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Pay Attention to Yourself Pay attention to yourself and give yourself options. If you deplete your energy, you will have less strength to care for yourself or others. If you need more rest or solitude, take extra time for yourself.
733 W. Granada Blvd. Ormond Beach, FL 32114 (386) 673-1100
1201 Dunlawton Ave. Port Orange, FL 32129 (386) 761-1100
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for any of your actions. Eat, sleep and drink plenty of fluids to maintain your physical strength.
220 Palm Coast Pkwy SW Palm Coast, FL 32137 (386) 449-1100
935 E. New York Ave. DeLand, FL 32724 (386) 736-0021
Remember‌ There is no right way or wrong way. Happy memories are dulled by the pain and sorrow of experiencing the holidays without a loved one who has died. Rethink everything from the standpoint of being gentle with yourself.
736 S. Beach St. Daytona Beach, FL 32114 (386) 236-1100
1681 Providence Blvd. Deltona, FL 32725 (386) 860-5900
3571 Ridgewood Ave. Port Orange, FL 32129 (386) 767-0120
600 E. Beresford Avenue DeLand, FL 32724 (386) 740-1108
1425 Bellevue Ave. Daytona Beach, FL 32114 FH: (386) 267-1100 CEM: (386) 226-1100
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Continually Voted Best All Around Funeral Homes in the Area!
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When you’ve lost a loved one, the holiday season can be an especially painful time. Holidays are by nature nostalgic, and even the happiest of memories can be painful when you are grieving. At a time when everyone is supposed to be happy and enjoying themselves, you may feel sad, lonely and depressed. It is our sincere wish that you draw strength from the holiday traditions of your past and hope from the changes you make for the present — and from them both, faith in your ability to handle the future.
Go At Your Own Pace You do not have to uphold any obligations you did in the past. Allow yourself to slow down and release yourself of feeling obligated to do anything that “you used to do” or “should do,” or “have to do.”
Be Prepared — It’s OK to Cry Be prepared for the holidays, as well as birthdays, anniversaries and other special occasions, to be emotional times for you. Don’t be surprised by sadness, loneliness, anger, yearnings or any other feelings. Let the tears flow. Crying is a natural outlet for expressing grief. You do not need to apologize.
Tell People What You Need Openly share with family and friends what’s on your mind. They don’t always know how to help you or relate to you unless you are specific about your wants and needs. Tell them how they can be most helpful to you.
Remember Their Story Share with others cherished memories of past holidays with your loved one through stories, photographs and mementos. Quietly recall these nostalgic reminders especially when you experience unexpected and temporary moments of grief.
Share with Family and Friends Take the initiative and talk openly about your loved one. Very often family and friends think they are doing you a favor by not mentioning your loved one, especially during special holidays or occasions. You also may be taking it for granted that others know how significant the holidays are for you and were for you and your loved one. You know how much this person is on your mind right now — let others know that, too. They will be grateful that you shared your thoughts, and so will you.
Say “No Thank You” It is OK to tell others, “No thank you.” This means that you can reject visitors and / or invitations if you just don’t feel up to it. People will understand if you don’t feel like attending an event or function.
Change Traditions and Make New Rituals Don’t be afraid to change traditional holiday celebrations. The more you try to keep things exactly as they were before, the more painful your loved one’s absence will seem. And don’t be afraid to change a tradition. A new tradition is a signal to yourself and others that your life has changed. A new tradition does not mean that your old traditions are or were any less important.
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Pay Attention to Yourself Pay attention to yourself and give yourself options. If you deplete your energy, you will have less strength to care for yourself or others. If you need more rest or solitude, take extra time for yourself.
733 W. Granada Blvd. Ormond Beach, FL 32114 (386) 673-1100
1201 Dunlawton Ave. Port Orange, FL 32129 (386) 761-1100
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for any of your actions. Eat, sleep and drink plenty of fluids to maintain your physical strength.
220 Palm Coast Pkwy SW Palm Coast, FL 32137 (386) 449-1100
935 E. New York Ave. DeLand, FL 32724 (386) 736-0021
Remember‌ There is no right way or wrong way. Happy memories are dulled by the pain and sorrow of experiencing the holidays without a loved one who has died. Rethink everything from the standpoint of being gentle with yourself.
736 S. Beach St. Daytona Beach, FL 32114 (386) 236-1100
1681 Providence Blvd. Deltona, FL 32725 (386) 860-5900
3571 Ridgewood Ave. Port Orange, FL 32129 (386) 767-0120
600 E. Beresford Avenue DeLand, FL 32724 (386) 740-1108
1425 Bellevue Ave. Daytona Beach, FL 32114 FH: (386) 267-1100 CEM: (386) 226-1100
www.lohmanfuneralhomes.com
Continually Voted Best All Around Funeral Homes in the Area!
www.lohmanfuneralhomes.com
BrochureSeries_2013_BrochureSeries_2013 8/20/13 12:17 PM Page 1
Pay Attention to Yourself Pay attention to yourself and give yourself options. If you deplete your energy, you will have less strength to care for yourself or others. If you need more rest or solitude, take extra time for yourself.
733 W. Granada Blvd. Ormond Beach, FL 32114 (386) 673-1100
1201 Dunlawton Ave. Port Orange, FL 32129 (386) 761-1100
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for any of your actions. Eat, sleep and drink plenty of fluids to maintain your physical strength.
220 Palm Coast Pkwy SW Palm Coast, FL 32137 (386) 449-1100
935 E. New York Ave. DeLand, FL 32724 (386) 736-0021
Remember‌ There is no right way or wrong way. Happy memories are dulled by the pain and sorrow of experiencing the holidays without a loved one who has died. Rethink everything from the standpoint of being gentle with yourself.
736 S. Beach St. Daytona Beach, FL 32114 (386) 236-1100
1681 Providence Blvd. Deltona, FL 32725 (386) 860-5900
3571 Ridgewood Ave. Port Orange, FL 32129 (386) 767-0120
600 E. Beresford Avenue DeLand, FL 32724 (386) 740-1108
1425 Bellevue Ave. Daytona Beach, FL 32114 FH: (386) 267-1100 CEM: (386) 226-1100
www.lohmanfuneralhomes.com
Continually Voted Best All Around Funeral Homes in the Area!
www.lohmanfuneralhomes.com