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Hey Pal, Be A Sweetie By Tracy Bernard

Health & Fitness

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The Shape I’m in By Dorothy Rosby

Relationships

26 The Sandwich

Generation: Part II

Editor in Chief Tracy Bernard

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Beauty

11 The Hairy Truth About Hair Removal

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16 The New Basics By Angelica Wojtanowicz

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20 Making Waves Finance

22 Estate Planning By Kathleen Fox

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Hey Pal, Be A Sweetie From the Editor

By Tracy Bernard

A strange thing happened the other day.

Midday, the next day,

I was having trouble sleeping thinking

I hopped on Face-

about my to-do lists and whatever else

book to find the

popped into my head. I recalled an old

following post

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man from my college days, Louie. Louie

from

was a well-known local. He was missing

college friend:

most of his teeth and wore bib overalls ev-

“Sad news to

ery day, along with a train conductor hat.

pass on... if any-

Almost every night, Louie would go from

one

bar to bar in our college town, talking to

been downtown

all of the college kids. When he’d see any

in Vermillion or went to USD, you know

of us girls, he’d say, “Hey tweety (sweetie).”

Louie ... he passed away yesterday: Cheers

To the guys, he’d say “Hey pal.” One of the

to Louie!” I got chills. Why on Earth, after

bars even had T-shirts made with Louie’s

all of these years did Louie come to mind

face and “hey pal” on it.

and on the day of his death, no less? I

an

has

old

ever

don’t have an answer. But it did remind Despite his local celebrity and the fact

me that all around us are people who are

that Louie was friendly to everyone,

barely getting by. Maybe they have fam-

sometimes people were mean to him –

ily trouble, maybe they are lonely, sick or

treating him like a pest. This always upset

struggling financially. Yet, these people

me. As far as I could see, Louie had no one

go on each day, smiling and giving you a

– no friends his age and no family around.

“hey pal” anyway. So, in honor of Louie’s

On a couple of occasions, I gave him a ride

memory, I ask you to choose to show kind-

home and by the appearance of his home,

ness to all people with the knowledge

it looked like he was barely getting by.

that they most assuredly need it.

How could people be so cruel? “Carry out a random act of kindness, with As I lay awake, I wondered what had be-

no expectation of reward, safe in the

come of Louie. Certainly, there was no way

knowledge that one day someone might

he could still be around. I recalled how

do the same for you.” Princess Diana

often I saw people mistreat Louie and hoped that things had improved for him. Then at some point, I fell asleep.

Tracy

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From the Editor

The Shape I’m In Health & Fitness

By Dorothy Rosby

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I held my breath. I sucked in my gut like a middle-aged man on a nude beach. And I pulled on the amazing Tummy Tuck Shaper. I leaned against the wall to rest and catch my breath, and then I peeked in the mirror. WOW! I turned to the right, and I turned to the left. My abs were FLAT! So were my kidneys.

WOW! I turned to the right, and I turned to the left. My abs were FLAT! Maybe I needed a larger size. Maybe I should have tried on the size I AM, rather than the size I’d hoped the shaper would make me. Oh well; I looked GOOD! I decided to buy the Tummy Tuck Shaper no matter how much it cost. But first I had to get it off. And nothing could have prepared me for the trauma of getting that sucker off. I tried pulling from the bottom. I tried peeling from the top. I tugged; I heaved; I fell and hit the mirror. Oh NO! Was I swelling? Now it would never come

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off. Should I

alone and AFRAID!

But first I had to do the research. Plus

Health & Fitness

call for help?

other was in her own home! She was

It would be easy to blame the situation

I wanted to see how I’d look with a flat

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on a few too many scoops of guacamole,

stomach.

Who? The sales clerk? The fire department? A SURGEON?

Both were too embarrassed to speak out about the dangers, so I decided I would.

but it’s bigger than that–no pun intended. The journey to that moment started

And that’s how I wound up in a panic,

way back in my childhood when my

trying to extricate myself from a Tummy

friend’s grandmother, whose foundation

Tuck Shaper that I now knew for sure

garment had become something of an

should be a size larger. Obviously I did

exoskeleton, told us that ALL women, no

escape. Otherwise I wouldn’t be wearing

matter their shape, should wear girdles.

my Sponge Bob jammies with the elastic

We didn’t take her too seriously since we

waistband right now. But I didn’t buy the

didn’t even have hips yet. But her mes-

Tummy Tuck Shaper. After the pain and

sage was clear: If it ain’t flat, it’s fat!

humiliation of my dressing room drama, I decided it would be easier to go ahead

Then recently, not one, but TWO friends

and have an actual tummy tuck. BHW

told me about getting trapped in shapewear. It’s an EPIDEMIC! American women don’t bind our feet; we bind our spleens! One friend was in a department store dressing room when it happened; the

Dorothy Rosby writes from Rapid City, where she lives with her husband, son and abs.

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fuzz fringes to the single wayward hair

pending on the area being treated,” says

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that crops up at the most inopportune

Julie Krein of Black Hills Dermatology and

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time,to the long, dark and coarse growth

Laser Centre.

that resembles an overgrown forest, women have been battling hair removal

The Pros – Laser hair removal can be used

for centuries.

on any part of the body and can remove 40 percent to 80 percent of hair from the

Fortunately, there is no shortage of

treated area. Little or no hair growth is

means to cope with the overgrowth. To

necessary prior to treatments, and treat-

help you decide which method of hair re-

ments are not extremely time consuming.

moval might best fit your needs, we have consulted several Black Hills experts in

The Cons – While not common, scarring,

the field. Every option has its pros, cons

burns and blisters can occur, and treat-

and price points and may not be the best

ments can be uncomfortable. Because

choice, depending on where you want to

hair grows in three stages: growing, rest-

remove hair.

ing and shedding, multiple treatments are

Laser

How it works – A licensed laser practitioner uses a handheld device that emits pulsed light that damages hair follicles at the root, resulting in the hair falling out 10 – 14 days after treatment. “Each laser pulse may be preceded and followed by a short pulse of cooling

required,

while it is long lasting, laser

and

hair removal is not permanent. People

The Cons – While home waxing kits are

with dark hair and light skin are best suit-

available, most people find the proce-

ed for this type of treatment. “The laser

dure simply too messy, slow, difficult

targets the darker hairs and is not effec-

and painful for a DIY project. Incorrectly

tive on the white hairs,” said Krein. Laser

done, waxing can also lead to skin infec-

hair removal is also not the most cost ef-

tions. If you are taking Accutane or reti-

fective.

nols or other medications that make your

Beauty

skin more sensitive and fragile, waxing is Costs – Black Hills Dermatology and Laser Centre charges $75

hairy before you can get

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to $250 per treatment,

smooth; at least a quar-

not recommended. You also have to be

depending on the

ter of an inch of

area. Other dis-

hair is needed

counts are given

for the wax to

for patients who have

adhere.

treatments Costs – A Perfect

on multiple areas.

10 Nail and Beauty Bar offers facial

Waxing

waxing

How it works –

and

charges $10 per

A warm, resin-

area. Other pro-

based wax prod-

fessional waxing

uct is applied to

services may cost

the hair and then when

cooled

is

pulled off, removing the entire hair follicle from the

Threading is a method commonly practiced in Eastern countries.

root.

up to $100 for a Brazilian

bikini

wax for the upper and lower legs. A 15 percent to 20 percent gratuity is

customary and suggested. At-home waxThe Pros – Waxing can remove hair any-

ing kits cost $6 to $100.

where on the body, and the results can last up to six weeks. It is also a relatively quick procedure. “Waxing offers cleaner lines and more detailed eyebrows,” says

Threading

How it works – Threading is a method

Canada Lytle at A Perfect 10 Nail and

commonly practiced in Eastern countries,

Beauty Bar. Over time, frequent waxing

like Egypt, India and Vietnam, that has

can cause the hair follicle to become

become increasingly popular in the Unit-

damaged and stop growing hair.

ed States. A cotton thread is used to pull

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Costs – Mai Lee’s Threading and Beauty

removing the entire hair from the follicle.

Salon charges $10 for lips, $15 for eye-

It is best used on unruly eyebrows, and

brows and $45 for the entire face. A 15

the results usually last six weeks. The dis-

percent to 20 percent gratuity is custom-

comfort is similar to tweezing but much

ary and suggested.

quicker. The Pros – Threading is fast, it is extremely sanitary, there are no chemicals applied to the skin and over time temporary results

can

Cons

Threading

How it works – A depilatory is a strong, alkaline–based product that weakens the hair at the fol-

be-

come permanent. The

Depilatories

– is

a

true art form that

Depilatories are an inexpensive, quick, and pain free hair removal method.

has been passed

licle

or

slightly

below skin level. The process takes approximately five to 10 minutes and is primarily used

down from generation to generation

on arms, legs, bikini line and underarms.

,which can make it hard to find someone

It should not be used on the face unless

experienced in the craft. Mai Lee McKin-

specifically labeled for that purpose. The

ish has been threading for 32 years. She

effects of depilatories are two to five days

learned the art in Vietnam. Inexperi-

before re-growth is seen.

enced professionals can break hairs and their technique can cause pain. Thread-

The Pros – Depilatories are an inexpen-

ing is only done on the face, and some

sive, quick and pain-free hair removal

hair growth is necessary prior to a treat-

method that requires no experience to

ment.

use and can easily be done in the privacy of your own home. Various strength

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products are available

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over the counter at the local

last long, anywhere from a few hours to

drug store.

a few days. When coarse hair is cut off to

and can be purchased

a sharp tip, it can create ingrown hairs, The Cons – The chemical creams smell

razor bumps and burn, which along with

bad and can be messy to use. The strong

nicking yourself with the razor, can be

chemicals may also cause skin irritation,

painful.

especially if the product is left on to long resulting in burns, blisters and rashes.

Costs – Disposable razors cost between

Since the follicle is not removed from the

$.50 and $8, and while they can be

root the effects of depilatories are short

used a couple of times before throwing

lived.

them away, it is recommended to use a new blade each shave to prevent razor

Costs – Depilatories range in price from

bumps, burn and ingrown hairs. Regu-

$5 to $65.

lar razors, that you keep the handle and throw away the blade, cost between $7

Shaving

and $20. Shaving lubrication can cost anywhere from $3 for a basic shaving

How it works – Shaving is the most com-

cream to $25 or more for designer or or-

mon and oldest method of hair removal.

ganic shaving gel or lotion. BHW

Hair is simply cut off at skin level with a razor. Shaving is most effective when skin is wet and when used with a lubricating agent. Shaving is effective at removing hair on any part of the body. The Pros – Shaving is quick, affordable, can easily be done at home and if done properly is painless. The Cons – The results of shaving do not

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THE NEW BASICS

Ultra Denim Trends

Fashion

By Angelica Wojtanowicz

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It’s time to freshen up your winter ward-

fresh again. For the transition into spring,

robe, and this upcoming season, it is all

colored skinnies can be worn with a boot

about denim. Since denim is showing up

or ballet flat. For a night out, get a dress-

in every color, print and fit, you can lit-

ier look and keep it simple with a neutral

erally match your denim to your mood.

pump.

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Another denim trend that is proving to

ly with your neutral–tone blouses and

be strong this season is the slim boot. It is

sweaters. For the fashion–brave, there’s

a flattering style for all body types, with

denim in every print and fit that a girl

a smooth fit through the knee and a re-

could dream. These bold colors bring the

fined flare elongating the legs. The slim

perfect pop to transition into spring —

boot is amazing on its own in a simple

so it seems the only option is to snag a

blue denim wash but can be chic and

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stylish in a clean white. It is the perfect jean for the office or the weekend.

The skinny jean seems to have become a staple in every women’s closet, and col-

Denim PRINTS! Floral, ikat, stripes — they

or is just one of the ways to make them

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Get the relaxed look this spring with a cute

into your wardrobe without it being too

pair of denim shorts. It may not be shorts

overwhelming is to buy it in a cropped

season yet, but black tights will help keep

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coral, dressy suede, and prints are great with a black tight, bootie and oversized

Fashion

sweater

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Get the relaxed look this spring with a cute pair of denim shorts.. black tights will help keep you warm and stylish.

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blazer. A

diverse

selection of denim is an essential for your

ward-

robe

year

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im in every color and fit is a huge trend

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look. Rich dark washes

the must-have styles that are popping up

and clean pockets are

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this

denim

trend a must-have for your closet. It is a sophisticated look when paired with a blazer. However, it can be a fun weekend look with a print blouse or simple tee.

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Estate Planning

Finance

By Kathleen Fox

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Career planning. Wedding planning.

Yes, if you don’t have a spouse or chil-

Family planning. If you’re in your 20s or

dren, your parents would inherit every-

30s, all of these might well be part of

thing, including the boxes of R. L. Stine

your life.

books and junior-high diaries that are still stored in their basement. They would

But estate planning? Surely that’s for

also need to dispose of your stuff, close

older people. Right now, you’re too busy

out your meager bank accounts and deal

getting your life started to even consider

with your student loans. (Government

anything related to its possible end. You

loans are discharged if the borrower dies;

can think of at least five good reasons

private student loans may not be.)

why you don’t need a will.

1.

Designating a parent or sibling as execuYou’re too young and healthy. You

tor of your estate would make life easier

don’t hang glide or ride bulls, and there’s

for them, especially if your parents are

no history of serious illnesses in your

divorced or live at a distance. With a will,

family. Your chances of dying any time

you could also leave your beagle to your

soon are ridiculously small.

boyfriend or your movie collection to your best friend.

True. Still, there’s always that slight possibility of being run over by a beer truck while you’re out jogging.

2.

3.

You can’t afford to make a will. It

would be ridiculous to pay a lawyer more than your entire estate would be worth.

You’re single and broke. You’ve

just started paying off your student

True. So don’t pay a lawyer. You can get

loans. The bank owns more of your car

generic will forms online or at office sup-

than you do. Your only “investment” is a

ply stores that are perfectly adequate

couple of hundred dollars in a savings ac-

for a simple will. Get one. Fill it out. It’s

count. Your net worth is a negative num-

cheap, it’s easy, and it’s done.

ber. What’s to leave to anybody? Besides,

4.

wouldn’t your parents just get it all?

You’re too busy. With a 3-year-old,

a baby on the way, and two full-time jobs,

end up making it for you.

you and your husband don’t have time to

5.

think about remote future possibilities like estate planning. You’d leave everything to each other anyway, so what’s the

You’re in transition. Any will you

make now would be out of date in a few years.

point? The point is to provide for the guardian-

view it annually, and revise it as your

ship of your kids. This is why wills are

needs change.

essential for young parents, even if the most valuable thing you own is a cubic

When you’re young, you might think

zirconia wedding ring. Suppose you and

of making a will as practice. Consider it

your

were killed in a car accident. Who would raise your children? Your parents? Your sister? Your

learning one more

husband

Suppose you and your husband were killed.. Who would raise your children?

start with a simple will

today,

you’ll

find it easier to make a more complex one later when

husband’s

brother? Have you asked any of these

adult life skill. If you

you need it “for real.”

people if they are willing to take on that responsibility?

Estate planning. Who needs it?

Chances are you haven’t. Choosing

You do.

a guardian for your kids is one of the toughest decisions parents can make. No wonder most of us put it off. But if you don’t make that choice, a judge who doesn’t know you or your family could

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By Nicole Vulcan

Several years ago, Mary Schnortz, and

Not only is the “sandwich generation”

her husband took a trip to Minnesota to

– those providing care for both parents

visit Mary’s elderly mother. When they

and kids – growing, but the numbers

got there, they discovered that she was in

for those needing extensive care are

advanced stages of Alzheimer’s disease.

growing, too. South Dakota’s number of

It had been six or seven years since the

Alzheimer’s patients follows a national

mother’s diagnosis – but she had been

trend of growth; from 2010 to 2025, the

keeping it all a secret. With the signs of

number of Alzheimer’s patients in the

deterioration now so apparent, the fam-

state is expected to grow by 24 percent,

ily was in shock.

according to the Alzheimer’s Association.

Mary and her husband made the decision

Moving her mother into her home “was

to move mom in with them in the Black

rewarding but stressful at the same time,”

Hills – a decision that naturally meant a

says Schnortz. “You give a lot of yourself,

lot of adjustment.

and you don’t realize it until you’re so deep into it.”

Mary and her husband were some of an estimated 10 million Americans over the

Schnortz says she’s fortunate that her

age of 50 that provide care to a parent – a

children were already out of the home,

number that is only getting bigger. In the

making it easier to juggle the needs of

mid-1990s, that number was about one-

her mother with her working life. But

third of what it is today.*

many are not so lucky; on top of school

Percentage of Alzheimer and dementia caregivers with high stress levels.

l Stress a ic s y h P % 3 4 na 61% Emotio

l Stress

Created from data from the Alzheimer’s Association 2010 Women and Alzheimer’s Poll, October 2010.

vises people to have powers of attorney

do their homework, the sandwich gen-

that clearly state your wishes, well ahead

eration also adds pharmacy runs and

of time.

to happen,” says Snoozy-Kaitfors. “You

Relationships

commutes and reminding their kids to

“It’s tough,” says Shirley Allen, manager

want to make sure your wishes are under-

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of Daisy House, an adult day-care facility

stood.” Planning ahead means planning

in Rapid City. “They’re losing their parent

for the financial component of retire-

reminders to their parents to take their medications.

“You never know when things are going

1 in 8 Older Americans has Alzheimer’s. From the Alzheimer’s Association 2011 Report. Older American is defined as 65-years and older.

as they knew them and having to change

ment, as well as clearly stating what type

into a whole new thinking pattern. It’s a

of care you want. It also means being

grief process.”

willing to take preventive measures, such as accepting part-time care in the home,

While it’s not an easy road, there are

before the elder’s health and safety dete-

some steps families can take to make the

riorates to the point of needing extensive

decision-making easier. Following are

care, says Snoozy-Kaitfors.

some tips to help families make the best moves for all parties involved.

1. Plan ahead.

2. Know your options.

With the numbers of elders needing care only expected to grow as baby boomers

Planning for your future is one of the big-

retire, the options for care are also grow-

gest gifts you can give your family, says

ing.

Lezlie Snoozy-Kaitfors of Comfort Keepers, which provides in-home care for the

“The adult day center -- the only one in

elderly in Rapid City. Snoozy-Kaitfors ad-

Western South Dakota -- has been an

awesome thing to offer families,” says Allen of Daisy House. “Here families can bring (elders) in as they would a child.”

4. Seek support for caregivers

In the world of elder care, the word “burnout” is an adjective that gets tossed disassociation and fatigue that caregiv-

age families to explore all possible op-

ers experience when caring for their el-

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around often. It describes the isolation, Elder care experts in the area encourtions with a third party, to find the one

der loved ones – on top of managing the

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care, part-time and

that

best

stresses of everyday

for them. Options

works

life. While there’s

include adult day full-time

in-home

care, as well as assisted

living

and

nursing home care.

“I cannot stress enough that (families) need to bond together at this time to help each other.”

no doubt that it’s a difficult place to be in, support groups can provide a tremendous

benefit

for loved ones. “If you’re dealing

3. Work together

with a parent, you’ve got that emotional

When it’s time to make that tough deci-

attachment that’s so deep. You’re losing

sion for Mom and Dad, Snoozy-Kaitfors

a little bit of them at a time, and if you

says she often sees the eldest daughter

don’t have the support that you need,

in the family leading the charge. While

the quality of your life will suffer,” says

women do tend to take on caregiving

Schnortz, who now shares her own expe-

tasks in the family, it should really be the

riences with others by working at Daisy

work of the entire family -- including the

House.

minor children who may have to give up some of their space to make room for

Support groups abound, says Allen, with

Grandma.

options that include groups specializing in Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s, elder care

“I cannot stress enough that (families)

and much more.

need to bond together at this time to help each other,” says Allen. One family,

“Those who are in the trenches know

she says, travels from Minnesota so the

better,” says Allen. “Being able to pat

family can meet and talk about what to

each other on the back and give a hug as

do with mom and dad. “Those families

needed — that’s worth millions.”

coming together are the heroes. With that you see the plans come together far better.”

*Statistics courtesy Met Life Mature Market Institute

Nicole Vulcan is a South Dakota writer based in Portland, Oregon, specializing in health and wellness, green living, travel and other commentary from a feminist perspective.

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“My house is a cluttered mess!”

Stress-Free Organization anything!”

“I’m overwhelmed by paper.”

By Jennifer Lage Landguth

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“My garage looks like a rummage sale!”

If the above quotes sound like you, you’re not alone. Shortly after adopting our sec-

3. Open your mail ASAP

Separate bills, magazines, coupons, invi-

ond daughter, I felt crazed at all the new

tations and junk mail. Throw out the junk,

“stuff” in our house, and that’s when I got

including magazines you’re not inter-

serious about organization and design-

ested in and the opened envelopes. Pur-

ing organization systems. The goal: get it

chase an accordion folder and sort and

under control and free up more time to

file the bills alphabetically. Set one hour

maximize the fun times in life.

per week to pay bills either manually or with online bill pay, which I highly recom-

I love “stuff” and have “stuff,” but it’s fairly

mend. It frees up tons of time. Once the

organized, which adds to a calm at home

bill is entered, it is paid automatically on

that I need at the end of a busy work day.

a date you set — no need to buy stamps

So, I’m thrilled to share some of my tips

or envelopes, no need to write out the

on how to get organized. Clutter free

checks and envelopes and then get them

spaces help everyone function better

to the mailbox. File immediately in a cab-

and be more productive.

inet or box.

1. Make your bed everyday

4. Designate a space for correspondence, kids, activities, mail and bills

Taking two to three minutes to make a bed immediately makes a bedroom look less cluttered.

2. Open the shades

I use a pantry cabinet close to the garage to store all this type of “stuff.” Pic-

Let the light in so that you can see all the

ture storage boxes with lids work great

stuff lying on the floor. Take two minutes

to hold scissors, tape and glues, another

to pick it up, put it in the closet or the

holds birthday cards and stamps, and

laundry basket, straighten papers and

another checks. Developed pictures

walk out feeling good.

are immediately put in a photo album. A bulletin board holds invitations adja-

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5. Clothes and stuff

Walk through your house daily, with all family members holding a basket and

ing plastic pocket folders with numer-

putting their belongings in their basket

ous pockets. Each child has one to hold

to immediately be taken to the laundry,

notes, awards, shot records, report cards

the bath room or bed room to be put

and other reference items. Kids papers

away.

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Kid activities are stored here, too, us-

are reviewed daily and thrown and special school papers/projects are stored in

The 30 minutes you spend each day to or-

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ganize feels good, and getting all family members involved is vital! Just because we’re women doesn’t mean you have to do this alone! BHW

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Motherhood 34 Name: Sheila Seger-Ogborn Occupation: Business Development Specialist Age: 34 Children: Alexander, 15 months

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Tell us your favorite story about Alexander.

None of the books tell you, and I’ve read

He is such a funny ‘lil man, I can’t pick just

them all, how hard it is to be a great mom

one. He cracks me up every day.

and still be a good wife, a good employee, and a good friend. And that’s before I at-

What is your favorite time-saver?

tempt to find a moment to be good to

I would be lost without my crock-pot and

myself.

What is the best part about being a mother?

my Roomba. I turn them both on when I walk out the door in the morning and when I come home dinner is done and the floors are clean.

The feeling of joy that I get when I see my before. I’m addicted to his little giggle. He

What is your philosophy on discipline?

makes life worth living.

My son is still a little young to truly put me

son happy is like nothing I have ever felt

What is your favorite sanity-saver? My husband. Not only does he help with Alexander, but he helps around the house, too. He always pulls me back from the proverbial ledge.

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the cellphones and the TV so we can just focus on each other. It is where we have

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favorite place is the new Who’s Toy Store downtown.

What is your favorite parenting must-have? For the last year, the Diaper Genie has been my favorite invention. I got one as a gift from my mother-in-law and after seeing it in action, sheer genius.

kind. He is very sweet and affectionate, and I know it is because he models what he sees from my husband and I.

I could have won the worst mother award when... I turned around to see him standing on top of a dining room chair. In a panic, I tried to push the chair closer to the table to keep him from falling and instead of saving him, I caused him to lose his balance and he hit the table giving him a bloody lip. I still feel awful. BHW

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Chic Chardonnay

Cooking

By Eric Gardner

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The Chardonnay grape, often consid-

more desirable. Many Chardonnays burst

ered the world’s most popular wine

with tropical fruits on the palate, while

grape, is the principal foundation for

others feature smooth, gentle pear notes.

many great white wines, including champagnes. Most wine growing

Some Chardonnays are rich and buttery

regions of the world grow this very

…you can actually feel the creaminess

versatile and adaptable grape, from

on your tongue. Wine is a personal thing.

the cold regions of Germany to

Many people like the oakiness, and oth-

the warmer climates of Califor-

ers like the butteriness. Still others like

nia and Argentina.

the crispness. All in all, a Chardonnay will often offer complexity in flavors and tex-

Chardonnay

originated

tures more than other whites. There are

in the Burgundy region

plenty of each character to be found in

of France and has been

the Chardonnay section of your favorite

around for centuries.

wine shop!

In France, Chardonnay is the primary

Here’s an important tip: to enjoy the full

blending grape used

flavor of a finer Chardonnay, do not over-

to make the white

chill it! Serve a Chardonnay at about 50

burgundies

to 55 degrees, about the temperature in

chablis

and montrachet.

which it ideally should be stored. Also, beware of the alcohol content of Char-

There is a tremen-

donnay! You may be surprised to learn

dous range in charac-

that Chardonnays generally have the

ter and taste of Char-

highest alcohol content by volume of any

donnays on the shelf.

white wine – often 13.5 percent to 15%

Many are okay, which

percent!

at one time was indicative of a finer

Chardonnay is versatile when pairing

Chardonnay.

How-

with food. The luscious fruit and creami-

ever, more recently

ness combines nicely with shellfish, fish,

Chardonnays are not

chicken, turkey, salmon and even savory

“oaked” as much and

roast pork.

are more steely and crisp,

which

wine

drinkers

some find

Here are a few recipes you must try that feature Chardonnay.

Cauliflower Soup with Curried Apple For those on a budget La Crema, Crème de Lys, Angeline, Kendall Jackson, Clos du Bois, Jacob’s Creek (Australian), Sonoma-Cutrer

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For the fine dinners Grgich Hills (also beat out French whites in a world tasting in 1973), Chateau Montelena (made famous in

Melt 4 TB butter in large pot over me-

the Hollywood movie, “Bottleshock”),

dium-low heat. Add cauliflower, onion,

Heitz, Alpha Omega Unoaked, Bering-

leek and bay leaf; sauté until onion is

er, Franciscan, Joseph Drouhin.

translucent, about eight minutes.

When you want to splurge: Add wine; simmer until almost all of the

Alpha Omega Oaked, Pahlmeyer,

liquid has evaporated, about four min-

Baldacci, Far Niente, Shafer.

utes. Add broth and cream. Bring to boil; reduce heat to medium; simmer until cauliflower is tender, stirring often, about 20 minutes. Remove bay leaf from soup. Use a hand blender and puree soup until smooth. Mix in lemon juice and Season with salt and pepper. Cut apple into matchsticksize strips. Melt remaining 2 TB butter in skillet over medium heat. Add apple and curry powder; sauté until apple is tender, about two minutes.

cayenne.

Cooking

6 TB butter, divided 1 medium head cauliflower, cut into florets (5 cups) 1 c onion, chopped 1 c leek, chopped (white and pale green parts only) 1 bay leaf ½ c Chardonnay – use good quality, and drink with soup! 4 c vegetable broth 1 c whipping cream 2 TB fresh lemon juice ¼ tsp cayenne 1 large unpeeled Fuji or Red Delicious apple ½ tsp curry powder, plus more for garnish

Bring soup to simmer; ladle into bowls. Spoon warm apple mixture over. Sprinkle with additional curry powder and serve.

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½ c Butter ¼ tsp garlic powder ¼ tsp salt ¼ tsp pepper dried parsley flakes ¼ c Chardonnay 1 lb fresh mushrooms

Chicken Breasts – perfect pairing! 4 whole chicken breasts, boned and skinned ½ lb butter, whipped 1 tsp marjoram 1 tsp oregano 4 slices mozzarella cheese 2 eggs ¼ c milk corn flake crumbs ½ c Chardonnay Pound chicken breasts to make flat. Lay

Wipe dirt from mushrooms and cut into

slice of mozzarella cheese on each, and

quarters.

roll. Mix butter, marjoram and oregano. Spread evenly on mozzarella and chick-

Heat butter in a saucepan over low heat

en. Dip rolls into egg-milk batter, and

until melted. Add mushrooms and stir in

then roll in cornflake crumbs. Arrange in

garlic powder, salt and pepper. Cook over

ungreased baking dish. With remaining

medium heat, stirring often, approxi-

butter, add wine and pour over breasts

mately four minutes or until soft.

in dish. Bake in a 350 degree oven for 45 minutes. BHW

Turn off heat and immediately pour Chardonnay onto mushrooms.

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There are over 38,000 varieties of mushrooms available, over 3,000 in North America alone.

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LEFT: Bottom row: Nikki, Jenny, Sharon & Kassi. Middle row: Lori, Jessica & Tye. Top row: Debbie & Sara. Kim & Linda (not shown) The Last Saturday Book Club meets on the last Saturday of every month for fun and inspiration.

Anything Michael Baron

Ken and Melissa’s romance has led them to the doorstep of marriage. While searching for the perfect wedding present for Melissa, Ken stumbles into a mysterious shop. There, he is given an extraordinary opportunity – to look in on Melissa when she was a girl. Until he discovers a terrible secret in Melissa’s past...

Sara

Kim

engaged to be married. Ken is so mes-

story of a man in love. Ken would like

merized with Melissa that he would

nothing more than to see his fiancee

give “anything” to know what Melissa’s

growing up, feeling that he wants to

life was before they met. He learns of a

know the person she was before he met

tragic incident in Melissa’s childhood.

her. Given the unusual opportunity to do

An opportunity to change it, gives him

just that, he discovers something terrible

unexpected results. This book is sappy

in her past and is willing to change histo-

and somewhat creepy to think a person

ry in order to prevent her any pain. What

would want to pry so deeply into a loved

Ken doesn’t do, however, is consider the

one’s history.

outcome of such a move. Reading “Any-

Ken and Melissa are a happy couple

Fans of romance will enjoy this simple

thing” leads one to realize that any single event has the power to affect every other event in our lives and the lives of those

In a post-apocalytpic world in the country of Panem, formerly

Book Reviews

close to us.

America, the Capitol controls the country. Once a year, one boy

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Hunger Games Suzanne Collins

and one girl aged 12 to 18 from each of the 12 districts that surround the Capitol are selected by lottery to compete in a televised battle to the death with only one survivor. The story is told from one of the competitors, 16-year-old Katniss Everdeen.

Nikki

who are sent to fight to the death in the

Katniss Everdeen proves to be a formi-

“hunger games,” where only one child

dable opponent, not only to those who

comes out alive, I thought it sounded

meet her in the arena but also to those

awful. Well, I was wrong! It’s intense, a

who would wish her a quiet existence

page–turner with amazing characters

as a lesser citizen. Through seemingly

that will have you hooked! Start reading

small gestures she is able to excite an op-

now, the movie comes out March 23rd.

pressed society to a level of rebellion not seen before. Romance, rebellion, deception, action – this book contains a little bit of everything. And it will definitely leave you hungry for more!

Lori

There is nothing more dangerous than a person who has nothing left to lose. In this case, it is a young woman, Katniss,

Tye

who knows her life has been reduced to kill–or–be–killed for the viewing plea-

One of the best books I have ever read!

sure of others. Take heart, dear readers:

If you haven’t read this book, or for that

you will learn much from Ms. Everdeen

matter the series, you really need to. The

besides her instinct to survive. With the

story grabs you from the beginning and

thematic elements in this book series,

takes you on a wild ride. When I was

the future doesn’t seem that far away

urged to read this story about teenagers

anymore. BHW

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