Pacific Sun Wekly 02.02.2011 by Pacific Sun

›› ADViCE GODDESS® by Amy Alkon

I met a guy online, and after two four-hour phone conversations, he declared he felt a “deep connection.” We had a romantic date, during which he made repeated declarations of his feelings. The next morning he sent a somewhat angry text, observing that I’d logged in again on the dating site, and while I didn’t owe him anything, he found it odd. This led me to (stupidly and prematurely) proclaim him “the total package” for me and say I wouldn’t see anyone else. He stopped responding several days later. Weeks later, I got a strange phone call, and thought it was him. It wasn’t, but he asked me out. Our date was great, but he kept taking a half-day to return texts. He claimed he’d just been busy at work, but I don’t think expecting a response before six hours pass is being overly needy. I heard nothing from him until two weeks later, when I mass emailed my new cell number. We had another date, and he asked for exclusivity, and even said he wouldn’t mind if I got pregnant. The next day, we sent friendly texts, but he again stopped responding. Now, I’m ending it for sure, but I’m reticent to date anyone else for fear this will happen again.—Bitten

When you and the man in your life are talking about having a child, there are certain basic questions you need to ask yourselves, and they should be things like “Can we afford this?” and “Who will stay home with the kid?” not “Have we had a third date?” I see so many red flags here, it’s hard to tell whether I’m being asked to give advice or send birthday greetings to Chairman Mao. There are two kinds of people who have four-hour phone conversations with near strangers, and they are airplane passengers who forgot to charge their iPad and people who are not merely looking for love but desperate to find it. The latter waste no time in proclaiming their “deep connection.” Emotionally healthy adults might get caught up in a moment (or hours of them), but they’re generally mindful that you find out who people are by observing them—in person, over time—to see whether what they say matches what they do. (Text this guy if you’re pregnant. He may or may not get back to you.) Your problem isn’t who you date but who you are: a girl who needs love way too much to be in a position to land any. You can really, really want love, and be really, really sick of putting a bowtie on your cat and pretending you’re on a date. If you aren’t driven by neediness, you understand that an appropriate post-first-date text is “Hope to see you again soon!”—not “I’ve been monitoring your Internet activity and I couldn’t help but notice that you aren’t acting in a manner befitting a loving and faithful wife.” Only when you work on yourself to the point where you’re OK being alone are you ready to look for somebody else. Go looking prematurely, and there surely will be another guy like this one—one who right away says stuff like “I can’t bear to have you away from my side,” and before you know it, is showing you that he’s a man of his word by chaining you to his water pipe.

A friend basically called dibs on a guy we were talking with at a bar, whispering to me right away that she found him really cute. I was bummed, but backed off. We all exchanged emails, and vowed to hang out when he’s back in town. He emailed me, and we’ve been writing a lot, and have lots in common. I confessed this to my friend, and she seemed surprised and jealous. Now, he’s coming back—just to see me. Did I overstep friendship boundaries? Should I cancel?—Guilt-ridden

The first one to remark on how glorious the sunset is doesn’t get to take it home. The same goes for some cute guy at a bar. You’ve got to appreciate the male way of doing things. They’ll get into a fistfight over a woman and then buy each other a beer; women get into a whispering game about a guy and then won’t speak to each other for 20 years. When your friend remarked on this guy’s looks, that was your cue to say, “Omigod! I’m into him, too!” Canceling now isn’t the answer. It’ll only make you resent your friend. If she truly is a friend, she’ll want you to be happy. She did try to pull a sneaky on you, but she ultimately knows that admiration isn’t the fast track to possession—assuming her typical reply to “Cute dress!” isn’t “Unzip me, and it’s yours.” ✹

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PUBLIC NOTICES CONTINUED FROM PAGE 33 described above must file a written objection that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. If no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing. NOTICE OF HEARING: February 22, 2011, 8:30 AM, Dept. K, Superior Court of California, County of Marin, 3501 Civic Center Drive, San Rafael, CA 94913-4988. A copy of this ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in the county of Marin: PACIFIC SUN. Date: January 11, 2011 /s/ FAYE D’OPAL, JUDGE OF THE SUPERIOR COURT (Pacific Sun: January 21, 28; February 4, 11, 2011) STATEMENT OF NON-RESPONSIBILITY: “I, Dean G Patyk for D.P. Builders Lic. #434041 and Charles C. Berger for Vision Builders sole proprietorship Lic. #698906 (contractors) hereby and declare that we acted as general contractors under the name of D/P/ Builders and Vision Builders sole proprietorship, J.V. at 39 Caledonia for Matts’ Place, Matts’ Place LLC., Plate Shop and Sean Ivery as an individual (Client/Tenant) starting on or about August 2, 2010 and competed 80% of the project for Permit #B09-680. The Contractor(s) have withdrawn from the work at the above address and vacated the premises due to consecutive non-payment(s) as of on or about November 5, 2010. NO WORK BY CONTRACTOR HAS GUARANTEE OR WARRANTY. The contractors(s) hereby affirm and declare that no work performed by the contractor any and all warranties and or guaranties, written or implied for property damage, labor, and work by subcontractors, materials or and all workmanship typically extended to the client and Building Owners are hereby and forever null and void and do not apply. The contractor(s) further declares and affirms that they are not responsible for any debts and or obligations to subcontractors, material(s) or other incurred liabilities on or by Matts’ Place, Matts’ Place LLC., Sean Ivery project after November 5, 2010 or their affiliates, contractors, workers or others. Any and all work done by others after the vacation of the contractors has been done without his knowledge or control.” Pacific Sun: January 21, 28; February 4, 11, 2011 NOTICE OF PETITION TO ADMINISTER ESTATE OF: GAIL LEE BEATRICE. Case No. PR-1100381. To all heirs, beneficiaries, creditors, contingent creditors and persons who may otherwise be interested in the will or estate, or both, of GAIL LEE BEATRICE. A PETITION FOR PROBATE has been filed by: CHRISTOPHER M. BEATRICE in the Superior Court of California, County of MARIN. THE PETITION FOR PROBATE requests that CHRISTOPHER M. BEATRICE be appointed as personal representative to administer the estate of the decedent. THE PETITION requests authority to administer the estate under the Independent Administration of Estates Act. (This authority will allow the personal representative to take many actions without obtaining court approval. Before taking certain very important actions, however, the personal representative will be required to give notice to interested persons unless they have waived notice or consented to the proposed action.) The independent administration authority will be granted unless an interested person files an objection to the petition and shows good cause why the court should not grant the authority. A HEARING on the petition will be held in this court as follows: Febraury 22, 2011 at 8:30 a.m. in Dept: H, Room: H, of the Superior Court of California, Marin County, located at Superior Court of California, County of Marin, 3501 Civic Center Drive, San Rafael, CA. IF YOU OBJECT to the granting of the petition, you should appear at the hearing and state your objections or file written objections with the court before the hearing. Your appearance may be in person or by your attorney. IF YOU ARE A CREDITOR or a contingent creditor of the decedent, you must file your claim with the court and mail a copy to the personal representative appointed by the court within four months from the date of first issuance of letters as provided in section 9100 of the California Probate Code. The time for filing claims will not expire before four months from the hearing date noticed above. YOU MAY EXAMINE the file kept by the court. If you are a person interested in the estate, you may file with the court a Request for Special Notice (form DE-154) of the filing of an inventory and appraisal of estate assets or of any petition or account as provided in Probate Code section 1250. A Request for Special

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