Feminine Soul Entrepreneur Magazine - September 2013
Discover practical tools to nourish your body, mind and soul while growing your business.
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Edition Septemb er 2013 How to Use the Power of Intention In Your Life & Business Feminine Soul of the Month: Lisa Mininni In this Issue Feminine Soul of the Month: Lisa Mininni p .44 4 Letter from the Editor 6 Meet the Team 8 How to Use the Power of Intention in Your Life and Business 10 The Power of Setting Business Intentions Lisa Manyon 14 Living an Intentional Work Life Robin Crawford 18 The Spiritual Component of Womenâ€™s Leadership Tabby Biddle 23 Powerful Tools to Love Yourself & Lead an Authentic Life Celia Ward-Wallace 27 The Ultimate Price of Success: Our Femininity Vanessa Halloum 2 September 2013 The Reason the Power of Intention Isn’t Working for You p . 33 30 The Entrepreneur Revolution Katie Day 33 The Reason the Power of Intention Isn’t Working for You Jessica Patterson 37 How to Skyrocket the Effectiveness of Your Intentions Stephanie Owens 41 Communicating With Your Inner Voice to Set Your Deepest Intentions Reena Desai 50 What They Tried to Stop You Knowing About Meditation Edel O’Mahony 53 A Foodies Guide to Business Tina Dietz 56 Poetry to Inspire Jean Kay 57 Seven Ways to Prevent Relationship Slips Heather Paris 62 What’s happening on the Feminine Sould Radio Show 64 Ask Rev. Anne Connect with us: 44 Feminine Soul of the Month Interview with Lisa Mininni 3 Letter from the Editor “The moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred...unforeseen incidents, meetings, and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. “ alloum H Vanessa In this issue of the Feminine Soul Magazine we dive deep into the Power of Intention by Creating Your Reality, One Intention at a Time looking at ways some of us are using it (page 8-9), why it may not be working for you the Most of us have heard about the Power of way you expected (page 33) as well as how to Intention, but how many of us can actually live an intentional work life (page 14). say we use it on a daily basis? The exercise of setting intentions is not a “fluffy” concept to Make sure you let us know how you enjoy the be dismissed. On the contrary, it’s incredible articles on our facebook page (www.facebook. how the world seems to create subtle shifts com/femininesoul) or tweet with us by using when we begin using it. the #FeminineSoul. We may even feature your comments on our next issue! If you’re not sure how to use the power of intention think of it in terms of what you are committed to manifesting in your life. As W.H. Murray said: 4 With Love & Gratitude, Vanessa www.vanessahalloum.com September 2013 5 Meet the team Vanessa Halloum is the founder of the Feminine Soul Magazine, Radio Show and Academy for conscious women entrepreneurs, messengers and thought leaders. She helps mission-driven entrepreneurs clarify their messaging and their branding so that they can position themselves powerfully to potential clients. Learn more at www.vanessahalloum.com E d it o r- in - c h ie f Nina S. Pakdi is a successful blogger and writer whoâ€™s on a mission to inspire women to run heart-centered businesses through love and passion. She helps family oriented-women create a work-life balance so that they can feel a deep sense of fulfillment. For informational articles and lifestyle inspiration visit her website at www.ninaspakdi.com D ir e c t o r t n e t n o C Ligia Morales is a passionate Graphic Designer. She got her college degree at USAC in Guatemala and started working as a designer at different ad agencies, where she was able to really define her style. She currently works as a freelancer. She enjoys advertising and editorial design and is always looking for new and exciting projects. You can contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org s ig n e r e D ic h p Gra Want to join the Feminine Soul Leadership Team? Please send an email to email@example.com 6 September 2013 Reach Serve Prosper teleseminar a FREE virtual training for coaches, authors, healers and conscious entrepreneurs who want to transform lives with their products and services Are you ready to REACH a bigger audience, SERVE more people and build a PROSPEROUS conscious business? To register for this FREE training just go to www.ReachServeProsper.com 7 How Do You Use the Power Of Intention In Your Life & Business? Tabby Biddle I meditate and chant every morning as a way to tune in to my soul’s voice. From there, I let my soul’s voice guide me in how I should best use my energy for the day. Rather than setting a specific intention from my “mind,” I let my inner guidance show me the way. Edel O’Mahony Through understanding that everything exists in this very moment, the instantaneous expression of pure love. Heather Paris I am creating my world by not holding on to control, rather allowing what Universe has in store to naturally flow throughout my life. Jessica Patterson I have a morning mantra that goes like this: I am open to receive. The clients who are meant to work with me are already on my way. 8 September 2013 Lisa Manyon Setting intentions is a way to clearly identify whatâ€™s important to me and to get what I really want out of life and business. Robin Crawford Iâ€™ve come to appreciate the power of setting intentions in all areas of my life on a daily basis, not only when making big decisions but even when making small ones. Stephanie Owens I make it a daily practice and watch for evidence that miracles are happening in my life. Tina Dietz Combining vision with intention guides everything from my long term strategic planning to my daily actions like a string of beautiful pearls. 9 The Power of Setting Business Intentions by Lisa Manyon W hen it comes to marketing online it is expecting your website to do things you important to be realistic about your don’t really have a plan or strategy for or efforts. It’s also important to NOT buy into haven’t set clear intentions around. Often the “get rich quick” schemes. All too often I you need additional marketing efforts to see people struggling because they haven’t support your goals). created a clear overall website strategy let alone an individual page strategy (Hint: both are crucial). Setting clear business marketing intentions based on integrity, values and building relationships is vital to your business success. If your website isn’t performing as you’d hoped, it could be because you’ve tried 10 to cut corners and do it yourself (not a You need to have an online marketing great idea unless you’re a stellar designer, strategy in place first and foremost (this is programmer and copywriter all rolled into true for your website, individual programs, one person). Even if you have strong skills products and any offering you provide). It’s in one or more of these areas, it’s always important to remember that everything a good idea to get outside perspective. you create needs a marketing plan and You might not be getting the results you’d strategy to support that ONE offering (your hoped for because you have unrealistic offerings are offspring of your overall brand website expectations (This means you are and need their own identity and strategy). September 2013 You’ll also need solid design to support your strategy and intentions. If you’re missing pieces to the marketing puzzle you likely haven’t set clear intentions especially when it comes to online strategy. It’s also likely that you’ve followed cookie cutter approaches and that means… • You may be expecting your free offer sequence, your follow up website to do things it’s just not strategy, web content and overall capable of doing (the set it and website goals?). forget it approach and relying solely on automation is likely not working • You may also be missing the KEY for you). ingredient to get your web visitors to • You may not be getting the results take action (when your web visitors aren’t opting in or aren’t taking you’d hoped for because your action once they sign up for your free strategy isn’t clear (when was the offer, your strategy is clearly broken last time you reviewed your entire and needs to be revisited ASAP) Regardless of what’s happening with your website right now, chances are it’s time to review your content and strategy and set clear intentions. 11 In order to be successful online you must... • Have a clear plan, with clear have a consistent and systematic intentions, about what you really — not cookie cutter– plan to entice want your website to do (this means visitors to come to your website). you’ve looked at your overall site strategy and individual page strategy • Have juicy, gooey content that in-depth AND had an expert review entices your web visitors to take it with you). action (this means you engage your • Consistently work your plan to get visitors to your site (this means you prospects when they get to your site so they want to become paying customers and clients). Plus, you should review your content and crucial to have a strong strategy, a solid strategy at the very MINIMUM quarterly. design that supports your brand and copy Oh, you should also know that this doesn’t that tells your story in a way that motivates mean you have to completely redesign action. If you’re still stuck, it might be time your website. Often it only takes some to invest in a business marketing expert to subtle shifts to get results. However, it is help you set clear intentions. 12 September 2013 Want to read the Lisa Manyon is “The Business Marketing Architect”, strategist for a content Magazine on your ipad or in print? mission-driven entrepreneurs. She’s the creator of the new marketing model for success as featured in Inc. Magazine. She teaches a relationship based approach to marketing with integrity with her “Challenge. Solution. Invitation.™” formula. Owner of Write On ~ Creative Writing Services, LLC. Lisa is #1 bestselling author featured in the world’s largest digital library of role models & mentors for women and girls housed at George Washington University. She offers a free marketing resources on her award winning blog and is available for speaking engagements. http://www.writeoncreative.com/blog Click here! or go to http://bit.ly/FSinPrint 13 Living an Intentional Work Life by Robin Crawford C onsider an intention a personal power sure you could add another hand full of commitment wrapped in anticipation phrases to this list. Notice that there isn’t a Now let’s single ounce of personal power reflected in consider this in the context of your work any of these responses. They all yell, “I’ve life. surrendered,” which is the exact opposite and sprinkled with courage. of personal power. We spend about 60% or more of our awake hours preparing for, commuting to and from, and engaging in activities that involve expending mental or physical effort to attain some purpose or result work. For many, work has become part of the rote of daily living. You can witness this in the absence of joy, excitement, and satisfaction when observing the body Living an intentional work life is stepping language of someone discussing their work fully into your power to imagine, choose, or in the words they choose when talking steer, and shape your work life - every about their work. How many times, in aspect of it - to reflect the best of who you response to the question, “How’s work?” are and what you value most. have you said or heard, “I’m hanging in 14 there,” “Same ole, same ole,” “I could Wrapped in anticipation means that complain, but what good would it do?” when you set an intention, you trust and “I’m tired, but what choice do I have?” I’m anticipate that what you intended or better is on its way. Allow me to share a personal example. During my tenure as an undergraduate student, I decided that I was going to serve as an educator. My undergrad experience at my university of choice was so rich that I set an intention that not only was I going to teach, I was going to teach at THAT school. After setting that intention, I did my part – I stepped into inspired action and answered the What, Why, Who, When, and Where. Then, I detached from the outcome, left Finally, courage is the quality of mind or the “how” to the Universe and anticipated spirit that compels you to be bold, even if the manifestation of my intention in a form hesitantly so. You feel fear on both sides of a that aligned with what I had imagined situation – afraid to take that step forward, or better. A couple of months prior to but also afraid to stay where you are. So, completing my graduate degree, I called you engage your imagination, decide what the Chair of my undergrad program and he it is you really want and set the intention. informed me that a teaching position was waiting for me. I knew it was going to be What would a blueprint of a work life you waiting, I didn’t fully understand how, but love look like? Use your imagination and I knew because my desire was to live an move through the what, why, when, where intentional work life. and who questions as they relate to your job, career or business. You see, once you commit to living an intentional work life, drifting in a good enough or mediocre job, career or business is no longer acceptable. 15 Now, close your eyes and imagine living an intentional work life. Can you see it? Activate all of your senses. What does it sound like? Feel like? Smell like? Taste like? Fully engage in the process of setting intentions in all areas of your work life. Choose to live an intentional work life; youâ€™ll never regret it! 16 Robin Crawford addresses the gaps extensive research, career advised in our typical approach to entering hundreds of students of all ages, and the world of work and helps people completed hundreds of interviews be intentional in their work lives. on the topic of work life satisfaction Sheâ€™s spent more than two decades and job structure. She has degrees observing work life structures in a in sociology; is a certified life coach; variety of settings around the globe and holds certifications and licenses in in over 50 job titles across profit and spiritual and human development. nonprofit sectors. Sheâ€™s conducted www.designyourbestworklife.com Lean in: The Spiritual Component of W o m e n â€™s L e a d e r s h ip byTabby Biddle 18 September 2013 How can more women come into leadership? F acebook COO Sheryl Sandberg argues Work and the Will to Lead, offering that that women need to own their power we as women need to not only lean in, and lean in more in conversations, but we need to “push back” to create new negotiations, and job promotions. Maria laws and policies that support women Shriver wrote a response to Sheryl’s and a work/family balance. I’d like to add recently published book, Lean In: Women, another component to this conversation: The spiritual component. We live in a world culture that is dominated by a masculine version of divinity. God the Father. Brahma. Allah. Buddha. Every major world religion has a “man” as the lead. Do we not think that this has an effect on how we see leadership and who we see as leaders? Let’s look at it this way: If we see “God” only as male, being male and masculinity becomes more authoritative, powerful, and valued than being female and femininity. Being male and masculinity also becomes the standard by which we measure things. As a result, we (both women and men) devalue and ignore the feminine parts of ourselves. 19 Since we have been living a paradigm where non-violent, earth-centered culture where men and the masculine are the dominant the goddess was considered the universal power, and women and the feminine are source, aka the Great Mother who gave the under-class, it’s no wonder that so birth to all things from her womb. “The many women second-guess themselves Goddess in all of her manifestations was and their voice in the world. a symbol of the unity of all life in Nature. Her power was in water and stone, in tomb and cave, in animals and birds, snakes and fish, hills, trees and flowers,” said the late scholar and archeologist Maria Gimbutas. This all changed in the fourth millennium B.C. when waves of Indo-European warriors descended upon the communities that followed the ways of the Goddess. They brought with them a belief in male gods and patriarchal leadership. Eventually, the In my opinion, feminine spirituality is Jewish religion was formed with a single a critical ingredient to the next step in male God as the spiritual authority. And women’s leadership. In order for us to rise, then of course from there, Christianity was we need to reconnect with our natural later born, with a male God in charge. The spiritual authority. But what does this look Goddess cultures were persecuted, their like? temples and shrines destroyed, and the subjugation of women and suppression of First I’d like to point out that archeologists the feminine became the norm. and scholars have found that Goddess 20 culture existed for 30,000 years before It is this subjugation of the feminine the patriarchy. Through the unearthing of that I believe is the source of much of goddess figurines, paintings, symbols and the violence against women today. This images, they discovered a long history of a violence comes in so many forms including September 2013 rape, bride burning, stoning, domestic feminine aspect of the Divine, honoring our violence, genital mutilation, sex trafficking, body, and honoring our intuitive knowing – sex-selective abortion, forgoing medical is a key step to more women coming into treatment for girls, denying girls education, leadership and bringing our world to a the serious wage gap, … the list goes on. place of balanced power. I believe that until we as a world culture Lest anyone think that I’m trying to get rid acknowledge the divinity of the feminine of the male God or the male aspect of the and welcome back the Goddess into our Divine, I’m not. If you worship a male God, spiritual domain, we will be fighting an I’m inviting you to simply consider the uphill battle into leadership for a very long feminine aspect of the Divine. Since our time. Until we heal and repair this spiritual default position for our concept of Divine wound, we can do all the leaning in that we Intelligence is male, imagine how things want, but we are still going to be carrying might look and feel a bit different if our around self-doubt, insecurity, and asking default position for Divine Intelligence was ourselves: Do I really deserve to lead? female. How about a balance? What if Adam had been told For me, living with a male God as the that he was made from a “lead” does not work anymore. I do not see woman’s rib, was made to myself in him, therefore I can never “be” serve her, and was the cause him. When the Goddess entered my life, I for all suffering in the became inspired. I could feel her. I could world because he picked see her. And I could see myself in her. Most an apple off of a tree? importantly, I could feel my potential as a leader like never before. I’m not saying that every woman and man needs to turn to the Goddess in I’m all for women leaning in, as Sheryl their spiritual practice. What I am saying suggests. I’m also for changing laws and is that our acknowledgment of feminine policies that honor women and a work/ spirituality – which includes honoring the family balance, as Maria suggests. In 21 addition, I’m advocating for a global acknowledgment of the feminine aspect of the Divine. I believe there is a need for us as women to gather together and honor each other from a feminine perspective – through a feminine lens, with the Goddess as our inspiration. If we don’t give ourselves the chance to do this we will constantly be judging ourselves through a masculine lens, and so will the rest of society. Lean in. Push Back. And Remember the Goddess. When we reclaim our own divinity, we reclaim our wisdom, our power, our authority and our right to lead. Coming into leadership will no longer feel like a battle. It will feel like an expansion into who we already are. This article w as first publishe d on The Huffingto n Post. Tabby Biddle, M.S. Ed, women’s leadership expert, writer, speaker and coach, is a well-known voice speaking out for the human rights and empowerment of women and girls. A recipient of a United Nations Foundation press fellowship, Tabby’s writing has been featured by The Huffington Post, the Los Angeles Times, USA Today, UN Dispatch, NPR, Current TV, among other national and international media. Tabby is the author of The Goddess Diaries blog and the director of the Los Angeles Goddess Collective, a community of women leaders and emerging leaders at the intersection of feminine spirituality, creative expression and socio-political change. Tabby’s work focuses on bringing more women into leadership positions via a feminine pathway. She earned her Master’s in Education from Bank Street College of Education and her Bachelor’s degree in Political Science from Colby College. She resides in Santa Monica, CA with her husband, baby boy and kitten. Learn more at www.tabbybiddle.com 22 September 2013 P o w er ful Tools to Lo ve Y o u r s e lf & Lead an Authentic Life by Celia Ward-Wallace B eing a woman in modern society is others and being selfless when, in reality, challenging with all the social pressure we are short-changing all of those around and expectations on us to knock it out of us. We are certainly able to accomplish a the park in all aspects of our life. Society lot, run our homes and work like machines, socializes us with programs to believe we but we are often resentful and angry, and are supposed to be highly educated, highly we take it out on those around us and paid as a professional, be a “Stepford” wife, ourselves. Then we beat ourselves down a devoted and always available mother, a some more, ashamed of our behavior, housekeeper, cook, financial manager, sex feeling like failures, unable to be perfect in expert, healthy and in great shape—and all all situations. We often spiral into negative with a gentle, obedient and happy attitude. self-talk being our biggest critic, lowering Clearly this is an impossible standard to our self-esteem even further. The reality achieve. It is one of the reasons that we is that this occurs because our actions are often suffer with low self-esteem and feel not coming from a place of our authentic like we don’t really know who our authentic self. self is. When you make the shift toward being It is one thing to be motivated toward any authentic, you practice self-love and of these goals from within; it is another communicate with those around you about to contort ourselves into a pretzel trying your abilities and limitations. This relieves to be what we think everyone around us the self-imposed pressure to be perfect wants us to be. We think we are helping and frees you up to take on what you can 23 the uniting of the egg and sperm was your first and biggest accomplishment! The one sperm raced to the finish line and beat millions of other sperm to unite with the egg to come into existence. In that moment, you already had everything you needed to become a human being and thrive in this world. handle. Then you can practice patience When we are born, unless we enter the toward those you love and allow some universe through trauma, most of us come things to fall by the wayside. into the world whole and happy. It is all the experiences and influences we receive along the way that start to break us down, until we no longer remember what it is like to feel complete within ourselves, and we start the journey of trying to capture those early childhood feelings of complete selfworth and our authentic self. One of the steps in learning to love yourself is understanding just how special and 24 It is helpful to remember that you donâ€™t have unique you are. There is only ONE you. In to strive so hard towards accomplishment, the eternal universe, there has never been you are perfect exactly where you are now, and will never be another being that has as you are now. When you were conceived, your individual soul. You were created September 2013 with greatness instilled in you for a plan It is helpful to remember that you donâ€™t have of greatness in life. The only thing limiting to strive so hard towards accomplishment, reaching those depths of self-love and you are perfect exactly where you are now, outward love toward the world is you! as you are now. When you were conceived, Being your authentic self is the greatest the uniting of the egg and sperm was your gift of love you can give to yourself and the first and biggest accomplishment! The world. one sperm raced to the finish line and beat millions of other sperm to unite with When you start to cut yourself down or the egg to come into existence. In that wallow in feelings of low self-esteem, moment, you already had everything you remind yourself that you are worthy just needed to become a human being and because you were born, and that the thrive in this world. special light of your being is perfect just the way it was created. There is now and When we are born, unless we enter the will ever be only one you in the eternal universe through trauma, most of us come universe, this is your authentic self! You into the world whole and happy. It is all are magnificent. You are worthy. the experiences and influences we receive along the way that start to break us down, until we no longer remember what it is like to feel complete within ourselves, and we start the journey of trying to capture those early childhood feelings of complete selfworth and our authentic self. One of the steps in learning to love yourself is understanding just how special 25 and unique you are. There is only ONE you. In the eternal universe, there has never Celia Ward-Wallace is a certified been and will never be another being life coach, keynote speaker and the that has your individual soul. You were author of “A Woman’s Guide to Having created with greatness instilled in you for it All, Life Lessons to Live By.” Celia a plan of greatness in life. The only thing thought she had the perfect life – until limiting reaching those depths of self-love she lost it all. Through her journey and outward love toward the world is you! back from rock bottom, she realized Being your authentic self is the greatest that a great life is not measured by gift of love you can give to yourself and the what you have but by who you are. world. Celia Ward-Wallace is on a mission to mobilize over 1,000,000 When you start to cut yourself down or women with the tools to stand in their wallow in feelings of low self-esteem, power, live a life of contribution and remind yourself that you are worthy just manifest their greatness, through her because you were born, and that the special movement of “Empowering Women light of your being is perfect just the way it Every Day” as well as through her was created. There is now and will ever be book, coaching programs, seminars only one you in the eternal universe, this and speeches. Celia is also the Vice is your authentic self! You are magnificent. President of the Certified Coaches You are worthy. Federation, America’s Leading Life & Executive Coach Certification Training Program. www.celiawardwallace.com 26 September 2013 The Ultimate Price of Success: Femininity by Vanessa Halloum A lthough the world of business has long science classes that Harvard and Princeton been seen as the world of men, more did and the students graduated with a and more women are entering it than ever rigorous reputation attached to their before. Historically, the highest position degrees, finding employment in science the average intelligent woman could hope and engineering fields was a different feat. to achieve was a job working as a secretary Even when we could acquire the education or assistant for a male boss with no hopes to enter business and male-dominated of promotions or being able to ascend the fields, we would still often not be able to professional ladder. Although there were find a male boss who would hire us for universities in the United States dedicated anything other than a secretary. purely to all-women education, many of them simply made girls more marriageable Today, women make up more than half to wealthy men instead of giving them of the American workforce and more better employment opportunities. and more women are starting their own businesses that go on to become In the United States, schools like Wellesley successful. Many of us are joining already College and Bryn Mawr College served to thriving businesses and finding ourselves give women the same education as their reaching high positions due to our own Ivy League brother schools did for men at qualifications and merits. This is an exciting the time. However, in spite of the equality time for us! in education, things were still challenging women. However, this shift is not without its own Although these all-women universities set of challenges and limitations. Over offered us the same rigorous math and and over again, we see women who move for professionally ambitious 27 out of their feminine energy into a more It also hurts their personal lives because masculine energy to be successful. And, women who operate in business from as I’ve mentioned in other articles as well a masculine place will often stay in that as the Feminine Soul radio show, these masculine energy when they go home, women tend to take on the traits associated go out with their friends, visit family, or with the shadow side of masculinity go out on dates instead of being able to instead of taking on the admirable light move back into their feminine energy masculine traits. This damaging belief that once they leave the office. Through my success and femininity can’t go hand-in- book, The 5 Feminine Power Virtues, hand seeps into other aspects of women’s and my coaching programs, I’ve made it lives, limiting their ability to do business my life’s mission to teach women how to authentically and passionately. be successful in business while staying loyal to their authentic feminine essence. Staying true to our femininity is one of the biggest challenges for women in business today and it’s one that we can overcome together through compassion, reflection, and collaboration. 28 Vanessa Halloum is is the author of the entrepreneurs who have a mission and who multi-award winning book “The 5 Feminine find themselves challenged in getting their Power Virtues” and the founder of the message out into to the world because they Feminine Soul Academy for Conscious don’t know how to position themselves or Entrepreneurs, Messenger and Thought get in front of the right people. She helps Leaders. She’s also the host of the Featured them create a platform so they can reach BlogTalkRadio show Feminine Soul, with more people with their message; make the more than 500,000 global listeners. money they need so that they can have the impact they want to have. Vanessa works with spiritual www.vanessahalloum.com Expand Your Reach Monetize Your Message Double Your Impact Schedule Your Complimentary Session with Spiritual Marketing Coach Vanessa Halloum Today! Got to: www.VanessaHalloum.com/strategysession 29 The Entrepreneur Revolution by Katie Day T his is, without doubt, one of the most The person who walked past you yesterday exciting times to be living and working. on the street, the person in front of you The 21st century millionaire looks very in the queue to get your morning coffee different to the millionaires of the past. this morning could likely be one of today’s No longer do you have to be male, from entrepreneur millionaires – or on the way the ‘right’ family, and running a multi to becoming one. national organization to be a millionaire. And, guess what? They are not all men! Welcome to the entrepreneur revolution. Because we were born to multi task A ‘job for life’ has not existed for many in our sleep, our default communication years now, but most people are having a style is one of collaboration and sharing, hard time catching up with that fact. The our natural characters are empowering and portfolio career has come into its own. inspiring, we automatically see the best This revolution is perfectly positioned in everyone, we know how to operate on to tap into everything that women do minimum sleep and maximum distraction exceptionally well, quite naturally and and still get the job done, and we have unconsciously and without any stress. creativity and vision coming out of our pores. 30 September 2013 The Body Shop was devised over a cup of tea around the kitchen table, and look what happened with that idea! our bras on – it would be a disaster for all concerned if I took mine off! We no longer have to mimic male testosterone driven character traits to be successful. We can now embrace our fabulous female character traits with pride and know with every cell of our bodies that we will succeed, flourish and blossom as a result. By its very nature, the entrepreneur revolution is the perfect fit for the 21st century woman. The woman who has given up the ridiculous vision of previous generations of being super woman, rather the woman who knows what she wants, appreciates her value and power, is prepared to ask for what she needs, is able to stand in the centre of her own We have the passion, the vision and the magnificence without blame or guilt and determination to make the most of this has the ability to change the world whilst entrepreneur climate, we are in control changing nappies at the same time! of how business will run in the future and we are responsible for creating the healthy Welcome to our time! And it’s about time future for the women coming up behind us frankly! Enough with waiting in the wings to step into. for our curtain call, we can do our own calling thanks very much! However, we No longer do we have to wait to be ‘seen’ as can live our lives our way whilst keeping being good at our jobs to get the promotion 31 and salary we deserve, as entrepreneurs we set our own salaries and always know we will be paid what we are worth. All businesses will benefit from female entrepreneurs as we create a catalyst for change wherever we go, we introduce the benefits of collaboration and inclusion that Katie Day started her training and motivational speaking career in 1989 with Carolyn Miller, a top Style Consultant in the United Kingdom, providing Personal Branding and even the most established multi national Image Management. She earned her organizations cannot ignore. training accreditation in 1995 with the Springboard Program, a self- One of the tracks of my life is Sisters are development course for women. Katie doing it for themselves by Annie Lennox took this program to the financial and Aretha Franklin. That song was district of London, where she worked released a couple of decades ago, but with many women in that arena to now we are really living the message, with passion, conviction and power. This is the time to step into the spotlight present themselves with authority and gain respect, yet retain their uniqueness and femininity. Katie has become a sought of your magnificence and shine. The world after speaker and trainer on womenâ€™s needs you! development and leadership skills. She has appeared many times on National Radio both in the UK and the US, she has appeared on TV, and had articles featured in many business publications across the World. Her new book, The High-heeled Leader, Embrace Your Feminine Power in Life and Work, was published in September 2012 and is available via Balboa Press and on Amazon. Learn more at http://www.katieday.com 32 September 2013 The Reason the Power of Intention Isn’t Working for You by Jessica Patterson D on’t get me wrong, I believe in the what intention you set, the universe is power of intention and use it in my going to be hard-pressed to deliver on your business daily, starting my morning with behalf. this mantra: “I am open to receive. The clients I am meant to work with are already on their way.” I call them in. But I used to experience cash-flow roller coasters in my businesses and self-sabotage cycles. Although I was successful in business, I couldn’t hold onto the financial abundance that I seemed to easily. You see, intentions are POWERFUL and each intention has spiritual backing. But, Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “You don’t attract if you’re not ready to receive success (i.e. what you want. You attract what you deep down you feel unworthy, undeserving are.” of true joy, or thinking who am I to make that much?) you probably won’t be able to I was attracting from the emotional and hold onto it. spiritual space that I was stuck in. When we aren’t willing to allow ourselves to receive I know because this painful experience the money success, media attention, or happened to me. When starting my first even an abundance of joy, then no matter business, I set a goal to generate $25,000 33 in a 30 days and continue growing from It wasn’t until I started studying my there. I was the only sales person for my relationship with money that I began to company and it was a great challenge for unravel this mystery. My money mindset me. And after a couple of years, I finally and belief about what I was capable and got the marketing recipe down and did it! I worthy of achieving didn’t support me even surpassed my goal and I was on top of being a woman who could generate those the world—for oh, about 2 nanoseconds. kinds of revenues consistently over time. I couldn’t receive that success. It didn’t Suddenly I was a puddle of tears. I couldn’t match what I thought about myself. figure out why this was such an emotional moment. I couldn’t even feel joyful. From there, I completely “took myself out.” A plethora of excuses ensued. It took me an ENTIRE YEAR just to get even close to those kinds of revenues again! 34 September 2013 Here are a few steps to start you on this journey: 1 Take time to see, hear and feel grandparents). what actualizing this intention painful statements were either said would be like. Ask, “What is in hopes of protecting us or because the down side if I call this forth?” of the person’s own deep pain inside. If we haven’t created what we say 4 we want, there is an underlying fear that keeps us right where we are— comfortably uncomfortable. So often these Realize it isn’t about you and that its’ NOT your legacy. Forgive yourself for believing the misinformation about who you 2 Name the part of you that is unwilling to receive the intention you’ve set forth. Is that part saying, “You’re not smart enough,” or “Girls shouldn’t want that,” or “You’ll never make that kind of money.” 3 Notice the positive intention for the person who taught you this (parents, siblings, truly are. 5 6 Decide: What is the new legacy you wish to create for yourself? Identify one action you’ll take in the next 24 hours. Affirmation is not enough. Action is the glue that holds this new legacy in place. Now you’re ready to receive AND put the full power of intention to work for you! 35 Jessica Patterson, the Coach, she combines her practical business coaching and training company, The Soulful & marketing wisdom with personal coaching Solopreneur, Jessica is on a mission to skills to help her clients achieve rapid money save soul-inspired business women from breakthroughs so they can Be on Purpose, the Solopreneur Traps of being stressed Leverage their Talents and Make more out, financially strapped, time-starved and Money! spiritually drained. in her Money Breakthrough Course or her Founder of As a 15-year work at home mom, franchise owner and Money Breakthrough You can learn more about participating Private Mentoring Program by visiting . www.complimentarysessionwithjessica.com 36 September 2013 How to Skyrocket the Effectiveness of Your Intentions by Stephanie Owens M indfully setting intentions is key to Here’s the kicker…the intention itself isn’t deliberately creating the life you the biggest factor in what gets manifested want and truly love. Did you know you’re into your life. It’s how you’re FEELING that already setting intentions even if you’re determines the impact and effectiveness not being deliberate? Well it’s true! We of the intentions you set consciously. A live in a “YES” universe. The Universe is solid, powerful intention is only half of the always saying “yes” to whatever intentions, equation. Your intentions must match your energy and vibrations you’re putting out beliefs and feelings. there whether you’re being choosey about it or not. This makes it even more crucial to consistently choose to be intentional about what you allow yourself to think, imagine, ponder and worry about. If you state an intention that you want to make $1,000,000 or find your soul mate or lose 50 pounds, but you don’t believe it’s possible or that you’re unworthy of it, it won’t happen despite all your best 37 intentions. It’s what you BELIEVE and FEEL that determines what gets created in your life. So, now you might be thinking: “That’s not cool! I’m feeling pretty bad right now…that’s why I want to set an intention for something better! What am I supposed to do with that?” Gladly, there are three simple solutions to The second “prequel” is to eliminate worry. help elevate how you’re feeling so you can Worry is one of the biggest enemies of see the power of your intentions take hold. great intentions and creating the feelings of I call these “The Prequels” to setting your peace, optimism and positive anticipation intentions. that set the stage for your intentions to Once you’ve learned these tools, you’ll be able to put your powerful flourish. intentions to work and see what you truly want most begin to show up in your life Worry is wasted energy and emotion. effortlessly and joyfully. When confronted by a situation or decision that causes you to worry, don’t stew in it. The first “prequel” tool is appreciation. Worry is a verb, but it’s not action. It’s Prior to setting an intention, list 3-5 things easy to fall for the illusion that worrying for which you are TRULY grateful. Write is doing something. Worrying cons you them down, along with your intentions into thinking you’re taking action when to help get you into a state of being that really you’re just spinning your wheels and feels in alignment with the intention you’re blocking your intentions from becoming about to set. Then you’ll be able to more reality. When confronted with worry, use easily step into imagining how great it a tool I call “The Worry Wart Removal would feel to achieve what your intentions Solution”. are set on. 38 This Solution has 4 Steps... Step 1 Consider worry a fork in the road. Step 2 Determine which path you’ll choose (Action does not include worrying about it more by the way.) by asking yourself one simple Step 4 If no, surrender. Trust that whatever question: “Is the outcome within you need to manage the situation is my control?” already on its way to you. Have faith Step 3 If yes, take action. Do EVERYTHING that you will be given the tools to cope no matter what. you can to create a positive outcome. The third “prequel” is to be specific. Specific end of stating your intention, add: “Or is terrific when it comes to setting powerful something better.” This little phrase will intentions. I used to shy away from being amplify the power of your intentions. specific in my intentions because I feared I would be limiting the potential outcome Once you’ve mastered the Three Prequels the Universe had in store for me. A wise you’ll see amazing abundance pour into friend shared an elegant solution to ensure your life through the power of unobstructed specificity without limitations. intentions. At the Enjoy! 39 40 Stephanie Owens is fiercely committed people how to achieve not only success but to guiding self-employed Superwomen with deep personal satisfaction. the support and tools they need to achieve their ridiculously high expectations without Procrastination Cure 30 Day Challenge and working so hard. author of a book entitled No Is The New YES!: How to Say No, Set Better Boundaries and A small business owner for over a Stephanie is the creator of The decade, Stephanie blends her experience Reclaim Your Joy. in the business world with a Masters in Counseling. Whether coaching privately with with her incredible husband and their two clients or speaking to audiences, Stephanie amazing teenagers near Seattle, WA provides purpose-driven, high-performance http://www.pleaseaholics.com Stephanie lives a peaceful, happy life Com mun icati ng With Y o u r In n e r V o ic e to Set Your D ee pe st In te nt io ns by Reena Desai C ommunication is such a big part of our life. We communicate in every moment, though we might not be aware of it. Most of us are accustomed to think of communication as verbal. I know this is what I was taught through my education and upbringing. Even more so, this verbal communication was taught to be very As women, our realm of communication linear, rational and logical. extends far beyond the logical, rational world that we are educated in. Our realm My education and professional background of communication lives in our bodies, in is in the field of economics and politics; two our emotions and feelings, in our womb fields, which for the most part, are based and heart. As women we are very sensitive on communication devoid of emotions, to our surroundings, often picking up the love and authenticity. emotions and feelings of others. This is a natural part of who we are, in built, if you Communicating in ways that honored and will, to the qualities of being a mother, a expressed my inner world of emotions, nurturer, a caretaker, a lover. feelings, intuition and other sensitivities was not encouraged, and of course I am It is a gift to be able to communicate not alone. beyond the verbal realm, for it is in this 41 space that we are able to access much deeper knowing, wisdom and insight. This gift lies in our ability to access our inner life and go deeply into communication with ourselves to set intentions and manifest at different levels in our life; personally, emotionally and materially. inner voice. In my own journey and with many of the women I work with, we get stuck, confused, shy and silenced in our ability to communicate because we are not in tune with or honoring our inner world. that prioritizes logic and rationality, we have internalized our own suppression of our feelings, emotions and natural This suppression leads to confusion and doubt as to what we are actually feeling, which makes it difficult to make decisions and authentically e x p r e s s ourselves So, a question, are you listening to or communicating with your inner voice? And when I say your inner voice, I am not talking about all those little voices that you pick up that are the thoughts of Because we live in a masculine society sensitivities. as women, have lost connection to our in the world. Many of us others. Itâ€™s also not the voice that arises from your personality, with certain preset judgments, opinions, learned ways of being. I am talking about the inner voice that comes when you go silent, when you tune in to your body, to your breath. The voice that arises when you get out of the mind and out of thought. It is completely contrary to all we have been taught, however it is exactly this communication that comes from the inner silence of our being, that is the most powerful and sacred communication we can have in life. 42 September 2013 It is from this deep place of listening and receptivity that our greatest intentions can be set. Not the intentions that we “should” be setting but the ones that are truly in alignment with our feminine soul Reena Desai is a spiritual mentor, and calling. coach and visionary change agent. She works at the intersection of personal When we begin to really listen to ourselves and social transformation by growing from our deepest truths and act on this in the feminine voice as a force for love every moment, this is when we open up to and peace in the world. the magic of being a woman, being alive and a co-creator of life. spirituality and embodiment practices Reena together with combines social feminine movement I leave you with a beautiful Rumi poem to strategy to guide women in a deep take in as you set your intentions. process of connection to their soul’s mission and movement. She has led “Stars burn bright all night. Do that campaigns at the local, national and yourself and a spring will rise from the international level, advocating for dark your deepest thirst is for.” economic justice and is currently helping feminine leaders to build their global movements. She is a dancer and poet and holds an MSc in International Political Economy from the London School of Economics. www.reena-desai.com 43 Feminine Soul of the Month: Lisa Mininni How have you used the Power of Intention in your life and business? O n a daily basis I use the Power of Canfield’s, “Chicken Soup for the Soul” and Intention as part of my daily mindset John Gray’s “Men Are From Mars, Women system or routine. One specific example of Are From Venus”. the importance of the power of intention 44 was when I decided to become a Best On a personal note, I use the power of Selling Author. I set the intention and each intention every day. However, the power morning focused on it. Every day I took of intention became center stage at a action and it was amazing what happened. particularly poignant time in my life 20 The exact people I needed came into my life. years ago. I remember it well because I was I launched my book and it became a best diagnosed with non-hodgkins lymphoma. seller sitting right next to two prominent At the time, I was only in my late 20’s New York Times Best Selling Authors, Jack and at the beginning of my career. It was September 2013 devastating news but it would also be a intention. There is a delicate balance of gift. I used the power of intention to focus setting the intention, taking action, being on health for a lifetime. And this past July, in the moment, and letting go all wrapped I celebrated 20 years of health. into one. Yet, when you discover the flow of intention, that’s where the magic Interesting thing about the power of happens… Why did you start your business? Funny story… One cold December day, I I placed my hands on the steering wheel was driving down the freeway wondering to see a shattered windshield, a softball- if starting a business (and writing a book) sized hole in the windshield, and a 4 ft 5 was the “right” decision. Just several lb semi-truck’s tire iron in the front seat of months earlier, I had completed 18 years my car. I navigated to the side of the road in the Corporate world dismantling a and eventually landed in a parking lot off division where I worked as an Executive. I the main freeway. I called the police and was thinking back about what a successful while waiting for them to arrive, I got out corporate career I had as an executive of the car to inspect the damage. There navigating significant organizational change was a 6 inch gash in the steel hood of my through mergers, acquisitions, divestitures car that, thankfully, changed the trajectory and closures. Frequent promotions and of the tire iron. exceeding goals and expectations were frequent for me but starting a business When each one of the three police officers was an entirely different challenge. came on scene that day, they said, lady, you’re on this earth for a reason. Just At that moment I saw something pop up moments before, I had been asking if from the freeway and I instinctively crossed starting a business (and writing a book) my hands over my face and waited for what was the right decision. I got the answer I thought would be a painful moment. All from three officers who said I must be on of a sudden I heard a big whooshing sound this earth for a reason. and dinging going around in my front seat. 45 At that moment, I made a commitment: For years, I showed people their natural to make sure I utilized my best talents wiring, and now it is part of an important and learned all I could about marketing, formula for The Entrepreneurial Edge networking, and developing who I was SystemTM that helps entrepreneurs get as a person. But I didn’t want others to their preferred clients faster and more struggle like I had struggled with this new efficiently than ever. We all have those change. So I put my education and quality tire iron experiences that wake us up, get improvement background to work. I wrote us stuck, or prevent us from seeing all of down the steps I was going through, the possibilities and reaching them. It took solutions I found, and wrote Me, Myself, many years, but I did what I do best: help and Why? The Secrets to Navigating people help themselves, connect seemingly Change (which became a best seller). disparate ideas, and create systems. What are your best tips for a successful life and business? Entrepreneurs must learn to be in the when you’re in the moment. Often times, moment. Living in the moment is not a the very thing you’ve been wishing for goal or a destination. You’re already there. arrives - all because you were present to Something quite remarkable happens hear it. How do you keep your sanity while running a successful business? How do you create life/work balance? 46 Keep it super simple. I create leverage team. I also have a Business Blueprint that through systems, automation, and a reliable serves as my GPS to keep me on track. September 2013 Do you have a daily ritual that you can share with us? What do you do on a daily basis that helps you nurture yourself and/or build your business? There are 3 essentials to my morning. I nurture my mind, body, and spirit. When I get up I work out, eat, and review my mindset system. It is a series of prayerful meditation and it is often integrated into my workout. So many people have great business ideas but don’t know how to get started. What advice would you give them? I would ask a couple of questions: • What contribution do you want to make in your lifetime to the world? • What do you want from life? What does Many people go through life without asking these questions, yet, these very questions become the doorway to creating new possibilities. that look like? 47 Lisa Mininni is known in over 11 countries, like Marci Shimoff, and Subject Matter Experts Lisa has become sought out as the like Bob Burg. strategic systems expert and is President of ExcellerateAssociates.com. expertise year background in the world of organizational has been featured on radio stations across development as well as systems and quality the United States and Canada. Her articles improvement to show entrepreneurs and on lead generation have been published organizations worldwide and on such notable and respected monetize their mission and their message. sites, such as The Huffington Post, Career Lisa believes that when you are doing Builder, and leading sales and marketing sites work aligned with who you are, using your like RainToday.com, achieving the Reader’s unique talents…it’s not “work”! There is a Choice Award. flow to every business - when you discover Her how to systematize and She is the Best-Selling Author of Me, your flow, you’re energized and you attract Myself, and Why? The Secrets to Navigating opportunities from expected and unexpected Change and the host of The Navigating sources…effortlessly. Having systems in place Change Radio show with tens of thousands simply makes it easy to bring in a consistent of regular small business listeners around the supply of pre-qualified prospects and turn globe who tap into her guest experts including them into clients up to 98% of the time. New York Times Best Selling Authors, Randy Connect with Lisa at: Gage and Dr. Ivan Misner; thought Leaders, 48 As a strategist, she uses her strong 20- www.excellerateassociates.com September 2013 Looking to reach savvy, heartcentered and mission-driven feminine entrepreneurs? Advertise on the Feminine Soul Magazine and Radio Show. For more information on advertising with us, please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org 49 What They Tried to Stop You Knowing About Meditation by Edel O’Mahony T hose who follow my work, know I am all and uncertainty instilled, you have the perfect about truth, knowledge and awareness. conditions for control. I cannot give time or attention to those delivering false perceptions of what we are It hasn’t stopped there. The scaremongering and why we are here, especially when they and divergence continues to any practice of are incongruent with their message and have natural healing and medicine. Verified cures not or do not live the ‘truth’ they speak of. using the frequency of the body - Dr Royal Raymond Rife is a very powerful example of this, when in the 1920s he had verified trials of 100% cure rates of cancer, which were confiscated, trash and subsequently destroyed along with Rife himself. In fact any practice that would bring the public’s attention to the restorative power within them, has been constantly and deliberately undermined, For millennia we have witnessed this maligned and vilified as false. misconception through religion, governments 50 and media in an attempt to keep populations WHY? Why has so much time, effort and dumbed down and distracted. Why would energy been given to convincing the world agents who are purportedly there acting for populations that natural energy and healing our well being do this? Plain and simply... is a lie? The old adage ‘Tell a lie to conceal a control. When knowledge is prevented, fear lie’ springs to mind. In social conditioning the public never gets to know real knowledge and We have irrefutable evidence from such truth, as knowledge is power! eminent cellular biologists as Dr Bruce Lipton and brain doctors such as Dr Jill Bolte Taylor Meditation has been termed over centuries that our cells take their signal from our beliefs. as a spiritual practice ( see again the â€˜labelâ€™ to divert attention). Deemed as a means of quiet The electrical impulses caused in this process contemplation and a way to connect with your are our first remnants of a vision come into inner being, your divinity if you will. being. This happens in the frontal lobes of the brain, involved in movement, decision- What they tried to stop you knowing is that making, problem solving, and planning. meditation is the creation process. Again through electrical impulses, the belief process is sent to your thalamus, a mass of grey matter cells that relay sensory signals to and from the spinal cord and the cerebrum, a reality processor. It is the thalamus that dictates to the brain what it thinks is going on in the external world, so creates the by product of thought. Now we have the scientific verification of what processes happen when you meditate From the thalamus there are different areas and how this is creating your reality. of the brain that can get fed the information. Firstly it could send the electrical impulse The science of meditation thought to the occipital lobes, positioned at Let me now run through the science of the main centres for visual processing. So this meditation with you, bearing in mind I am not is where you can visualise what it is you desire defined as a scientist, however I personally, to bring into the external world. the back region of the cerebral cortex and are consciously apply this information in my own meditation creation with staggering results. These impulses are then sent to your parietal lobes (either directly from your thalamus 51 or via the occipital lobes), here is the most crucial element of the whole process. It is in the parietal lobe that an artificial construction of who you are is created. Your belief and thought come together here and create – the projected perception of your reality, in your external world. Edel O’Mahony is a Spiritual Scientist, her consultation and advisory When you allow meditation to become your services bring truth, knowledge and way of life, where you spend 30 – 40 minutes awareness, creating the practical a day in connection and meditation, create processes of harnessing the scientific commands for new beliefs, this creates new field of Epigenetics. neural networks forming in the brain;you begin to consciously create the new projection to wake up and move out of reacting of your perception of reality. This projection within the fear based conditioning, to becomes very real through the transmutation becoming the observer, through all of energy in experiences and opportunities in their life experiences and contrasts. your external environment. Bringing ‘Where Science and Magic Edel’s work is to guide others, Meet’ You have always held the power to create your reality. This has however been kept from articles and interviews have reached your knowledge and perception to keep you an audience of over 25 million people dumbed down and controlled. and her meditation programme has Edel’s online and offline been termed as ‘life changing’. Now you know the secret...what are you going to do with it? Published Author, Radio host, founder of ‘Path of the Peaceful. www.edelomahony.com http://youtu.be/UCePo_QB5OA 52 A Foodies Guide to B u si n es s byTina Dietz I love food. Some of you may have heard and texture that make for great cuisine. me in the past refer to myself as a “Italian Cooking, aside from producing delicious Grandmother In Training,” and I ain’t results, comes with a few metaphors that kidding. This maven loves slow food, great make great business advice. Here, have a conversation, and the complexity of taste nibble… 1. Call in Your Sous Chef: There are always going to be things Make sure you call upon others early that will get done better if they’re enough in the game to allow the task done by someone else. It may be to be completed. This can be a learning because you don’t have the expertise curve for you in terms of being able that’s called for, or it may be that a great to let go and effective communication assistant handling the minor tasks will and management, but the results are free you up to do what you do best. worth the simmering time. 53 2. Prep Ever ything Before Cooking: Food and business both go fast, so it is always a good plan to have time and you can experiment with the spices, or try substituting a recipe (5 Year Strategic one ingredient for another on Vision Plan), and to prep the fly. All that’s left for you ingredients and tools before to handle is the unexpected you start. Rarely do things turns, which will need your go exactly like you planned, but if you have a plan, you know what you’re doing the majority of the full attention anyhow. When you have a well crafted recipe, you can experiment more effectively. 3. Slice Things Small: When you cut your ingredients to a the project time more effectively. small size, everything cooks quickly. Slicing and dicing takes skill, so In the same way, taking the time to practice and you’ll be julienning your divide up the tasks you are trying to next marketing campaign or product accomplish into small, actionable steps launch with the flair of Julia Child. gives you an opportunity to manage 4. Cook Ingredients in the Right Order: 54 If you just throw everything into the do brilliantly, and do yourself the pan at the same time, you’re asking same favor. Some projects require a for food that is not going to taste very long roasting time, others are a quick good. Give your outside resources or sauté. Taste your “dishes” frequently team enough time to do what they and adjust as you go. September 2013 5. Don’t Over-Cook: Perfectionism leads to paralysis. The problem is that if you wait too long, you’ll ruin everything. There’s a fine line between “golden brown and delicious” and “burned to a crisp.” Sometimes striving for perfection just ends up with something too tough for your customers to chew and swallow. Knowing this you can temper your need for perfection with the need to get the plates on the table and your guests, that is, your customers, served. You might discover that, like a juicy steak, a little underdone might just be better. Tina Dietz MS, NCC is an international solo entrepreneurs to the corporate level, business development maven and the and she speaks to groups from 20-2,000 inventor of the Success Funnel System™. on how to break through the barriers that With a mission to ignite 10,000 Thriving keep you from achieving success, optimal Businesses, Tina has coached and consulted performance, and leadership in business and with clients in more than 20 industries from life. Connect with Tina at http://www.thisistinadietz.com 55 Have Faith Everything’s working according to plan but the plan is not always ours. We can worry about the outcome but worry wastes precious hours. A good idea has all that it needs to prosper and to grow. If we put our intentions to work for us momentum continues to flow. Doors may close along our way but what we need to know is that they close behind us, and they’re meant to - so we can grow. We may want results much quicker than the way they tend to appear. Results unfold when the time is right, when our pathway has become clear. 56 Jean Kay is a prolific poet who has written a poem every morning for over fifteen years. Her book Morning Light, a collection of inspirational poems for use in daily life, is available on Amazon. Jean is a regular contributor to newsletters and is published in several anthologies. She also creates What’s important to remember is we need to stay on track, not be tempted to detour, and never try to go back. commissioned poems for birthdays, We are not who we were yesterday, nor yet who we’ll be tomorrow. Now is the only time we have, let’s live it with joy not sorrow. of the Canadian Authors Association Life is a constant process of change, that’s what life is all about. When we pursue intentions with confidence, faith eliminates all our doubt. Connect with Jean at weddings, anniversaries, memorials, etc. Jean is a professional member – Vancouver Branch, and holds active memberships in The Ontario Poetry Society and World Poetry Association. http://www.poetrytoinspire.com September 2013 7 ways Ways to Prevent Relationship Slips by Heather Paris R elationships don’t just fall apart, they slowly slip away. People get “comfortable” and start to take These little things add up and turn into big things that can damage or kill a relationship. They don’t happen one another for granted. You instantly, they happen slowly start to run out the door over time. You can reverse without kissing good-bye, the damage and get your or you go to bed at different relationship back in time! times, or you stop saying “I love you,” or you start to give more of Here are some “little” things that make a BIG difference. your time and attention to someone or something else outside of the relationship. 57 1 2 Always say I love you, at least better! They might already know you love once per day, but more is them... but they NEED to hear it! Take a moment to text/email/ facebook need to know that you are important to message/tweet/ them. There are enough ways to get a hold instant message/post it note/ of someone today, use them to make them or call and let them know you feel special! were thinking about them. They 3 Share intimate moments either good chemicals that your body releases kissing, hugging, snuggling, during intimate moments to create a bond. touching, holding hands or Don’t let a day go by without physical touch making love. You need the feel of some sort! 4 Make time to talk about your didn’t show up for work, or the tractor that day... every day. You start to wouldn’t start and you tell him about the disconnect when you don’t weird lady at the nail salon or the funny tie know what is going on in your co-worker wore. Whatever your day each others worlds while you holds, share it with one another so they are apart. Smile and listen to him feel connected to you each day. Let them talk all about the mechanic that into your world. 58 September 2013 Eat together. Sharing meals together enjoy, sit and savor a meal is a great way to re-connect after a without television, and just long day. Make something you both decompress. Give compliments and thanks. Don’t let things go.... even the small a day go by without saying something things! How great would you complimentary. “You look great today,” or feel if you knew someone “Thank you for picking up bread on your greatly appreciated all that way home, I really appreciate that because you do? 5 6 I didn’t have time to stop.” Don’t let these Always be honest. Trust is much easier to come first... always. Friends keep than it is to get back... so don’t risk are wonderful but if you need losing it. Be completely honest with your real help in your relationship, partner about everything. Speak kindly but hire a professional and keep honestly about the little things that bother the friends out of it. Friends you rather than letting them build up into sometimes tend to hang on to resentments. Talk to your partner about what you have told them and hold your relationship instead of to your friends. a grudge whereas a professional is It is OK to vent and get advice but make detached and can give non-biased sure your friends (and their advice) don’t advice. 7 hurt your relationship. Your partner must 59 Even if it’s “not your fault” or you “don’t think he will even notice,” let go of your ego and try these steps today! Don’t get discouraged if it takes more than one day.... you slowly deconstructed your relationship, it will take TIME to put it back Heather Paris is a certified Neuro- together. If you implement these steps, he/ Linguistic Programmer (NLP,) Strategic she will notice and will start to respond as Interventionist and Marriage Educator. well. Her entire life has been dedicated to improving the lives of others with Don’t let the person you love slip away compassion based approaches that when it is easy to remind them how much are centered in reality and real world they mean to you. Enjoy a healthy, happy, solutions. Heather maintains a popular passionate relationship, and Live Inspired blog (www.liveinspirednow.com) and Now! is in the final stages of her new book; Live Inspired Now... A Field Guide For Happiness which is due to release by the end of 2013. Heather and her husband Thad live in Upstate New York on a micro farm with the younger four of their six children, 3 goats, 3 dogs, 1 cat and many chickens. http://www.liveinspirednow.com/ 60 September 2013 What if you could reach more people with your message? What if your business could touch the lives of millions? Expand Your Reach | Monetize Your Message | Double Your Impact Schedule Your Complimentary Session with Spiritual Marketing Coach Vanessa Halloum and Discover 3 ways you can easily reach more people 2 strategies to monetize your message 1 simple thing you can implement right away to double your impact Got to: www.VanessaHalloum.com/strategysession 61 Upcoming Shows 9/5/13 at 12 pm Living Like A W.O.M.A.N. with Gina Cloud Listen live or on demand after it airs by going to: http://bit.ly/GinaCloud 9/12/13 at 12 pm EST Conscious Creating - Where Science and Magic Meet with Edel Oâ€™Mahony Listen live or on demand after it airs by going to: http://bit.ly/EdelOMahony 9/19/13 at 12 pm EST The Simplicity of Stillness Method with Marlise Karlin Listen live or on demand after it airs by going to: http://bit.ly/MarliseKarlin 9/26/13 at 12 pm EST Find & Claim Your Feminine Political Voice with Tabby Biddle Listen live or on demand after it airs by going to: http://bit.ly/TabbyBiddle 62 September 2013 Catch Up to Past Shows Debra Kasowski Rich from the Inside out – The Path of the Millionaire Woman Catch the replay at: http://bit.ly/DebraKasowski Stephanie Owens Let Go of The Disease to Please and say “YES” to the Real You! Catch the replay at: http://bit.ly/StephanieOwens Tina Dietz Making Your Desires a Reality: Do You REALLY Have What It Takes? Learn how to create your “perfect” day! Catch the replay at: http://bit.ly/TinaDietz Rev. Anne Presuel The Divine Entrepreneur’s Secret to Success: Tap into Your Divine Business Catch the replay at: http://bit.ly/AnnePresuel Ada Novak How To Connect With Your Inner Goddess And Power Catch the replay at: http://bit.ly/AdaNovak 63 ask Rev. Anne Why am I getting stopped? Dear Anne: Whether it’s family or financial, I just don’t Everytime I think I’m ready to really step seem to be able to move ahead in my up in my business and I take action to do business in a big way. something bigger, something always seems to happen to stop me. Dear Divine One: Why is this happening? I so love this question. Because not only do I It’s your fear, your old programming, your old see my clients go through this situation all the beliefs. It’s your subconscious talking. time, I have experienced it myself … multiple times. And you’re going to love the answer. And it must be released or broken through in order for you to have what you want. It must Whenever you make a decision about be broken through in order for you to create something big, it can seem as though the your Divinely-given vision. It must be broken Universe is conspiring against you. through in order for you to bless the world with your gifts in the way you know you are “Are you sure you want to do that?” it seems called to do. to say, “You could do this instead.” Or worse yet, “You can’t do that! You have to take care You see, your decision to take the action to of [fix your car, take care of your child/parent/ move forward was the guidance of the Divine. spouse, pay for a new roof, pay for sports/ It was the Divine Whisper in your soul. And dance lessons]. It would be irresponsible of you listened and began to take action. you to [buy that program, sponsor that event, work with that mentor]!” But then fear hit. Circumstances appeared that told you otherwise. Guess what? That’s not the Universe talking. 64 And you began to doubt yourself. Instead of listening to faith, you listened to fear. You listened to the circumstances. that activates the way for you to manifest that sacred vision. As long as you are in fear, you cannot see the way. You must let go of your Here’s the Divine Truth: It is in the listening fear in order to find your way. You must stand to – and taking action upon – your faith that in faith, or the way will not be shown. will cause your world to transform. It cannot be otherwise. The bottom line is this: Trust what you are given. Then take action upon it. Because You have been given a vision by the Divine. In the stronger your faith, the quicker you will addition, the way to create that vision is also manifest. within and around you. But it is your faith Rev. Anne Presuel (self-proclaimed Now go get your Divine ON! children… ahem, kitties. “Irreverent Rev”), creator and CEO of Divinely Intuitive spiritual Broke Dilemma”- the belief that making entrepreneurs “get their Divine ON!” by money and being spiritual can’t go hand- tuning into their own 6th sense while building in-hand, then you’ll want to get your free 6-figure businesses on their own terms. ebook, “10 Reasons Why Your Spirituality Anne is an Interfaith Minister, a Divine is Keeping You Broke in Your Business (and Intuitive™, and a master energy therapist. what you can do about it).” Go to www. She lives with her husband, Dr. Francisco DivinelyIntuitiveBusiness.com for your gift. Business, LLC, helps If you are experiencing the “Divinely- Presuel, in South Florida, with their four Got a question you’d like to ask Rev. Anne? 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