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find them, see discounts.aarp.org/travel or call 800675-4318. Annual AARP membership fees are $16 or less if you join for multiple years. If you don’t like AARP, there are alternative organizations you can join like the Seniors Coalition or the American Seniors Association that offer discounts on hotels and rental cars.

are also available to AAA members. To shop around for the best rental car deals use travel aggregator sites like orbitz.com or kayak.com.

Airlines: Southwest Airlines has the best senior fare program in the U.S., offering discounts to passengers 65 and older. American, United and Delta offer some senior fares too but they are extremely limited.

Hotels: Most hotels in the U.S. offer senior discounts ranging between 10 and 30 percent off. Age eligibility will vary by hotel. Hyatt offers one of the biggest discounts, up to 50 percent off, to guests 62 and older.

Trains: Amtrak provides a 15 percent discount to travelers 62 and older, and a 10 percent discount to passengers over age 60 on cross-border services operated jointly by Amtrak and VIA Rail Canada.

With that said, here’s a breakdown of some different senior travel discounts that are available today.

Bus travel: Greyhound offers a 5 percent discount on unrestricted fares to seniors over 62. Peter Pan, which serves the Northeast region of the U.S., offers the same deal. Trailways, a privately owned bus company also provides senior discounts but they vary by location. And, most local bus lines and public transportation offer discounted senior passes.

Club memberships: If you’re a member of AARP, there are dozens of travel discounts available on hotels, rental cars, cruises and vacation packages. To

Car rentals: Most car rental companies offer 5 to 25 percent discounts to customers who belong to 50-and-older organizations like AARP. Discounts

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Anyone with a denial between Jan. 25, 2013 and Jan. 23, 2014 has until Jan. 23, 2015 to request a review. Information on the process is available from the ADRC by calling (920) 683-4180 or 1-877-416-7083.

Medicare denial information available The Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services (CMS) has provided the ADRC with information for individuals who may have been denied coverage in a skilled nursing facility, home health care agency or outpatient care. In a settlement in 2013, known as the Jimmo agreement, CMS clarified that maintenance coverage under one of these benefits does not depend on whether the patient can improve, but on whether skilled care is required and whether the services themselves are reasonable and necessary. If you have been denied by Medicare because you were not improving or no longer had the potential to improve and this was the only reason for the denial,

Pro-bono attorney Kewaunee and Manitowoc County each offer pro-bono attorney appointments for seniors age 60 and older who may be dealing with a situation that they are not sure requires the assistance of an attorney. The pro-bono attorney schedules ½-hour appointments and will listen to your concerns and advise you on what course of action to take. If you are advised to contact an attorney for help, the pro-bono attorney does not become your legal counsel. Kewaunee County residents have access to the attorney the fourth Monday of the month. Appointments can be made

by calling 1-877-416-7083 and asking to speak to the elder benefit specialist. The pro-bono attorney is in the Manitowoc office the fourth Wednesday of the month and county residents can make an appointment by calling the ADRC at (920) 683-4180 and asking to speak to the elder benefit specialist.

Power Point The Long Term Care Coalition has developed a Power Point presentation explaining hospital admissions and hospital observations, and the care that can be provided under the separate codings. Any group can request a presentation that can be made by a member of the coalition. Requests for presentations can be made through the ADRC office.

Drug assistance A reminder to individuals who are struggling to pay for prescription drugs that there may be help available through the federal government or other resources. Medicare recipients who have a yearly income of less than $17,235, and a couple whose income is less than $23,265 a year could be eligible for Low Income Subsidy (LIS) or assistance with drugs

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Representatives will explain the Senior Farmer’s Market Nutrition Program and explain how to use the vouchers. For more information, call Alyssa Weber at (920) 683-4180.

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A sense of humor through dementia is a vital as oxygen. It’s a debilitating disease; it’s perhaps harder on family members to have to watch their loved one go through it than to have the disease themselves.

Progression The disease process started with memory problems. Jodi noticed that her aunts would re-ask Ione questions that she had answered a couple of days before. One aunt lived next door and after dementia had taken its toll, Jodi would regularly go next door to help her shower. “I was more than glad that I could be there to help,” she said. While camping in Wisconsin Dells late spring of 2012 Jodi’s phone rang at 5:30 a.m. It was her mother calling her asking, “Where are you? I was going to call the police!” Ione had forgotten that Jodi was on a camping trip.

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“That was my first ‘wake up’ call,” Jodi said about her mother’s illness. “At that time she could still use the phone, microwave… Looking back, I guess there were signs. But you just don’t want to admit it. It’s hard to accept the fact that your mother is declining.”

Jodi Larson, right, helps her mother Ione with a puzzle at their home recently. Jodi said the memory loss of dementia that her mother experiences can be frustrating. Matthew Apgar/50 Plus

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By Joni Shavlik 50 Plus correspondent Ione Larson’s welcome into her Manitowoc home is as warm and friendly as her daughter’s. Her eyes light up, her smile fills her face as she shakes my hand. The 86-year-old enjoys company. She is sitting in a recliner with a thick, fuzzy blanket on. Her daughter, Jodi Larson, knows she doesn’t like to be cold. Their home is a stone’s throw from Lincoln High School and it’s where Jodi grew up. We chatted a bit about the ease of not having to drive the kids to school. Pleasant chatter, and Ione’s answers to my questions sound perfectly normal.

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I asked Ione about her husband who had passed away when Jodi, now 52, was only 12 years old. Reuben Larson died of colon cancer in 1973. She knew she had been married, she knew she loved him greatly and still does, but a very disturbed frown crossed her face as she realized that she couldn’t come up with his name. She should know her husband’s name. She knows something’s wrong, but she passes it off with a comment, “I’m so stupid,” and that breaks her daughter’s heart. I showed Ione a family photo. She was able to point out Jodi, but not able to name Jodi’s brothers Jan, who lives in

Florida, and Kim, who lives in Manitowoc. Her number one grandson Josh is spoken of with a smile as are his two boys Jackson and Jacob. She really liked their photo, and she knew them, but the names escape her. Jodi describes her mother as a person who has always been self-reliant. She’d much prefer to give a helping hand than to receive one. Jodi has inherited this giving trait from her mother. Ione’s two sisters were never diagnosed with dementia, but Jodi knows the signs. One had a mild case, and the other had it quite a bit worse, “but I got the prize!” she jokes.

They’d have arguments about things Ione would forget, perhaps a TV program they’d watched together. “Oh you remember that show… We watched that one together last night,” Jodi would say. “Oh no, we didn’t! I’ve never seen that episode before,” Ione would fire back. At this point Ione isn’t capable of doing anything for herself anymore. She’d rather be in bed. Jodi is up at 4:15 a.m. to get ready for work. She wakes up Ione, administers her medications and Ione goes back to sleep. Jodi leaves breakfast out and the TV on for Ione because she won’t remember to eat or how to operate the TV set. It’s stressful for Jodi, worrying about how her mother is doing while she’s away. Her boss’s name, Mike Fredrich, comes up a bit in my conversation with Ione. He’s one of the few people she remembers and matches a name to a face, or at least to his thoughtfulness. He bakes over the weekend and every Monday he sends a treat home with Jodi for Ione. They’ve met, too. Ione says, “he’s a nice guy, that Mike.” Fredrich knows the situation that Jodi

is in, and has no problem with her running home once or twice during the day to check on her mother. “That type of thing is earned” Fredrich said. “She (Jodi) always gets her work done, and does it well.” Mid-morning Jodi might be finally getting her mother out of bed and upon leaving say: “Now don’t go running off to bed right after I leave!” Jodi has already come back 5 minutes later, and had to shag her mother back out of bed again!

Wants to remain home How does Ione feel about extra care for her condition? “Just don’t put me in a ‘home,’” she says. “Put a pillow over my head before you do that!” Jodi laughs at the statement as she tells me, but the guilt it produces is obvious. Jodi doesn’t want to go against her mother’s wishes. Right now, her mother is able to stay for short periods of time by herself. Jodi has finally (over much worry about how her mother would take the change) gotten Homecare Health Services to come in three days a week to stay with Ione for a few hours a day. When she went to an overnight tournament, one of her adopted “sisters” came to stay with Ione, or Jodi would never have been able to go. Her life revolves around her mother’s care. There are good days where Ione is content, but the bad days are hard to take. Ione has hallucinations. It started with a “woman” in the house. Not a nice woman. On a bad day Jodi listens to her mother argue and yell at this “woman” all day long. “Go on! Get out of here! Why don’t you leave me alone!?” she says. “I don’t want you here!” There is not a thing that Jodi can say or do to make this “person” go away.

an is arguing with Ione all over again. Jodi doesn’t understand how she can have a conversation with Ione, leave the room for 2 minutes, come back, and her mother doesn’t remember a word of it. Yet Ione never seems to forget about the “people” living in the house. “It was very frustrating, I was angry at first when she couldn’t remember things,” Jodi said. She finally came to the realization that her mother will never be the mother that she once had. Jodi has accepted that fact, and knows that Ione doesn’t do these things to annoy anyone. She has a problem, and she needs care. It became much less frustrating when she accepted her mother’s illness.

Support system Not only does Ione need help, Jodi needs support, too. Her five “adopted sisters” (Debby, Linda, Cindy, Annie, and Robbie) from her bowling league all help her find some fun and stress relief and help out with Ione. Jodi has gotten into working out a lot more lately and finds stress relief in that. She also found a Facebook site called “Dementia, the Journey Ahead” put out by a woman in Arizona whose husband had dementia and had passed away. The site invites people with the same problems. It’s where Jodi found out that hallucinations are common, and that some days Ione will be more agitated, while others will be wonderfully clear where you’d wonder if anything is wrong at all. It’s comforting to know she’s not alone on this journey, Jodi says. Her uncle, Harold Valleskey, lives next door with his dog, Cody. “He visits Ione every day and the dog flies into her lap looking for treats. She loves that!” states Jodi with a grin.

One day Ione said, “I have to go check on the kids.” “The kids?” Jodi asked. “How many people are living here ma?” Apparently the phantom woman has a husband and three children, all living with Jodi and Ione.

I asked Ione about Cody and she thought he had not been to visit for a while. “I think he was hit by a car,” said Ione about the dog. But Uncle Harold was out of town for the day and just hadn’t been over to visit yet. He’d be coming over a bit later.

Jodi has at one time or another told her mother that she has kicked them all out, taken them to the police station or taken them with her when she gets in her car to go to work. When Jodi comes back home, somehow that family has gotten back into the house and that evil wom-

Ione’s grandson, Josh, lives in Ohio and calls her “GG” because she didn’t care for “Great Grandma,” it sounded so old. They have a special bond and when he comes to visit he sends Jodi off to do whatever she wants, “Go ahead, I’ve got GG covered,” he says.

The reprieve that Uncle Harold, Cody and Josh have to offer is more than welcome to Jodi. She not only needs a break, she wants her mother to have the interaction with her family as her memory declines in hopes of keeping as much mental function and memory as possible. The role reversal of parent/child is prominent, as Ione occasionally calls Jodi by one of her sister’s names, or “mama.” A sense of humor in both Ione and Jodi keep them chuckling about words that Ione cannot come up with, and she blends a few words together to make up something that might fit her sentence. When frustrated with her lack of speech or memory, Jodi knows that ice cream will save the day. “She loves ice cream! Or she likes to go for a ride in the car and go out to eat. She never liked that before!”

Guardianship Getting guardianship is necessary for Jodi to make medical decisions on Ione’s behalf, care for her finances and pay her bills. She strongly recommends that if you have the opportunity, get Power of Attorney before incompetency occurs. Because they didn’t do this, Ione had to be evaluated in order for Jodi to get guardianship. “It was heart-wrenching to see the doctors ask her all of those questions that she couldn’t answer,” Jodi recalls. “She comes out to the car and says ‘I’m stupid.’ I was glad that I had my sunglasses on so she couldn’t see my tears.” More interviews with Ione had to be conducted with both the attorney ad litem and at the court. Jodi is now declared guardian of Ione, but she really wishes it would have happened sooner, it would have been so much easier on Ione.

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Attorney Terry Fox states that there are a number ways to assist a “ward” with control of their property and finances, as well as their health care decisions. The most common method is to utilize a General Durable Power of Attorney that appoints an agent

to control the ward’s assets and finances; and the Healthcare Power of Attorney that appoints an agent to make only health care decisions for the ward. If the ward is competent to understand a “power of appointment” (their right to appoint someone to act in their place), these documents are drafted, reviewed and executed. The Healthcare Power of Attorney is effective only when two medical doctors or a medical doctor or psychologist finds the ward to be unable to make their healthcare decisions. The General Durable Power of Attorney can be effective immediately or upon the ward’s incompetence. That decision is up to the ward. If, as in Ione’s case, neither Power of Attorney was executed prior to incompetency, someone must step in for the ward to act as guardian of the person (the health care guardian) and of their estate (the power of attorney for finances and assets), which is usually the same individual. A Guardianship is a Court supervised procedure that begins with a petition being filed on behalf of the ward due to the ward being incapable of caring for some aspect or all aspects of his/her life. The typical procedure has a guardian ad litem being appointed for the ward’s protection. A medical report is filed by a doctor, which addresses the ward’s medical and emotional condition. The guardian ad litem who protects the ward has full access to the ward, medical records and any other evidentiary material that will be presented to the court to show the ward’s incompetence. The court makes a finding regarding the ward’s competency and deals with the ward’s needs and also determines that the proposed guardian is qualified to act for the ward. Guardians need to file an annual report with the court disclosing the ward’s income, expenses and assets. Fox advises against naming multiple family members as guardians. “It’s less complicated when one guardian is chosen,” he said. “Two or more guardians requires each guardian to be involved in everything that happens in the ward’s life. Timing of signatures, bank withdrawals, transfers of properties, etc., travel from out of state, these things make it difficult with more than one guardian.” COPING WITH DEMENTIA CONTINUED ON PAGE 9

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Jodi Larson helps her mother, Ione, from the table after working on the puzzle. Matthew Apgar/50 Plus

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With a family history of dementia, I asked Jodi if she was worried that she might take the same path as her mother. “They say it’s really not hereditary. And if I get like her I’m really not going to know the difference anyway,” she said.

Risk factors for dementia Dr. Steve Erlemeier, a neurologist at Holy Family Memorial, said there are several risk factors for dementia, including: closed head injuries; Dr. Steve Erlemeier

diabetes and anything vascular such as high blood pressure or cholesterol;

thyroid conditions; vitamin B12 and folate deficiencies; syphilis; infections; pseudo dementia (depression) where neuro transmitters are deficient; prion disease (wasting disease); and some dementias are hereditary – it is only 4 to 5 percent and depends on your DNA. Some of these are short-term and can be cured, some have a moderate duration and are occasionally curable, while others take a long time to develop and are not reversible, Erlemeier said.

Erlemeier states that loss of memory, language, temporal-spatial disorientation (loss of time or space), loss of personality, or a change in the ability to reason are all symptoms of dementia.

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“Age and stress related memory loss is normal,” he said. “There is a processing speed that diminishes over time and it’s made up for with wisdom.”

Lisa graduated as an LPN in 2007 and then as an RN in 2009 from Lakeshore Technical College in Cleveland, Wisconsin. She started her career with Extendicare Health Services, and at River’s Bend Health and Rehabilitation Center in 2012 as Unit Manager. Lisa has also enjoyed the opportunity to expand her nursing skills outside of Extendicare’s centers by becoming Wound Certified from The Wound Care Institute in 2013.

The first sign of dementia is a change in memory that is out of proportion to normal aging. “Dementias that are treatable are thyroid, B12, Folate, depression. Also, keeping the brain active is helpful,” states Erlemeier. He suggests crossword puzzles, keeping socially interactive and in particular to use support groups which has been shown to allow patients more longevity in these illness patterns. Websites like Luminosity.com are helpful to stimulate the brain

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Erlemeier suggests that a plant based diet is best, and to add in some exercise.

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No ‘Magic Pill’ for a good night’s sleep health By Katie Schroeder As a community pharmacist, one of the most common questions I get is, “What can I take to get a good night’s sleep?” Unfortunately, there is no magic pill to help my patients fall asleep, stay asleep and wake up completely refreshed. Although older adults need the same amount of sleep as younger adults, older adults can experience changes in their sleep patterns. Oftentimes, older adults take longer to fall asleep and wake up more frequently during the night. In addition, they may get less deep sleep and more light sleep than they did in their younger years. Changes in sleep patterns can make older adults feel exhausted, irritable and sleepy during the day.

One of the main reasons older adults have trouble sleeping is caused by other medical conditions. In 2009, 80 percent of older adults with four or more medical conditions reported problems sleeping! For example, uncontrolled pain can wake people up during the night, depression or anxiety can make falling asleep difficult, and breathing problems can cause sleep disruption. So sometimes the first step to improving sleep is to first control other medical conditions. Once medical conditions are well controlled, the next step is to improve your sleep hygiene. Just like having good hand hygiene prevents you from getting a cold, good sleep hygiene can prevent insomnia!

Below are 10 sleep hygiene tips you can try to improve your sleep: 1. Keep the same bedtime and wake time every day - even on weekends! This is important for setting your body’s internal clock. 2. Develop a relaxing bedtime routine. Relaxation techniques that work for some people include reading, taking a warm bath, or aromatherapy. 3. Avoid taking naps. Especially afternoon naps, these can make it more difficult to fall asleep. 4. Exercise daily. Even light exercise is better than nothing! However, avoid exercising within one hour of bedtime. 5. Create a healthy sleeping environment. Remove noise with ear plugs or white noise machines, remove light with blackout curtains or eye shades, and remove dust by cleaning weekly. 6. Sleep on a comfortable mattress and pillow. Mattresses start to lose their support after about 10 years. 7. Avoid bright light one hour before

bedtime. The bright light (including the light from television and computer screens) can make it difficult to fall asleep. 8. Avoid alcohol, tobacco and caffeine in the evening. All of these products disrupt the sleep cycle. 9. Avoid heavy meals two hours before bedtime. Heartburn can get worse when lying down. 10. If you can’t fall asleep after 20 minutes, leave the bedroom and do something relaxing until you feel tired. Only use the bedroom for sleep and sex to strengthen your body’s association between the bedroom and sleep. If improving sleep hygiene is not improving sleep, the last step to consider is medications. Many medications are not recommended for sleep in older adults because of harmful side effects. The most common over-the-counter sleep aid contains diphenhydramine (brand names include Benadryl, ZzzQuil) to help patients fall asleep. However, diphenhydramine can decrease cognition, increase the risk of a fall, and cause blurred vision. Prescriptions for benzo-

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diazepines like alprazolam, lorazepam, and clonazepam can help patients fall asleep but they have been shown to decrease cognition and increase falls. There are some patients who will need to use medications to help with sleep. Always talk with your health care provider or pharmacist before starting any new medication to make sure the benefits of taking medicine outweigh the side effects. To lower the risks of side effects, use medications at the lowest dose

for the shortest time possible to get you back into a normal sleep pattern. To my patients’ disappointment, getting a good night’s sleep can’t be cured with a “magic pill.” The good news is that treating sleep problems can be improved with simple changes to your routine. Sleep tight; don’t let the bed bugs bite! Katie Schroeder is a pharmacist at The Medicine Shoppe in Two Rivers and can be reached at (920) 794-1225.

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