are starting to network, organize and claim their own space, and one of the country’s leading politicians, Patria Jimenez, is believed to be the very first out lesbian to hold high public office in Latin America. Mexico City legalized same-sex and different-sex civil unions in November of 2006, placing the Distrito Federal far ahead of many “developed” countries. In 2007, the state of Coahuila did the same, and more states are expected to follow. A FEW RULES OF THUMB FOR TRAVELERS: reputable cab for you. If your budget is up to it, a car and driver for the day or night can be a very good way to get around. neighborhood by neighborhood. The city is HUGE and enormously congested. Anything you can do to reduce your time in traffic is well worth the effort. smart and polite. Keep the jewelry to a minimum and don’t flash cash. If you need directions or have a question, you’ll find most Mexicans extremely gracious — especially to an appreciative visitor. are happy to barter. As a foreigner, you’re likely being charged top dollar, so a few pesos less and everyone will still be happy. Unless you have a perfect accent, the discount will only be minor, but bartering is part of the experience. 2:30 p.m. to 4 p.m, and dinner can be as late as 10:30 or 11 p.m. The upside? A “hot” restaurant that is packed for dinner may have an early table. The downside? If you’re eating lunch with Mexicans, your meal may run long after the dinner hour. THE NEIGHBORHOODS: La Condesa: Charming but still rough around the edges, La Condesa is home to many young designers and architects, who live here among the cafés, teashops and hip little boutiques for skateboards, sneakers and jewelry. Although influenced by the outside world, Mexico’s young designers and artists are still inspired by the architects, artists and artisans that came before them, such as Luis Barragan and Frida Kahlo. For shoppers, contemporary Mexican art and design is good value for the money, in contrast to pricier antiques and ethnic crafts. Hippodrome, a boutique hotel, is just off the Park de Mexico and features Hip Kitchen, a very of-the-moment restaurant on the ground floor. La Roma: A mix of students and high culture thanks to Casa Lamm, a private foundation with a bookshop, art gallery in drinks. Don’t eat anything without a peel that isn’t thoroughly cooked. This includes salad. hotel or restaurant will be happy to call a and chic open-air restaurant. Check out the small shops, including a French-influenced tea shop called Caravanserai. For seafood, there’s Contramar, next door to new art gallery Gaga, which features upand-coming, cutting-edge Mexican artists before they graduate to museum walls. The other gallery in Roma is OMR on Rio de Janeiro, a lovely old-fashioned square, which shows the current generation of hot, mid-career Latin American artists. Around the corner, an antique shop owned by Gabriel Ruiz has such wonderful and original stock that you can justify the price. Roma also features the best salon-style gallery in Mexico City. Located in a townhouse, Chic By Accident is decorated with furniture and accessories from the 1930s through the 1970s — all for sale. Look for an original take on mixing colors, textures and eras as well as an exquisite selection of Mexican jewelry. At night, the Cantina Covadonga hosts a mixed, packed crowd at the bar and tables. The back room is often handed over to large parties, so there is a constant stream of people. Zona Rosa: Fittingly perhaps, the Pink Zone is Mexico City’s “gay” neighborhood, and with its antique shops, late hours, Saturday flea market and wild nightlife, it is reminiscent of New York City’s West Village of old (with a little South Beach thrown in). Have dinner at Cicero Bazaar on the top floor of the antique shop building or a proper lunch at the old-style restaurant, Bellinghausen. There are nearly 30 gay bars and clubs in the Zona, from old-school Tailler to Cabaré-Tito Safari, Neon and VIP. Polanco: Mexico City’s Upper East Side. The W, Habita, and Intercontinental hotels are all in Polanco. Shops are modern, high-end and international: Etro, Hugo Boss, Gucci, etc., but it’s Desino de Mexico that’s not to be missed, with interesting contemporary Mexican and global design shows, including furniture, home accessories and jewelry. Nearby on Reforma are many of Mexico’s best museums, including the Tamayo Contemporary Art Museum and the Museum of Modern Art. The Archaeology Museum features and an extraordinary central courtyard as well as a fascinating collection explaining Mexico’s origins. Coyoacan: This is “old” Mexico, with low buildings in deep hues of orange and terra cotta, decorated with extensive ironwork and enormous, carved wooden doors. The main market in Coyoacan is full of everything a Mexican market should have: vegetables, piñatas, baskets, pottery, birdcages and Day of the Dead accessories. It’s an easy neighborhood to wander around in and peek into shops for both knick-knacks and silver. The Frieda Kahlo museum, Casa Azul (the blue house) is worth a visit if you are in the neighborhood. Centro Historico: The oldest — and probably most interesting — part of the city is the Centro Historico. Not only are there many important landmarks here, but the Centro Historico is also the newest area to become gentrified by young artists and entrepreneurs. There are amazing old spaces (usually art deco or colonial ruins) being taken over for nightclubs and galleries. The heart of this part of town, the main square, is called the Zocalo. It is surrounded by the cathedral and the Presidential Palace; both should be seen. The inner courtyard of the Presidential Palace is covered in Diego Rivera murals. Anyone is free to enter to see the murals as long as you show an ID. The cathedral is the Notre Dame of Latin America, behind which are archeological ruins (Templo Mayor) that can be toured. Off the street at the back of the cathedral is a Pasaje Catedral (just off Republic de Guatemala), with every type of religious accessory from rosaries to a life-size Jesus and even pagan remedies. The traditional Mexican restaurant La Casa de las Sirenas is on the same street and has a terrace overlooking the cathedral. The Centro Historico is an easy section of the city to walk around in and window shop. Check out the many street vendors and discover the last of the old bookshops, pastry shops and even a few fountain pen shops. A few blocks from the Zocalo is the Palacio de Bellas Artes Opera House. It looks like a huge yellow wedding cake. The operas can be world class —at bargain prices — and the museum upstairs has many galleries devoted to current art trends. There are also wonderful murals, and the art deco interior is to die for. If you are going to an event in the evening, try the wonderfully old-fashioned Opera Bar, two blocks away, before or after the show. COUPLED PHOTOGRAPHS BY GREGG DELMAN Liz Whittington & Lauren McNulty “Your words are my food, your breath my wine. You are everything to me.” “Unconventional in every way” Glenna Marla & Deb Malkin “No matter what happens, we’ll deal with it.” Katie Martin & Dominic “We were friends long before we were partners” Mark Kane & Tim Sweeney “Laughter. Passion. Adventure. 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The work we’ve done in the past has led to some of today’s most effective treatments; the research we do now and in the future could ﬁnd the new medicines for tomorrow’s cures. ’ www.gsk.com PRIDE IS PATRIOTIC In an election year, longtime journalist and commentator Karen Ocamb reminds us that the push for LGBT Equal Rights is no less than a reminder that America will only realize its full potential when the ideas spelled out in the Declaration of Independence, the Constitution and the Bill of Rights apply to all its citizens. Randy Klose was rich, clever, and thought he looked handsome in his tight leather pants at the Christopher Street West Pride parade in June 1991. An important contributor in Washington D.C. political circles and a fixture among A-gays from Fire Island to Beverly Hills, Klose was content on this day to be one of many lining the parade route along Santa Monica Boulevard In West Hollywood. Feeling like “one of many” was a new experience for him. As heir to a Dairy Queen franchise fortune in Texas, Klose didn’t think about discrimination. He didn’t need to — he could always buy what he needed. And then he was diagnosed with HIV. He panicked, racing around the country to buy a cure. But there was none. Just before he boarded a plane to Atlanta for an experimental trial that would remove all his blood, boil it to eradicate the HIV, and then replace it, his friends convinced him that the procedure could kill him and deprive him of the time he had left. Klose was stunned. How could this happen to him? Why wasn’t the federal government throwing all its resources at finding a cure and stopping the spread of this devastating disease? In the depths of his depression — death from HIV/AIDS was considered a certainty in those days — Randy Klose had an epiphany: the U.S. government didn’t care if gay people died. Some people even said that AIDS was God’s punishment for homosexuality. Suddenly Klose realized that the only thing that distinguished him from the gay Latino with AIDS in East L.A. was that he had better healthcare. Klose read AIDS prophet Larry Kramer’s 1983 polemic “1,112 and Counting” and he liked the passionate anger and the desperate, creative camaraderie of ACT UP. But Klose realized he had a different gift to give. While AIDS activists agitated on the outside, blocking traffic in front of the White House with Silence=Death banners and scaling the walls of the Food and Drug Administration building, he would use the political access his money could buy to change public policy from inside the system. In 1987 he joined the board of the Human Rights Campaign Fund (HRCF) and hired an important Washington lobbyist to apply pressure to an indifferent Ronald Reagan, then president of the U.S. He lobbied Democratic Senators Edward Kennedy of Massachusetts and Lowell Weicker of Connecticut, who passed the first federal AIDS law: the 1988 Federal AIDS Research and Information Act, intended to coordinate the government’s research on AIDS. By the time of the 1991 Christopher Street West Pride Parade, Klose had become co-chair of HRCF (with his best friend Hillary Rosen), had contributed over $1 million to AIDS service and gay rights organizations, and had raised millions more. He was also a financial advisor to Arkansas Governor Bill Clinton’s presidential campaign, believing that Clinton would end the HIV/AIDS crisis and elevate gays from second-class citizenship to full equality. Klose died in August 1992, three months before Clinton won the election. He was 37. The story of Randy Klose is one of many in the history of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender and HIV/AIDS movements for equal treatment under the law, and it reminds us of how fiercely we hold onto the promise of the fundamental right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness laid out in the U.S. Declaration of Independence and further detailed in the U.S. Constitution and Bill of Rights. It is this belief — this pride in being worthy citizens — that makes LGBT people profound symbols of American patriotism. Of course there are many people — gay and straight — who disagree. After all, they say, there’s no proof that sexual orientation or gender identity is an immutable characteristic worthy of constitutionally protected status. Which means that LGBT rights are a social issue — much like abortion or gun control — not the province of a disadvantaged or discriminated-against minority. However, when a group of people are routinely discriminated against because they identify with that group, that should suffice to warrant protection. Religion is not an immutable characteristic, either. In fact, many religions permit (and even encourage) conversion. And yet the right to practice the religion of one’s choice is constitutionally protected, as are religious groups. Year after year, the top three categories of the FBI’s annual report on hate-crime statistics are race, sexual orientation and religion. Of course, LGBT people had to press Congress to add sexual orientation to that list. And while gun control and abortion rights do involve constitutional issues such as the scope of the Second Amendment and whether there is an inherent right to privacy, gun ownership and reproductive rights are not integral to one’s day-to-day sense of self in the way that sexual orientation and gender identity are. A priest can be celibate and still be gay, for instance. The fact is, gays are a people, not an issue.Other people argue that LGBT rights will get handled in due time — not as a special interest group’s complaint — but as part of the larger change in the whole system. Some of these people also claim that there are more pressing issues facing this country right now than LGBT equality. But that brush-off is a betrayal of the patriotism of LGBT people who, like most other Americans, care deeply that much of the U.S. Constitution (including the right to habeas corpus) has been shredded through President Bush’s “signing statements”; that the U.S. government now condones torture; that the President launched a costly pre-emptive war of choice and continually lied about it to the American people; that the $9 trillion and climbing national debt is largely held by the Chinese government — the list goes on. Yet LGBT Americans continue to enlist in the armed forces, lying to get into the military so that they can fight and die for their country, only to be discharged if someone alleges they are gay. And lesbian and gay couples continue to demand the freedom to marry, to enjoy the same rights and responsibilities that tradition, society, and their belief systems say is the ultimate sanctification and recognition of their love. Is this not an example of the right to pursue happiness unfettered by the biased judgments of others? Unfortunately, even the smartest and most liberal of LGBT allies continue to engage in mental gymnastics to avoid acknowledging the profound fact that LGBT people are officially second-class citizens under the law. Somehow, given the political climate, “separate but equal” should be good enough. Consider Illinois Sen. Barack Obama’s April 10 interview with The Advocate. “I strongly respect the right of same-sex couples to insist that even if we got complete equality in benefits, it still wouldn’t be equal because there’s a stigma associated with not having the same word, marriage, assigned to it. I understand that, but my perspective is also shaped by the broader political and historical context in which I’m operating,” the Democratic presidential contender said. Though a product of a mixed-race marriage, illegal in many states during the civil rights movement, Obama said he would not have advised Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. “to lead with repealing an antimiscegenation law, because it just might not have been the best strategy in terms of moving broader equality forward.” But apparently Obama’s parents thought their love was worth the risk of lynching or beatings. And while civil rights leaders concentrated on issues like the right to vote for Southern blacks and integrated education, ordinary African American men carried protest signs reading, “I Am a Man” — demanding the simple right to be recognized as a human being. That is the broader context in which the civil rights movement flourished. And that is the context in which the broader LGBT movement exists. The subtext of Randy Klose’s epiphany was that — for all his money and connections — he was an invisible man. NHI, the Los Angeles Police Department used to say about gays in 1991: “No Human Involved.” Like Klose, LGBT people have stepped up: protesting, creating non-profits, and electing gays to office to respond to governmental neglect and antipathy. And today, whether it’s AIDS healthcare, confronting the schoolyard tradition of bullying, or expanding the definition of “freedom of expression,” LGBT people have shared their experience to benefit others as well. Today, LGBT people can stand up with pride knowing that their ongoing struggle for full equality holds a mirror up to America, reminding its citizens that the freedoms guaranteed in the U.S. Constitution and the Bill of Rights are not favors conferred by the political majority but the foundation upon which this democratic republic was built. Today, second-class citizenship and “separate but equal” policies convey outdated, discriminatory thinking. Today, LGBT pride is patriotic. THE NOT-AT-ALL-ACCIDENTAL Every year, thousands of Western tourists flock to nations where prostitution is legal (or overlooked) in search of Professional Sex. Exploitative or Ethical? It all depends on what you think, where you look, and what you’re looking for. Chris Crain reports from Rio… PHOTOGRAPH: JOYCE CURY/JOURNAL A CIDADE SEX TOURIST Mention certain exotic locales like Rio De Janeiro or Bangkok as gay travel destinations, and you’re sure to get raised eyebrows, if not a few wisecracks. Like Amsterdam, these places have gained a reputation in recent years as hotspots for “sex tourists” — travellers (both gay and straight) in search of unique sexual experiences. But unlike the hordes of heteros who head to Cancun for Spring Break or the gay men who flock to Palm Springs, these international sex tourists expect to pay for their hedonism, and they budget the bootie right alongside the airfare, hotel, and food and drink expenses. Some of these men — and by all accounts these are gay and bisexual men, not lesbians — travel abroad to purchase the sex they can’t find for free back home, whether because of age, physical shape or even infirmity. Many gay male sex tourists don’t fit that stereotype, however. Just ask Michael (not his real name), a gay American ex-pat in his early 40s who lives most of the year in Rio De Janeiro, Brazil. Handsome, muscular and bronzed, Michael cheerfully plays de facto tour guide for quite a few North American and European visitors to the cidade maravilhoso (wonderful city), as Rio is known. When the chat on Ipanema’s gay beach turns to the best place to meet guys, some visitors will ask Michael directly about escorts and the city’s wellknown hustler saunas. Other times Michael can guess what’s on their mind, as he did recently with three good-looking Californians enjoying their first few days in town. Michael took them to Club 117, a nearby sauna known for having the hottest local escorts. Any of the four of them could easily find sexual companionship for free on the cruisey beach or in the local bars, but they head to Club 117 — for a whole host of reasons. “It’s safe, for one thing,” offers Michael. Safety is no small advantage in anything-goes Rio, where the hustlers who work the streets and beaches are known for playing a scam called boa noite, Cinderella (good night, Cinderella) — spiking a drink or even coating chewing gum with a knockout drug and then helping the woozy tourist back to his room, before helping themselves to cameras, computers and cash. “The hustler saunas are also discreet,” he adds with a wry grin. “The environment is very sexy and flattering no matter what you look like, and the guys FOR MANY THE ACT OF PROSTITUTION MAY ACTUALLY BE MORE AKIN TO A RITUALIZED FORM OF SEXUAL TRANSGRESSION THAN A SEX-FOR-MONEY TRANSACTION are professionals; they know what they’re doing.” On the late Thursday afternoon that Michael and his new friends from California arrive at the sauna, they were treated to a smorgasbord of options: as many as 50 garotos de programa (program guys) — many of them more macho, more muscular and more tattooed than the regular gay Brazilians in Rio bars or on the beach. At least half the hustlers are straight, estimates Michael, but every bit as enthusiastic, and they range in age from mid-20s to mid-30s. There are no “boys” here. The other four Rio hustler saunas have a greater variety in age and body type, from young, lean surfer types to the guy next door. The tourist clientele at Club 117 that Thursday evening ran the full gamut and then some. There were the out-of-shape executives you’d expect to see, as well as not one but two international porn stars — there to buy, mind you, not to sell. Almost all the customers are Anglo or Hispanic; black gay sex tourists are more likely to head to the Dominican Republic and other Caribbean destinations. Back in Rio, Michael is a knowledgeable source about the system at the hustler saunas from his trips there. Escorts are not employed by the saunas but pay a fee for the days they work there. The more popular hustlers dance in strip shows to entertain and entice. “It’s almost like a cabaret,” Michael laughs. Other hustlers work the room seeking out clients, which results in a surprising power dynamic. The escorts are the aggressors, Michael says, though they will move on if a tourist declines in a direct way. There are no set prices; everything is negotiated in advance. The tourist who is careless or easily intimidated will pay a good deal more than the haggler. “The workers are really the ones in control,” insists Michael. “They’re the ones being confident and macho. When they’re not working a tourist, they’re joking around with each other. They make you feel like you’re the ones who are lucky to be there.” In fact, a study done in 2000 on male prostitution in Brazil concluded, “For many the act of ‘prostitution’ may actually be more akin to a ritualized form of sexual transgression than the kind of sex-for-money transaction that occurs commonly among female and transvestite sex workers” — and among male hustlers in the U.S. Many of the visiting “gringos” — something Brazilians call all foreigners, not just the Yanks — arrive at the hustler saunas in gaggles of 5-10, reports Michael, to share the fun but also because there’s no embarrassment about why they’re there. When in Rio, after all. It’s the local clients who keep to themselves and make their selections discreetly. To hear Michael and others who’ve visited the hustler saunas in Rio, São Paulo and elsewhere in Brazil, sex tourism involves a good time had by all; a “win-win” for the happy tourist and the well-compensated hustler. Prostitution is legal in Brazil, and sex workers are well-organized. There are 27 member organizations in the National Network of Sex Professionals, the result of a lobbying effort to have prostitution recognized and regulated by the government as a profession. These groups have fought a long-running battle against an ever-looming threat of abuse, often from corrupt law enforcement. The danger is much greater for the estimated 8,000 transgender sex workers who work Brazil’s streets. Most of their clients are locals who are either straight or deeply closeted, and violence is commonplace. The abuse can be worse from police and roving skinhead gangs, and the murder of transgender prostitutes is a tragic regular occurrence, especially in smaller cities. The AIDS crisis was the real catalyst for organizing male hustlers and transgender prostitutes. “We were the second movement to take AIDS seriously,” Gabriela Leite, founder of a Rio-based group for sex workers, told one local journalist. “The first was the Gay movement.” Despite the fact that Brazil has the largest Roman Catholic population of any country in the world, the country’s “Live and Let Live” attitude toward sex has made it much easier for the government and private groups to provide condoms to sex workers and educate them about risks. The emphasis on sex workers in the Brazilian National Program on STDs & AIDS made it a model for other countries and won special recognition by the United Nations and the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation. That didn’t prevent a nasty clash with the Bush administration, which insisted in 2005 that any country receiving U.S. funds for HIV/AIDS prevention sign an oath condemning prostitution. Brazil stood firm, turning down $40 million in funding — a position praised by the International Gay & Lesbian Human Rights Commission. “The Brazilian program works better because we address people the way they are, not the way we would like them to be,” said Fernando Gabeira, a member of Brazilian Congress, at the time of the spat. The result is a relatively low rate of HIV among Brazilian sex workers; an estimated 22 percent of male hustlers and 40 percent of transvestite prostitutes are infected. That same aggressive approach and non-judgmental attitude characterizes Brazil’s crackdown on a seedier side of sex tourism: men seeking sex with those under 18, the Brazilian age of consent. The National Plan to Deal with the Sexual & Commercial Exploitation of Adolescents & Children Through Tourism was launched in 2005 and has also become a model worldwide. The Ministry of Tourism has distributed thousands of leaflets warning about the crime of underage sexual exploitation in the places most likely to be frequented by would-be offenders or facilitators — airplane seats, hotel rooms, restaurants — and small placards have been installed inside almost every elevator in major tourist destinations like Rio, Recife and Florianopolis. Thankfully, the aggressive Brazilian effort hasn’t veered into hostility toward legitimate tourists, including gay travelers, as it has elsewhere. Egged on by the Catholic Church, the Costa Rican tourist board actively discouraged gay tour bookings back in 1999, equating gay tourism with child sex tourism. Officials backed down only after protests from travel agents and tourists alike. Carol Smolenski, U.S. director of ECPAT (End Child Prostitution and Trafficking of Children for Sexual Purposes) says the approach in Brazil remains the model. “We don’t focus on gay-organized trips per se,” Smolenski says, but she’s quick to add that gay tourists shouldn’t brush off child sexual exploitation as someone else’s issue. “Much of the problem is opportunistic,” she notes, rather than organized in advance. Tourists from developed countries can be tempted by “barely legal” sex-forpay that often involves teens actually below the age A VISIT TO THE SEX SAUNA WHEN IT COMES TO SEXWORK, RIO’S SAUNAS ARE THE OFFICE… of consent, and yet the visitor will rationalize away inhibitions. “They say to themselves, ‘This is a different culture. It’s OK here,’” says Smolenski. To reduce the average tourist’s temptation for situational irresponsibility, ECPAT and other groups train staff in hotels, travel agencies, restaurants — even taxi drivers and street vendors — to maintain a “code of conduct” that rebuffs tourists who ask for help finding underage sex and reminds them of the criminal penalties. Smolenski also points the finger at disreputable travel agencies that claim to offer only adult sex tourism packages. “They may claim to be ‘responsible,’” she says, “but if you go to their website you find links to ‘barely legal’ sex. When [tourists] get there, it can be anything goes.” Vigilance is required, Smolenski says, a lesson learned the hard way back in 2004 by Jason Bell, the publisher of the South Florida gay magazine HotSpots. A travel agency named Costa Rica Taboo Vacations had raised eyebrows with ads for travel with “companions” in the Central American country, which is second behind Brazil as a destination for sex tourists and “sex-pats.” Bell argued that he couldn’t be responsible for what “companions” might mean, but that didn’t stop a Fort Lauderdale gay activist from raising a stink when a visit to the agency’s website revealed testimonials like this one by Kevin from Newark, N.J.: “Not only were the accommodations comfortable, but the boys provided were insatiable. They were willing to do most anything, especially for an extra tip. Next time, I’ll bring Viagra!” The site also included a “confidential information form” for clients to indicate the age preference for their “companions”: under 14, 14-15, 16-17, and 18 and above. Negative media coverage ultimately forced Bell to drop Taboo Vacations as an advertiser. He was well advised to do so. The PROTECT Act passed by Congress in 2003 makes it illegal for U.S. citizens to travel overseas to have sex with anyone under the age of 18, regardless of the local age of consent; and the law covers those who “facilitate” such travel as well. Those familiar with sex tourism agree that gay travelers are more likely to run astray of the age of consent on trips to Asia, where the male ideal is a more boyish physique. Thailand in particular is believed to have the largest number of underage prostitutes in the world, although the government has ramped up efforts to combat this. Adult prosti- tution, on the other hand, is legal there and a huge moneymaker, pumping as much as $4.3 billion annually into the economy and employing anywhere from 200,000 to 500,000 people. Although the Thai tourism industry depends in significant part on the sex trade, conservative mores have inhibited the type of aggressive organization, outreach and education for sex workers that has taken place in Brazil. Sexual tourism bears the effects of that disparity, according to several Americans who have traveled to Bangkok and Phuket. The power dynamics, for one, seem to be reversed from those in the hustler saunas of Rio De Janeiro.“Money boys,” as Thai hustlers are known, are mostly found in massage parlors and bars that have sprung up over the last two decades in Thai tourist destinations specifically to facilitate the trade. Estimates are that as many as 8,000 male hustlers work in Bangkok alone. Hawkers on the street hunt down potential customers, which is how Jeffrey (not his real name), a retired professional from the northeast U.S., located his first hustler bar in Bangkok. Inside were two dozen or so guys, he recalls, ranging in age from late teens to 25 at the oldest, and dancing on stage in G-strings pinned with numbers for easy selection. Unlike in Brazil, the hustlers work for the club owner, so the customer pays the bar after an upfront negotiation about the acts to be performed. That first bar Jeffrey visited was typical of those he would see in subsequent trips to Thailand. For Barry (also not his real name), an American professional in his late 30s who has also frequented the money boys of Bangkok, the trips to hustler bars and massage parlors were something he did with his boyfriend. Locating the bars and parlors was as easy as thumbing through a gay travel guidebook. A massage with sex can run $25-30, compared to the $200 an hour charged by escorts in the U.S. or the $75-100 that’s the average in Rio. One common denominator in both sex tourist destinations, however, are the testimonials from satisfied customers. Barry says he’s never had a single negative experience. Jeffrey swears the professionals he met seemed genuinely eager to please and gave him the best sex he’d ever had. Peter Tatchell, a prominent gay activist in Britain who often champions the plight of gays in other countries, has written favorably about the lives of Thailand’s “bar boys.” “Foreign tourists come here, fall in love and leave broken-hearted,” Tatchell quotes one bar boy from Bangkok as saying. “The boys earn a standard of living they could never otherwise enjoy. So who’s exploiting who?” Tatchell asks. Yet that position glosses over the story of Chai, a 19-year-old escort who had worked as a “freelancer” for three years. (The age of consent for sex in Thailand is 18.) “Either I sell my body or I live in the gutter,” he quotes Chai as saying. “It’s wrong for people to condemn me.” Maybe not, but his clients are another story. The United Nations is on record in opposition to all forms of sex tourism, even where it is legal and involves consenting adults, citing negative health and social impacts. Feminist reaction also tends to be harsh. “Sex tourists and brothel-goers in general radiate a patriarchal sense of entitlement,” sniffs travel writer Emily Hansen. “Many sex tourists, who wouldn’t even be eligible for a date back in Germany, Canada, Australia or wherever else they come from, find solace in the fact that their money buys their egos back, at the expense of someone else’s health or happiness.” She likewise condemns gay sex tourism out of hand because, she claims, “(mostly young) boys are exploited in the same way as women.” Many American sex tourists who’ve spent time in Thailand admit to concern about the living situations many money boys face. Almost all of them come from poor, rural areas of the country. The Bangkok bars and parlors can pay $250-500 or more a week, a wage far above the average in Thailand. Even still, “it is exploitative,” Barry says frankly, especially for the straight sex workers. “It’s not a negotiation among equals.” Jeffrey got a unique inside look at the trade from the other side of things after he began dating a money boy. Jeffrey’s only condition was that Nat (not his real name) quit working as a hustler. Though Nat never asked for money, Jeffrey gave him an ATM card so he could withdraw the equivalent of what he would have earned turning tricks. Nat told Jeffrey about his five years of hustling, from the months of work with only scant days off to harrowing tales of “auditioning” for jobs by having sex with bar owners. The hustlers were tested monthly for HIV, and those who came up positive immediately lost their jobs. “He hated it,” Jeffrey remembers. “He would cry that he had to work there because he felt like such a disappointment to himself and his parents.” But after one of the long absences between Jeffrey’s trips to Bangkok, Nat went back to hustling, even though he was approaching the maximum age to work in the bars. “I don’t know why he did it,” Jeffrey says, looking back. “Maybe it was the excitement, maybe he missed his friends.” Life for Nat has spiraled downward since the breakup. Months later he called Jeffrey in tears after testing positive for HIV. Relationships like Jeffrey’s and Nat’s are as frequent as they are controversial among mainstream gay Thais. Some claim the lure of a rich Western boyfriend makes it harder for locals to find mates, while others actively avoid Westerners to avoid the stigma of a “financial” relationship. “It’s always an older Western boyfriend and a younger Thai boyfriend,” observes Barry. “You never see it the other way around.” The openly gay Irish poet Cathal O’Searcaigh came under sharp criticism this year after a TV documentary portrayed him as engaging in a predatory form of sex tourism. O’Searcaigh, 52, revealed he often had sexual relationships with the male teens he mentored in Nepal, where the age of consent is 16. “Boys came to my room. Certainly I had sex with some of them, yes, yes, yes,” he told a British newspaper. “But it wasn’t coercing them into having sex with me. That door was open all the time.” In Ireland, there were calls to remove his poems from school texts, and Irish law enforcement opened an investigation. Nepalese authorities, meanwhile, showed scant concern. “At worst it shows he exploited his relative wealth in a country where poverty is rife,” said Irish journalist Ciaran Byrne, “using his cash to satisfy his sexual desires among highly vulnerable young men.” And so the debate rages on over what sex tourism is: a consensual commercial transaction between relative equals, or a way for visitors to take unfair advantage of relative wealth and — much more seriously — age of majority, exploiting vulnerable gay and straight sex workers living in poorer economies. THE BOYS EARN A STANDARD OF LIVING THEY COULD NEVER OTHERWISE ENJOY, SO WHO’S EXPLOITING WHO? TWO NEW MUSIC COLLECTIONS FROM THE ONE & ONLY ELTON JOHN “ELTON JOHN (DELUXE EDITION)” The album that was the spark that launched his career, spawning the evergreen “Your Song.” This newly remastered 2-CD edition features 20 bonus tracks (15 previously unreleased) and a beautifully expanded booklet. “TUMBLEWEED CONNECTION (DELUXE EDITION)” Elton’s second studio album, originally released in 1971, is perhaps his most underestimated in quality and depth. This newly remastered 2-CD edition features 13 bonus tracks (10 previously unreleased) and a lavish booklet. AVAILABLE JUNE 3, 2008 Available at i^ / kz © 2008 Universal Music Enterprises, a Division of UMG Recordings, Inc. Amazon, Amazon.com and the Amazon.com logo are registered trademarks of Amazon.com, Inc. or its affiliates. GRACEFUL SAVAGE In 1992, Tom Kalin scandalized arthouse moviegoers with Swoon, an incisive meditation on Chicago’s Leopold and Loeb murder. Sixteen years later, his second feature, Savage Grace, stars Julianne Moore and considers another sensational murder in ’70s London. Avram Finkelstein asks the questions… hen you meet the gregarious filmmaker Tom Kalin, the first thing you notice is his connectedness: he’s looking right at you, brightly, and drinking you in. He’s honest, engaging and hilarious. It’s hard to imagine his internal world could be as shadowed as his films suggest. But this director’s work can be so murderous, so incestuous, so involuted, you might think twice about being alone with him — or at least assume he’s hiding something. In fact, it’s just the opposite. This dutiful Midwesterner is open and self-effacing, and he actually wants to tell you everything. But he may not have the time. His new film, Savage Grace, was featured at Cannes, Sundance and New York’s Tribeca Film Festival, and just opened in American cinemas. Kalin’s first feature film since his startling 1992 debut, Swoon, this new firecracker is also raising some serious eyebrows. Based on the true story of the 1972 Baekeland murder case, Savage Grace is a cautionary tale about the tissuethin nature of privilege that weaves its way across continents, spiraling into a nosedive of disastrous complexity. The film follows Barbara Daly Baekeland (Julianne Moore), a glamorous woman from modest roots who marries into the Bakelite fortune and rises through European society. A fairy tale gone wrong, Baekeland’s combative marriage traps her and her only child, Tony (Eddie Redmayne) inside a domestic war zone. Tony’s father, Brooks, loathes his son’s weakness —and homosexuality — pushing him into his mother’s arms. The pathological connection between Barbara and Tony crosses all social and sexual boundaries, eventually leading to suicide and murder. That Savage Grace is controversial comes as no surprise. What is surprising is how sensitive and subtle Kalin’s reading of monstrous material can be. With a forensic eye, Kalin can draw sympathy out of human terror, and in Savage Grace, he neatly lines up with generations of storytellers who’ve tackled the question of incest, including Sophocles, Tennessee Williams and Bernardo Bertolucci. If you’re wondering where Kalin has been since his vanguard 1992 New Queer Cinema film, Swoon, he co-wrote artist Cindy Sherman’s directorial debut, Office Killer; directed Frances McDormand in a short based on a Jane Bowles story, Plain Pleasures; produced Mary Harron’s I Shot Andy Warhol; was executive producer on Rose Troche’s Go Fish; and was given free rein by American design genius Geoffrey Beene to produce a 35mm silent movie featuring Claire Danes, Viveca Lindfors and Marcia Gay Harden. Kalin has also built a museumworthy body of short works, including a nine-part opus, Third Known Nest, which showed at the Whitney Biennial and the Guggenheim Museum; Behold Goliath, a dreamscape based on the writing of Alfred Chester; and a series of films that showed at the Museum of Modern Art in New York City. In spite of his serious jet lag from a press tour for the Japanese premier of Savage Grace, Pride’s Avram Finkelstein was able to pin Kalin down for chat in between screenings at the Tribeca Film Festival. AF: How’s the festival going? TK: It’s been great. I had three screenings, and the movie definitely divides the audience and freaks some people out, but there were no hostile questions at the Q and A. I understand how it might be shocking to some people... I was shocked making it, and took it very seriously. AF: For someone who hasn’t been able to see your short film projects, is there a thread that connects Swoon to Savage Grace? TK: Yeah, they do both address symbiotic relationships and murder, so I realize they’re being seen that way, but I never intended to make the two movies back to back. I did have other projects, like a screenplay about Patti Smith and Robert Mapplethope, and another rock story, and if they had been made it might have altered the connection between them. But in some ways, making a third film is easier than making the second one. AF: Do you ever let yourself fall in love with your characters, or is it important to keep your distance? TK: You always fall in love with them. First, you fall in love with them on the page. Then you fall in love again on the set. And to some degree, you fall in love with a mix of the characters and the actors who are portraying them. I never judged them, but it required a certain distance... Not cold; intended distance. One reviewer referred to it as “coolly compassionate,” and I thought that totally nailed it. I was moved by the characters, but never intended to give them “rock star” status or glorify them as antiheroes. AF: Do you ever identify with your characters? TK : None of my movies are at all biographical, never have been, except some of my short films. I don’t see myself in my characters, and don’t identify with any of them... I mean, I didn’t want to murder a 13-year-old or sleep with my mom! AF: Both Savage Grace and Swoon are period pieces, and some of your shorts involve layered collages that age the images. Do you see “time” as part of all storytelling or one of your themes? TK: I’m engaged in the present, but in some ways I would have liked to have lived in the past...Not a fuzzy, nostalgic vision of it, but in researching the films I start to wonder, “What was it like when everyone wore a suit and nobody had a Blackberry?” Still, I never not know I’m making a film, never escape the magic of making a movie. I’m still just a Catholic kid from the Midwest, and here’s Karl Lagerfeld designing a dress for my movie. AF: Wait! Karl Lagerfeld? TK: Karl Lagerfeld made Julianne’s pink suit! I felt I needed something like Balenciaga from the ’60s, and that the clothes would be a big part of framing the characters. Julianne knows Lagerfeld, and I hounded and begged and pled until she finally asked him. It was totally because of Julianne. It came all wrapped up, with the handmade label stitched into it. It became this very powerful thing, to fantasize that I could get a designer like Lagerfeld to work on this with me. AF: Since we’re on the subject, do you have any cool Geoffrey Beene stories for us? TK: Everything about him was cool. He wa s g racious, cha r ming a nd original. He wrote me this amazing letter introducing himself, saying, “You may not know me, but I’m a fashion designer, and I’ve seen Swoon many times...” It was essentially a fan letter! So I called him right away and said, “Of course I know who you are!” He spent a lot of time w ith me, explaining bias cutting and helping me to really understand how the clothing worked. Then he totally handed his 30 years of archives over to me and said “You choose.” But he did say that he didn’t want dialogue, that it would distract from the clothing. I didn’t want it to be like a perfume commercial, so I suggested it be a silent film, with a story. AF: So, that’s the cool stuff. What’s your least favorite part of filmmaking? TK: Waiting for a green light is nail-biting beyond belief. I started smoking again, but now that it ’s winding down, I just quit! oogle hit list on “gay financial planning” numbers in the hundreds, confirming not only that there are squads of accountants, lawyers, advisors, brokers, counselors, etc. ready to help us MoneyManage, but also that some of the core issues driving the push for same-sex marriage are decidedly unromantic. Estate planning, survivorship and inheritance issues, property and visitation rights, insurance benefits, power of attorney, medical and end-of-life decisions manifest differently whether you’re combining finances with a partner outside the legal protections of traditional marriage, or staying single, as many of us do. “When a same-sex couple decides to combine their financial interests, the number one rule is simply to document everything,” says Eugene White, a trust and estates attorney in San Francisco and Palm Springs with many gay clients. “That means saving paper copies of all documents, statements and transactions as well as emails and correspondence. Estate planning and record keeping together define relationships and clarify agreements between the partners, and can also keep ill-willed relatives at bay if it comes to that.” Remember that regardless of what your state’s domestic partnership laws may hold, a good lawyer can help you secure your estate and assets. In the absence of legalized same-sex marriage – and efforts to overturn same-sex marriage in states where they are legal will probably continue for awhile - contract law is a wonderful thing. Anything that creates more legal bonds between same-sex partners is a weapon in the arsenal against grabby, unwelcome relatives with entitlement issues. Detailed estate planning is crucial for couples, but single folks face similar issues. “Anyone not ‘coupled’ still needs at minimum a durable power of attorney and a simple will so their wishes about health care and dispostion of assets are carried out and not left to whims of relatives or dicta of state law,” says White. “Many single gay men and lesbian women own appreciated real estate and/or sizable retirement accounts. These assets require as much planning and care as YOUR $3 BILLS When it comes to money, our heartening, yet still-uneven legal progress makes getting and staying on top of our finances more important than ever. Steve Bolerjack reports… those for couples,” he adds. Trust and estates laws vary from state to state and White recommends getting information and any needed forms from local bar association or local law school websites. So do you need a specifically gay or lesbian financial advisor? Not any more than you need a gay dentist or exterminator -- it’s really a matter of their expertise and your comfort level. As in any profession, sexual orientation has nothing to do with competence. But a fellow gay guy or gal who happens to be a financial professional may be more up to speed not only on asset protection between partners, but also investments in companies that are gay-friendly, if that’s a concern. Above all, never lose sight of the fact that without marriage and other legal protections, it’s up to us to protect ourselves. And for now, strategic planning - before you need it - is the best and only way. FINDING MONEY TO MANAGE… Perhaps you read the preceding section and thought “Strategy?!!! Here’s my strategy: Money comes in, it goes right back out. It’s not around long enough to be managed.” Here’s a few tips on how to hold onto your dough – even a little bit is better than nothing, and a little bit is a start. Avoid: the grab-‘em-as-they-graduate ploy. Some six months or so before matriculation, a graduate-to-be receives a daily deluge of credit card offers at low interest rates (trust us, the low rates are temporary) and fat credit limits. In the heady, newly adult first-job world, you need a hot wardrobe and fab furniture, no? No. Every year, thousands of young people make the mistake of shooting their credit limit on stuff they don’t need, saddling themselves with monster payments they can at best, barely make, and killing their credit rating. And it takes years to dig out from the rubble. Totally not worth it. Avoid: ATM as fallback. We all need to carry about a reasonable amount of cash and ATMs have become a great convenience and occasional life saver. But frequent withdrawals that are not planned or budgeted, especially those made in between stops on a bar crawl or on the way to a restaurant are never a good idea. If you tend to do this, avoid casinos at all costs; they have ATMs in their lobbies and they’re counting on you to use them to take money from your account and place it on a table for the dealer, whose job it is to roll some dice, deal some cards or spin a roulette wheel before picking your money up and putting it in their account. Avoid: paying only minimum due on credit cards. Even if you overcome the urge to max out your cards, paying only what Visa says you have to pay is guaranteed to insure that you will be paying Visa for the rest of your life, as all you’re doing is paying interest on the principal, not paying down the debt, which continues to accrue interest. Pay off, however you can, large balances and NEVER carry a balance forward on a credit card (okay, easier said than done) if you must carry a balance double or triple the minimum payment and don’t use the card again until your balance is zero. Avoid: store credit cards. They’re unnecessary, since credit and debit cards are accepted everywhere. Store cards exist today only as a marketing tool for the store and to enable them to charge higher interest rates. Avoid: online sites that renew by credit card automatically. This is an Internet age phenomenon of which too many people simply lose track. Many sites and service providers that house websites, email, home business payments, personal meeting forums and especially those offering adult entertainment sites, get you onboard with your credit card. They are required by law to allow you access to your account status at any time, but they may also send you emails along these lines: “…since we’re improving our service to you and adding to your bandwidth, we’re sure you’ll want to take advantage of this upgrade and therefore, we will automatically charge an unholy amount to your credit card….unless we hear back from you.” PAY ATTENTION and read any email coming from any such service provider immediately. Unless you’re add- MORE MONEY INFO BOOKS & ARTICLES My Style Looking for originality? You’ve Let us build one for you. ElmiraStoveWorks.com 1 80 0 295 8498 ©2007 The GlaxoSmithKline Group of Companies All rights reserved. Printed in USA. March 2007 Editor’s Note: The first “Gay Prides” weren’t the big, splashy events we love (and love to rag on) today. In the 1960s and ’70s, talking, marching and rallying —while empowering — was also dangerous. Marchers risked not only their physical safety, but also their jobs and housing. Take a moment to remember those heroes who pioneered the push for LGBT rights in the 20th Century, as well as the heroes around the world who are doing that right now. Read on, as Sahran Abeysundara of InterPride member group Equal Ground Sri Lanka shares the history of Pride in Colombo, Sri Lanka’s capita cityl. This year will mark the third year of Colombo LGBT Pride. In 2005, Equal Ground, a non-profit trust founded in 2004 to work toward equality for all sexual orientations and gender identities, organized and funded the first ever Pride celebration in Sri Lanka – a party. Unsure about how this would be received by the general public, our organization only anticipated a handful of people at a one-off event. Imagine our shock when over 350 people showed up! It was amazing to see the LGBT community coming together, united in the struggle for freedom and acceptance. Total Pride budget for 2005? Exactly $200. The following year, Equal Ground took Colombo Pride a few steps further. More than 600 people attended a week of festivities, including an LGBT film mini-marathon, a one-man show entitled “MotherSon,” a theatre workshop, a Pride party, a poetry reading, and a Rainbow Kite Festival —all on a budget of $2,000! LETTER FROM SRI LANKA In its third year, Colombo Pride breaks new ground in South Asia. year’s event premiered The South Asian LGBT Movie Festival, the Bolo Theater, a theatre workshop, a party, and another Rainbow Kite festival on the beach, all for $3,500. To hold Pride events in Sri Lanka has not been easy, especially because the safety of the community has to be considered. As a result, most of the publicity for Pride within Sri Lanka is word-of-mouth. With limited resources, Equal Ground does its best, but we have faith and commitment to the cause in abundance. Located in the Indian Ocean just south of India, our island nation is home to over 20 million people of several different ethnicities, religions and cultures. Intertwined within this populace is the LGBT community, struggling daily for the right to be who they are and to live with freedom and dignity. of homosexual behavior is not an indigenous part of its culture, but part of its legacy as a former British colony. Sodomy laws introduced by the British in the 1800s are what have led to social and political discrimination against the gay community in Sri Lanka. Recent attempts to repeal the penal code criminalizing homosexual behavior actually resulted in the expansion of the law to include women, in order to eliminate gender bias in enforcement! Most other Asian countries that are former colonies of the British Empire also retain these outdated laws, but none of them have actually expanded them. A 25-year-old civil war with Tamil separatists — the Liberation Tigers for Tamil Eelam, who are fighting for a separate homeland in the north and east of the island — as well as the emergence of Muslim militias trying to gain a foothold, add up to a dire situation for LGBT persons. a position that homosexuality is a crime that deserves the death penalty, and many LGBT persons in these areas have paid with their lives for being who they are. While traditional Sri Lankans view homosexuality as a Western import, even a Western aberration, sexual diversity actually has the longer history on the island. Robert Knox, during his time in what was then Ceylon, remarked with horror on the King’s homosexuality and what he saw as a relaxed attitude towards sexual behavior. It was only after the British moved into Ceylon, in 1814, that a more rigid system of sexual conduct was introduced. Ancient Singhalese culture was very relaxed in its mores, and it is concepts of exclusivity and marriage — not homosexuality — that are the relatively recent Western imports. Nevertheless, these newer values remain strong in what is clearly a marriage-oriented nation. It is, accordingly, very common even today for parents to arrange their children’s marriages with no thought or consideration given to sexual orientation or gender identity. The social stigma and prejudice surrounding sexual orientation also means that human rights violations endured by the LGBT community are shrouded in silence. Abuse goes unreported, as members of the community know they have no legal recourse. When victims do muster the courage to make a complaint, they do so without disclosing their sexual orientation; should that information be revealed, the complaints are often met with official indifference or even further persecution. law is not uniformly enforced by the authorities, particularly in the capital city of Colombo, its existence is enough for anti-gay groups to brand LGBT people as perverts and lawbreakers, making LGBT persons legitimate targets for abuse. With all of this working against it, the gay community in Sri Lanka has been too fearful until recently to take a stand to overcome the stigma and discrimination faced from society. Since its inception, attendance at events for Colombo Pride has tripled, and for the first time last year, participants came from Galle, Matara, Tangalle, Badulla, Anuradhapura, Kandy and Negombo — towns scattered all over the island of Sri Lanka. This year’s Colombo Pride promises to be the most talked-about event of the year in Sri Lanka — for more reasons than one! With an ’08 budget of $5,000, and high inflation rates caused by the ongoing civil war and regular hikes in the cost of living, Equal Ground plans to plough through with Pride at any cost because of its implications to the LGBT community of Sri Lanka. For one week each year every LGBTIQ person in Sri Lanka will have a space to stand up tall and be proud! REFRESHING RACHEL Crisp, sparkling — with just a hint of lemon — Rachel Maddow swats more flies with honey… By Steve Bolerjack You can put her on to talk to just about anybody, about just about anything, and she comes across as cheerful and hopeful and likable,” says Bill Wolff, vice president of primetime programming at MSNBC. We certainly concur. In the testosterone-toxic, bombastic world of political punditry, Rachel Maddow — MSNBC political analyst, radio host, “Campaign Asylum” video blogger and Rhodes Scholar — is a beacon of quiet wit, refined deportment and intellectual agility. Which has endeared her to millions of “Countdown with Keith Olberman” viewers and “Rachel Maddow Show” listeners. “The secret to arguing with people who believe you don’t deserve first-class citizenship is to know that they’re wrong, to know why they’re wrong, but to not actually give a hoot about their opinion,” she explains. “Arguing with anti-gay demagogues in the media is not the same as arguing at Thanksgiving at home. In the media, you’re actually performing for an audience: the goal is to get that audience to like you and agree with you more than the other guy. 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