Identity If he's not committing to you...You need to drop his Ass like its H.O.T.! Otherwise, he's going to dump your ass and girlfriend, it won't be pretty! Now Steve Harvey said this, that if a guy doesn't lay stake on you after you've been together a considerable while, honey, he's simply just taking you for a ride that will end with you at the "Heart-Break Hotel" (I feel you Whitney!). Hear me out. The male species lays claim to whatever it deems to be its property, in order to drive away the rest of the hungry pack. If this guy isn't letting others know that you are his, you have got to run faster than the wind because to him you are of no value, interest or importance! Secondly, the male alpha role adheres to what are referred to as the three 'P's, that is, Profess, Protect and Provide. So, no. 1 - he must profess his love and commitment to you, no two ways about it! No.2 - he must protect you, that is, your man should be ready to defend you when the need arises. No.3 - He should provide, please and I better be clear here, I'm not talking about expensive dinners whilst showering you with gifts and money left, right and center (is that the spelling?), but, even at the most meager budget he should be able to pay the bill! Please, when you go out with a guy that asks you to “Go Dutch” i.e. split the bill (and he is the one who asked you out) child, that is a straight "See ya and wouldn't wanna be ya" kinda dude! A man provides for his man. Period.
If he only Facebooks you...aha, boy, was my ex fond of this Ouch! I know about that one very well. So you think you've met someone nice. You give then your mobile number, but instead he asks you out via a message on facebook in-box! Two words for that: "Booty Call". Oh, and mind you that exact same message has been forwarded to several other booty callees. Grey says: Send me to Madame Guillotine, but that, hunies is the truth! If I'm not sleeping with him…then who am I doing it with?
‘It is thus, the author of this note’s opinion that sleeping with a guy you just met for the first time is plain old STUPID’
Now, now, got to slow down a bit here for a minute. This is not about him, but me. In every growing relationship, there is need for what Mr. Steve Harvey, refers to as a probation period, wherein the two parties get to know each other. It is thus, the author of this note’s opinion that sleeping with a guy you just met for the first time is plain old STUPID! Case in point, when I was recruited as an employee at my place of work, I was put under a period of probation, the time in which I was paid less and received no company benefits. This was in order for the management to observe me and thereafter decide whether I was worthy to be given the benefits of an employee's package: vacation, allowances, medical cover e.t.c.
So here I pose the greatest benefit of all, the ultimate package: My Body - and I go opening up the cookie jar and letting all and sundry put in their dirty hands to sample the cookie! It's low! Soon enough, the cookie will be all over town and there will be nothing good about it any longer. However, if you have reached a sensible point in your relationship, the benefit package will definitely be released. Because, seriously, if I'm not sleeping with him, then who am I doing it with? If he's sleeping with someone else… DUMP his sorry ass, wipe your tears, kill those picket fences dreams and move on! Finally, to crown it all, we are always afraid of setting a standard for men because we are afraid that it will appear to be too high and as a result, we will not have as many guys chasing after us. Well, you end up setting such a low standard that allows everyone to just walk into your yard and get all up in there, because your standards resemble the curb off the street where anybody can just step off. But, if a guy really likes you and wants to be with you, he will strive to get up that eight foot wall to get to you because what is the use of the game without the chase? So gentlemen, set some standards! - AL GREY
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