IDWN Vol. 2 Iss. 3
A online magazine dedicated to the Second Life Wedding industry.
Cover THANK YOU to our friends AND AMAZING CONTRIBUTORS Pac Lorefield Editor-in-Chief IDWN Founder Creative Director IDWN Manager Hitcher Post Serbon Cobalt Founding Member IDWN Manager Fashion Director IDWN Co-Founder Marla Marx Contributor Editor IDWN Member Emma Portilo Henri Mckeenan Contributor IDWN Member Gunthor Allen Photographer IDWN Member Netera Landar Contributor IDWN Member CONTENTS NOVEMBER & DECEMBER | VOLUME 2 | NO. 3 10 16 20 34 45 Editor’s Letter | STARTING THE YEAR OFF RIGHT Ask Henri | BRIDE BEWARE Poscripts | VALENTINE SPECIAL IDWN Member Highlight | TIMELESS WEDDINGS Second Life Feature Wedding | WILDFIRE & ALASTAIR Cover designed by Pac Loreﬁeld A LETTER from the EDITOR “Starting the Year Off Right!” I’m glad to see that everyone made it through the holiday season! Just as we start to recover from all the hustle and bustle, the ﬁrst wave of the wedding season begins! With Valentines shortly around the the corner, I know you all are busy booking those romantic weddings for the special holiday. The I Do Wedding Network has been busy gearing up for the year. We have recently introduced our in-world directory and made it available on our website for a small fee. As we strive to create a one-stop location for brides and grooms, we want to make sure that our group is well represented. We are always looking for opportunities to help you network and advertise your business. We are now actively seeking locations through out the grid to advertise our network and get IDWN Online Magazine out for more eyes to see. Furthermore, mark your calendars! The 3rd Annual I Do Wedding Expo will be May 24th - June 7th 2014. We are still working on the tier sponsorships and working out a few more details but we hope to have it on the website ready to accept registration by March 1st. Last year, we had over 1300 unique visitors to the Expo as well as we were featured in the SL Destinations. We plan for a repeat this year of the feature and an increase of visitors. Thank you again to everyone who nominated and voted for us during the AVI Choice Awards. We unfortunately didn’t get to take home the trophy but it has put us on the map and created curiosity. And who knows, maybe 2014 will be our year. ‘til next time! Pac Lorefield, founder of IDWN If you are interested in the IDWN Directory visit our ofﬁce for details. ====> Dear Henri, I don’t even know where to start, but I’ll try. My boyfriend - Dan - has a friend Jill, who plays on his emotions to get what she wants, usually money. She doesn’t even have a payment method set up, so she’s constantly broke. Drama seems to shadow her everywhere. But this isn’t about her. It’s about what she did to us. A few months ago, Dan and I got engaged. Jill offered to plan our wedding, as she had recently helped plan the wedding of a mutual friend. We agreed to let her do it, but she wanted L$50,000 up front to cover costs and help her start a wedding business. I wanted to make a down payment and see some results first, but Dan agreed to pay her up front (we split the cost). She shared photos of a lovely venue she claimed to be building and wanted to keep it a surprise. Meanwhile, I was shopping for a dress, flowers, bridesmaids gowns etc. When it got closer to the wedding date, I told her I wanted to send out the invitations, which she was supposed to provide. She gave me vague answers like “working on it” but never sent us the invitation. When Dan talked to her, she had a meltdown that I was bossy and demanding. A couple weeks later, I was looking at the photos she had sent, got the coordinates of the location and went to see the progress. I was shocked to see an empty parcel! I asked the land owner what happened, and was told the land had been rented for a wedding, but the wedding was last week and now parcel was available for rent! Bottom line is Stephanie had sent photos from someone else’s wedding site that she hadn’t built. When Dan confronted her, she told him sorry but she had spent all the money on herself. We’d been swindled. I was devastated and furious. Dan seemed to take it in stride “Hey, it’s only lindens.” He kept the friendship with Stephanie, and soon after, we broke up. I just wanted to warn others not to make the same mistake. Thanks for listening. Sincerely, Sad in Seattle Dear Sad, That is indeed a sad story. You lost so much with this transaction, and not just the money. I am so sorry. Unfortunately, the essence of your story is not unique. In fact, I’ve talked to three people **just this month** that have had similar experiences. I can tell by your letter that you knew exactly what went wrong and when, but you went against your better judgment in your trust of this so-called “friend” who not only used Dan, but he didn’t seem to defend you when she threw you under the bus. It’s easy to get caught up in the romance and excitement of a wedding, but BUYER BEWARE. There are ways to protect yourself from an unscrupulous planner. 1.) Get it in writing - always, always and always get a contract of exactly what you’re buying. A timeline is helpful too, so you will know when, for example, to expect the invitations. 2.) Get references - happy customers are glad to provide this information. Don’t take the word of the planner! Get names and do your homework. 3.) Get receipts - if you make a down payment - get a receipt! Make sure that all the parties understand when financial transactions are expected. (A smart planner will expect all payments prior to the first wedding bell, but certainly not all of it up front!) 4.) Get involved - whether you’re getting married at a pre-built venue or if it’s being custom built to your needs, don’t assume that progress is being made. Get the landmark. Go there. Find out about photo opportunities around the venue. See for yourself how it’s going. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and express concerns! 5.) Get to know your planner. Did you meet her at a wedding expo? Does she have an ad in the IDWN Magazine? How long has she been in SL? Does she have payment information on file? What’s on her profile? The Interests tab tells you a lot. Is her business listed there? Trust your gut - if you have a bad feeling - flee! Next month: What to do if you’ve been ripped off! Ask Henri - send a NC to Henri Fouquet or email her at firstname.lastname@example.org. Visit us in world today! VISIT US IN WoRLD ToDAY! The day of romantic love is almost upon us and lovers all over the world will express their feelings to one another. This year is not much different than past Valentines but sometimes a little inspiration for something new can add a touch of thoughtful joy. Think soft, lush and vintage this year for Valentines. New patterns are emerging this year so add some floral or stripes to your decor. Soft Pink is making its way back in a huge way this year with the peony flower. This lush, romantic flower is perfect for bouquets, centerpieces and cakes. In my search for an inspirational photograph, I had a hard time finding mesh peonies in Second life. I do feel creators will soon be making these pretty petal flowers. I ended up using texture Peonies for my illustration, thus using photo-shop to cut out bad spots from the textures. However, the cake does give ideas on how they look and can drape around a cake. Right now in world there are many other mesh flowers that can give the same effect and look even better so not to worry. Think of an era gone by with candlesticks, crystal chandeliers, and china plates. A touch of elegance with the look of “The Great Gatsby” and other 1920’s inspirations are still popular among brides and makes a lovely backdrop for any Valentine wedding. Lastly, one of my personal favorite gift ideas for your Bride/Groom is voice art work. You record your voice saying “I Love You” and save the voice vibration as an image. You could also memorialize your “I Do” to eachother and make matching pictures. It’s a beautiful and one of kind expression. It looks amazing above your bed or over a fireplace. The inspirations below are the vibrations of saying “I love you”. Don’t forget to send out an invitation or save the date photograph to your family and friends, whom will want to share this most romantic and magical day with you! Side Note: I need to make a correction from my last article. The colors issue wil be in our March/April issue.. Hope nobody is too disappointed, if you have any question about this year colors feel free to IM me. I Do Wedding Network Member Highlight Written by Emma Portilo How partners Sam55 Dayafter and Jules Shamrockâ€™s passion for providing the best quality wedding packages, venue and services turned into an established business is an interesting stor y. Previously they ran clubs with their partners. One day a couple asked if they could marr y at their beach club. Absolutely loving everything about it - the flowers, the romance, and the love - they were totally hooked! Since then the business has stood the test of time, coordinating and conducting weddings for people in love and sharing their joyous events, time after time. Using a convenient HUD to travel from one beautiful venue to the next made it so simple to see how much care and attention the owners of Timeless Weddings put into each setting. Choosing just one could be one of the hardest decision to make in the process. Each location was meticulously attended to in detail and is part of what makes Timeless Weddings a wonderful option. Sam55 and Jules are the main business partners, and although Sam is in Portugal and Jules is in England, they hit it off and have been friends in SL for nearly five years. Because they are both in Europe, they work with other professionals to enable them to provide weddings in other time zones. This works well and they have had some wonderful collaborations. The partners of Timeless Weddings set out to provide affordable weddings, choice of venues, and the comfort of knowing they can take the stress away from couples seeking to marry so they can concentrate on each other. When asked what sets Timeless Weddings apart from other business similar to theirs they respond, “ There are many great wedding businesses in SL and between us we offer a real choice to people. We offer a welcoming sim, beautiful venues, honeymoon destinations included in packages, and most of our services are in house with long term friends so that we can be sure of giving a good service.”, and Jules continues, “We are known as working very professionally and being well organized and have between us three languages, English, Portuguese and Spanish.” To Timeless Weddings, there are no ideal customers, the only criteria is being in love. They do count on word of mouth recommendations which accounts for a large number of their clients. The most rewarding part of running their business is to witness the emotion and happiness of the couple at the wedding and comments of guests saying it is the best they have ever attended. The most difficult part is when people have set their heart on a venue and we have to decline a booking because of time zones, staff availability, or prior bookings. The advice they would give to someone wanting to start a business in SL? “Go for it! It is hard work but very satisfying and there is room for us all.”, but more importantly they advise, “Do it with love, not for money. You will never please a couple in love if you are in bad humor or out of patience.” They also state, “We are always glad to help new businesses with any advice or problems and welcome visitors to our sim.” They are presently getting ready for spring with new venues and looking forward to working with couples on making their dream wedding dreams come true. They have been getting a lot of renewal requests from past customers, so they are putting together a discount package to show their appreciation of them coming back. To book an event with Timeless Weddings, you can visit their main store at their sim (SERENADES), or contact by IM to either Sam55 Dayafter or Jules Shamrock. The tour HUD can be picked up at the main store which takes people around the venues easily. If you’re interested in having your SL wedding business highlighted, please contact Emma Portilo or submit a request through the IDWN Magazine website. Netera Lander Within an elegant white and gold trimmed ceremony setting, Alastair and Wildfire prepared to move toward the altar on Saturday, Jan. 11. Sheer ivor y curtains swayed with the warm breeze on the Dynasty Wedding sim. The sounds of the sea brushed against the gentle-sloped hill as the wedding party proceeded down the scarlet runner toward the officiant, Bookie Flux, and two musicians. Guests sat comfortably on white benches with cranberr y colored cushions. Lovely white and red flowers added a romantic touch. The bride wore a gorgeous Utopia My Queen Silver gown with a veil styled for royalty topped with a pearl and diamond tiara. Her strapless bodice accentuated her curves. She held a bouquet of lilies and roses. Her handsome groom, Alastair, was garbed in Utopiaâ€™s Alexander tux. Upon his head a crown of gold symbolizing his role playing status and because Wildfire calls him her king. Wildfireâ€™s maids of honor wore beautiful gold gowns and her bridesmaids wore silver. They carried white bouquets. The maids of honor, bridesmaids, bestmen and groomsmen stood on tiered levels near the altar, which presented a more artistic formation. The bridal party included maid of honor: Eezzabella AveDan, Jade Russa, Angel Tigerpaw Umino, Serenity Moon, Brandi Mich. Her bridesmaids: Mirabellarose, ZaBaby Bodenhall, Kris Dorben. Best men: Unever Umino, Viscious Ronin, Cross Sideshow and Jay Draven. Groomsmen: Jerry Mizser, Dat Cajun, Blue Kitsune Pearl and Shade X. The reception was held across from the ceremony area. Tables were dressed with cranberr y tablecloths and had cranberr y and ivor y-covered chairs. Sheer material was draped over Roman columns adding an elegant architectural feature. Five candelabra were arranged in a half circle behind the refreshment table. Prepared for formal dining was punch, gourmet finger foods, a sushi platter and coffee. A day later, I learned how they met. We sat on a comfortable sectional in their home. Alastair stated that he had just returned from a long break away from Second Life. He was eager to start building again. Then his old friend, and Second Life brother, Ronin, sent him an IM and introduced him to a vampire clan he was a member of. Alastair and Wildfire met a few times before dating on Second Life. Over the next few days, they learned about each other’s lives and realized they had a lot in common. “But the whole sim crashed. We didn’t even get to have our pictures taken. Then this summer, we discussed the renewal of our SL vows.” Their friend, Jay, who is like a grandfather to Wildfire, informed him about Bookie Flux’s Dynasty Weddings. They requested a scripted event and chose their own music. Bookie read the ceremony out loud. The couple expressed how much they loved each other without written vows. Ever y thought and feeling was straight from the “Neither of us were looking for a partner at heart. the time,” Alastair explained. “We accidently fell in love,” he kidded. “About three After the wedding, gifts were given to the months after we were on SL together, she happily married couple. The garter was moved in with me in real life…and here thrown and the wedding cake was shared we are. We’ve been through a lot of ups by all. and downs, and we’ve made it through it all and still are going strong,” he said with sincerity. “We’re planning on getting married in about two years.” They will be looking for that perfect house and need to organize their lives before tying the knot in real life. What a wonderful example of proving that you can find love on a virtual world and get married. “We did try to have a wedding before this one,” said Wildfire, “But the whole sim crashed. We didn’t eve VISIT TODAY Follow Us! 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