even wind up enjoying the holidays more than you initially thought you would. Here are some practical tips for managing your stress during the holidays: • Ask for help when you need it. Make your requests as specific as possible: “Would you please help me by...” • Set realistic goals and learn to say “no.” You don’t have to do anything if you don’t have the time, energy or desire. People will understand if you can’t do certain projects or activities. If you say “yes” only to what you really want to do, you’ll avoid feeling resentful, bitter and overwhelmed. • Realize that, as families change and grow, traditions and rituals often change as well. Hold on to those you can and want to retain, but accept that you may have to let go of others. For example, if your children, grandchildren or friends can’t all gather at your house as usual, find new ways to celebrate together from afar, such as sharing photos, e-mails or phone calls. • Get extra sleep before family gatherings or important events. • Give yourself extra time to get to where you’re going. Expect travel delays, especially if you’re flying. • Do one thing at a time. Don’t feel pressured to do as much as possible. • Schedule rest periods.
• Don’t abandon healthy habits. Some indulgence is OK, but overindulgence only adds to your stress and guilt. • Learn to revise time schedules. If you told a friend that you’d meet at noon to go gift shopping and you’re running late, is there any reason you can’t meet at 1 or 2 p.m. instead? • Seek support. If you feel isolated or down, seek out family members and friends, or community, religious or social services for support and companionship. Consider volunteering during the holidays with the National MS Society or at a community function. Getting involved and helping others can lift your spirits, broaden your friendships and ease your stress.
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