Feminine Soul Entrepreneur Magazine - September 2013
Discover practical tools to nourish your body, mind and soul while growing your business.
2 Food for your Soul, Strategies for your Business Edition Septemb er 2013 nd. How to Use the Power of Intention In Your Life & Business Feminine Soul of the Month: Lisa Mininni In this Issue Feminine Soul of the Month: Lisa Mininni p .44 4 Letter from the Editor 6 Meet the Team 8 How to Use the Power of Intention in Your Life and Business 10 The Power of Setting Business Intentions Lisa Manyon 14 Living an Intentional Work Life Robin Crawford 18 The Spiritual Component of Womenâ€™s Leadership Tabby Biddle 23 Powerful Tools to Love Yourself & Lead an Authentic Life Celia Ward-Wallace 27 The Ultimate Price of Success: Our Femininity Vanessa Halloum September 2013 2 The Reason the Power of Intention Isn’t Working for You p . 33 50 What They Tried to Stop You Knowing About Meditation Edel O’Mahony 30 The Entrepreneur Revolution Katie Day 53 A Foodies Guide to Business Tina Dietz 33 The Reason the Power of Intention Isn’t Working for You Jessica Patterson 56 Poetry to Inspire Jean Kay 57 Seven Ways to Prevent Relationship Slips Heather Paris 37 How to Skyrocket the Effectiveness of Your Intentions Stephanie Owens 62 What’s happening on the Feminine Sould Radio Show 64 Ask Rev. Anne 41 Communicating With Your Inner Voice to Set Your Deepest Intentions Reena Desai Connect with us: 44 Feminine Soul of the Month Interview with Lisa Mininni 3 Letter from the Editor “The moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred...unforeseen incidents, meetings, and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. “ H Vanessa alloum In this issue of the Feminine Soul Magazine we dive deep into the Power of Intention by Creating Your Reality, One Intention at a Time Most of us have heard about the Power of Intention, but how many of us can actually say we use it on a daily basis? The exercise of setting intentions is not a “fluffy” concept to be dismissed. On the contrary, it’s incredible how the world seems to create subtle shifts when we begin using it. looking at ways some of us are using it (page 8-9), why it may not be working for you the way you expected (page 33) as well as how to live an intentional work life (page 14). Make sure you let us know how you enjoy the articles on our facebook page (www.facebook. com/femininesoul) or tweet with us by using the #FeminineSoul. We may even feature your comments on our next issue! If you’re not sure how to use the power of intention think of it in terms of what you are committed to manifesting in your life. As W.H. Murray said: 4 With Love & Gratitude, www.vanessahalloum.com September 2013 Vanessa 5 Meet the team Vanessa Halloum is the founder of the Feminine Soul Magazine, Radio Show and Academy for conscious women entrepreneurs, messengers and thought leaders. She helps mission-driven entrepreneurs clarify their messaging and their branding so that they can position themselves powerfully to potential clients. Learn more at www.vanessahalloum.com E d it o r- in - c h ie f Nina S. Pakdi is a successful blogger and writer whoâ€™s on a mission to inspire women to run heart-centered businesses through love and passion. She helps family oriented-women create a work-life balance so that they can feel a deep sense of fulfillment. For informational articles and lifestyle inspiration visit her website at www.ninaspakdi.com D ir e c t o r t n e t n o C Ligia Morales is a passionate Graphic Designer. She got her college degree at USAC in Guatemala and started working as a designer at different ad agencies, where she was able to really define her style. She currently works as a freelancer. She enjoys advertising and editorial design and is always looking for new and exciting projects. You can contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org s ig n e r e D ic h p Gra Want to join the Feminine Soul Leadership Team? Please send an email to email@example.com 6 September 2013 Reach Serve Prosper teleseminar a FREE virtual training for coaches, authors, healers and conscious entrepreneurs who want to transform lives with their products and services Are you ready to REACH a bigger audience, SERVE more people and build a PROSPEROUS conscious business? To register for this FREE training just go to www.ReachServeProsper.com 7 Power Of Intention In Your Life & Business? Tabby Biddle I meditate and chant every morning as a way to tune in to my soul’s voice. From there, I let my soul’s voice guide me in how I should best use my energy for the day. Rather than setting a specific intention from my “mind,” I let my inner guidance show me the way. How Do You Use the Edel O’Mahony Through understanding that everything exists in this very moment, the instantaneous expression of pure love. Heather Paris I am creating my world by not holding on to control, rather allowing what Universe has in store to naturally flow throughout my life. Jessica Patterson I have a morning mantra that goes like this: I am open to receive. The clients who are meant to work with me are already on my way. 8 September 2013 Lisa Manyon Setting intentions is a way to clearly identify whatâ€™s important to me and to get what I really want out of life and business. Robin Crawford Iâ€™ve come to appreciate the power of setting intentions in all areas of my life on a daily basis, not only when making big decisions but even when making small ones. Stephanie Owens I make it a daily practice and watch for evidence that miracles are happening in my life. Tina Dietz Combining vision with intention guides everything from my long term strategic planning to my daily actions like a string of beautiful pearls. 9 The Power of Setting Business Intentions by Lisa Manyon W hen it comes to marketing online it is important to be realistic about your expecting your website to do things you don’t really have a plan or strategy for or haven’t set clear intentions around. Often you need additional marketing efforts to support your goals). efforts. It’s also important to NOT buy into the “get rich quick” schemes. All too often I see people struggling because they haven’t created a clear overall website strategy let alone an individual page strategy (Hint: both are crucial). Setting clear business marketing intentions based on integrity, values and building relationships is vital to your business success. If your website isn’t performing as you’d hoped, it could be because you’ve tried to cut corners and do it yourself (not a great idea unless you’re a stellar designer, programmer and copywriter all rolled into one person). Even if you have strong skills in one or more of these areas, it’s always a good idea to get outside perspective. You might not be getting the results you’d hoped for because you have unrealistic website expectations (This means you are You need to have an online marketing strategy in place first and foremost (this is true for your website, individual programs, products and any offering you provide). It’s important to remember that everything you create needs a marketing plan and strategy to support that ONE offering (your offerings are offspring of your overall brand and need their own identity and strategy). September 2013 10 You’ll also need solid design to support your strategy and intentions. If you’re missing pieces to the marketing puzzle you likely haven’t set clear intentions especially when it comes to online strategy. It’s also likely that you’ve followed cookie cutter approaches and that means… • You may be expecting your free offer sequence, your follow up strategy, web content and overall website goals?). website to do things it’s just not capable of doing (the set it and forget it approach and relying solely on automation is likely not working for you). • You may also be missing the KEY ingredient to get your web visitors to take action (when your web visitors aren’t opting in or aren’t taking action once they sign up for your free offer, your strategy is clearly broken and needs to be revisited ASAP) • You may not be getting the results you’d hoped for because your strategy isn’t clear (when was the last time you reviewed your entire Regardless of what’s happening with your website right now, chances are it’s time to review your content and strategy and set clear intentions. 11 In order to be successful online you must... • Have a clear plan, with clear have a consistent and systematic — not cookie cutter– plan to entice visitors to come to your website). intentions, about what you really want your website to do (this means you’ve looked at your overall site strategy and individual page strategy in-depth AND had an expert review it with you). • Have juicy, gooey content that entices your web visitors to take action (this means you engage your prospects when they get to your site so they want to become paying customers and clients). • Consistently work your plan to get visitors to your site (this means you Plus, you should review your content and strategy at the very MINIMUM quarterly. Oh, you should also know that this doesn’t mean you have to completely redesign your website. Often it only takes some subtle shifts to get results. However, it is crucial to have a strong strategy, a solid design that supports your brand and copy that tells your story in a way that motivates action. If you’re still stuck, it might be time to invest in a business marketing expert to help you set clear intentions. 12 September 2013 Want to read the Magazine on your ipad or in print? Lisa Manyon is “The Business Marketing strategist Architect”, for a content mission-driven entrepreneurs. She’s the creator of the new marketing model for success as featured in Inc. Magazine. She teaches a relationship based approach to marketing with integrity with her “Challenge. Solution. Invitation.™” formula. Owner of Write On ~ Creative Writing Services, LLC. Lisa is #1 bestselling author featured in the world’s largest digital library of role models & mentors for women and girls housed at George Washington University. She offers a free marketing resources on her award winning blog and is available for speaking engagements. http://www.writeoncreative.com/blog Click here! or go to http://bit.ly/FSinPrint 13 Intentional Work Life by Robin Crawford Living an C life. onsider an intention a personal power commitment wrapped in anticipation Now let’s sure you could add another hand full of phrases to this list. Notice that there isn’t a single ounce of personal power reflected in any of these responses. They all yell, “I’ve surrendered,” which is the exact opposite of personal power. and sprinkled with courage. consider this in the context of your work We spend about 60% or more of our awake hours preparing for, commuting to and from, and engaging in activities that involve expending mental or physical effort to attain some purpose or result work. For many, work has become part of the rote of daily living. You can witness this in the absence of joy, excitement, and satisfaction when observing the body language of someone discussing their work or in the words they choose when talking about their work. How many times, in response to the question, “How’s work?” have you said or heard, “I’m hanging in there,” “Same ole, same ole,” “I could complain, but what good would it do?” “I’m tired, but what choice do I have?” I’m 14 Living an intentional work life is stepping fully into your power to imagine, choose, steer, and shape your work life - every aspect of it - to reflect the best of who you are and what you value most. Wrapped in anticipation means that when you set an intention, you trust and anticipate that what you intended or better is on its way. Allow me to share a personal example. During my tenure as an undergraduate student, I decided that I was going to serve as an educator. My undergrad experience at my university of choice was so rich that I set an intention that not only was I going to teach, I was going to teach at THAT school. After setting that intention, I did my part – I stepped into inspired action and answered the What, Why, Who, When, and Where. Then, I detached from the outcome, left the “how” to the Universe and anticipated the manifestation of my intention in a form that aligned with what I had imagined or better. A couple of months prior to completing my graduate degree, I called the Chair of my undergrad program and he informed me that a teaching position was waiting for me. I knew it was going to be waiting, I didn’t fully understand how, but I knew because my desire was to live an intentional work life. What would a blueprint of a work life you love look like? Use your imagination and move through the what, why, when, where and who questions as they relate to your job, career or business. You see, once you commit to living an intentional work life, drifting in a good enough or mediocre job, career or business is no longer acceptable. Finally, courage is the quality of mind or spirit that compels you to be bold, even if hesitantly so. You feel fear on both sides of a situation – afraid to take that step forward, but also afraid to stay where you are. So, you engage your imagination, decide what it is you really want and set the intention. 15 Now, close your eyes and imagine living an intentional work life. Can you see it? Activate all of your senses. What does it sound like? Feel like? Smell like? Taste like? Fully engage in the process of setting intentions in all areas of your work life. Choose to live an intentional work life; youâ€™ll never regret it! Robin Crawford addresses the gaps in our typical approach to entering the world of work and helps people be intentional in their work lives. Sheâ€™s spent more than two decades observing work life structures in a variety of settings around the globe in over 50 job titles across profit and nonprofit sectors. Sheâ€™s conducted extensive research, career advised hundreds of students of all ages, and completed hundreds of interviews on the topic of work life satisfaction and job structure. She has degrees in sociology; is a certified life coach; and holds certifications and licenses in spiritual and human development. www.designyourbestworklife.com 16 The Spiritual Component of W o m e n â€™s L e a d e r s h ip byTabby Biddle September 2013 18 Lean in: How can more women come into leadership? F acebook COO Sheryl Sandberg argues that women need to own their power Work and the Will to Lead, offering that we as women need to not only lean in, but we need to “push back” to create new laws and policies that support women and a work/family balance. I’d like to add another component to this conversation: and lean in more in conversations, negotiations, and job promotions. Maria Shriver wrote a response to Sheryl’s recently published book, Lean In: Women, The spiritual component. We live in a world culture that is dominated by a masculine version of divinity. God the Father. Brahma. Allah. Buddha. Every major world religion has a “man” as the lead. Do we not think that this has an effect on how we see leadership and who we see as leaders? Let’s look at it this way: If we see “God” only as male, being male and masculinity becomes more authoritative, powerful, and valued than being female and femininity. Being male and masculinity also becomes the standard by which we measure things. As a result, we (both women and men) devalue and ignore the feminine parts of ourselves. 19 Since we have been living a paradigm where men and the masculine are the dominant power, and women and the feminine are the under-class, it’s no wonder that so many women second-guess themselves and their voice in the world. non-violent, earth-centered culture where the goddess was considered the universal source, aka the Great Mother who gave birth to all things from her womb. “The Goddess in all of her manifestations was a symbol of the unity of all life in Nature. Her power was in water and stone, in tomb and cave, in animals and birds, snakes and fish, hills, trees and flowers,” said the late scholar and archeologist Maria Gimbutas. This all changed in the fourth millennium B.C. when waves of Indo-European warriors descended upon the communities that followed the ways of the Goddess. They brought with them a belief in male gods and patriarchal leadership. Eventually, the In my opinion, feminine spirituality is a critical ingredient to the next step in women’s leadership. In order for us to rise, we need to reconnect with our natural spiritual authority. But what does this look like? First I’d like to point out that archeologists and scholars have found that Goddess culture existed for 30,000 years before the patriarchy. Through the unearthing of goddess figurines, paintings, symbols and images, they discovered a long history of a Jewish religion was formed with a single male God as the spiritual authority. And then of course from there, Christianity was later born, with a male God in charge. The Goddess cultures were persecuted, their temples and shrines destroyed, and the subjugation of women and suppression of the feminine became the norm. It is this subjugation of the feminine that I believe is the source of much of the violence against women today. This violence comes in so many forms including 20 September 2013 rape, bride burning, stoning, domestic violence, genital mutilation, sex trafficking, sex-selective abortion, forgoing medical treatment for girls, denying girls education, the serious wage gap, … the list goes on. I believe that until we as a world culture acknowledge the divinity of the feminine and welcome back the Goddess into our spiritual domain, we will be fighting an uphill battle into leadership for a very long time. Until we heal and repair this spiritual wound, we can do all the leaning in that we want, but we are still going to be carrying around self-doubt, insecurity, and asking ourselves: Do I really deserve to lead? What if Adam had been told that he was made from a woman’s rib, was made to serve her, and was the cause for all suffering in the world because he picked an apple off of a tree? I’m not saying that every woman and man needs to turn to the Goddess in their spiritual practice. What I am saying is that our acknowledgment of feminine spirituality – which includes honoring the feminine aspect of the Divine, honoring our body, and honoring our intuitive knowing – is a key step to more women coming into leadership and bringing our world to a place of balanced power. Lest anyone think that I’m trying to get rid of the male God or the male aspect of the Divine, I’m not. If you worship a male God, I’m inviting you to simply consider the feminine aspect of the Divine. Since our default position for our concept of Divine Intelligence is male, imagine how things might look and feel a bit different if our default position for Divine Intelligence was female. How about a balance? For me, living with a male God as the “lead” does not work anymore. I do not see myself in him, therefore I can never “be” him. When the Goddess entered my life, I became inspired. I could feel her. I could see her. And I could see myself in her. Most importantly, I could feel my potential as a leader like never before. I’m all for women leaning in, as Sheryl suggests. I’m also for changing laws and policies that honor women and a work/ family balance, as Maria suggests. In 21 addition, I’m advocating for a global acknowledgment of the feminine aspect of the Divine. I believe there is a need for us as women to gather together and honor each other from a feminine perspective – through a feminine lens, with the Goddess as our inspiration. If we don’t give ourselves the chance to do this we will constantly be judging ourselves through a masculine lens, and so will the rest of society. Lean in. Push Back. And Remember the Goddess. When we reclaim our own divinity, we reclaim our wisdom, our power, our authority and our right to lead. Coming into leadership will no longer feel like a battle. It will feel like an expansion into who we already are. Tabby Biddle, M.S. Ed, women’s leadership expert, writer, speaker and coach, is a well-known voice speaking out for the human rights and empowerment of women and girls. A recipient of a United Nations Foundation press fellowship, Tabby’s writing has been featured by The Huffington Post, the Los Angeles Times, USA Today, UN Dispatch, NPR, Current TV, among other national and international media. Tabby is the author of The Goddess Diaries blog and the director of the Los Angeles Goddess Collective, a community of women leaders and emerging leaders at the intersection of feminine spirituality, creative expression and socio-political change. Tabby’s work focuses on bringing more women into leadership positions via a feminine pathway. She earned her Master’s in Education from Bank Street College of Education and her Bachelor’s degree in Political Science from Colby College. She resides in Santa Monica, CA with her husband, baby boy and kitten. Learn more at www.tabbybiddle.com This article w as first publishe d on The Huffingto n Post. 22 September 2013 P o w er ful Tools to Lo ve Y o u r s e lf & Lead an Authentic Life by Celia Ward-Wallace B eing a woman in modern society is challenging with all the social pressure others and being selfless when, in reality, we are short-changing all of those around us. We are certainly able to accomplish a lot, run our homes and work like machines, but we are often resentful and angry, and we take it out on those around us and ourselves. Then we beat ourselves down some more, ashamed of our behavior, feeling like failures, unable to be perfect in all situations. We often spiral into negative self-talk being our biggest critic, lowering our self-esteem even further. The reality is that this occurs because our actions are not coming from a place of our authentic self. When you make the shift toward being and expectations on us to knock it out of the park in all aspects of our life. Society socializes us with programs to believe we are supposed to be highly educated, highly paid as a professional, be a “Stepford” wife, a devoted and always available mother, a housekeeper, cook, financial manager, sex expert, healthy and in great shape—and all with a gentle, obedient and happy attitude. Clearly this is an impossible standard to achieve. It is one of the reasons that we often suffer with low self-esteem and feel like we don’t really know who our authentic self is. It is one thing to be motivated toward any of these goals from within; it is another to contort ourselves into a pretzel trying to be what we think everyone around us wants us to be. We think we are helping authentic, you practice self-love and communicate with those around you about your abilities and limitations. This relieves the self-imposed pressure to be perfect and frees you up to take on what you can 23 the uniting of the egg and sperm was your first and biggest accomplishment! The one sperm raced to the finish line and beat millions of other sperm to unite with the egg to come into existence. In that moment, you already had everything you needed to become a human being and thrive in this world. handle. Then you can practice patience toward those you love and allow some things to fall by the wayside. When we are born, unless we enter the universe through trauma, most of us come into the world whole and happy. It is all the experiences and influences we receive along the way that start to break us down, until we no longer remember what it is like to feel complete within ourselves, and we start the journey of trying to capture those early childhood feelings of complete selfworth and our authentic self. One of the steps in learning to love yourself is understanding just how special and It is helpful to remember that you donâ€™t have to strive so hard towards accomplishment, you are perfect exactly where you are now, as you are now. When you were conceived, 24 unique you are. There is only ONE you. In the eternal universe, there has never been and will never be another being that has your individual soul. You were created September 2013 with greatness instilled in you for a plan of greatness in life. The only thing limiting reaching those depths of self-love and outward love toward the world is you! Being your authentic self is the greatest gift of love you can give to yourself and the world. When you start to cut yourself down or wallow in feelings of low self-esteem, remind yourself that you are worthy just because you were born, and that the special light of your being is perfect just the way it was created. There is now and will ever be only one you in the eternal universe, this is your authentic self! You are magnificent. You are worthy. It is helpful to remember that you donâ€™t have to strive so hard towards accomplishment, you are perfect exactly where you are now, as you are now. When you were conceived, the uniting of the egg and sperm was your first and biggest accomplishment! The one sperm raced to the finish line and beat millions of other sperm to unite with the egg to come into existence. In that moment, you already had everything you needed to become a human being and thrive in this world. When we are born, unless we enter the universe through trauma, most of us come into the world whole and happy. It is all the experiences and influences we receive along the way that start to break us down, until we no longer remember what it is like to feel complete within ourselves, and we start the journey of trying to capture those early childhood feelings of complete selfworth and our authentic self. One of the steps in learning to love yourself is understanding just how special 25 and unique you are. There is only ONE you. In the eternal universe, there has never been and will never be another being that has your individual soul. You were created with greatness instilled in you for a plan of greatness in life. The only thing limiting reaching those depths of self-love and outward love toward the world is you! Being your authentic self is the greatest gift of love you can give to yourself and the world. When you start to cut yourself down or wallow in feelings of low self-esteem, remind yourself that you are worthy just because you were born, and that the special light of your being is perfect just the way it was created. There is now and will ever be only one you in the eternal universe, this is your authentic self! You are magnificent. You are worthy. Celia Ward-Wallace is a certified life coach, keynote speaker and the author of “A Woman’s Guide to Having it All, Life Lessons to Live By.” Celia thought she had the perfect life – until she lost it all. Through her journey back from rock bottom, she realized that a great life is not measured by what you have but by who you are. Celia Ward-Wallace is on a mission to mobilize over 1,000,000 women with the tools to stand in their power, live a life of contribution and manifest their greatness, through her movement of “Empowering Women Every Day” as well as through her book, coaching programs, seminars and speeches. Celia is also the Vice President of the Certified Coaches Federation, America’s Leading Life & Executive Coach Certification Training Program. www.celiawardwallace.com 26 September 2013 The Ultimate Price of Success: Femininity by Vanessa Halloum A lthough the world of business has long been seen as the world of men, more science classes that Harvard and Princeton did and the students graduated with a rigorous reputation attached to their degrees, finding employment in science and engineering fields was a different feat. Even when we could acquire the education to enter business and male-dominated fields, we would still often not be able to find a male boss who would hire us for anything other than a secretary. Today, women make up more than half of the American workforce and more and more women are starting their own businesses that go on to become successful. Many of us are joining already thriving businesses and finding ourselves reaching high positions due to our own qualifications and merits. This is an exciting time for us! However, this shift is not without its own set of challenges and limitations. Over and over again, we see women who move 27 and more women are entering it than ever before. Historically, the highest position the average intelligent woman could hope to achieve was a job working as a secretary or assistant for a male boss with no hopes of promotions or being able to ascend the professional ladder. Although there were universities in the United States dedicated purely to all-women education, many of them simply made girls more marriageable to wealthy men instead of giving them better employment opportunities. In the United States, schools like Wellesley College and Bryn Mawr College served to give women the same education as their Ivy League brother schools did for men at the time. However, in spite of the equality in education, things were still challenging for professionally ambitious women. Although these all-women universities offered us the same rigorous math and out of their feminine energy into a more masculine energy to be successful. And, as I’ve mentioned in other articles as well as the Feminine Soul radio show, these women tend to take on the traits associated with the shadow side of masculinity instead of taking on the admirable light masculine traits. This damaging belief that success and femininity can’t go hand-inhand seeps into other aspects of women’s lives, limiting their ability to do business authentically and passionately. It also hurts their personal lives because women who operate in business from a masculine place will often stay in that masculine energy when they go home, go out with their friends, visit family, or go out on dates instead of being able to move back into their feminine energy once they leave the office. Through my book, The 5 Feminine Power Virtues, and my coaching programs, I’ve made it my life’s mission to teach women how to be successful in business while staying loyal to their authentic feminine essence. Staying true to our femininity is one of the biggest challenges for women in business today and it’s one that we can overcome together through compassion, reflection, and collaboration. 28 Vanessa Halloum is is the author of the multi-award winning book “The 5 Feminine Power Virtues” and the founder of the Feminine Soul Academy for Conscious Entrepreneurs, Messenger and Thought Leaders. She’s also the host of the Featured BlogTalkRadio show Feminine Soul, with more than 500,000 global listeners. Vanessa works with spiritual entrepreneurs who have a mission and who find themselves challenged in getting their message out into to the world because they don’t know how to position themselves or get in front of the right people. She helps them create a platform so they can reach more people with their message; make the money they need so that they can have the impact they want to have. www.vanessahalloum.com Expand Your Reach Monetize Your Message Double Your Impact Schedule Your Complimentary Session with Spiritual Marketing Coach Vanessa Halloum Today! www.VanessaHalloum.com/strategysession 29 Got to: Entrepreneur Revolution by Katie Day The T his is, without doubt, one of the most exciting times to be living and working. The person who walked past you yesterday on the street, the person in front of you in the queue to get your morning coffee this morning could likely be one of today’s entrepreneur millionaires – or on the way to becoming one. The 21st century millionaire looks very different to the millionaires of the past. No longer do you have to be male, from the ‘right’ family, and running a multi national organization to be a millionaire. And, guess what? They are not all men! Welcome to the entrepreneur revolution. A ‘job for life’ has not existed for many years now, but most people are having a hard time catching up with that fact. The portfolio career has come into its own. This revolution is perfectly positioned to tap into everything that women do exceptionally well, quite naturally and unconsciously and without any stress. Because we were born to multi task in our sleep, our default communication style is one of collaboration and sharing, our natural characters are empowering and inspiring, we automatically see the best in everyone, we know how to operate on minimum sleep and maximum distraction and still get the job done, and we have creativity and vision coming out of our pores. 30 September 2013 The Body Shop was devised over a cup of tea around the kitchen table, and look what happened with that idea! our bras on – it would be a disaster for all concerned if I took mine off! We no longer have to mimic male testosterone driven character traits to be successful. We can now embrace our fabulous female character traits with pride and know with every cell of our bodies that we will succeed, flourish and blossom as a result. By its very nature, the entrepreneur revolution is the perfect fit for the 21st century woman. The woman who has given up the ridiculous vision of previous generations of being super woman, rather the woman who knows what she wants, appreciates her value and power, is prepared to ask for what she needs, is able to stand in the centre of her own magnificence without blame or guilt and has the ability to change the world whilst changing nappies at the same time! Welcome to our time! And it’s about time frankly! Enough with waiting in the wings for our curtain call, we can do our own calling thanks very much! However, we can live our lives our way whilst keeping No longer do we have to wait to be ‘seen’ as being good at our jobs to get the promotion We have the passion, the vision and the determination to make the most of this entrepreneur climate, we are in control of how business will run in the future and we are responsible for creating the healthy future for the women coming up behind us to step into. 31 and salary we deserve, as entrepreneurs we set our own salaries and always know we will be paid what we are worth. All businesses will benefit from female entrepreneurs as we create a catalyst for change wherever we go, we introduce the benefits of collaboration and inclusion that even the most established multi national organizations cannot ignore. One of the tracks of my life is Sisters are doing it for themselves by Annie Lennox and Aretha Franklin. That song was released a couple of decades ago, but now we are really living the message, with passion, conviction and power. This is the time to step into the spotlight of your magnificence and shine. The world needs you! Katie Day started her training and motivational speaking career in 1989 with Carolyn Miller, a top Style Consultant in the United Kingdom, providing Personal Branding and Image Management. She earned her training accreditation in 1995 with the Springboard Program, a selfdevelopment course for women. Katie took this program to the financial district of London, where she worked with many women in that arena to present themselves with authority and gain respect, yet retain their uniqueness and femininity. Katie has become a sought after speaker and trainer on womenâ€™s development and leadership skills. She has appeared many times on National Radio both in the UK and the US, she has appeared on TV, and had articles featured in many business publications across the World. Her new book, The High-heeled Leader, Embrace Your Feminine Power in Life and Work, was published in September 2012 and is available via Balboa Press and on Amazon. Learn more at http://www.katieday.com 32 September 2013 The Reason the Power of Intention Isn’t Working for You by Jessica Patterson D on’t get me wrong, I believe in the power of intention and use it in my what intention you set, the universe is going to be hard-pressed to deliver on your behalf. business daily, starting my morning with this mantra: “I am open to receive. The clients I am meant to work with are already on their way.” I call them in. But I used to experience cash-flow roller coasters in my businesses and self-sabotage cycles. Although I was successful in business, I couldn’t hold onto the financial abundance that I seemed to easily. Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you You see, intentions are POWERFUL and each intention has spiritual backing. But, if you’re not ready to receive success (i.e. deep down you feel unworthy, undeserving of true joy, or thinking who am I to make that much?) you probably won’t be able to hold onto it. I know because this painful experience happened to me. When starting my first business, I set a goal to generate $25,000 33 are.” I was attracting from the emotional and spiritual space that I was stuck in. When we aren’t willing to allow ourselves to receive the money success, media attention, or even an abundance of joy, then no matter in a 30 days and continue growing from there. I was the only sales person for my company and it was a great challenge for me. And after a couple of years, I finally got the marketing recipe down and did it! I even surpassed my goal and I was on top of the world—for oh, about 2 nanoseconds. Suddenly I was a puddle of tears. I couldn’t figure out why this was such an emotional moment. I couldn’t even feel joyful. From there, I completely “took myself out.” A plethora of excuses ensued. It took me an ENTIRE YEAR just to get even close to those kinds of revenues again! It wasn’t until I started studying my relationship with money that I began to unravel this mystery. My money mindset and belief about what I was capable and worthy of achieving didn’t support me being a woman who could generate those kinds of revenues consistently over time. I couldn’t receive that success. It didn’t match what I thought about myself. 34 September 2013 Here are a few steps to start you on this journey: 1 Take time to see, hear and feel what actualizing this intention would be like. Ask, “What is grandparents). So often these painful statements were either said in hopes of protecting us or because of the person’s own deep pain inside. the down side if I call this forth?” If we haven’t created what we say we want, there is an underlying fear that keeps us right where we are— comfortably uncomfortable. 2 4 5 6 Realize it isn’t about you and that its’ NOT your legacy. Forgive yourself for believing the misinformation about who you truly are. Decide: yourself? What is the new Name the part of you that is unwilling to receive the intention you’ve set forth. Is that part saying, “You’re not smart enough,” or “Girls shouldn’t want that,” or “You’ll never make that kind of money.” legacy you wish to create for Identify one action you’ll take in the next 24 hours. Affirmation is not enough. 3 Notice the positive intention for the person who taught you this (parents, siblings, Action is the glue that holds this new legacy in place. Now you’re ready to receive AND put the full power of intention to work for you! 35 Jessica Patterson, Founder of the Coach, she combines her practical business & marketing wisdom with personal coaching skills to help her clients achieve rapid money breakthroughs so they can Be on Purpose, Leverage their Talents and Make more Money! You can learn more about participating coaching and training company, The Soulful Solopreneur, Jessica is on a mission to save soul-inspired business women from the Solopreneur Traps of being stressed out, financially strapped, time-starved and spiritually drained. As a 15-year work at home mom, in her Money Breakthrough Course or her Private Mentoring Program by visiting . www.complimentarysessionwithjessica.com franchise owner and Money Breakthrough 36 September 2013 How to Skyrocket the Effectiveness of Your Intentions by Stephanie Owens M indfully setting intentions is key to deliberately creating the life you Here’s the kicker…the intention itself isn’t the biggest factor in what gets manifested into your life. It’s how you’re FEELING that determines the impact and effectiveness of the intentions you set consciously. A solid, powerful intention is only half of the equation. Your intentions must match your beliefs and feelings. want and truly love. Did you know you’re already setting intentions even if you’re not being deliberate? Well it’s true! We live in a “YES” universe. The Universe is always saying “yes” to whatever intentions, energy and vibrations you’re putting out there whether you’re being choosey about it or not. This makes it even more crucial to consistently choose to be intentional about what you allow yourself to think, imagine, ponder and worry about. If you state an intention that you want to make $1,000,000 or find your soul mate or lose 50 pounds, but you don’t believe it’s possible or that you’re unworthy of it, it won’t happen despite all your best 37 intentions. It’s what you BELIEVE and FEEL that determines what gets created in your life. So, now you might be thinking: “That’s not cool! I’m feeling pretty bad right now…that’s why I want to set an intention for something better! What am I supposed to do with that?” Gladly, there are three simple solutions to help elevate how you’re feeling so you can see the power of your intentions take hold. I call these “The Prequels” to setting your intentions. Once you’ve learned these tools, you’ll be able to put your powerful intentions to work and see what you truly want most begin to show up in your life effortlessly and joyfully. The first “prequel” tool is appreciation. Prior to setting an intention, list 3-5 things for which you are TRULY grateful. Write them down, along with your intentions to help get you into a state of being that feels in alignment with the intention you’re about to set. Then you’ll be able to more easily step into imagining how great it would feel to achieve what your intentions are set on. The second “prequel” is to eliminate worry. Worry is one of the biggest enemies of great intentions and creating the feelings of peace, optimism and positive anticipation that set the stage for your intentions to flourish. Worry is wasted energy and emotion. When confronted by a situation or decision that causes you to worry, don’t stew in it. Worry is a verb, but it’s not action. It’s easy to fall for the illusion that worrying is doing something. Worrying cons you into thinking you’re taking action when really you’re just spinning your wheels and blocking your intentions from becoming reality. When confronted with worry, use a tool I call “The Worry Wart Removal Solution”. 38 This Solution has 4 Steps... Step 1 Consider worry a fork in the road. Step 2 Determine which path you’ll choose by asking yourself one simple question: “Is the outcome within my control?” (Action does not include worrying about it more by the way.) Step 4 If no, surrender. Trust that whatever you need to manage the situation is already on its way to you. Have faith that you will be given the tools to cope no matter what. Step 3 If yes, take action. Do EVERYTHING you can to create a positive outcome. The third “prequel” is to be specific. Specific is terrific when it comes to setting powerful intentions. I used to shy away from being specific in my intentions because I feared I would be limiting the potential outcome the Universe had in store for me. A wise friend shared an elegant solution to ensure specificity without limitations. At the end of stating your intention, add: “Or something better.” This little phrase will amplify the power of your intentions. Once you’ve mastered the Three Prequels you’ll see amazing abundance pour into your life through the power of unobstructed intentions. Enjoy! 39 Stephanie Owens is fiercely committed to guiding self-employed Superwomen with the support and tools they need to achieve their ridiculously high expectations without working so hard. A small business owner for over a people how to achieve not only success but deep personal satisfaction. Stephanie is the creator of The Procrastination Cure 30 Day Challenge and author of a book entitled No Is The New YES!: How to Say No, Set Better Boundaries and Reclaim Your Joy. Stephanie lives a peaceful, happy life decade, Stephanie blends her experience in the business world with a Masters in Counseling. Whether coaching privately with clients or speaking to audiences, Stephanie provides purpose-driven, high-performance with her incredible husband and their two amazing teenagers near Seattle, WA http://www.pleaseaholics.com 40 Com mun icati ng With Y o u r In n e r V o ic e to Set Your D ee pe st In te nt io ns by Reena Desai C ommunication is such a big part of our life. We communicate in every moment, though we might not be aware of it. Most of us are accustomed to think of communication as verbal. I know this is what I was taught through my education and upbringing. Even more so, this verbal communication was taught to be very linear, rational and logical. My education and professional background is in the field of economics and politics; two fields, which for the most part, are based on communication devoid of emotions, love and authenticity. Communicating in ways that honored and expressed my inner world of emotions, feelings, intuition and other sensitivities was not encouraged, and of course I am not alone. It is a gift to be able to communicate beyond the verbal realm, for it is in this As women, our realm of communication extends far beyond the logical, rational world that we are educated in. Our realm of communication lives in our bodies, in our emotions and feelings, in our womb and heart. As women we are very sensitive to our surroundings, often picking up the emotions and feelings of others. This is a natural part of who we are, in built, if you will, to the qualities of being a mother, a nurturer, a caretaker, a lover. 41 space that we are able to access much deeper knowing, wisdom and insight. This gift lies in our ability to access our inner life and go deeply into communication with ourselves to set intentions and manifest at different levels in our life; personally, emotionally and materially. In my own journey and with many of the women I work with, we get stuck, confused, shy and silenced in our ability to communicate because we are not in tune with or honoring our inner world. Because we live in a masculine society that prioritizes logic and rationality, we have internalized our own suppression of our feelings, emotions and natural sensitivities. This suppression leads to we are actually feeling, which makes it difficult to make decisions and authentically e x p r e s s ourselves in the world. Many of us confusion and doubt as to what as women, have lost connection to our inner voice. So, a question, are you listening to or communicating with your inner voice? And when I say your inner voice, I am not talking about all those little voices that you pick up that are the thoughts of others. Itâ€™s also not the voice that arises from your personality, with certain preset judgments, opinions, learned ways of being. I am talking about the inner voice that comes when you go silent, when you tune in to your body, to your breath. The voice that arises when you get out of the mind and out of thought. It is completely contrary to all we have been taught, however it is exactly this communication that comes from the inner silence of our being, that is the most powerful and sacred communication we can have in life. 42 September 2013 It is from this deep place of listening and receptivity that our greatest intentions can be set. Not the intentions that we “should” be setting but the ones that are truly in alignment with our feminine soul and calling. When we begin to really listen to ourselves from our deepest truths and act on this in every moment, this is when we open up to the magic of being a woman, being alive and a co-creator of life. I leave you with a beautiful Rumi poem to take in as you set your intentions. “Stars burn bright all night. Do that Reena Desai is a spiritual mentor, coach and visionary change agent. She works at the intersection of personal and social transformation by growing the feminine voice as a force for love and peace in the world. Reena combines feminine spirituality and embodiment practices together with social movement strategy to guide women in a deep process of connection to their soul’s mission and movement. She has led campaigns at the local, national and international level, advocating for economic justice and is currently helping feminine leaders to build their global movements. She is a dancer and poet and yourself and a spring will rise from the dark your deepest thirst is for.” holds an MSc in International Political Economy from the London School of Economics. www.reena-desai.com 43 Lisa Mininni O How have you used the Power of Intention in your life and business? n a daily basis I use the Power of Intention as part of my daily mindset Canfield’s, “Chicken Soup for the Soul” and John Gray’s “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus”. On a personal note, I use the power of intention every day. However, the power of intention became center stage at a particularly poignant time in my life 20 years ago. I remember it well because I was diagnosed with non-hodgkins lymphoma. At the time, I was only in my late 20’s and at the beginning of my career. It was September 2013 Feminine Soul of the Month: system or routine. One specific example of the importance of the power of intention was when I decided to become a Best Selling Author. I set the intention and each morning focused on it. Every day I took action and it was amazing what happened. The exact people I needed came into my life. I launched my book and it became a best seller sitting right next to two prominent New York Times Best Selling Authors, Jack 44 devastating news but it would also be a gift. I used the power of intention to focus on health for a lifetime. And this past July, I celebrated 20 years of health. Interesting thing about the power of intention. There is a delicate balance of setting the intention, taking action, being in the moment, and letting go all wrapped into one. happens… Yet, when you discover the flow of intention, that’s where the magic Why did you start your business? Funny story… One cold December day, I was driving down the freeway wondering if starting a business (and writing a book) was the “right” decision. Just several months earlier, I had completed 18 years in the Corporate world dismantling a division where I worked as an Executive. I was thinking back about what a successful corporate career I had as an executive navigating significant organizational change through mergers, acquisitions, divestitures and closures. Frequent promotions and exceeding goals and expectations were frequent for me but starting a business was an entirely different challenge. At that moment I saw something pop up from the freeway and I instinctively crossed my hands over my face and waited for what I thought would be a painful moment. All of a sudden I heard a big whooshing sound and dinging going around in my front seat. 45 I placed my hands on the steering wheel to see a shattered windshield, a softballsized hole in the windshield, and a 4 ft 5 lb semi-truck’s tire iron in the front seat of my car. I navigated to the side of the road and eventually landed in a parking lot off the main freeway. I called the police and while waiting for them to arrive, I got out of the car to inspect the damage. There was a 6 inch gash in the steel hood of my car that, thankfully, changed the trajectory of the tire iron. When each one of the three police officers came on scene that day, they said, lady, you’re on this earth for a reason. Just moments before, I had been asking if starting a business (and writing a book) was the right decision. I got the answer from three officers who said I must be on this earth for a reason. At that moment, I made a commitment: to make sure I utilized my best talents and learned all I could about marketing, networking, and developing who I was as a person. But I didn’t want others to struggle like I had struggled with this new change. So I put my education and quality improvement background to work. I wrote down the steps I was going through, solutions I found, and wrote Me, Myself, and Why? The Secrets to Navigating Change (which became a best seller). For years, I showed people their natural wiring, and now it is part of an important formula for The Entrepreneurial Edge SystemTM that helps entrepreneurs get their preferred clients faster and more efficiently than ever. We all have those tire iron experiences that wake us up, get us stuck, or prevent us from seeing all of the possibilities and reaching them. It took many years, but I did what I do best: help people help themselves, connect seemingly disparate ideas, and create systems. What are your best tips for a successful life and business? Entrepreneurs must learn to be in the moment. Living in the moment is not a goal or a destination. You’re already there. Something quite remarkable happens when you’re in the moment. Often times, the very thing you’ve been wishing for arrives - all because you were present to hear it. How do you keep your sanity while running a successful business? How do you create life/work balance? Keep it super simple. I create leverage through systems, automation, and a reliable team. I also have a Business Blueprint that serves as my GPS to keep me on track. 46 September 2013 Do you have a daily ritual that you can share with us? What do you do on a daily basis that helps you nurture yourself and/or build your business? There are 3 essentials to my morning. I nurture my mind, body, and spirit. When I get up I work out, eat, and review my mindset system. It is a series of prayerful meditation and it is often integrated into my workout. So many people have great business ideas but don’t know how to get started. What advice would you give them? I would ask a couple of questions: in your lifetime to the world? that look like? • What contribution do you want to make • What do you want from life? What does Many people go through life without asking these questions, yet, these very questions become the doorway to creating new possibilities. 47 Lisa Mininni is known in over 11 countries, Lisa has become sought out as the strategic systems expert and is President of ExcellerateAssociates.com. Her expertise like Marci Shimoff, and Subject Matter Experts like Bob Burg. As a strategist, she uses her strong 20- year background in the world of organizational development as well as systems and quality improvement to show entrepreneurs and organizations how to systematize and has been featured on radio stations across the United States and Canada. Her articles on lead generation have been published worldwide and on such notable and respected sites, such as The Huffington Post, Career Builder, and leading sales and marketing sites like RainToday.com, achieving the Reader’s Choice Award. She is the Best-Selling Author of Me, Myself, and Why? The Secrets to Navigating Change and the host of The Navigating Change Radio show with tens of thousands of regular small business listeners around the globe who tap into her guest experts including New York Times Best Selling Authors, Randy Gage and Dr. Ivan Misner; thought Leaders, monetize their mission and their message. Lisa believes that when you are doing work aligned with who you are, using your unique talents…it’s not “work”! There is a flow to every business - when you discover your flow, you’re energized and you attract opportunities from expected and unexpected sources…effortlessly. Having systems in place simply makes it easy to bring in a consistent supply of pre-qualified prospects and turn them into clients up to 98% of the time. Connect with Lisa at: www.excellerateassociates.com 48 September 2013 Looking to reach savvy, heartcentered and mission-driven feminine entrepreneurs? Advertise on the Feminine Soul Magazine and Radio Show. For more information on advertising with us, please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org 49 What They Tried to Stop You Knowing About Meditation by Edel O’Mahony conditions for control. T hose who follow my work, know I am all about truth, knowledge and awareness. and uncertainty instilled, you have the perfect I cannot give time or attention to those delivering false perceptions of what we are and why we are here, especially when they are incongruent with their message and have not or do not live the ‘truth’ they speak of. It hasn’t stopped there. The scaremongering and divergence continues to any practice of natural healing and medicine. Verified cures using the frequency of the body - Dr Royal Raymond Rife is a very powerful example of this, when in the 1920s he had verified trials of 100% cure rates of cancer, which were confiscated, trash and subsequently destroyed along with Rife himself. In fact any practice that would bring the public’s attention to the restorative power within them, has been constantly and deliberately undermined, For millennia we have witnessed this misconception through religion, governments and media in an attempt to keep populations dumbed down and distracted. Why would agents who are purportedly there acting for our well being do this? Plain and simply... control. When knowledge is prevented, fear 50 maligned and vilified as false. WHY? Why has so much time, effort and energy been given to convincing the world populations that natural energy and healing is a lie? The old adage ‘Tell a lie to conceal a lie’ springs to mind. In social conditioning the public never gets to know real knowledge and truth, as knowledge is power! Meditation has been termed over centuries as a spiritual practice ( see again the â€˜labelâ€™ to divert attention). Deemed as a means of quiet contemplation and a way to connect with your inner being, your divinity if you will. What they tried to stop you knowing is that meditation is the creation process. We have irrefutable evidence from such eminent cellular biologists as Dr Bruce Lipton and brain doctors such as Dr Jill Bolte Taylor that our cells take their signal from our beliefs. The electrical impulses caused in this process are our first remnants of a vision come into being. This happens in the frontal lobes of the brain, involved in movement, decisionmaking, problem solving, and planning. Again through electrical impulses, the belief process is sent to your thalamus, a mass of grey matter cells that relay sensory signals to and from the spinal cord and the cerebrum, a reality processor. It is the thalamus that dictates to the brain what it thinks is going on in the external world, so creates the by product of thought. Now we have the scientific verification of what processes happen when you meditate and how this is creating your reality. From the thalamus there are different areas of the brain that can get fed the information. Firstly it could send the electrical impulse thought to the occipital lobes, positioned at the back region of the cerebral cortex and are the main centres for visual processing. So this is where you can visualise what it is you desire to bring into the external world. These impulses are then sent to your parietal lobes (either directly from your thalamus 51 The science of meditation Let me now run through the science of meditation with you, bearing in mind I am not defined as a scientist, however I personally, consciously apply this information in my own meditation creation with staggering results. or via the occipital lobes), here is the most crucial element of the whole process. It is in the parietal lobe that an artificial construction of who you are is created. Your belief and thought come together here and create – the projected perception of your reality, in your external world. When you allow meditation to become your way of life, where you spend 30 – 40 minutes a day in connection and meditation, create commands for new beliefs, this creates new neural networks forming in the brain;you begin to consciously create the new projection of your perception of reality. This projection becomes very real through the transmutation of energy in experiences and opportunities in your external environment. You have always held the power to create your reality. This has however been kept from your knowledge and perception to keep you dumbed down and controlled. Edel O’Mahony is a Spiritual Scientist, her consultation and advisory services bring truth, knowledge and awareness, creating the practical processes of harnessing the scientific field of Epigenetics. Edel’s work is to guide others, to wake up and move out of reacting within the fear based conditioning, to becoming the observer, through all their life experiences and contrasts. Bringing ‘Where Science and Magic Meet’ Edel’s online and offline articles and interviews have reached an audience of over 25 million people and her meditation programme has been termed as ‘life changing’. Now you know the secret...what are you going to do with it? http://youtu.be/UCePo_QB5OA Published Author, Radio host, founder of ‘Path of the Peaceful. www.edelomahony.com 52 A Foodies Guide to B u si n es s byTina Dietz I love food. Some of you may have heard me in the past refer to myself as a “Italian and texture that make for great cuisine. Cooking, aside from producing delicious results, comes with a few metaphors that make great business advice. Here, have a nibble… Grandmother In Training,” and I ain’t kidding. This maven loves slow food, great conversation, and the complexity of taste 1. Call in Your Sous Chef: There are always going to be things that will get done better if they’re done by someone else. It may be because you don’t have the expertise that’s called for, or it may be that a great assistant handling the minor tasks will free you up to do what you do best. Make sure you call upon others early enough in the game to allow the task to be completed. This can be a learning curve for you in terms of being able to let go and effective communication and management, but the results are worth the simmering time. 53 2. Prep Ever ything Before Cooking: Food and business both go fast, so it is always a good plan to have a recipe (5 Year Strategic Vision Plan), and to prep ingredients and tools before you start. Rarely do things go exactly like you planned, but if you have a plan, you know what you’re doing the majority of the time and you can experiment with the spices, or try substituting one ingredient for another on the fly. All that’s left for you to handle is the unexpected turns, which will need your full attention anyhow. When you have a well crafted recipe, you can experiment more effectively. 3. Slice Things Small: When you cut your ingredients to a small size, everything cooks quickly. In the same way, taking the time to divide up the tasks you are trying to accomplish into small, actionable steps gives you an opportunity to manage the project time more effectively. Slicing and dicing takes skill, so practice and you’ll be julienning your next marketing campaign or product launch with the flair of Julia Child. 4. Cook Ingredients in the Right Order: If you just throw everything into the pan at the same time, you’re asking for food that is not going to taste very good. Give your outside resources or team enough time to do what they do brilliantly, and do yourself the same favor. Some projects require a long roasting time, others are a quick sauté. Taste your “dishes” frequently and adjust as you go. 54 September 2013 5. Don’t Over-Cook: Perfectionism leads to paralysis. The problem is that if you wait too long, you’ll ruin everything. There’s a fine line between “golden brown and delicious” and “burned to a crisp.” Sometimes striving for perfection just ends up with something too tough for your customers to chew and swallow. Knowing this you can temper your need for perfection with the need to get the plates on the table and your guests, that is, your customers, served. You might discover that, like a juicy steak, a little underdone might just be better. Tina Dietz MS, NCC is an international business development maven and the inventor of the Success Funnel System™. With a mission to ignite 10,000 Thriving Businesses, Tina has coached and consulted with clients in more than 20 industries from solo entrepreneurs to the corporate level, and she speaks to groups from 20-2,000 on how to break through the barriers that keep you from achieving success, optimal performance, and leadership in business and life. Connect with Tina at http://www.thisistinadietz.com 55 Have Faith Everything’s working according to plan but the plan is not always ours. We can worry about the outcome but worry wastes precious hours. A good idea has all that it needs to prosper and to grow. If we put our intentions to work for us momentum continues to flow. Doors may close along our way but what we need to know is that they close behind us, and they’re meant to - so we can grow. We may want results much quicker than the way they tend to appear. Results unfold when the time is right, when our pathway has become clear. What’s important to remember is we need to stay on track, not be tempted to detour, and never try to go back. We are not who we were yesterday, nor yet who we’ll be tomorrow. Now is the only time we have, let’s live it with joy not sorrow. Life is a constant process of change, that’s what life is all about. When we pursue intentions with confidence, faith eliminates all our doubt. 56 Jean Kay is a prolific poet who has written a poem every morning for over fifteen years. Her book Morning Light, a collection of inspirational poems for use in daily life, is available on Amazon. Jean is a regular contributor to newsletters and is published in several anthologies. She also creates commissioned poems for birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, memorials, etc. Jean is a professional member of the Canadian Authors Association – Vancouver Branch, and holds active memberships in The Ontario Poetry Society and World Poetry Association. Connect with Jean at http://www.poetrytoinspire.com September 2013 7 R Ways to Prevent Relationship Slips by Heather Paris These little things add up and turn into big things that can damage or kill a relationship. They don’t happen instantly, they happen slowly over time. You can reverse the damage and get your relationship back in time! Here are some “little” things that make a BIG difference. ways elationships don’t just fall apart, they slowly slip away. People get “comfortable” and start to take one another for granted. You start to run out the door without kissing good-bye, or you go to bed at different times, or you stop saying “I love you,” or you start to give more of your time and attention to someone or something else outside of the relationship. 57 1 2 3 4 58 Always say I love you, at least once per day, but more is better! They might already know you love them... but they NEED to hear it! Take a moment to text/email/ facebook message/tweet/ instant message/post it note/ or call and let them know you were thinking about them. They need to know that you are important to them. There are enough ways to get a hold of someone today, use them to make them feel special! Share intimate moments either kissing, hugging, snuggling, touching, holding hands or making love. You need the feel good chemicals that your body releases during intimate moments to create a bond. Don’t let a day go by without physical touch of some sort! Make time to talk about your day... every day. You start to disconnect when you don’t know what is going on in each others worlds while you are apart. Smile and listen to him talk all about the mechanic that didn’t show up for work, or the tractor that wouldn’t start and you tell him about the weird lady at the nail salon or the funny tie your co-worker wore. Whatever your day holds, share it with one another so they feel connected to you each day. Let them into your world. September 2013 Eat together. Sharing meals together is a great way to re-connect after a long day. Make something you both enjoy, sit and savor a meal without television, and just decompress. 5 6 7 Give compliments and thanks. Don’t let a day go by without saying something complimentary. “You look great today,” or “Thank you for picking up bread on your way home, I really appreciate that because I didn’t have time to stop.” Don’t let these things go.... even the small things! How great would you feel if you knew someone greatly appreciated all that you do? Always be honest. Trust is much easier to keep than it is to get back... so don’t risk losing it. Be completely honest with your partner about everything. Speak kindly but honestly about the little things that bother you rather than letting them build up into resentments. Talk to your partner about your relationship instead of to your friends. It is OK to vent and get advice but make sure your friends (and their advice) don’t hurt your relationship. Your partner must come first... always. Friends are wonderful but if you need real help in your relationship, hire a professional and keep the friends out of it. Friends sometimes tend to hang on to what you have told them and hold a grudge whereas a professional is detached and can give non-biased advice. 59 Even if it’s “not your fault” or you “don’t think he will even notice,” let go of your ego and try these steps today! Don’t get discouraged if it takes more than one day.... you slowly deconstructed your relationship, it will take TIME to put it back together. If you implement these steps, he/ she will notice and will start to respond as well. Don’t let the person you love slip away when it is easy to remind them how much they mean to you. Enjoy a healthy, happy, passionate relationship, and Live Inspired Now! Heather Paris is a certified NeuroLinguistic Programmer (NLP,) Strategic Interventionist and Marriage Educator. Her entire life has been dedicated to improving the lives of others with compassion based approaches that are centered in reality and real world solutions. Heather maintains a popular blog (www.liveinspirednow.com) and is in the final stages of her new book; Live Inspired Now... A Field Guide For Happiness which is due to release by the end of 2013. Heather and her husband Thad live in Upstate New York on a micro farm with the younger four of their six children, 3 goats, 3 dogs, 1 cat and many chickens. http://www.liveinspirednow.com/ 60 September 2013 What if you could reach more people with your message? What if your business could touch the lives of millions? Expand Your Reach | Monetize Your Message | Double Your Impact Schedule Your Complimentary Session with Spiritual Marketing Coach Vanessa Halloum and Discover 3 ways you can easily reach more people 2 strategies to monetize your message 1 simple thing you can implement right away to double your impact Got to: www.VanessaHalloum.com/strategysession 61 Upcoming Shows 9/5/13 at 12 pm Living Like A W.O.M.A.N. with Gina Cloud Listen live or on demand after it airs by going to: http://bit.ly/GinaCloud 9/12/13 at 12 pm EST Conscious Creating - Where Science and Magic Meet with Edel Oâ€™Mahony Listen live or on demand after it airs by going to: http://bit.ly/EdelOMahony 9/19/13 at 12 pm EST The Simplicity of Stillness Method with Marlise Karlin Listen live or on demand after it airs by going to: http://bit.ly/MarliseKarlin 9/26/13 at 12 pm EST Find & Claim Your Feminine Political Voice with Tabby Biddle Listen live or on demand after it airs by going to: http://bit.ly/TabbyBiddle 62 September 2013 Catch Up to Past Shows Debra Kasowski Rich from the Inside out – The Path of the Millionaire Woman Catch the replay at: http://bit.ly/DebraKasowski Stephanie Owens Let Go of The Disease to Please and say “YES” to the Real You! Catch the replay at: http://bit.ly/StephanieOwens Tina Dietz Making Your Desires a Reality: Do You REALLY Have What It Takes? Learn how to create your “perfect” day! Catch the replay at: http://bit.ly/TinaDietz Rev. Anne Presuel The Divine Entrepreneur’s Secret to Success: Tap into Your Divine Business Catch the replay at: http://bit.ly/AnnePresuel Ada Novak How To Connect With Your Inner Goddess And Power Catch the replay at: http://bit.ly/AdaNovak 63 ask Rev. Anne Why am I getting stopped? Dear Anne: Everytime I think I’m ready to really step up in my business and I take action to do something bigger, something always seems to happen to stop me. Why is this happening? Whether it’s family or financial, I just don’t seem to be able to move ahead in my business in a big way. Dear Divine One: I so love this question. Because not only do I see my clients go through this situation all the time, I have experienced it myself … multiple times. And you’re going to love the answer. Whenever you make a decision about something big, it can seem as though the Universe is conspiring against you. “Are you sure you want to do that?” it seems to say, “You could do this instead.” Or worse yet, “You can’t do that! You have to take care of [fix your car, take care of your child/parent/ spouse, pay for a new roof, pay for sports/ dance lessons]. It would be irresponsible of you to [buy that program, sponsor that event, work with that mentor]!” Guess what? That’s not the Universe talking. 64 It’s your fear, your old programming, your old beliefs. It’s your subconscious talking. And it must be released or broken through in order for you to have what you want. It must be broken through in order for you to create your Divinely-given vision. It must be broken through in order for you to bless the world with your gifts in the way you know you are called to do. You see, your decision to take the action to move forward was the guidance of the Divine. It was the Divine Whisper in your soul. And you listened and began to take action. But then fear hit. Circumstances appeared that told you otherwise. And you began to doubt yourself. Instead of listening to faith, you listened to fear. circumstances. You listened to the that activates the way for you to manifest that sacred vision. As long as you are in fear, you cannot see the way. You must let go of your fear in order to find your way. You must stand in faith, or the way will not be shown. The bottom line is this: Trust what you are given. Then take action upon it. Because the stronger your faith, the quicker you will manifest. Here’s the Divine Truth: It is in the listening to – and taking action upon – your faith that will cause your world to transform. It cannot be otherwise. You have been given a vision by the Divine. In addition, the way to create that vision is also within and around you. But it is your faith Now go get your Divine ON! Rev. Anne Presuel LLC, (self-proclaimed helps spiritual children… ahem, kitties. If you are experiencing the “DivinelyBroke Dilemma”- the belief that making money and being spiritual can’t go handin-hand, then you’ll want to get your free ebook, “10 Reasons Why Your Spirituality is Keeping You Broke in Your Business (and what you can do about it).” Go to www. DivinelyIntuitiveBusiness.com for your gift. “Irreverent Rev”), creator and CEO of Divinely Intuitive Business, entrepreneurs “get their Divine ON!” by tuning into their own 6th sense while building 6-figure businesses on their own terms. Anne is an Interfaith Minister, a Divine Intuitive™, and a master energy therapist. She lives with her husband, Dr. Francisco Presuel, in South Florida, with their four Go to www.facebook.com/femininesoul or tweet with us using #FeminineSoul 65 Got a question you’d like to ask Rev. Anne?