Pacific Sun 07.16.2010 - Section 1 by Pacific Sun

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ADViCE GODDESS®

by Amy Alkon

After my boyfriend and I returned from a teaching stint abroad, he broke up with me. I was devastated but eventually started seeing somebody else. He got really jealous and flew out a few times to see me until I said yes to getting back together. We’ve had a phone relationship since January, with visits whenever possible. Well, I’m starting grad school on the East Coast, and won’t be mobile for three years. But, as for moving to be with me, he’s now saying he doesn’t know if he can leave San Francisco. It’s not even a job keeping him there! He’s unemployed and still unwilling to leave one of the most expensive cities! He simply just wants to live there. I’m wondering if all the waiting’s worth it since he isn’t willing to work very hard for us to be together.—Dismayed Who says you can’t take the man out of San Francisco? Just force him into the trunk of your car at gunpoint and promise him a bathroom break and a Snickers when you hit Bakersfield. So, the guy chases you down, wins you back and now he’s not sure whether it’s you or that tramp with the cable cars? That’s not how love is supposed to work. According to Shakespeare, the Bronte sisters and every romantic comedy ever made, love is throwing aside everything to crawl across broken glass on four continents, only to die in your beloved’s arms. This, on the other hand, is like Romeo texting Juliet (on parchment delivered by servants): “OMG, not sure if i can give up pizza nite w family 2 b w/u.” For people with more to them than an obsessive connection to another human being, there are often practical considerations: whether they both want kids, who’s going to pay for them, whether they’ll join the Hare Krishnas or keep working as tax accountants. While some people can live anywhere as long as they’re with the person they love, for many, where they wake up and walk out the door every day is no small thing. It’s not just the place, but the way of life in a particular place (“The city that never sleeps” versus “the suburb that never wakes up”). The guy might love you, but he’s made his priority clear: He’s left his heart in San Francisco, and the rest of him is staying to keep it company. Chances are, he got so focused on winning you back, he forgot to ask himself “And then what?” Now that he’s won you, he’s all “Actually, I’m kind of attached to fog, earthquakes and stepping over a wino to get into my favorite patisserie.” It’s a lucky thing he figured that out before he moved to Collegetown. (Love in a place you hate quickly becomes seething resentment.) If you don’t resent him too much, maybe you and he will try to keep it going long distance while you’re in school. If so, you need to be practical, too: Ask yourself how you feel about spending the rest of your days in San Francisco, because you probably won’t get the guy out of there for any length of time—not until you can fit him into an urn.

I was on a first date, and the guy arrived at the pub before me. The waitress took my order and asked if I’d like to start a tab. I paused, and when he didn’t offer, I gave her my card. He ended up buying my next two drinks, and I had a pretty good time, but thinking about it now, I’m mad he let me pay at all. After all, he asked me out.—Rehashing On the bright side, when the final bill came, he didn’t get up and make tracks for the ladies’ room. Things are really confusing now about who pays. By the end of the date, he knew it was OK to pick up the tab. But, when the waitress first came, he had a millisecond to figure out are you a feminist, will you hate him for paying, accuse him of being personally responsible for lowering the glass ceiling 10 feet? Before he could work all that out, you’d handed over your Visa and ordered your appletini. Ask yourself if you’re quick to prosecute for something so minor because you go in expecting the worst. If so, you might change that, or instead of a boyfriend, you can have a grudge. And yes, the person who does the inviting should pay—to a point. On the second date, it’s nice to avoid being one of those women who, when the check comes, goes rooting around in her purse— and pulls out a mint. ✹

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PUBLIC NOTICES CONTINUED FROM PAGE 29 DEMANDANDO EL DEMANDANTE): BRIAN A. DUNN. You have 30 CALENDAR DAYS after this Summons and legal papers are served on you to file a written response at this court and have a copy served on the plaintiff. A letter or phone call will not protect you; your written response must be in proper legal form if you want the court to hear your case. There may be a court form that you can use for your response. You can find these court forms and more information at the California Courts Online Self-Help Center (www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp), your county law library, or the courthouse nearest you. If you cannot pay the filing fee, ask the court clerk for a fee waiver form. If you do not file your response on time, you may lose the case by default, and your wages, money and property may be taken without further warning from the court. There are other legal requirements. You may want to call an attorney right away. If you do not know an attorney, you may want to call an attorney referral service. If you cannot afford an attorney, you may be eligible for free legal services from a nonprofit legal services program. You can locate these nonprofit groups at the California Legal Services Web site (www.lawhelpcalifornia.org) the California Courts Online Self-Help Center (www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp) or by contacting your local court or county bar association. Tienne 30 DIAS CALENDARIO despues de que le entreguen esta citacion y papeles legales para presentar una respuesta por escrito en esta corte y hacer que se entregue una copia al demandante. Una carta o una llamada telefonica no lo protegen; su respuesta por escrito tiene que estar en formato legal correcto si desea que procesen su caso en la corte. Es posible que haya un formulario que usted pueda usar para su respuesta. Puede encontrar estos formularios de la corte y mas information en el Centro de Ayuda de las Cortes de California (www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp) en la biblioteca de leyes de su condado o en la corte que le quede mas cerca. Si no puede pagar la cuota de presentacion, pida al secretario de la corte que le de un formulario de exencion de pago de cuotas. Si no presenta su respuesta a tiempo, puede perder el caso por incumplimiento, y la corte le podra quitar su sueldo, dinero y bienes sin mas advertencia. Hay otros requisitos legales. Es recomendable que llame a un abogado immediatamente. Si no conoce a un abogado, puede llamar a un servicio de remision de abogados. Si no puede pagar a un abogado, es posible que cumpla con los resquisitos para obtener servicios legales gratuitos de un programa de servicios legales sin fines de lucro. Puede

›› TRiViA CAFÉ ANSWERS From page 9 1a, San Francisco 1b. “Touch of Gray” 1c. The Other Ones, then later, The Dead 1d. Cherry Garcia 2. Female 3. North and South Dakota 4. True 5. None 6a. Kermit the Frog 6b. Jim Henson 6c. Oscar the Grouch 7. Philadelphia 8. Fresh water 9. Birmingham Barons (in the Class AA Southern League) 10 21 percent; for example, if the original square was 10 inches on a side, the new square is 11, and the area is 121 sq. inches BONUS ANSWER: Louis (Satchmo) Armstrong

encontrar estos grupos sin fines de lucro en el sitio web de California Legal Services, (www. lawhelpcalifornia.org) en el Centro de Ayuda de las Cortes de California, (www.courtinfo. ca.gov/selfhelp) o poniendose en contacto con la corte o el colegio de abogados locales. The name and address of the court is (El nombre y direccion de las corte es): TULARE COUNTY SUPERIOR COURT, VISALIA DIVISION, 221 SOUTH MOONEY BLVD., VISALIA, CA 93291. The name, address, and telephone number of plaintiff’s attorney is (El nombre, la direccion y el numero de telefono del abogado del demandante es): BRIAN A. DUNN, 1510 WEST MINERAL KING AVE., VISALIA, CA 93291. Date (Fecha): March 22, 2010 /s/ LaRayne Cleek, Clerk by (Secretario): Yaneli Orddonez, Deputy (Adjunto) (Pacific Sun: June 25; July 2, 9, 16, 2010) ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME SUPERIOR COURT OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA FOR THE COUNTY OF MARIN. No. CIV 1003385. TO ALL INTERESTED PERSONS: Petitioner GEORGE TSUKAYAMA LAGUA filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: GEORGE TSUKAYAMA LAGUA to GEORGE JOSEPH TSUKAYAMA. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition for change of name should not be granted. Any person objecting to the name changes described above must file a written objection that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. If no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing. NOTICE OF HEARING: August 11, 2010, 8:30 a.m., Dept. J, Superior Court of California, County of Marin, 3501 Civic Center Drive, Room 113, San Rafael, CA 94913-4988. A copy of this ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in the county of Marin: PACIFIC SUN. Date: June 29, 2010 /s/ Verna A. Adams, JUDGE OF THE SUPERIOR COURT (Pacific Sun: July 2, 9, 16, 23, 2010) STATEMENT OF ABANDONMENT OF USE OF FICTITIOUS BUSINESS NAME File No. 304202 The following person(s) has/have abandoned the use of a fictitious business name(s). The information given below is as it appeared on the fictitious business statement that was filed at the Marin County Clerk-Recorder’s Office. Fictitious Business name(s): SUNSHINE BODYWORKS, 1514 5TH AVE., SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901. Filed in Marin County on: January 2,

2010. Under File No: 122975. Registrantâ ™s Name(s): RUI YUAN LI, 1767 27TH AVE., SAN FRANCISCO, CA 94122. This statement was filed with the County Clerk Recorder of Marin County on July 8, 2010. (Pacific Sun: July 16, 23, 30; August 6, 2010) ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE FOR CHANGE OF NAME SUPERIOR COURT OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA FOR THE COUNTY OF MARIN. No. CIV 1003552. TO ALL INTERESTED PERSONS: Petitioner KAREN MERYL PAREDES SANTOS on behalf of BELINDA RIHANNA PAREDES SANTOS filed a petition with this court for a decree changing names as follows: BELINDA RIHANNA PAREDES SANTOS to BELINDA RIHANNA CASTILLO PAREDES. THE COURT ORDERS that all persons interested in this matter shall appear before this court at the hearing indicated below to show cause, if any, why the petition for change of name should not be granted. Any person objecting to the name changes described above must file a written objection that includes the reasons for the objection at least two court days before the matter is scheduled to be heard and must appear at the hearing to show cause why the petition should not be granted. If no written objection is timely filed, the court may grant the petition without a hearing. NOTICE OF HEARING: August 26, 2010, 8:30 a.m., Dept. E, Superior Court of California, County of Marin, 3501 Civic Center Drive, Room 113, San Rafael, CA 94913-4988. A copy of this ORDER TO SHOW CAUSE shall be published at least once each week for four successive weeks prior to the date set for hearing on the petition in the following newspaper of general circulation, printed in the county of Marin: PACIFIC SUN. Date: July 8, 2010 /s/ JAMES R. RITCHIE, JUDGE OF THE SUPERIOR COURT (Pacific Sun: July 16, 23, 30; August 6, 2010)

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