Black Hills Woman Magazine - Mar/Apr '12
A lifestyle Magazine for the the women of the Black Hills.
TM 622 Main St. Rapid City, SD 57701 605.718.0995 Phone & Fax www.BlackHillsWoman.com From the Editor 4 Hey Pal, Be A Sweetie By Tracy Bernard Health & Fitness 6 The Shape Iâ€™m in By Dorothy Rosby Relationships 26 The Sandwich Generation: Part II Editor in Chief Tracy Bernard Home Layout & Design Tracy Bernard Chris Hornick By Nicole Vulcan 30 Stress-Free Organization By Jennifer Lage Landguh Beauty 11 The Hairy Truth About Hair Removal By Jennifer Garreau Fashion 16 The New Basics By Angelica Wojtanowicz Business 20 Making Waves Finance 22 Estate Planning By Kathleen Fox Publisher Bernard Marketing & Advertising LLC Motherhood 34 Mom of the Moment Cooking 38 Chic Chardonnay By Eric Gardner Copy Editor Eric Lochridge Advertising Sales Sheila Ogborn For inquiries email us at: email@example.com or call: 605.718.0995 Book Reviews 42 The Last Saturday Book Club Hit the Hills 44 Area Events Marketplace 46 Local Deals ÂŠ2012 Black Hills Woman Magazine Hey Pal, Be A Sweetie From the Editor By Tracy Bernard A strange thing happened the other day. Midday, the next day, I was having trouble sleeping thinking I hopped on Face- about my to-do lists and whatever else book to find the popped into my head. I recalled an old following post 4 man from my college days, Louie. Louie from was a well-known local. He was missing college friend: most of his teeth and wore bib overalls ev- “Sad news to ery day, along with a train conductor hat. pass on... if any- Almost every night, Louie would go from one bar to bar in our college town, talking to been downtown all of the college kids. When he’d see any in Vermillion or went to USD, you know of us girls, he’d say, “Hey tweety (sweetie).” Louie ... he passed away yesterday: Cheers To the guys, he’d say “Hey pal.” One of the to Louie!” I got chills. Why on Earth, after bars even had T-shirts made with Louie’s all of these years did Louie come to mind face and “hey pal” on it. and on the day of his death, no less? I an has old ever don’t have an answer. But it did remind Despite his local celebrity and the fact me that all around us are people who are that Louie was friendly to everyone, barely getting by. Maybe they have fam- sometimes people were mean to him – ily trouble, maybe they are lonely, sick or treating him like a pest. This always upset struggling financially. Yet, these people me. As far as I could see, Louie had no one go on each day, smiling and giving you a – no friends his age and no family around. “hey pal” anyway. So, in honor of Louie’s On a couple of occasions, I gave him a ride memory, I ask you to choose to show kind- home and by the appearance of his home, ness to all people with the knowledge it looked like he was barely getting by. that they most assuredly need it. How could people be so cruel? “Carry out a random act of kindness, with As I lay awake, I wondered what had be- no expectation of reward, safe in the come of Louie. Certainly, there was no way knowledge that one day someone might he could still be around. I recalled how do the same for you.” Princess Diana often I saw people mistreat Louie and hoped that things had improved for him. Then at some point, I fell asleep. Tracy 5 From the Editor The Shape Iâ€™m In Health & Fitness By Dorothy Rosby 6 I held my breath. I sucked in my gut like a middle-aged man on a nude beach. And I pulled on the amazing Tummy Tuck Shaper. I leaned against the wall to rest and catch my breath, and then I peeked in the mirror. WOW! I turned to the right, and I turned to the left. My abs were FLAT! So were my kidneys. WOW! I turned to the right, and I turned to the left. My abs were FLAT! Maybe I needed a larger size. Maybe I should have tried on the size I AM, rather than the size Iâ€™d hoped the shaper would make me. Oh well; I looked GOOD! I decided to buy the Tummy Tuck Shaper no matter how much it cost. But first I had to get it off. And nothing could have prepared me for the trauma of getting that sucker off. I tried pulling from the bottom. I tried peeling from the top. I tugged; I heaved; I fell and hit the mirror. Oh NO! Was I swelling? Now it would never come Health & Fitness Rochelle Christensen, MD, FACOG 2,500 surgeries and counting... 4,000 deliveries and counting... 7 Joanne Evans-Lewis, WHNP-BC Rapid City’s only board cer tified Women’s Health CNP with 30 years experience. Rochelle Christensen, MD, FACOG First female OB/GYN in the Black Hills, practicing excellence in medicine since 1997. 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The journey to that moment started And that’s how I wound up in a panic, way back in my childhood when my trying to extricate myself from a Tummy friend’s grandmother, whose foundation Tuck Shaper that I now knew for sure garment had become something of an should be a size larger. Obviously I did exoskeleton, told us that ALL women, no escape. Otherwise I wouldn’t be wearing matter their shape, should wear girdles. my Sponge Bob jammies with the elastic We didn’t take her too seriously since we waistband right now. But I didn’t buy the didn’t even have hips yet. But her mes- Tummy Tuck Shaper. After the pain and sage was clear: If it ain’t flat, it’s fat! humiliation of my dressing room drama, I decided it would be easier to go ahead Then recently, not one, but TWO friends and have an actual tummy tuck. BHW told me about getting trapped in shapewear. It’s an EPIDEMIC! American women don’t bind our feet; we bind our spleens! One friend was in a department store dressing room when it happened; the Dorothy Rosby writes from Rapid City, where she lives with her husband, son and abs. Beauty 10 Too beautiful for words 601Hills MainWoman St. • Downtown Rapid City Black 201202-Insurance_Layout 1 2/1/12 5:15 PM Page 1 Protecting What Matters Most Located in Tuscany Square 333 Omaha St. • Rapid City 605-399-4200 Insurance products are not deposits, not FDIC insured, not insured by any federal agency, not guaranteed by any bank. This institution is an equal opportunity provider. www.bankwest-sd.com BUSINESS • LIFE • HEALTH • HOME • AUTO Like it or not, hair removal is a neces- spray. A treatment could take as little as sity in every woman’s life. From peach- a few minutes to as long as an hour, de- fuzz fringes to the single wayward hair pending on the area being treated,” says Beauty that crops up at the most inopportune Julie Krein of Black Hills Dermatology and 11 time,to the long, dark and coarse growth Laser Centre. that resembles an overgrown forest, women have been battling hair removal The Pros – Laser hair removal can be used for centuries. on any part of the body and can remove 40 percent to 80 percent of hair from the Fortunately, there is no shortage of treated area. Little or no hair growth is means to cope with the overgrowth. To necessary prior to treatments, and treat- help you decide which method of hair re- ments are not extremely time consuming. moval might best fit your needs, we have consulted several Black Hills experts in The Cons – While not common, scarring, the field. Every option has its pros, cons burns and blisters can occur, and treat- and price points and may not be the best ments can be uncomfortable. Because choice, depending on where you want to hair grows in three stages: growing, rest- remove hair. ing and shedding, multiple treatments are Laser How it works – A licensed laser practitioner uses a handheld device that emits pulsed light that damages hair follicles at the root, resulting in the hair falling out 10 – 14 days after treatment. “Each laser pulse may be preceded and followed by a short pulse of cooling required, while it is long lasting, laser and hair removal is not permanent. People The Cons – While home waxing kits are with dark hair and light skin are best suit- available, most people find the proce- ed for this type of treatment. “The laser dure simply too messy, slow, difficult targets the darker hairs and is not effec- and painful for a DIY project. Incorrectly tive on the white hairs,” said Krein. Laser done, waxing can also lead to skin infec- hair removal is also not the most cost ef- tions. If you are taking Accutane or reti- fective. nols or other medications that make your Beauty skin more sensitive and fragile, waxing is Costs – Black Hills Dermatology and Laser Centre charges $75 hairy before you can get 12 to $250 per treatment, smooth; at least a quar- not recommended. You also have to be depending on the ter of an inch of area. Other dis- hair is needed counts are given for the wax to for patients who have adhere. treatments Costs – A Perfect on multiple areas. 10 Nail and Beauty Bar offers facial Waxing waxing How it works – and charges $10 per A warm, resin- area. Other pro- based wax prod- fessional waxing uct is applied to services may cost the hair and then when cooled is pulled off, removing the entire hair follicle from the Threading is a method commonly practiced in Eastern countries. root. up to $100 for a Brazilian bikini wax for the upper and lower legs. A 15 percent to 20 percent gratuity is customary and suggested. At-home waxThe Pros – Waxing can remove hair any- ing kits cost $6 to $100. where on the body, and the results can last up to six weeks. It is also a relatively quick procedure. “Waxing offers cleaner lines and more detailed eyebrows,” says Threading How it works – Threading is a method Canada Lytle at A Perfect 10 Nail and commonly practiced in Eastern countries, Beauty Bar. Over time, frequent waxing like Egypt, India and Vietnam, that has can cause the hair follicle to become become increasingly popular in the Unit- damaged and stop growing hair. ed States. A cotton thread is used to pull Beauty 13 out unwanted hair in a twisting motion Costs – Mai Lee’s Threading and Beauty removing the entire hair from the follicle. Salon charges $10 for lips, $15 for eye- It is best used on unruly eyebrows, and brows and $45 for the entire face. A 15 the results usually last six weeks. The dis- percent to 20 percent gratuity is custom- comfort is similar to tweezing but much ary and suggested. quicker. The Pros – Threading is fast, it is extremely sanitary, there are no chemicals applied to the skin and over time temporary results can Cons Threading How it works – A depilatory is a strong, alkaline–based product that weakens the hair at the fol- be- come permanent. The Depilatories – is a true art form that Depilatories are an inexpensive, quick, and pain free hair removal method. has been passed licle or slightly below skin level. The process takes approximately five to 10 minutes and is primarily used down from generation to generation on arms, legs, bikini line and underarms. ,which can make it hard to find someone It should not be used on the face unless experienced in the craft. Mai Lee McKin- specifically labeled for that purpose. The ish has been threading for 32 years. She effects of depilatories are two to five days learned the art in Vietnam. Inexperi- before re-growth is seen. enced professionals can break hairs and their technique can cause pain. Thread- The Pros – Depilatories are an inexpen- ing is only done on the face, and some sive, quick and pain-free hair removal hair growth is necessary prior to a treat- method that requires no experience to ment. use and can easily be done in the privacy of your own home. Various strength Beauty products are available 14 over the counter at the local last long, anywhere from a few hours to drug store. a few days. When coarse hair is cut off to and can be purchased a sharp tip, it can create ingrown hairs, The Cons – The chemical creams smell razor bumps and burn, which along with bad and can be messy to use. The strong nicking yourself with the razor, can be chemicals may also cause skin irritation, painful. especially if the product is left on to long resulting in burns, blisters and rashes. Costs – Disposable razors cost between Since the follicle is not removed from the $.50 and $8, and while they can be root the effects of depilatories are short used a couple of times before throwing lived. them away, it is recommended to use a new blade each shave to prevent razor Costs – Depilatories range in price from bumps, burn and ingrown hairs. Regu- $5 to $65. lar razors, that you keep the handle and throw away the blade, cost between $7 Shaving and $20. Shaving lubrication can cost anywhere from $3 for a basic shaving How it works – Shaving is the most com- cream to $25 or more for designer or or- mon and oldest method of hair removal. ganic shaving gel or lotion. BHW Hair is simply cut off at skin level with a razor. Shaving is most effective when skin is wet and when used with a lubricating agent. Shaving is effective at removing hair on any part of the body. The Pros – Shaving is quick, affordable, can easily be done at home and if done properly is painless. The Cons – The results of shaving do not Jennifer Garreau is a freelance writer who strives to build community through meaningful connections with others. Chiropractic Care Allergy Treatment Detoxification Holistic Health Care Beauty Be Allergy Free Without Drugs. 15 Alternative Health Care Center uses a revolutionary approach to either reduce allergic symptoms or alleviate reactions permanently. It is a natural, drugless, painless, non-invasive method that can be used safely on anyone. Alternative Health Care Center of the Black Hills 343 Quincy Street. Ste 100 605.341.4850 www.AlternativeHealthCareDoc.com and Hours M-F 9-7 Sat 9-6 1109 Omaha St. Rapid City THE NEW BASICS Ultra Denim Trends Fashion By Angelica Wojtanowicz 16 It’s time to freshen up your winter ward- fresh again. For the transition into spring, robe, and this upcoming season, it is all colored skinnies can be worn with a boot about denim. Since denim is showing up or ballet flat. For a night out, get a dress- in every color, print and fit, you can lit- ier look and keep it simple with a neutral erally match your denim to your mood. pump. Neon pink and yellow, emerald green, ultraviolet and apricot will pair perfect- Another denim trend that is proving to ly with your neutral–tone blouses and be strong this season is the slim boot. It is sweaters. For the fashion–brave, there’s a flattering style for all body types, with denim in every print and fit that a girl a smooth fit through the knee and a re- could dream. These bold colors bring the fined flare elongating the legs. The slim perfect pop to transition into spring — boot is amazing on its own in a simple so it seems the only option is to snag a blue denim wash but can be chic and pair of your very own! stylish in a clean white. It is the perfect jean for the office or the weekend. The skinny jean seems to have become a staple in every women’s closet, and col- Denim PRINTS! Floral, ikat, stripes — they or is just one of the ways to make them are everywhere and maybe not for every- one. A great way to bring a print denim Get the relaxed look this spring with a cute into your wardrobe without it being too pair of denim shorts. It may not be shorts overwhelming is to buy it in a cropped season yet, but black tights will help keep length. Keep it simple and wear a you warm and stylish. Cutoffs in plum and plain tee and chic flats. coral, dressy suede, and prints are great with a black tight, bootie and oversized Fashion sweater 18 Get the relaxed look this spring with a cute pair of denim shorts.. black tights will help keep you warm and stylish. or blazer. A diverse selection of denim is an essential for your ward- robe year round. DenThe '70s flare is still going im in every color and fit is a huge trend strong into spring 2012 this upcoming season. Embrace a new with a modern, sleek look this year, and buy at least one pair of look. Rich dark washes the must-have styles that are popping up and clean pockets are all over this spring. Keep it fresh and have making fun with it! BHW this denim trend a must-have for your closet. It is a sophisticated look when paired with a blazer. However, it can be a fun weekend look with a print blouse or simple tee. Angelica is the owner of Shangri La Boutique in downtown Rapid City. boutique Fashion 19 Savor a whole house clean at once at least until tomorrow comes knocking. $20.00 Off Spring Cleaning 2050 W. Main St. Ste 5 Rapid City, SD 57702 605-718-9064 605-718-9067 www.merrymaids.com New customers only. Not valid with other offers. Valid only at this location. Cash value of 1/1000 of 1 cent. Offer good through 03/30/07. ÂŠ 2006 Merry Maids L.P. Making Waves Business Local Business Women on the Move 20 The greeting cards created by local Becky making a splash in the foodie world,” said Tomac are in the national spotlight once Tomac. “I love to create fun and whimsical again. 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Marilyn Simon has opened Gotta Dance lesque, can can, hip hop as well as yoga, studio in Rapid City. The studio primar- tai chi, pilates and meditation. ily offers instruction in partner dance for adults and in addition to classes such as For more information, call Gotta Dance at line dancing, belly dancing, zumba, bur- 605-355-5118. Starting a new business? Send your information to firstname.lastname@example.org. Business 21 When you’re ready to recycle, come to Pacific Steel & Recycling for easy drop-offs, plus the best prices and service. And, when you recycle your aluminum cans at Pacific Steel & Recycling, you’ll receive a five-cent bonus per pound. 605-343-0334 4280 BIERNBAUM LANE RAPID CITY PACIFIC-STEEL.COM Estate Planning Finance By Kathleen Fox 22 Career planning. Wedding planning. Yes, if you don’t have a spouse or chil- Family planning. If you’re in your 20s or dren, your parents would inherit every- 30s, all of these might well be part of thing, including the boxes of R. L. Stine your life. books and junior-high diaries that are still stored in their basement. They would But estate planning? Surely that’s for also need to dispose of your stuff, close older people. Right now, you’re too busy out your meager bank accounts and deal getting your life started to even consider with your student loans. (Government anything related to its possible end. You loans are discharged if the borrower dies; can think of at least five good reasons private student loans may not be.) why you don’t need a will. 1. Designating a parent or sibling as execuYou’re too young and healthy. You tor of your estate would make life easier don’t hang glide or ride bulls, and there’s for them, especially if your parents are no history of serious illnesses in your divorced or live at a distance. With a will, family. Your chances of dying any time you could also leave your beagle to your soon are ridiculously small. boyfriend or your movie collection to your best friend. True. Still, there’s always that slight possibility of being run over by a beer truck while you’re out jogging. 2. 3. You can’t afford to make a will. It would be ridiculous to pay a lawyer more than your entire estate would be worth. You’re single and broke. You’ve just started paying off your student True. So don’t pay a lawyer. You can get loans. The bank owns more of your car generic will forms online or at office sup- than you do. Your only “investment” is a ply stores that are perfectly adequate couple of hundred dollars in a savings ac- for a simple will. Get one. Fill it out. It’s count. Your net worth is a negative num- cheap, it’s easy, and it’s done. ber. What’s to leave to anybody? Besides, 4. wouldn’t your parents just get it all? You’re too busy. With a 3-year-old, a baby on the way, and two full-time jobs, end up making it for you. you and your husband don’t have time to 5. think about remote future possibilities like estate planning. You’d leave everything to each other anyway, so what’s the You’re in transition. Any will you make now would be out of date in a few years. point? The point is to provide for the guardian- view it annually, and revise it as your ship of your kids. This is why wills are needs change. essential for young parents, even if the most valuable thing you own is a cubic When you’re young, you might think zirconia wedding ring. Suppose you and of making a will as practice. Consider it your were killed in a car accident. Who would raise your children? Your parents? Your sister? Your learning one more husband Suppose you and your husband were killed.. Who would raise your children? start with a simple will today, you’ll find it easier to make a more complex one later when husband’s brother? Have you asked any of these adult life skill. If you you need it “for real.” people if they are willing to take on that responsibility? Estate planning. Who needs it? Chances are you haven’t. Choosing You do. a guardian for your kids is one of the toughest decisions parents can make. No wonder most of us put it off. But if you don’t make that choice, a judge who doesn’t know you or your family could Kathleen Fox has been a writer and editor since 1989. She is co-author of Conscious Finance: Uncover Your Hidden Money Beliefs and Transform the Role of Money in Your Life. 2111 JACKSON BLVD . 342-0902 shamrockauto.net Finance True. So make a will “for now.” Then re- 23 Relationships The Sandwich 26 ng for you Tips for cari r parents wh Generation eady carin en you’re alr : PArt II g for your kid s. By Nicole Vulcan Several years ago, Mary Schnortz, and Not only is the “sandwich generation” her husband took a trip to Minnesota to – those providing care for both parents visit Mary’s elderly mother. When they and kids – growing, but the numbers got there, they discovered that she was in for those needing extensive care are advanced stages of Alzheimer’s disease. growing, too. South Dakota’s number of It had been six or seven years since the Alzheimer’s patients follows a national mother’s diagnosis – but she had been trend of growth; from 2010 to 2025, the keeping it all a secret. With the signs of number of Alzheimer’s patients in the deterioration now so apparent, the fam- state is expected to grow by 24 percent, ily was in shock. according to the Alzheimer’s Association. Mary and her husband made the decision Moving her mother into her home “was to move mom in with them in the Black rewarding but stressful at the same time,” Hills – a decision that naturally meant a says Schnortz. “You give a lot of yourself, lot of adjustment. and you don’t realize it until you’re so deep into it.” Mary and her husband were some of an estimated 10 million Americans over the Schnortz says she’s fortunate that her age of 50 that provide care to a parent – a children were already out of the home, number that is only getting bigger. In the making it easier to juggle the needs of mid-1990s, that number was about one- her mother with her working life. But third of what it is today.* many are not so lucky; on top of school Percentage of Alzheimer and dementia caregivers with high stress levels. l Stress a ic s y h P % 3 4 na 61% Emotio l Stress Created from data from the Alzheimer’s Association 2010 Women and Alzheimer’s Poll, October 2010. vises people to have powers of attorney do their homework, the sandwich gen- that clearly state your wishes, well ahead eration also adds pharmacy runs and of time. to happen,” says Snoozy-Kaitfors. “You Relationships commutes and reminding their kids to “It’s tough,” says Shirley Allen, manager want to make sure your wishes are under- 27 of Daisy House, an adult day-care facility stood.” Planning ahead means planning in Rapid City. “They’re losing their parent for the financial component of retire- reminders to their parents to take their medications. “You never know when things are going 1 in 8 Older Americans has Alzheimer’s. From the Alzheimer’s Association 2011 Report. Older American is defined as 65-years and older. as they knew them and having to change ment, as well as clearly stating what type into a whole new thinking pattern. It’s a of care you want. It also means being grief process.” willing to take preventive measures, such as accepting part-time care in the home, While it’s not an easy road, there are before the elder’s health and safety dete- some steps families can take to make the riorates to the point of needing extensive decision-making easier. Following are care, says Snoozy-Kaitfors. some tips to help families make the best moves for all parties involved. 1. Plan ahead. 2. Know your options. With the numbers of elders needing care only expected to grow as baby boomers Planning for your future is one of the big- retire, the options for care are also grow- gest gifts you can give your family, says ing. Lezlie Snoozy-Kaitfors of Comfort Keepers, which provides in-home care for the “The adult day center -- the only one in elderly in Rapid City. Snoozy-Kaitfors ad- Western South Dakota -- has been an awesome thing to offer families,” says Allen of Daisy House. “Here families can bring (elders) in as they would a child.” 4. Seek support for caregivers In the world of elder care, the word “burnout” is an adjective that gets tossed disassociation and fatigue that caregiv- age families to explore all possible op- ers experience when caring for their el- Relationships around often. It describes the isolation, Elder care experts in the area encourtions with a third party, to find the one der loved ones – on top of managing the 28 care, part-time and that best stresses of everyday for them. Options works life. While there’s include adult day full-time in-home care, as well as assisted living and nursing home care. “I cannot stress enough that (families) need to bond together at this time to help each other.” no doubt that it’s a difficult place to be in, support groups can provide a tremendous benefit for loved ones. “If you’re dealing 3. Work together with a parent, you’ve got that emotional When it’s time to make that tough deci- attachment that’s so deep. You’re losing sion for Mom and Dad, Snoozy-Kaitfors a little bit of them at a time, and if you says she often sees the eldest daughter don’t have the support that you need, in the family leading the charge. While the quality of your life will suffer,” says women do tend to take on caregiving Schnortz, who now shares her own expe- tasks in the family, it should really be the riences with others by working at Daisy work of the entire family -- including the House. minor children who may have to give up some of their space to make room for Support groups abound, says Allen, with Grandma. options that include groups specializing in Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s, elder care “I cannot stress enough that (families) and much more. need to bond together at this time to help each other,” says Allen. One family, “Those who are in the trenches know she says, travels from Minnesota so the better,” says Allen. “Being able to pat family can meet and talk about what to each other on the back and give a hug as do with mom and dad. “Those families needed — that’s worth millions.” coming together are the heroes. With that you see the plans come together far better.” *Statistics courtesy Met Life Mature Market Institute Nicole Vulcan is a South Dakota writer based in Portland, Oregon, specializing in health and wellness, green living, travel and other commentary from a feminist perspective. Relationships 29 Schmidt, Schroyer, Moreno, Lee & Bachand, P.C. ATTORNEYS AND COUNSELORS AT LAW Ethan W. Schmidt Locally available to meet your legal needs, including DUI defense & Wills. 832 St. Joseph Street, Rapid City, SD • Telephone 341-0112 296 Main Street, Hill City, SD • Telephone 431-8971 “My house is a cluttered mess!” Stress-Free Organization anything!” “I’m overwhelmed by paper.” By Jennifer Lage Landguth Home 30 “My garage looks like a rummage sale!” If the above quotes sound like you, you’re not alone. Shortly after adopting our sec- 3. Open your mail ASAP Separate bills, magazines, coupons, invi- ond daughter, I felt crazed at all the new tations and junk mail. Throw out the junk, “stuff” in our house, and that’s when I got including magazines you’re not inter- serious about organization and design- ested in and the opened envelopes. Pur- ing organization systems. The goal: get it chase an accordion folder and sort and under control and free up more time to file the bills alphabetically. Set one hour maximize the fun times in life. per week to pay bills either manually or with online bill pay, which I highly recom- I love “stuff” and have “stuff,” but it’s fairly mend. It frees up tons of time. Once the organized, which adds to a calm at home bill is entered, it is paid automatically on that I need at the end of a busy work day. a date you set — no need to buy stamps So, I’m thrilled to share some of my tips or envelopes, no need to write out the on how to get organized. Clutter free checks and envelopes and then get them spaces help everyone function better to the mailbox. File immediately in a cab- and be more productive. inet or box. 1. Make your bed everyday 4. Designate a space for correspondence, kids, activities, mail and bills Taking two to three minutes to make a bed immediately makes a bedroom look less cluttered. 2. Open the shades I use a pantry cabinet close to the garage to store all this type of “stuff.” Pic- Let the light in so that you can see all the ture storage boxes with lids work great stuff lying on the floor. Take two minutes to hold scissors, tape and glues, another to pick it up, put it in the closet or the holds birthday cards and stamps, and laundry basket, straighten papers and another checks. Developed pictures walk out feeling good. are immediately put in a photo album. 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Each child has one to hold to immediately be taken to the laundry, notes, awards, shot records, report cards the bath room or bed room to be put and other reference items. Kids papers away. Home Kid activities are stored here, too, us- are reviewed daily and thrown and special school papers/projects are stored in The 30 minutes you spend each day to or- 32 clear plastic containers in their room. ganize feels good, and getting all family members involved is vital! Just because weâ€™re women doesnâ€™t mean you have to do this alone! BHW Jennifer Lage Landguth is a general contractor with Lage Construction, Inc and the owner of Swank Spaces in Rapid City, SD. T PA W e s t Payroll Taxes . All Small Business Tax Forms . Sales Tax Reports 1006 Jackson Blvd Rapid City, SD 57702 Charlotte Welk (605) 716-3897 We’ve expanded our selection of women’s bikes, apparel and gear to help you enjoy the road or trail ahead. 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And that’s before I at- What is your favorite time-saver? tempt to find a moment to be good to I would be lost without my crock-pot and myself. What is the best part about being a mother? my Roomba. I turn them both on when I walk out the door in the morning and when I come home dinner is done and the floors are clean. The feeling of joy that I get when I see my before. I’m addicted to his little giggle. He What is your philosophy on discipline? makes life worth living. My son is still a little young to truly put me son happy is like nothing I have ever felt What is your favorite sanity-saver? My husband. Not only does he help with Alexander, but he helps around the house, too. He always pulls me back from the proverbial ledge. to the test in this department, but I strive to be consistent. 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He is very sweet and affectionate, and I know it is because he models what he sees from my husband and I. I could have won the worst mother award when... I turned around to see him standing on top of a dining room chair. In a panic, I tried to push the chair closer to the table to keep him from falling and instead of saving him, I caused him to lose his balance and he hit the table giving him a bloody lip. I still feel awful. BHW Motherhood 37 2255 N. Haines Ave • Rapid City, SD • 605.348.8154 Chic Chardonnay Cooking By Eric Gardner 38 The Chardonnay grape, often consid- more desirable. Many Chardonnays burst ered the world’s most popular wine with tropical fruits on the palate, while grape, is the principal foundation for others feature smooth, gentle pear notes. many great white wines, including champagnes. Most wine growing Some Chardonnays are rich and buttery regions of the world grow this very …you can actually feel the creaminess versatile and adaptable grape, from on your tongue. Wine is a personal thing. the cold regions of Germany to Many people like the oakiness, and oth- the warmer climates of Califor- ers like the butteriness. Still others like nia and Argentina. the crispness. All in all, a Chardonnay will often offer complexity in flavors and tex- Chardonnay originated tures more than other whites. There are in the Burgundy region plenty of each character to be found in of France and has been the Chardonnay section of your favorite around for centuries. wine shop! In France, Chardonnay is the primary Here’s an important tip: to enjoy the full blending grape used flavor of a finer Chardonnay, do not over- to make the white chill it! Serve a Chardonnay at about 50 burgundies to 55 degrees, about the temperature in chablis and montrachet. which it ideally should be stored. Also, beware of the alcohol content of Char- There is a tremen- donnay! You may be surprised to learn dous range in charac- that Chardonnays generally have the ter and taste of Char- highest alcohol content by volume of any donnays on the shelf. white wine – often 13.5 percent to 15% Many are okay, which percent! at one time was indicative of a finer Chardonnay is versatile when pairing Chardonnay. How- with food. The luscious fruit and creami- ever, more recently ness combines nicely with shellfish, fish, Chardonnays are not chicken, turkey, salmon and even savory “oaked” as much and roast pork. are more steely and crisp, which wine drinkers some find Here are a few recipes you must try that feature Chardonnay. Cauliflower Soup with Curried Apple For those on a budget La Crema, Crème de Lys, Angeline, Kendall Jackson, Clos du Bois, Jacob’s Creek (Australian), Sonoma-Cutrer 39 For the fine dinners Grgich Hills (also beat out French whites in a world tasting in 1973), Chateau Montelena (made famous in Melt 4 TB butter in large pot over me- the Hollywood movie, “Bottleshock”), dium-low heat. Add cauliflower, onion, Heitz, Alpha Omega Unoaked, Bering- leek and bay leaf; sauté until onion is er, Franciscan, Joseph Drouhin. translucent, about eight minutes. When you want to splurge: Add wine; simmer until almost all of the Alpha Omega Oaked, Pahlmeyer, liquid has evaporated, about four min- Baldacci, Far Niente, Shafer. utes. Add broth and cream. Bring to boil; reduce heat to medium; simmer until cauliflower is tender, stirring often, about 20 minutes. Remove bay leaf from soup. Use a hand blender and puree soup until smooth. Mix in lemon juice and Season with salt and pepper. Cut apple into matchsticksize strips. Melt remaining 2 TB butter in skillet over medium heat. Add apple and curry powder; sauté until apple is tender, about two minutes. cayenne. Cooking 6 TB butter, divided 1 medium head cauliflower, cut into florets (5 cups) 1 c onion, chopped 1 c leek, chopped (white and pale green parts only) 1 bay leaf ½ c Chardonnay – use good quality, and drink with soup! 4 c vegetable broth 1 c whipping cream 2 TB fresh lemon juice ¼ tsp cayenne 1 large unpeeled Fuji or Red Delicious apple ½ tsp curry powder, plus more for garnish Bring soup to simmer; ladle into bowls. Spoon warm apple mixture over. Sprinkle with additional curry powder and serve. Cooking Chardonnay Mushrooms 40 ½ c Butter ¼ tsp garlic powder ¼ tsp salt ¼ tsp pepper dried parsley flakes ¼ c Chardonnay 1 lb fresh mushrooms Chicken Breasts – perfect pairing! 4 whole chicken breasts, boned and skinned ½ lb butter, whipped 1 tsp marjoram 1 tsp oregano 4 slices mozzarella cheese 2 eggs ¼ c milk corn flake crumbs ½ c Chardonnay Pound chicken breasts to make flat. Lay Wipe dirt from mushrooms and cut into slice of mozzarella cheese on each, and quarters. roll. Mix butter, marjoram and oregano. Spread evenly on mozzarella and chick- Heat butter in a saucepan over low heat en. Dip rolls into egg-milk batter, and until melted. Add mushrooms and stir in then roll in cornflake crumbs. Arrange in garlic powder, salt and pepper. Cook over ungreased baking dish. With remaining medium heat, stirring often, approxi- butter, add wine and pour over breasts mately four minutes or until soft. in dish. Bake in a 350 degree oven for 45 minutes. BHW Turn off heat and immediately pour Chardonnay onto mushrooms. Eric Gardner joined KOTA in 2002 as a meteorologist and news anchor. Besides doing news, Eric is a gourmet cook and wine connoisseur. You can watch Cooking with Eric every Friday morning just before Good Morning America. There are over 38,000 varieties of mushrooms available, over 3,000 in North America alone. Book Reviews 42 LEFT: Bottom row: Nikki, Jenny, Sharon & Kassi. Middle row: Lori, Jessica & Tye. Top row: Debbie & Sara. Kim & Linda (not shown) The Last Saturday Book Club meets on the last Saturday of every month for fun and inspiration. Anything Michael Baron Ken and Melissa’s romance has led them to the doorstep of marriage. While searching for the perfect wedding present for Melissa, Ken stumbles into a mysterious shop. There, he is given an extraordinary opportunity – to look in on Melissa when she was a girl. Until he discovers a terrible secret in Melissa’s past... Sara Kim engaged to be married. Ken is so mes- story of a man in love. Ken would like merized with Melissa that he would nothing more than to see his fiancee give “anything” to know what Melissa’s growing up, feeling that he wants to life was before they met. He learns of a know the person she was before he met tragic incident in Melissa’s childhood. her. Given the unusual opportunity to do An opportunity to change it, gives him just that, he discovers something terrible unexpected results. This book is sappy in her past and is willing to change histo- and somewhat creepy to think a person ry in order to prevent her any pain. What would want to pry so deeply into a loved Ken doesn’t do, however, is consider the one’s history. outcome of such a move. Reading “Any- Ken and Melissa are a happy couple Fans of romance will enjoy this simple thing” leads one to realize that any single event has the power to affect every other event in our lives and the lives of those In a post-apocalytpic world in the country of Panem, formerly Book Reviews close to us. America, the Capitol controls the country. Once a year, one boy 43 Hunger Games Suzanne Collins and one girl aged 12 to 18 from each of the 12 districts that surround the Capitol are selected by lottery to compete in a televised battle to the death with only one survivor. The story is told from one of the competitors, 16-year-old Katniss Everdeen. Nikki who are sent to fight to the death in the Katniss Everdeen proves to be a formi- “hunger games,” where only one child dable opponent, not only to those who comes out alive, I thought it sounded meet her in the arena but also to those awful. Well, I was wrong! It’s intense, a who would wish her a quiet existence page–turner with amazing characters as a lesser citizen. Through seemingly that will have you hooked! Start reading small gestures she is able to excite an op- now, the movie comes out March 23rd. pressed society to a level of rebellion not seen before. Romance, rebellion, deception, action – this book contains a little bit of everything. And it will definitely leave you hungry for more! Lori There is nothing more dangerous than a person who has nothing left to lose. In this case, it is a young woman, Katniss, Tye who knows her life has been reduced to kill–or–be–killed for the viewing plea- One of the best books I have ever read! sure of others. Take heart, dear readers: If you haven’t read this book, or for that you will learn much from Ms. Everdeen matter the series, you really need to. The besides her instinct to survive. 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